229 How To Help a Kid Who Isn’t Enjoying Their Football
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This is the first of 3 episodes created for parents of kids who play football with their enjoyment and the possibility of quitting playing football the topic I discuss today. When thoughts of quitting are considered, it can be very challenging for some parents to navigate as they try to decide the best route to take despite different pressures associated with the decision. Therefore, I share some resources that you can use to better understand why you want your kid to play football and also why they want to play football too. Using the resources can be a helpful way of processing your thoughts and feelings as a parent, as well as, opening up conversations with your children. This can then go on to better inform any decisions that you decide to make.
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