Your Confident Self

Most people are terrible communicators. This can lead to miscommunication, misunderstandings, and conflict. Confident communication is the key to effetive relationships.

Building relationships is important to everyone. No one wants to be in conflict with people and feel disconnected. Most of us are searching to build meaningful relationships at home and at work. One of the easiest ways to have meaningful relationships is to be a more confident communicator. Confident communication starts with confident people.

Confident communication is key to effective relationships. We all want to feel connected and at ease with the people around us. It’s easier than you think to become a more confident communicator. Start by being a more positive person, listening well, using good body language, asking interesting questions, and expressing genuine interest in others. When we make an effort to connect with others in this way, we create meaningful relationships that enrich our lives both professionally and personally. So why not start today? Share this episode with a friend and start building better relationships together.

Full show notes are available at: https://allegrasinclair.com/084

We've all been there. You put in long hours, do your best work, and contribute to the team - but when it comes time for recognition or a raise, you're ignored.

It's hard not to feel devalued when you're constantly putting in effort but don't see the results. You start to doubt yourself and wonder what's wrong with you.

The good news is that you're not alone. In this episode of Your Confident Self, I'll help you understand how to recover from the disappointment and move forward. I'll also share tips on how to stay confident, improve your skills to communicate your worth and maintain a positive self-image.

Anna Oakes is a consultant coach and caretaker of humanity. She combines her love for humanity with her 20 plus years of corporate experience. Now the magic, the intersection of her love for humanity and her love and understanding of corporate is what she's going to share with us today. She's not talking about something that she's read about, or something that she saw on TV, or an article that she read in an airplane magazine while she was on a flight. What she's bringing today is what she knows because she has walked it, she has been on the ground. and she's walked it and talked it. And she's going to tell us how we visualize what our next best step is, how we move from where we are to where we want to be, and most importantly, how we reclaim ownership of our career in a way that lights us on fire. 

In this episode we discussed:

• How COVID has affected our spirits, family and work dynamics
• How to determine what you should keep doing and what you should change
• Why now is the perfect time for organizations to change
• How we’ve lost control of our own careers
• How the pandemic has changed the way we view work
• How we can reclaim ownership, direction, energy for our careers?
• The number one cause of burnout right now in the world of work
• How to bridge the gap between self awareness and self advocacy
• The difference between being managed and being led

Full show notes and transcript available at https://allegrasinclair.com/082

There are some situations you don’t expect to learn anything from, like watching an episode of Columbo. I love that show, but I consider it pure entertainment and a light-version at that. I recently took a second look at it with a specific goal in mind–to consider what Columbo might say about our current uncertain times.

At times like these, we could all use a role model who knows how to thrive in the most uncertain times. Hence, my ‘research’ into Columbo. In case you haven’t seen the show, he always got the most puzzling cases to solve, or he got what seemed to be a simple case and immediately complicated it before he solved it.

In every instance, no matter how uncertain the case seemed, Columbo kept smiling and showing up authentically until he solved the case. Let’s see how he did this so we can learn to thrive in the most uncertain times.

Full transcript and shownotes at https://allegrasinclair.com/081

This episode was 17 years in the making. Joining me on the podcast is a woman who had to punch fear in the throat and shut down a successful business in order to chase her true dream. An award-winner in two different careers, Ana Lydia Monaco stopped by to walk us through her big, scary career pivot and let us know how the shift worked out! Her insights on being true to who you are and walking through life with grace are going to rock your socks.

Growing up, nobody in Ana Lydia's immediate family was encouraging her to pursue her dreams. In fact, she was told her dreams wouldn't come true so she should abandon them. In their world she was supposed to go to college and become a doctor, lawyer, or accountant. That was what they knew, so that's all they encouraged her to pursue. There is nothing wrong with being a doctor, lawyer or accountant, as long as that's what you want to do. Listen in to find out how she found the courage to buck that system.

In this episode we discussed:

• How Ana Lydia helped engineer my most embarrassing celebrity moment
• What made her decide to shutter her award-winning PR business
• What made her keep going when people told her to stop
• When she knew she wanted to be a filmmaker
• How she handled the pressure of being a young, latina woman breaking barriers in entertainment

You can find full show notes at https://allegrasinclair.com/080

Joining me on the podcast today is a super successful entrepreneur who knows a lot about battling low self-confidence and learning to appreciate her own beauty. Jeannell Darden is the Founder & CEO of Moisture Love. It's been quite a journey from a chance encounter at a natural hair store in Downtown Durham to the podcast, but I'm delighted that Jeannell finally made it.

Getting comfortable with your own beauty is a complicated and life-long process. Jeannell breaks down how she has worked on this (and continues to work on this) to be more successful. Many of her obstacles were internal versus external challenges. Her story will inspire you and help you see how you have been ignoring your own magic.

In this episode we discussed:

• How Jeannell Darden went from Engineering to Entrepreneurship
• Why she kept damaged hair for 3 years and what she did when she finally cut it
• Why you shouldn't make promises you can't keep
• How she got to a place where she accepted her beauty
• How she grew more confident in her appearance
• How I made her eyeballs sweat
• How to raise confident girls and what this leads to
• The advice she would give to her 17-year-old self

Full show notes and the transcript are available at https://allegrasinclair.com/079

Find Jeannell on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/moisturelove/

Most of us are taught to be people pleasers from a very young age, so the idea that there are any benefits to be achieved if you stop caring if people like you is probably a new one for many of us. The biggest advantage is that it frees you to be your authentic self, shaking off the weight of society's expectations so that you can focus on creating your own unique destiny.

There are actually many advantages to being disliked and unpopular. Here are just a few.

• Being True to Yourself
• Not Bowing to Peer or Parental Pressure
• Setting Your Own Goals
• Achieving Your Dreams
• Being Free from Meaningless Distractions

You can find the full transcript and show notes at https://allegrasinclair.com/078

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So many people are suffering right now. Between the global health pandemic and the scourge that is rampant racism here in America, people are suffering. And more than that, they are angry that the world changed without their permission and they are struggling to name what is going on with them.

We are most in trouble when we’re struggling with what used to be—and our desire to have things as they were before. That is gone.

In this episode we discussed:

• The different ways that people are grieving right now, it's not just loss of a loved one.
• With the global pandemic, what other emotions are wearing us down in addition to grief?
• What can we do now to deal with grief about the current state of things?
• The main thing we do that saps our power and keeps us stuck.
• How and why Black people are operating at less than their full energy.
• How racial trauma shows up in our bodies and what to do about it.
• How to improve the results you get from meditation.
• How you build influence in your workplace
• How to tell if you are managing your racial trauma well or need to seek additional support.

Get the show notes and additional resources at:

https://allegrasinclair.com/trauma

Being an authentic woman means you know who you are and are confident letting the world see the real you. The word authentic means true, genuine, and real. Our social media-centric society focuses much more on appearance rather than reality. Just look at the glossy magazines with photoshopped images of supermodels or the picture-perfect Instagram feeds and you can see how easy it is to fall into the trap of becoming shallow, fake, and inauthentic.

It takes courage to punch fear in the throat and live authentically.

Today we look at 5 ways you can tell when you're being your authentic self.

Get 3 free authenticity exercises at https://allegrasinclair.com/076

Do you know what it means to be authentic? Whenever we hear the word authentic, we automatically associate it with a physical object being genuine and of high value, such as an authentic Romare Bearden painting or a natural diamond. The opposite of authentic is inauthentic - not real, fake, phony, insincere.

When we think about the concept of the authentic self, most women focus mainly on being truthful and honest. These are valuable attributes, but really living an authentic life involves a lot more than just telling the truth. So, the bad news is that being honest is not enough.

Today we'll look at what it means to be authentic, why we slip into being fake, and how you can make adjustments to show up as your authentic self.

Get 3 free authenticity exercises at https://allegrasinclair.com/075.