How to Overcome Old Wounds with Resilience
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John Thurman's Resilient Solutions Shortcast
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Resistance
Resistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.
Resilience
The second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most people have always had in their psychological lockers, which is enhanced or weakened by experience and circumstances. In a nutshell, resilience is the power to overcome adversity, trauma, and low self-esteem and to be strengthened.
My friend, trauma survivor, and fellow author Danielle Bernock says, “To be resilient is the ability to thrive instead of being traumatized.”
5 Tips for Dealing with Trauma
Tip # 1 – Supervise your self-talk.
Tip # 2 – Stop comparing yourself to others.
Tip#3 – Stretch your limiting beliefs.
Tip # 4 – Build up others.
Tip# 5 – Get help.
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Blessings,
John Thurman
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Point # 1
There are two basic types of people in the world—those who edify and build up and those who detract and tear down. Choose to be the former. One of our goals as caring adults is to teach our kids that the best way to develop a happy, intentional, successful life is through their achievements and contributions toward the betterment of others.
Point # 2
We have to teach our kids to be optimists and believe that as individuals created in the image of God, they have the creative power to make a difference in this world.
Point # 3
Seeking to achieve in your personal life and contribute to the betterment of others is not an easy path.
“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”
Robert Kennedy.
We must both model and teach our children that anything worth doing or having is worth potentially failing for.
Point # 4
How do we operationally define failure? First, failure is never final. We must instill in our children that failure is not a lack of achievement. Failure is determined by the lack of effort or refusal to try. Life is filled with scary and sometimes tough decisions; they need to learn how to make the best decisions given the information they have at a given moment.
Don't allow decision constipation to steal your capacity to make wise, life-enriching decisions. Refuse to become a victim of failure.
“I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
The Apostle Paul – Philippians 3:14 ESV
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