Cath Counihan | Unraveling the ties between childhood trauma and adult perfectionism

1h 7m · Everyday Burnout Conversations · 06 Feb 01:00

In this episode, I share an everyday burnout conversation with Cath Counihan.

Cath Counihan, an integrative trauma psychotherapist, joins me to shine a light on burnout, tracing its roots from childhood experiences to our relentless pursuit of perfection as adults. My heart-to-heart with Cath examines the physiological shackles we unknowingly place on our nervous systems, and how to embrace the mantra of 'good enough' to find peace amidst the chaos.

Feeling disconnected from your inner self can sometimes be like wandering through a fog—knowing there's solid ground somewhere, but unable to find it. This episode weaves together the tales of how unaddressed trauma and societal pressures can lead to that sense of disorientation, and the importance of realigning with our core through practices of self-care. Cath offers the tools and insights necessary to bridge the gap between the mind and body, advocating for the power of body-based therapies and intentional choices towards a more fulfilling existence.

We open up about parenting, working, and the pursuit of joy, acknowledging that the extraordinary often lies in the everyday simplicity we overlook. As we wrap up our conversation, Cath leaves us with an invitation to continue the discussion on burnout, reassuring listeners that every step taken towards balance is a victory in itself.

Join us on this journey of reflection, and perhaps, you'll find the keys to unlocking a more compassionate, balanced life right here.

More about Cath Counihan:

Catherine Counihan is an Integrative Trauma Psychotherapist working in private practice in London. She specialises in complex trauma, perfectionism, shame, nervous system healing, shifting dysfunctional patterns in our families and lives and reparenting.

Cath hosts a popular weekly mental podcast 'Grow Yourself Up' focused on how we can learn to tend to ourselves in adulthood when we have not had our needs met as children, and the challenges of doing this as we parent.

She writes via her Substack: Nurture.Heal.Grow.

Cath has taught for the Bowlby Centre in London and the International Attachment Network, and held multiple workshops. She is accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and has 12 years of clinical experience. Cath had a previous career in financial services and is the mother of 7 year old twin girls.

Find out more on how to work with Cath

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Please note, this podcast is not intended as medical advice. If you're having a rough time or concerned that you're experiencing burnout, remember YOU matter, so please reach out to your doctor or mental health professional for support and guidance tailored for you.

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