Going For Something

Ok so i’ve never heard this thing talked about before and I knoww its also super simple. AND theres a mistake I keep seeing everywhere.

goal setting.

planning your week and choosing your tasks.

lets compare these things against each other and discuss..

and lets go deeper so we can get even more buzzed about our goals and the things we’re working on (yay!)

come and listen to this episode and make sure you are not making this mistake too!

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

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What is EFT Tapping?

what can it be used for and my favourite uses

who to follow in this field

getting certified in EFT tapping with Gala Darling via the Gala Darling Method

Mirror neurons

my own personal success, failure, and what i’m still working on in this context

and just me gushing about this powerful new skill that I use personally and professionally as a coach!

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

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a pep talk episode!

Listen to if you are either on the verge of, or in the midst of procrastination!

listen, relisten and share it with all your procrasta-buddies!

Where you can find me:

my instagram

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

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‘should actually be doing this’? Why dont I have it all together? an episode when we get to normalise these feelings and at the same time as normalising these feelings, normalise being confident that we are on the right path **Today we talked about:** rationally we all know its totally normal, but when we find ourselves questioning these feelings, it can sometimes lead us to take action from a desperate place. I felt very lost, and I didn’t know what was ‘for me’ and I didnt know what my path was, and I didn’t know if I should just accept it. I didnt know what was what and I didnt have any confidence in any of it… (PUT THIS AS A QUOTE IN STORIES WITH A LINK TO THE PODCAST) even if I might be going about this in the wrong way, I am on the right path and i am going to work it out.. the connection between - doing what we say we are going to do and our self worth & self trust. how to build up when you feel your whole life needs a change in direction. how to ensure that the hard days dont get accompanied by the weight of total catastrophe my “I need to make a change” moment stories I was telling myself around struggling. my failed website & why I was a wreck the whole time. my success and finally admitting what I wanted what i’m still working on - confidence in my path, getting buzzed and excited about this stuff! its natural to compare sometimes! Where you can find me: my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/ my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/ the lucky dip newsletter - https://forms.aweber.com/form/23/282056123.htm

This update was recorded before baby was born.

But of course birth happened before I hit publish and it remained unprocessed - until now!

life update around:

• 3rd trimester stuff
• what i’m prioritising right now
• goals & tasks this month
• exciting things that are happening
• EFT tapping
• my vision for a pregnancy tapping programme for birth after a c section
• my love of having podcast guests
• procrastination
• letting go of the mental burden i put on myself
• keeping momentum over a long time period w goals and tasks
• 2 things I need to work on / improve at

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

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my real time episode on struggles with goal setting - september 2023

- resistance and stucknessabout how to set goals when i return to work in october

- why i feel sheepish to share about this

- the need to be completely perfect vs imperfect growth & learning from struggles in relation to goal setting & coaching

- current goal holiday & my view on always having goals

- productivity = worth

- using indecision around goal setting to avoid other challenges

- priming - maybe the thinking stage is normal!

- what i plan to do around setting goals

- fear of failure

- arbitrary nature of goal setting & metrics of success

- powerful language

Where you can find me:

my instagram - going for something

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

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Our Guest today is Elise Aabakken

In this episode we talk about Elises first course on skillshare, through to her transition into coaching and of course about her inner critic - Chad.

Where you can find Elise:

Link to instagram: https://instagram.com/elise.aabakken?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

website: where you can find classes and original artwork:

www.eliseaabakkenstudios.com

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

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What we talked about in this episode:

• joining the artist community after lurking for a year!
• how Elise came to create her first skillshare course (that ended up being featured on the artists page!)
• questioning all or nothing thinking to find evidence she had ignored
• imposter syndrome, ‘everyone else knows what they are doing and i’m the only one who doesnt’ & questioning this.
• seeing the value in ‘my own way of explaining things’ and ‘being me’ vs being an expert
• discrediting her own initial success as ‘luck’ or down to factor other than herself
• remembering that the first time is always going to be the hardest..
• creating a new IG account to allow Elise to share her work without the judgement of current friends.
• keeping things out of the hands of an inner critic and not allowing other people to decide if its ‘good enough’
• feedback and constructive criticism - both requested and unsolicited and how to process vulnerable feelings around this, including sitting in her own wisdom
• the pressure to produce a lot and always share ‘new’ stuff
• checking in with your own wisdom and opinions about things!
• celebrating herself & celebrating as a practice
• transferring her mindset from art and creativity practices into life
• the humans behind the numbers
• her failure
• feeling like she’s doing the ‘wrong thing’ and am somehow going to be punished for something
• the fear of appearing stupid
• making commitments when she feels excited and then not following through on them
• feeling behind
• Elise’s own beliefs that she uncovered during her coach training
• asking for help
• journalling - ‘then what’
• finding her “nice” as a coach and working on her first coaching package
• getting feedback even when things are unfinished
• attitudes towards money
• setting goals
• “Chad” - Elise’s inner critic and how he came to be named Chad
• activism and joy

Our Guest today is Maggie McCabe

In this episode we talk about so many things ranging from the importance of prioritising yourself, the importance of bringing sillyness and kid-like fun into adult life and anxiety: managing spirals when they happen. And finally distinguishing self sabotage from finding your own path. (and so much more!)

Where you can find maggie:

Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/mindfulhealthwithmaggie/

facebook - https://www.facebook.com/MindfulHealthyMaggie?mibextid=ZbWKwL

website -  mindfulhealthymaggie.com

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

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About maggie:

I'm Maggie! a Mindful Health Coach helping others release overwhelm and anxiety to make clear, confident decisions so they can begin living a healthier life in mind and body. All while having MASSIVE fun! I believe in living in a place of joy, having fun and playing everyday. You can find me outside in nature taking walks, climbing trees and mountains, talking to flowers, splashing in puddles and dancing like no ones watching! I'm a kid at heart and I thrive in being TRUE to who I am.

What we talked about in this episode:

• learning to be our own caretaker & putting ourselves first
• how taking care of others is not the same as taking care of yourself (even if you get a good feeling from it!)
• how Maggie had been putting aside things that bring her joy & peace
• how to actually work out what you want and prioritise yourself
• excuses for why you cant do something & societal norms around these
• questioning our excuses
• the backlash - when you start to prioritise yourself: relationships that were lost as a result of maggies growth
• what happens if i succeed? the consequences of success and growth
• boundaries
• how maggie discovered mindset work
• embracing play and kid-like fun in life
• the mind affects the body
• making light of anxiety to relieve it
• maggies struggles with self trust & doubt
• how sometimes awareness can make things feel harder
• high functioning anxiety & anxiety spirals
• what happens when Maggie ‘steps back’ with something she originally thought she got past
• letting go of “why” we are feeling a certain way
• allowing and accepting to release anxiety
• what Maggie’s working on right now
• fitness, nutrition and life balance
• am I self sabotaging vs listening to my body & inner wisdom
• alllowing my own version of flow
• maggies process for reflecting
• becoming more aware of our own self sabotage
• the ‘f*ck it’ button
• maggies thoughts on the modern way of life (social media) contributing to anxiety & anxiety spiking from social media consumption

Our Guest today is Clio Farella (empire of now)

In this episode we talk all about how Clio took on a beginners mindset to allow her to bring about her first business success, despite having suffered from perfectionist tendencies in the past. We talk about failure and fear and the things that Clio is working on right now and how they are going.

About Clio:

Im Clio , I’m 40. I’m à life coach and manifestation mentor. I use psycho physical techniques such as EFT meditation yoga hypnosis and deep questioning to help my clients reconnect to their joy which is our true source of motivation. As someone who suffered perfectionism , lack of connection and difficulty to be authentic , I’m obsessed with enabling women to create a life that feels true and real for them. I’m also a passionate history teachers for teenagers , a world traveler and a proud feminist.

Where you can find Clio:

instagram - https://www.instagram.com/empireofnow/

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

the lucky dip newsletter - https://forms.aweber.com/form/23/282056123.htm

What we talked about in this episode:

• Clio’s initial launch in business
• keeping a beginners mindset
• adapting when things got harder
• working on perfectionsim
• feeling disconnected from ourself (even though life had many positives)
• Clio’s failure (one of the first to include elements of fear around physical safety)
• self regulation in moments of fear
• calming our nervous system with body and brain connection
• EFT (tapping)
• what Clio’s working on right now

In this episode, i’m coming at you with an unusual opinion for someone who spends a lot of time working on goals (herself and with clients!) - but its a real lesson i’ve learnt!

I wanted to share this one big piece of wisdom around goal setting that you might not have heard before, because SO many of us get caught up in the ‘method’ for goal setting

and there is something that is SO much more important…which we discuss today!

Where you can find me:

my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/going_for_something/

my website - https://lauraferrara.co.uk/

the lucky dip newsletter - https://forms.aweber.com/form/23/282056123.htm