From My Heart To Yours

𝗠𝗶𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗺 𝗭𝘆𝗹𝗯𝗲𝗿𝗴𝗹𝗮𝗶𝘁, “𝗗𝗿. 𝗭”: "I am not a victim and you are not a victim" means that we have the power inside ourselves or around us with our friends, community, or the system to achieve a far better situation.

We can let go of what we can't control.

We will have challenges, difficult situations, and feel cold moments. That doesn't mean we have to tolerate everything that happens to us or around us.”

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If you know it’s time for a change in attitude, you won’t want to miss this conversation with my guest “Dr. Z” (Miriam Zylberglait).

Find out how you can let go so you can enjoy a career, family, and better health.

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𝗠𝗶𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗺 𝗭𝘆𝗹𝗯𝗲𝗿𝗴𝗹𝗮𝗶𝘁 (𝗗𝗿. 𝗭): “I've had the opportunity, pleasure, and challenge to have transformed myself many times. I would imagine most people feel the same way. It's a demonstration of growth. Three points in my life have been very important regarding transformation.

The first one was falling in love eleven years ago: leaving my country, career, parents, and friends. When I arrived in the US I changed my specialty as a doctor as well as learning a new language. I feel that was one of my most challenging transformations because I became a mother towards the end of that transition. A complete transformation from a single woman in one country to a married woman with kids in another.

My second one was also big. After having COVID-19, I decided or should I say was “forced” to decide to reassess my life. I was living a life that was very centered on my professional achievements. I'm not one for getting more titles or money. Those have never been my goals. All I've ever wanted to do is to help people solve their health issues and change things for their good. I crossed the line and went from being a healthy empathetic health care provider to a person with unhealthy boundaries and empathy.

I became an unhealthy advocate for others, negatively affecting my own well being and the well being of my family, especially my kids. I hide it well within the illusion of multitasking.

So, my third major transformation was quitting my job. I left an environment that was not a good fit for my core values, the way that I see medicine, and the way I see my vocation in medicine. I’m still a doctor. I started doing advocacy in a way that will create a positive impact without draining me. It's very hard to advocate from the inside, and yet that's what I did.

Through that transformation I transformed myself into a writer, and published my first book.

I continue being a doctor and seeing patients. That's part of who I am, it's in my heart, and brings me joy.

No fear for me means following my heart - doing things the way that works best for me and my family.”

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If you know it’s time for a change or you are facing a major transition in your life, you won’t want to miss this conversation with my guest “Dr. Z” (Miriam Zylberglait).

Find out how you can establish healthy boundaries so you can enjoy a career, family, and better health.

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𝗥𝗼𝗯 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗶: There is a difference between happiness and joy, if you start to really unpack it. Happiness is derived by something. You get a promotion, you're happy. You get a new car, you're happy until the smell goes away and then it's just a car. These things create this feeling of happiness, but it's fleeting. Joy is this beautiful contentment for your life, regardless of what's going on. Joy is our natural state. Children are joyful. They are curious and walk around with a great big smile on their face. Their eyes sparkle at the wonder of it all.

Happiness only earns you moments of fake joy.

The issue with joy is that we might armor up for fear of losing it.

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If you are wondering how happiness only earns you fake joy, you won't want to miss this conversation with my guest Robert Pardi.

Find out how joy opens up a whole new world of possibilities that you can put into action. 

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𝗥𝗼𝗯 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗶: “At a very young age and because of the situation with my dad, I realized that I could either live in fear or I could focus on the reality of what's under my control and what I could do about my situation. I now have a really interesting relationship with fear. If you tell me not to walk down the street, because it's dangerous, I'm probably gonna go down that street to check it out for myself.

I'm a big acronym person and I have an acronym called TEA. Have a cup of tea every day, which means think about your Thoughts, Efforts, and Actions throughout your day.

Those are the three things that are under our control.

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If you are looking for the antidote to fear, you won't want to miss this conversation with my guest Robert Pardi.

Find out how ‘what is within your control’ opens up a whole new world of possibilities that you can put into action.

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𝗥𝗼𝗯 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗶: “The short version of my story is that I was married to an amazing woman, who was then diagnosed with ‘late stage’ breast cancer, right before her 31st birthday. We were at the height of our ‘everything’. I was given a job in the United Arab Emirates, which was unheard of for someone my age, and she was in a MD, PhD program. So, that diagnosis threw us a curveball. For the next 11 years, she journeyed with metastatic breast cancer and even became a doctor. I wasn't her caregiver. She was able to be very autonomous.

After she passed away and I looked at my life, I realized I wasn't feeling comfortable in finance and living in Dubai. When I look back and really think about it, I was her coach. I helped her achieve her goals, what I now call Possibility in Action™.

That's actually what I missed about the Robert that died with her.

I thought about the wonderful tools I learned from the loss itself. What if I shared the benefits of my story with others? That’s when I went through a program to become a Life Coach.

I finally got to a point to fulfill a dream of mine, which was to live in Italy and host personal growth retreats. They started out as hiking retreats and have evolved into being experiential.

Building a community of people, who will then create a positive ripple effect in the world is my new venture.”

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If you are feeling out of alignment, you won't want to miss this conversation with my guest Robert Pardi.

Find out how following your heart opens up a whole new world of possibilities that you can put into action.

𝗥𝗼𝗯 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗶: “The short version of my story is that I was married to an amazing woman, who was then diagnosed with ‘late stage’ breast cancer, right before her 31st birthday. We were at the height of our ‘everything’. I was given a job in the United Arab Emirates, which was unheard of for someone my age, and she was in a MD, PhD program. So, that diagnosis threw us a curveball. For the next 11 years, she journeyed with metastatic breast cancer and even became a doctor. I wasn't her caregiver. She was able to be very autonomous.

After she passed away and I looked at my life, I realized I wasn't feeling comfortable in finance and living in Dubai. When I look back and really think about it, I was her coach. I helped her achieve her goals, what I now call Possibility in Action™.

That's actually what I missed about the Robert that died with her.

I thought about the wonderful tools I learned from the loss itself. What if I shared the benefits of my story with others? That’s when I went through a program to become a Life Coach.

I finally got to a point to fulfill a dream of mine, which was to live in Italy and host personal growth retreats. They started out as hiking retreats and have evolved into being experiential.

Building a community of people, who will then create a positive ripple effect in the world is my new venture.”

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If you are feeling out of alignment, you won't want to miss this conversation with my guest Robert Pardi.

Find out how following your heart opens up a whole new world of possibilities that you can put into action.

𝗗𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗥𝗼𝘀𝗲-𝗠𝗰𝗦𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘆: “We enter this world because people cared enough to be together to create us. Caring is what gives us an environment of safety and trust for exploration. I show my children that I care about their thoughts and feelings. That I care about them just being here. This has given them a sense of safety and an environment in which to flourish. I love watching them evolve and grow through challenges. I learn so much by watching them and having the freedom to muddle through.

Leading by example is a really big value of mine. We are our children's first teachers and they observe everything we do. So it's not just the words that we use or choose to use, they pick up on our energy and how we interact with them, ourselves, and others. That puts a huge pressure on parents. I believe we put too much pressure on ourselves to be these amazing parents. We come into this role without having a lot of training.

My children keep me honest and they keep me on my toes. I am blessed to have two boys, twelve and fourteen, who still want to share and interact in conversations with me. They come to me about the thoughts that they've gotten from interacting with the world.

My wish for the world is for people to see that each person is a human, not a race, culture, or gender.”

𝗗𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗥𝗼𝘀𝗲-𝗠𝗰𝗦𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘆: “Gratitude gets me through everything. I've gone through some pretty tough times in my life. I know we all have our own backstories. Finding things that I'm grateful for helps to strengthen my resilience. It doesn't take away the problems. We will always face challenges, problems, losses, and heartaches. All of those things are part of being human.

Gratitude strengthens my resilience. It's part of my mental fitness and allows me to lean into whatever is happening. The ‘leaning’ takes longer with bigger events. But with persistence, it actually pays off. It always ends and I always feel I come through it a bit mentally stronger, which means I am becoming more resilient.

We go through stages as we face a hurdle in life. You could probably list at least ten stages. They go along a dotted line. Our slumps go down below the line and gratitude brings us above the line. As we build our resistance through gratitude, slumps aren't as low. We start to go through those stages with greater speed and more peace.

Gratitude is accessible for anyone. You may need guidance to learn how to start practicing it.

You can use that toolset for the rest of your life.”

𝗗𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗥𝗼𝘀𝗲-𝗠𝗰𝗦𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘆: “For me, respect comes from respecting each other. A person doesn't need to think the same way that I do. I don't even need to necessarily understand someone else's thought pattern or where they are coming from. If I acknowledge the fact that it is real for them, then I am showing respect. I've always had an interest in understanding how humanity works. We've got a really evolved complex brain that can achieve so much.

We tend to be so rough on ourselves.

We  are our worst critics and pious judges.

Knowing that 'I am okay the way I am’ is a very important fact to believe and comprehend.”

𝗗𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗥𝗼𝘀𝗲-𝗠𝗰𝗦𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘆: "I've been undertaking personal development and exploration for as long as I can remember. I felt a bit isolated, lonely, and misunderstood as I was growing up finding my place in the world. I also went through some experiences where I felt a bit letdown by the people around me. I decided to only trust in myself. Looking back, I can understand the decisions my younger self made like too much drinking in my twenties.

Over the years, I started to grow in understanding and I realized that bringing trust back into my life would be valuable. In order to do that I needed to learn to forgive others and myself.

My identical twin and I were compared all of our lives, and we are both very independent people.

We grew up in a very caring and loving family. My twin and I are the youngest of five children. When it came to ballet, we were compared to our eldest sister who did well in ballet. Once we were old enough to enroll, the teacher skipped us a year ahead, just because our sister was so good. Crazy little things like that kept adding up. One day a relative told me that I had gotten the brains and my sister had gotten the looks. That was the tipping point for me. Even though it was said from a place of love, it solidified how I was feeling about being so socially awkward at school and feeling like I didn't fit in.  I felt as though I wasn’t being seen.

I definitely used it as a lesson when I became a mother. My boys are very independent and have very different personalities. When I see my youngest with comparisons about his abilities to his oldest brother, I help him to focus on the things where they actually have different strengths or are equally as good as each other.

I started off as a dental assistant and I did that for a number of years, then realized there weren't advancement opportunities. I couldn't see myself being that role for the rest of my life. So, I left and eventually found my way into a corporate banking career. I faced some real interesting challenges against really strong personalities and at the same time, I had a huge amount of support from others. I've had more support than challenges.

In that role, I had been known as a guru as an expert. People reached out to me, I had all this history and its knowledge. I was there to help solve complex problems. Now, I wasn't in that environment. I was out on my own. So who was Dalice? That was a really interesting experience to go through where I had to grieve, what I thought I was losing. At the end of that, I realized I actually wasn't losing anything. I was that person today as well. I didn't need to be in that environment to have those skills. I just wasn't using the skills that had shown up in that environment, due to the nature of the roles I was doing. So yeah, that was a really interesting awakening process I went through over a few months.

I am now an Ambassador of Gratitude and I lead people through Gratitude challenges and workshops.”