239. One and Done
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Stop Drinking and Start Living
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Why one and done when it comes to drinking is the dream that leads to deprivation.
Unpacking the Why Behind the Dream
Why do we yearn for that solitary drink? What is it about that one drink that holds such allure? These questions are where we start our journey. It's not about judging ourselves; it's about understanding our motivations and the stories we tell ourselves.
Cue, Craving, Routine, Reward: The Cognitive Model
We explore the cognitive model of cue, craving, routine, and reward. We uncover the intricate dance between these elements when it comes to our relationship with alcohol. From the trigger of being out with friends to the release of dopamine in our brains, we unravel the psychology behind our cravings.
Why One is Never Enough: Unraveling the Chemical Response
Ever wondered why that elusive "one and done" remains out of reach? It's because of the profound chemical responses happening within us. We're demystifying the connection between rewards, dopamine, and our behavior. I invite you to free yourself from any self-judgment and realize that your brain simply associates alcohol with reward.
Natural Pleasures vs. Artificial Rewards
What about natural pleasures and authentic rewards? We explore the beauty of experiencing wonder, awe, and joy without relying on external substances. From sunsets to laughter with friends, we have countless opportunities to find sustainable, natural rewards that align with our values.
Redefining the Reward
How do you reshape your reward system? By shifting our focus from the routine of drinking to the genuine connections and experiences, we create a more profound and lasting sense of fulfillment. It's about pausing during cravings, re-routing our associations, and finding alignment with our values.
Exploring the Aftermath: The Myth of "One"
Ever noticed how that "one" drink never truly satisfies? We dissect the aftermath of that solitary drink, examining the physical and emotional changes within us. We learn that alcohol's effects often lead us feeling worse than before. It's a thought-provoking exploration that encourages us to question the dream of "just one."
Your Empowered Choice: Understanding Your Journey
Remember that you are on a unique journey. Your relationship with alcohol is yours to define and shape. By understanding the stories we tell ourselves and embracing our powerful intuition, we can make mindful choices aligned with our true desires.
You are beautifully powerful and intuitive, and I am here to support you every step of the way.
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