Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

My guest this week is Emily Morrow who founded the social media channel Really Very Crunchy with her husband, Jason, in 2022. Since then, her platform has rapidly grown, amassing over 3 million followers and more than a billion views across various video platforms.

Emily is passionate about living a natural and sustainable lifestyle, and she uses her platform, along with her incredible sense of humor, to educate and inspire others on their journey to a healthier, toxin-free life.

Her new book, Really Very Crunchy: A Beginner's Guide to Removing Toxins from Your Life Without Adding Them to Your Personality, is now available wherever books are sold, with her upcoming children's book, Little Helper, Big Imagination, set to release in July 2024.

Stay tuned as we chat about her journey into crunchy living, navigating the comparison trap, the power of small changes, and so much more. I absolutely loved getting to know Emily and hope this conversation leaves you smiling and feeling inspired!

1:45 – Emily 101

Emily’s new book release
A mom of two boys
Moving to South Korea
Falling into content creation

15:52 – The Crunchy Journey

How Emily started making healthy lifestyle changes
Finding what works for your family
Creating relatable, non-judgemental content online
Navigating feedback and perception along the way

26:28 – Crunchy Living in Practice

How family members have supported this lifestyle
What crunchiness looks like on a day-to-day for Emily’s family
Universal childhood experiences

37:51 – Takeaways

Focusing on what’s best for your family
Making realistic lifestyle changes for you
Connecting with Emily

FEATURED QUOTES

“If you can't make all the changes, choose one thing…It doesn't have to be this big, extreme, and scary thing. You can make little changes.”

“I hope that people are able to resist falling into a comparison trap. Honestly, I hope that people realize the only person they have to convince that they're doing their best is themselves.”

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

Learn more about Emily:

https://www.reallyverycrunchy.com/

Get your copy of Really Very Crunchy

https://www.zondervan.com/p/really-very-crunchy/

Tik Tok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@reallyverycrunchy

YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLEvpTMBa0WuZuWAF2M9m0w

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/reallyverycrunchy/?hl=en

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In today’s episode, I’m joined by the remarkable Ryan George. Ryan is the author of the book, Hurt and Healed by the Church: Redemption and Reconstruction After Spiritual Abuse.

He spent the first 20 years of his life in a cult, attending a series of independent fundamental Baptist (IFB) churches, including one where his dad was a pastor with ultimate authority. Later in life, Ryan was confronted with the devastating truth of his father's serial sexual abuse.

Despite the trauma he experienced, Ryan didn't abandon his faith. After leaving the spiritually abusive IFB movement, he embarked on a 25-year journey of reevaluation and reconstruction. Today, through his blog, books, interviews, and spiritual adventure company, Dude Group, Ryan offers hope for those navigating their own paths of healing.

I do want to warn our listeners that this episode focuses on sensitive subjects like church hurt and sexual abuse. However, Ryan’s story is so powerful, and filled with hope, compassion, and healing.

2:48 – Ryan 101

Oldest of six homeschooled children + a pastor’s son
Husband and adoptive father
Adventurer and blogger
Author of 3 books

6:51 – The Path To Healing

Discovering his father’s abuse
Navigating the aftermath
Sharing his story to help others

18:16 – Jesus’ Model Of Justice

Jesus as a model for handling anger and betrayal
Pursuing justice with compassion
Seeking Heaven on Earth

33:31 – Finding The Real Jesus

What identifies a cult from a healthy church environment
Ryan’s experience with IFB churches
Seeking out the authentic Jesus
Recognizing that churches have both moments of beauty and moments of failure

54:54 – Takeaways

Being the person that confesses first
Podcast recording stories
Connecting with Ryan

FEATURED QUOTES

"Wounds from relationships are only healed in relationships... And I think that wounds from the church can only be healed not necessarily in a church building, but by people who also love Jesus."

“Give people the gift of going second... You have to start with yourself, or it can spin in some very horrible places. You become a bomb thrower…. I want to be the person that confesses first, so that people go, ‘Oh, that’s the real thing.’”

Learn more about Ryan:

Instagram:

https://www.booksbyryan.com/

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/ryan.george

Ryan’s Website

https://www.booksbyryan.com/

Check out Ryan’s books:

https://www.booksbyryan.com/books/

Explorience:

https://explorience.org/about/

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

Melissa Kruger serves as the Vice President of Discipleship Programming at The Gospel Coalition. As an author and Bible teacher, she regularly teaches women in her community and speaks at conferences around the country.

I’m so excited to have her on the show today to talk about her latest book,Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens For Christ in a Secular Age, and dive into the ins and outs of raising teenagers. We talk about transitioning with your children as they grow, modeling a life of faith, creating a prayerful home, and so much more.

In a culture that often implies that the teenage years are miserable and difficult, Melissa encourages parents to not overlook the beauty and joy in this chapter. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or simply someone who influences young lives, this conversation is SO important, and I can’t wait for you to hear it!

2:00 – Melissa 101

• Vice President of the Gospel Coalition
• Mother of 3 and wife
• Former math teacher
• An unexpected path to writing 16 books

6:42 – Changing The Parenting Narrative

• The negative narrative surrounding parenting teenagers and tweens
• Understanding the development stages of this time period
• Being gracious and patient with teenagers + adapting your parenting style

14:21 – The Gracious Home Vs. The Permissive Home

• Setting boundaries and allowing for mistakes
• A lack of structure leading to negative outcomes
• Setting boundaries as a parent
• Allowing children to face consequences in a safe and supportive environment

21:25 – Parenting Through Different Stages

• Transitioning parenting styles from one stage to the next
• Recognizing children as independent human beings
• Walking alongside your children as they make their own decisions
• Avoiding placing your identity in your children’s actions or behaviors

33:03 – Modeling Faith

• Being gracious with failure as a parent
• Setting the example by walking with God
• Incorporating prayer into everyday life as a family
• Connecting with Melissa

FEATURED QUOTES

“I think growing up with our teen in some ways, is remaining curious about who they are and not making assumptions about why they're pushing back on something.”

“I think it's really tempting as a parent sometimes to place a lot of our identity and in our teen…we start trying to control who they become, rather than walk alongside them as they're becoming who God made them to be.”

“Learning how to make a mistake is actually a life lesson.”

“I always say aim for patterns, not perfection.”

Learn more about Melissa:

https://melissabkruger.com/

Get your copy of Parenting with Hope

https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Hope-Raising-Christ-Secular-ebook/dp/B0CFTGDKJ1

The Gospel Coalition

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/

Connect with me:

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

My guest this week is the lovely Myquillyn Smith, also known as The Nester. She is a New York Times and Wall Street Journal best-selling author of Welcome Home and Cozy Minimalist Home. For over a decade, she has been encouraging women to embrace imperfections and live boldly in their spaces through her blog.

Myquillyn’s home in North Carolina has been featured in publications such as Better Homes and Gardens, Ladies Home Journal, Cottages and Bungalows, and more. As a practicing imperfectionist, she believes in the power of small changes, putting nail holes in the wall, and taking the time to make a place feel like home – even if you’re renting.

I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know her, hearing her perspective on creating a space you’ll love, and learning more about her latest book, House Rules, which is set to release on April 23^rd. I just know you’re going to love her too!

3:07 – Myquillyn 101

• Starting “The Nester” in 2007
• Learning to build a home by moving frequently
• Teaching universal decorating truths

9:55 – Making a Home

• The perfectly staged homes seen on social media
• Embracing imperfection in home decor
• Making your space feel like you

17:45 – Establishing Roots Where You Are

• Taking ownership of your space, even in rentals or temporary spaces
• The perfect circumstance will never come
• The power of simple changes in home design

29:06 – Design Insights

• The genesis of Myquillyn’s passion for decorating
• Understanding design principles like scale, contrast, and lighting
• The Inspiration behind Myquillyn’s book, House Rules

38:39 – Embracing Imperfection

• Being a practicing imperfectionist
• Learning to take risks in home decor and life
• You can’t ruin something you already hate
• Connecting with Myquillyn + pre-ordering House Rules

FEATURED QUOTES

“I’ve never met a home I haven’t loved. I believe every home has a silver lining.”

“I 100% believe it doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.”

“Where else can we take a risk if not at home?”

Learn more about Myquillyn:

Pre-order House Rules:

https://www.amazon.com/House-Rules-Decorate-Every-Budget/dp/0800744748

The Nester

https://thenester.com/

The Nester podcast

https://thenester.com/podcast/

Myquillyn on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/thenester/?hl=en

Connect with me:

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

My guest this week is the incredible Mattie Jackson Smith. Mattie is an author, podcaster, and speaker whose life took an unexpected turn when she tragically lost her 28-year-old husband to a traumatic brain injury just weeks before their first anniversary.

Her first book, Lemons on Friday, offers a raw and honest account of her journey through grief, providing solace and guidance to others navigating the lonely and difficult path of widowhood. Outside of her writing career, Mattie is the host of the podcast In Joy Life, where she encourages her listeners to choose joy in any season or circumstance.

We dive deep into Mattie’s story today as she transparently shares what it looked like to wrestle with God in life’s darkest moments, ask hard questions, and bring her hurt and doubts to Jesus. She has so many powerful things to say about finding God in the questions and navigating life after loss. I absolutely loved getting to spend time with her in this episode and know you will too!

2:21 – Mattie 101

• Born and raised in Nashville in a country music family
• A passion for creative writing
• Owning a wine bar in Nashville
• Losing her husband after a brain injury
• Mattie’s memoir, Lemons on Friday

14:04 – Honesty in Grief

• Sitting in anger with God
• Biblical examples of emotions and suffering
• Embracing your emotions instead of suppressing them

24:45 – Finding God in the Questions

• Lamentations 3
• How writing helped Mattie begin to heal
• God's invitation to bring our questions, doubts, and struggles to Him

36:09 – Navigating New Beginnings

• The secondary losses that come with grief
• Redemption is not a replacement
• Navigating dating after experiencing loss
• Honoring the past while embracing the future
• Connecting with Mattie

FEATURED QUOTES

“I lived my life and the worst thing I could have imagined happened. And through that God not only has worked miracles in me through the grief and healing process, but he fulfilled this desire that he planted in my heart at 19.”

“God not only can handle it but invites me to bring it to Him.”

“What I hope people see from my life is you do have agency to choose joy, even in the worst of the worst of it.”

Learn more about Mattie:

Get your copy of Lemons on Friday

https://www.amazon.com/Lemons-Friday-Trusting-Greatest-Heartbreak/dp/0785241272

In Joy Life podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-joy-life-with-mattie-jackson/id1667357187

Mattie on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/mattiejackson/?hl=en

Mattie on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/mattiejacksonofficial/

Join me in this week's episode as I sit down with my dear friend and extraordinary human being, Kim Butler. Kim is the lead coach and founder ofThe Whiteboard Room, where she empowers creatives, leaders, and companies to unlock their true potential through one-on-one coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements.

With a heart fueled by faith, family, and a passion for adventure (and a Diet Dr. Pepper), Kim's coaching journey has touched countless lives, including my own. I’m thrilled to have her on the show to share more about her story, her mentoring process and what it looks like to set personal and professional goals and walk them out in faith.

3:53 – Kim 101

• Kim’s job at The Whiteboard Room
• Kim’s passion for helping people overcome obstacles and set goals
• Merging coaching and consulting
• The power of goal setting

8:25 – Following God’s Call

• Life lessons from a desk job
• Inspiring people to see the best in themselves
• Kim’s journey to the world race
• Sitting with God’s silence

16:32 – In The Waiting

• Sitting in the waiting
• Remaining faithful in God’s timing
• The careers that led Kim to where she is today

23:27 – The Creation of The Whiteboard Method

• How Kim created The Whiteboard Method
• What Kim’s mentor process looks like
• Working in alignment with your life

32:04 – A Work in Progress

• Real client stories
• Kim’s experience being Molly’s mentor
• The power of accountability
• Getting in touch with Kim

FEATURED QUOTES

“Goal setting became this like linchpin that I started to see, wow, there's so much power in this very simple thing. And nobody does it.”

“Your platform is not your purpose. It is just the place that you get to live out your purpose.”

“To know where you’re going and who you want to be, you have to know where you’ve been and who you are.”

Learn more about Kim and The Whiteboard Room:

https://www.thewhiteboardroom.com/

https://www.instagram.com/thewhiteboardroom/

https://www.facebook.com/THEWBROOM/

Connect with me:

http://www.stillbeingmolly.com

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

The day is FINALLY here! Yesterday marked the official launch of my book, which means you can now purchase If I Don’t Laugh I’ll Cry everywhere books are sold!

To make this moment even more special, I'm joined by the one and only John Stillman in today’s episode. Although he didn’t prepare his interview questions (but don’t you worry- he never fails to prepare a joke or two) we had a blast reminiscing about the journey of bringing this book to life.

From the initial days of the writing process to receiving my first-ever feedback from early readers, every step of this adventure has been nothing short of incredible.

I want to extend a heartfelt thank you to each and every one of you who has supported me on this journey. Whether you've preordered the book, left a review, or simply shared in the excitement, your support means the world to me.

If you’re planning to get your hands on a copy soon, I can’t wait for you to read it!

Until next time, happy listening + happy reading!

0:11 – Presidents, Past Boyfriends & The Making of a Memoir

• Selecting Millard Fillmore
• The boyfriend chapter
• The evolution of If I Don’t Laugh I’ll Cry

8:09 – … Now What?

• A second book?
• Anticipation of reader feedback
• The publishing process
• Molly’s favorite chapter

14:32 – Chapter By Chapter

• What it’s like to work with an editor
• Crafting an engaging narrative and chapter titles
• Where chapters of the book were written

21:07 – Completing the Book

• The book’s content and structure
• The hardest chapters in the book to write
• John’s dialogue in the book
• The Dark Knight + Googling “racketeering”

29:16 – Final Thoughts

• Positive feedback from male readers
• Designing the book cover
• Buying the book in person

FEATURED QUOTES

“The initial idea was really just to tell a debt story... I think as I began to work on the outline I realized that more of that backstory needed to be included than I think I originally thought.”

“I think the thing I'm most looking forward to is hearing the stories of people who are reading it.”

“I can say, I'm not I'm not sick of myself. That sounds really weird to say, but I mean… I'm not sick of this book. Like, I'm not over it. I am more excited about it than ever. And I'm just genuinely excited for people to read it.”

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

This week, I'm thrilled to welcome the most special guest ever on my show- my dad. With the release of my book just around the corner (coming out next week- can you believe it?!) I couldn’t think of a better time to have him on the podcast. Together, we dig into some of the stories that are (and aren’t) talked about in my book.

Join us as we laugh, reminisce, and share stories of the joys, the challenges, and everything in between. My dad has such powerful things to say about gratitude, slowing down, choosing love, and finding joy in the darkest of moments. This conversation is so special to me, and I am so excited to share it with you today.

Without further ado, let’s jump into this conversation with Tom Buckley.

3:34 – Tom 101

• Tom’s upbringing + challenging relationship with religion
• Going to college, joining a fraternity, and career as a teacher
• Difficulties in marriage, battles with alcoholism and homelessness
• Tom’s journey to sobriety + spiritual growth

26:49 – Parenting Perspectives

• Reading the memoir
• Watching children make mistakes and learn from them

36:28 – Choosing Love

• Tom and Lynda’s marriage that defied the odds
• Prioritizing sobriety, God, and the good of the family
• The importance of love, respect, and kindness

48:28 – Rule 62

• Looking for the good throughout Lynda’s sickness
• Not taking yourself too seriously
• Appreciating what life has taught you
• Tom’s favorite chapter in the book

48:28 – Life lessons at 80

• Tom’s life today with Cindy
• Slowing down and appreciating the present
• Trusting that things will work out when you get out of your own way

FEATURED QUOTES

“That's what life is about. It isn't about failure, it's about getting back up.”

“If you take yourself too seriously, you just lose sight of all the things that really are important.”

“In the ‘getting through it’ stage, you gain experience and knowledge that you can use to get out of it. You can find places for help and guidance that will work.”

“You want to see who the winners are? Follow the laughter.”

Connect with me:

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My guest this week is the hilarious Dustin Nickerson, a comedian from Seattle now suffering in Southern California. In 2020 he released his debut comedy special Overwhelmed, which is currently one of the highest-rated specials on Amazon Prime.

His humor has graced the screens of Comedy Central, Netflix with Kevin Hart, The Late Late Show with James Corden, Fox, and Hulu, and his stand-up clips have garnered tens of millions of views. Dustin is also the author of How To Be Married To Melissa and co-host of the podcast Don’t Make Me Come Back There.

If you want to laugh today, this is the episode for you! I have been a long-time fan of Dustin’s work and I’m so excited to have him on the show today to share his perspective on life, marriage, comedy, and more. You’re going to love this one!

12:07 – Dustin 101, Toby Keith, and Bojangles

Dustin’s Twitter bio
Molly’s first date at a Toby Keith concert
Bojangles Biscuits
Dustin’s fan base

21:46 – Set Bedtimes and Mouthguards

Adult parties need bedtimes
Middle-aged friendships
The beauty of marriage

27:40 – If I Don’t Laugh, I’ll Cry

Dustin and Melissa’s viral video
Dustin’s relatable humor
Evolving as a comedian

33:44 – Finding Your Funny

Authenticity in creativity
Bombing in stand-up
Understanding your audience

41:41 – The Solider Dog, The Late Late Show and Dustin’s Book

Dustin’s memorable career moments
The dedication behind success
Connecting with Dustin

FEATURED QUOTES

"The only way to get good at stand-up comedy is to do stand-up comedy."

“No comedian is beloved by everybody. You're not trying to get everyone to love you. You're trying to get the people that do love you, or will love your stuff, to find you.”

Learn more about Dustin:

Dustin on Tour:

https://www.dustinnickerson.com/

Dustin’s Comedy Specials:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs2QQYow6VX9nDpDwCspiqQ

Dustin on social media:

https://www.facebook.com/dustinnickersoncomedy

https://www.instagram.com/dustinnickerson/?hl=en

https://twitter.com/DustinNickerson

How To Be Married To Melissa:

https://www.thomasnelson.com/p/how-to-be-married-to-melissa/

Don’t Make Me Come Back There Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-make-me-come-back-there-with-dustin-melissa-nickerson/id1434215707?mt=2

Melissa’s Target Outfit Video:

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About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.

We have such an incredible guest joining us for today’s show! Bola Sokunbi is a certified financial instructor (CFEI), money expert, speaker, and founder of Clever Girl Finance, one of the largest personal finance media platforms for women in the U.S.

Bola received the2021 Financial Education Instructor of the Year Award from the National Council of Financial Educators and is a 4x best-selling author of the Clever Finance Series and her book, Choosing To Prosper. She is passionate about helping women take control of their money stories and live life on their terms.

Bola has such amazing things to say about breaking free from a limiting money mindset, being intentional, and giving yourself grace along your financial journey. I could not be more excited to have her back on the show with us today to share her story and wisdom with all of you!

4:49 – Bola 201

• Bola’s life as a business owner, mom, and wife
• Releasing 4 books
• Bola’s career journey and mission
• Pursuing her business on her own terms

22:35 – Embracing Imperfections in Money Management

• “Low dough March”
• Tips for curbing impulsive spending
• Embracing imperfections and finding solutions that work for you

40:57 – The Wealth Paradox

• The cultural attitude towards money
• Wealthy individuals being idolized and demonized
• Common misconceptions about wealth
• Money as a tool

51:24 – Final Takeaways

• Breaking free from a limiting money mindset
• Learning from others, being intentional, and open-minded to opportunities
• Changing dynamics in the financial planning industry
• Connecting with Bola

FEATURED QUOTES

“I had an idea that I wanted to build a business that would help women- that would empower women to not feel any shame or any judgment about their finances.”

“Automation is a tool that can help you save and help you get out of debt faster, that can help you invest more. Leverage the tools and resources that can help you help yourself.”

“Give yourself that grace. We’re all making money mistakes.”

“Money is not anything. It's a tool. It doesn't make you good, it doesn't make you evil, it doesn't make you kind, it doesn't make you hideous… it… amplifies who you are. If you're a good person, you're a great person with money. If you're an evil person, you're a worse person with money. It’s a tool.”

Learn more about Bola:

https://www.clevergirlfinance.com/

Clever Girl Finance Book Series

https://www.amazon.com/stores/Bola-Sokunbi/author/B076GP7FS3

Bola’s book, Choosing To Prosper

https://www.amazon.com/Choosing-Prosper-Triumphing-Adversity-Achieving-ebook/dp/B0B4V644NT

The Clever Girls Know Podcast

https://www.clevergirlfinance.com/podcast/

Clever Girl Finance on social media

https://www.instagram.com/clevergirlfinance/

https://www.youtube.com/clevergirlfinance

https://www.facebook.com/clevergirlfinance/

Connect with me:

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Walmart: https://bit.ly/3MmGVpJ

Indie Bound: https://bit.ly/IIDLICib

About Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder? Podcast is a weekly podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, business, life, and everything in between. Hosted by speaker and author, Molly Stillman, her mission is to make you laugh, cry, and laugh till you cry. She wants to create a community of people who are unafraid to be themselves and have honest conversations about the things that matter most. Her vision is to create a safe space for people to explore their faith and share their stories and gifts with the world.