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Secret Hater Friends, Putting Labels on People and Ditching Perfectionism

58m · Already Friends · 09 Feb 10:00

160: In this episode, Allison and Ceara have a casual chat about various topics. They discuss baking pumpkin bars, their experiences with Airbnb, their fitness routines, and their plans for the future. Ceara catches up about attending the Eli Rallo “I Didn’t Know I Needed This” live book tour/show and being asked to co-host a segment on stage. She also talks about a recent Galentine's Day party. Allison talks about her upcoming trip to Tulum and an update on her sobriety journey.

The conversation then shifts to a discussion on friendship advice on TikTok and the concept of secret hater friends. They end the episode by discussing the etiquette of birthday dinners. In this conversation, the hosts discuss various topics including splitting the bill, drinking and sobriety, letting go of labels, and ditching perfectionism.

TAKEAWAYS:

  • Baking can be a fun and comforting activity, and it's convenient to have homemade snacks on hand.
  • Hosting an Airbnb can be a rewarding experience and an opportunity for personal growth.
  • Having a fitness routine that combines different types of workouts can lead to better results.
  • Not all friendship advice on social media is accurate or applicable to every situation.
  • It's important to have realistic expectations of friends and not rely solely on social media validation.
  • The etiquette of who pays for a birthday dinner can vary, but it's generally the responsibility of the person who invited everyone to pay. Consider the financial situation of your friends when planning events and splitting the bill.
  • Sobriety is a personal journey and it's important to find a balance that works for you.
  • Don't let labels restrict you and be open to evolving and changing.
  • Take advantage of opportunities to travel and have fun, even if they may not align with your usual budget.

CHAPTERS:

(00:00) Introduction and Podcast Format

(03:03) Wellness Series and No Direction Episode

(04:52) Baking Pumpkin Bars and Freezing Leftovers

(06:44) Airbnb-ing and Future Plans for a Hostel

(08:35) Discussion on Hostels and Traveling

(09:30) Fitness and Workout Routines

(11:22) Moving Heavy Mattresses and Fitness Goals

(12:39) Speaking Engagements and Podcast Tours

(19:17) Attending Live Shows and Galentine's Day

(23:42) Discussion on Friendship Advice on TikTok

(28:50) Importance of Ratings and Reviews

(32:11) Disagreement with Friendship Advice on TikTok

(39:06) Seeking Validation and Constructive Feedback

(40:34) Discussion on Who Pays for Birthday Dinners

(41:30) Splitting the Bill

(44:16) Election Year

(45:15) Labels and Perfectionism

(46:43) Drinking and Sobriety

(49:03) Enjoying Life and Letting Go

(53:50) Trip to Tulum

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