017: Discipline With No Punishment at All! (Especially for Parents of Aggressive Boys!) with Tosha Schore
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Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball
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I used Tosha's tips the very DAY we recorded this interview, and I have to tell you -- they work. So well.
Once you hear about her strategy for reducing frustration and nipping "negative spirals" in the bud, you'll know why when my husband spent a ton of time hanging with our then-5-year-old, Gabe, over Christmas break, he said:
"You know, Gabe has had a really good break. He hasn't been having any tantrums or behavior issues at ALL. And I'm really treasuring my time with him...he won't be little for very much longer!!"
Tosha Schore is a parent coach who specializes in the biggest surprise of her own life -- parenting boys!
In this interview that I did NOT want to end, you'll learn:
- Why empowered women can still raise strong, balanced boys
- The very first step to disciplining without punishment (I kind of had to ask this twice because I wasn't understanding; I was a little slow to catch on because the answer has nothing to do with children!!)
- Why words are not powerful enough to stop aggressive behavior
- How the isolation of modern parenting is hurting our efforts
- The mindset shift that rocked my thinking when Tosha explained how to respond to and appreciate a boy getting upset when fun time ends (I will have to work HARD to implement this one, folks, I need all the encouragement I can get!)
- The most powerful antidote to aggression (and it's free to use!)
I do think a lot of Tosha's tips apply to girls too, but I really appreciate her focus on boys and the disconnect a lot of mommas in particular feel with their opposite-gender child. (Yes, boys and girls are different! Amazing fact!!)
Resources We Mention for Parenting Boys
- Tosha's 10-day reconnect: Register now
- Tosha's website
- Tosha's book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (Amazon/Bookshop.org)
- Tosha's Facebook page
- It starts with a healthy parent: Interview with Dr. Ryan Wohlfert
- Positive parenting strategies: Interview with Suzanne Tucker
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Resources We Mention for Clutter Management
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- Find Katy online
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- YouTube shorts channel for HPH
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- Find Kathy online
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- Kitchen Stewardship
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- Register for #LifeSkillsNow Season 3 Virtual Summer Camp!
- follow Katie on Instagram
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- YouTube shorts channel for HPH
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Kids' Poop Resources We Mention
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- My post about how to ferment vegetables
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- Kitchen Stewardship
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- Register for #LifeSkillsNow Season 3 Virtual Summer Camp!
- follow Katie on Instagram
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Resources I Mention for Chores and Life Skills
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