Choi Says Podcast

Guilt. What a difficult thing to overcome, right? In this episode. I talk about the effects that guilt can cause psychologically as well as physiologically and how you can deal with guilt and turn it into a positive thing for your life. You're not alone. We've all been through it. We all go through it. Enjoy the episode! KTHANKSBYE<3 Sources: [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201411/10-things-you-didnt-know-about-guilt) [Forbes](https://www.forbes.com/sites/stevenberglas/2012/06/07/6-signs-you-are-suffering-from-guilt-and-probably-dont-know-it/#317d762f7a24) [WebMD](https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/is-guilt-getting-best-of-you#2) [Merriam-Webster](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/guilt)

In this episode, guest, Bri and I talk about some of the ups and downs of growing up in a not-so-practical family structure. Also how the way she was raised shaped her into who she is today. Also we talk about a loss she experienced in a miscarriage and what her process of dealing with that and overcoming it was like. We discuss how not enough women talk about miscarriages and it really should be something that is talked about more openly. So many women blame themselves for the loss of a child but it is usually not the case, and hearing more of these women's experiences could help someone going through a miscarriage. For some more information on dealing with a miscarriage or learning how to talk to someone who has gone through such a loss, please visit the website below. [Through the Heart](http://www.throughtheheart.org)

In this super short and sweet mini episode, I talk about the fear of starting over. The fear of change. Inevitably, we all will need change in our lives in one or more aspects of our lives. Does it bring you joy? It's as simple as that. It's a tool that I try to use in my life each day. I hope it can come in handy for you as well. Enjoy! KTHANKSBYE<3

In this episode, guest, Chrissy and I talk about addiction, mental health, and loss. How her struggles with those in her own life gives her a great perspective on how to help her clients as she works toward her doctorate degree in counseling psychology. Chrissy also speaks at great lengths about the role of privilege in one's mental and physical health, as well as in how it affects addiction. If you are struggling with mental health issues or addiction, please know that you can talk to someone and that you're not alone. No matter how small or big it seems, someone is there to talk to you. For more information on organizations that can help you through tough times, please visit the below websites. [](www.nimh.nih.gov)[National Institute of Mental Health](https://www.nimh.nih.gov) [](samosa.gov)[](www.samhsa.gov)[Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration](https://www.samhsa.gov)

****Something very important that I forgot to include in the episode**** If someone you love is going through addiction and you don't know how to help them or how to deal with it emotionally, please look for an [al-anon meeting here](https://al-anon.org)or a [nar-anon meeting here](https://www.nar-anon.org). These meetings can help you tremendously through a hard time of being there for someone with a drug or alcohol problem and help you along the way of being there for your loved one. In this week's episode, I talk about addiction and relapse. What an addict might go through. What the process of recovery (successful or unsuccessful) might be like. What might be a good way to be there for a loved one who might be going through addiction. I'd love to hear your experiences and thoughts about this topic. Please email me at [email protected] with some personal stories. Hope you enjoy this episode! KTHANKSBYE<3 Sources for statistics in episode: [](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/1839290?resultClick=1)[Journal of the American Medical Association](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/1839290?resultClick=1) [](https://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/aa06.htm)[National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism](https://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/aa06.htm) [](https://www.samhsa.gov/disorders/co-occurring)[Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration](https://www.samhsa.gov/disorders/co-occurring)

CHOISTERS!!!! This week, I speak with my friend, writer Amelia Lovelace. She is the creator and the writer of [She Made The Move](www.shemadethemove.com), a lifestyle blog, which is categorized into dating, food, and everything else. Amelia Lovelace is her writing name. She remains faceless for this interview as she does for her blog and published writing because of the nature of a her blog which can get quite personal and, well, pretty steamy. We had so much fun recording this episode, and I think you'll be able to tell by how much we laugh. But we talk about her big move out to New York and some of the struggles she's had along the way and some amazing times she's had starting her new life in NYC. Please make sure to check out her blog, it is truly a great read. Very sexy and such an easy read. You won't regret it! OKAY! Without further ado, happy listening!! KTHANKSBYE! <3 [](www.shemadethemove.com)[www.shemadethemove.com](http://www.shemadethemove.com) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/shemadethemove/) | [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/shemadethemove/) | [Twitter](https://twitter.com/shemadethemove)

Happy Pride Month!!! I volunteered for the NYC Pride March this weekend and just wanted to share a few thoughts on it. I loved being surrounded by love and feeling the oneness of HUMANS of all walks in their lives marching for one cause! It was beautiful and I'm so glad my friend Marco asked me to volunteer! LOVE IS LOVE <3 Check out [NYC Pride](https://www.nycpride.org) to learn more about the organization! Happy Listening! KTHANKSBYE<3

This week, I talk to my non-blood brother, Mike Wang. We talk about his journey through life, growing up in a broken family, but making it work through the support of amazing family members and friends. Also assimilating to a new culture in moving to the States as a young boy without his parents and being a trouble maker through his adolescence and young adulthood. We talk about how he got out of a pattern of negative situations and got himself above all difficulties he faced as a young man. I am extremely proud of this guy and I'm hoping his story can relate to many people who have gone through some similar situations. Remember, everyone has something. We all go through something. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. As always, thank you for listening, enjoy this episode. KTHANKSBYE<3

"**Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you… You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind**." -**Anthony Bourdain** You sure left some good behind. Thanks for allowing so many people to travel the world with you. Bon voyage. This week, instead of an interview episode, I record another solo episode in memory of the late Anthony Bourdain and to discuss suicide and depression/mental health (and I'm posting this a day earlier than usual). Anthony Bourdain was someone who this world desperately needs now. He truly stood for unity of mankind and justice. I'm sure he wasn't even aware that he had become this person, but he was. We were lucky to have him for the time we did. I'm sure many people had a similar experience as I did last Friday and a couple days following. I hope this episode brings some comfort or at least some organization of thoughts and feelings for you. I had a lot of trouble putting my feelings into words but I think I was able to in the end. My heart goes out to his family and friends and many others like myself who looked up to him. Please remember that you are not alone. We're all in this together. One world. One love. **Rest In Peace Anthony Bourdain**. **Thank you for the travel and the food and all the other good that came with them. I *_will_* see you some day and we will finally go on that food trip. :)** If you’re thinking about suicide, are worried about a friend or loved one, or would like emotional support: United States: The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24/7 across the US at 1 800 273 TALK (1 800 273 8255) Outside of US: [List Of Suicide Crisis Lines](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines) Some of the information on this episode were gathered from [CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2018/p0607-suicide-prevention.html), [SAVE.org](https://save.org/about-suicide/suicide-facts/) and [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201004/the-six-reasons-people-attempt-suicide).

Today, I get a little personal, yet again. I talk about my struggle with mental health and finally getting some help with it. ADHD is a tricky condition that a lot of people think is made up and not taken seriously. I am finally starting to realize it can get better and taking action. Mental health is IMPORTANT. Mental health is REAL. Mental health makes you STRONG, not crazy. Talk to someone. Be heard. Be understood. You'd be surprised how big of an impact being heard can do. Thanks for listening and letting me be vulnerable with y'all. Happy Listening! KTHANKSBYE<3