OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball and leading therapists

Ready for a real talk about relationships? Today, we're getting down to the nitty-gritty as we explore the 9 not-so-obvious signs of toxic relationships. We get it, the word 'toxic' might bring up images of major drama, but in reality, it's not always that in-your-face. Think of this as a low-key guide to spotting the not-so-cool stuff that might be lurking beneath the surface of your relationships. No frills, no drama, just a straight-up chat between Louise & Dr. Tari Mack about the subtle signs that things might be a bit off-kilter. The pair talk you through: The reality of gaslighting (so many people get this wrong) One party always being the decision maker The importance of having a voice in a relationship (and how easy it is to lose yours) Believing you can't leave because the partner is dependent on you Double standards in a relationship Isolation from friends and family by the partner in any format Unhealthy boundaries, including surveillance and lack of trust ANY sort of criticism, belittling or manipulation And a lot more. ----- ⭐ Want more bonus episodes, Home Truths, Voice Notes from Lu and access to our community area The House? Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM for all of this + exclusive access to our 'Ask A Therapist' room with guaranteed therapist responses. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! Join OPENHOUSE Premium here: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Dr. Tari Mack on Instagram: @drtarimack ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Are you constantly saying "yes" when you really mean "no"? Do you show up to plans when you’re exhausted and you’d rather go to bed? Ever find yourself agreeing to tasks you secretly dread? Or going on dates with people you don’t want to because you don’t want to ‘hurt their feelings’? Whether or not you identify yourself as a ‘people pleaser’. it's time to decode the art of saying "no" and reclaiming your energy so you can learn to love all of your layers and celebrate yourself and your truth this year In this week’s episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, sponsored by Sol de Janeiro, Louise & psychotherapist Stephanie Therapy dive into: What people-pleasing is How it forms Why we’re scared to say no (or maybe why you hate conflict) The healing hack in asking yourself ‘what is the fear behind this feeling’? How this is often a coping mechanism to childhood Identifying whether you are people-pleasing for those who wouldn't do the same for you Where to start with breaking the cycle of people pleasing The concept of ‘baby boundaries’ How to communicate your new boundaries to those around you - and so much more. On a journey to help you love all of your Layers, this episode is recorded in partnership with Sol de Janeiro to support the launch of their new Delícia Drench Body Butter. Get your hands on this whipped, ultra-rich body butter that supports the skin's barrier and penetrates deep below the surface to lock in moisture and relieve extra dry skin. Shop the product here: ⭐ HERE ⭐ ----- ⭐ Want more bonus episodes, Home Truths, Voice Notes from Lu and access to our community area The House? Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM for all of this + exclusive access to our 'Ask A Therapist' room with guaranteed therapist responses. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! Join OPENHOUSE Premium here: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Sol de Janeiro on Instagram: @soldejaneiro ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever felt like ‘If I just looked prettier, life would be easier?’ Or maybe everyone else has better hair, better teeth, and a better body? And why can’t I have that too? Today, Louise & psychotherapist Stephanie Therapy, in partnership with Sol de Janeiro, discuss the pressure we all feel to ‘glow up’ and how this pressure and desire are often rooted in something much deeper: the wound of not feeling ‘enough’. The pair discuss: The story behind Sol de Janeiro & the celebration of the Brazilian Culture Body image and the pressure to look a certain way (+ the pressure to conform) The filler revolution The connection to childhood and the wound of ‘not enough’ and ‘validation’ The fine line between making personal changes that make you feel good versus changing for external validation The challenges of projecting the best version of oneself in the dating world What self-care really means The healing power of true connection in relationships, beyond superficial appearances An Inner Child Exercise and The power of rituals to start to connect with your body. On a journey to help you love all of your Layers, this episode is recorded in partnership with Sol de Janeiro to support the launch of their new Delícia Drench Body Butter. Get your hands on this whipped, ultra-rich body butter that supports the skin's barrier and penetrates deep below the surface to lock in moisture and relieve extra dry skin. Shop the Delícia Drench Body Butter & Cheirsoa 59 new products here:⭐HERE⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Sol de Janeiro on Instagram: @soldejaneiro ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

WTF does breaking cycles actually mean? Today, we tell you. Are you the chosen one who is breaking your family’s cycle by ‘doing the work’ Are you ready to shed intergenerational trauma, break your ‘destined patterning’ and step into a legacy of abundance and peace instead? Do you feel like the ‘black sheep’ in your family who is out there doing the work alone? Or maybe you’re clear on your cycles but you need more help on this journey because things can get hard and heavy. If yes, this episode is for you. This week, join Louise Rumball & Dr. Mariel Buqué, PhD, a Columbia University–trained trauma-informed psychologist and practitioner of holistic healing as today they discuss all things intergenerational trauma and CYCLE breaking. The pair dive into: What intergenerational trauma *actually* is How trauma can be transferred across generations through biology and psychology The power our environment has on our gene expression and how we are not *destined* to live with our genes The importance of ‘grounding’ and ‘identifying and excavating’ past wounds before being able to move forward The importance of finding the right practitioner to avoid re-traumatization The pair also discuss some of the most common generational cycles that Dr. Mariel sees in practice - ranging from patriarchal structures, family communication styles, socioeconomic backgrounds to ‘depression running in the family’, autoimmune disorders substance abuse and more as well as: The starting points for breaking generational cycles How you can cycle break without 1-1 therapy; and Dr. Mariel’s new book that can help you do exactly that. ⭐ Want weekly bonus episodes, access to our community room ‘The House’ + access to our ‘Ask A Therapist’ room? Join OPENHOUSE Premium. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ --- Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with Dr. Mariel on Instagram: @dr.marielbuque Pre-order Break The Cycle on Amazon: HERE Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

⭐ Redeem your FREE 30 day breathwork, meditation and movement flow trial to OPEN ⭐ Every moment in life is a micro moment that might change the direction of your future. Are you filling these micro moments with targeted, clear, steady steps and commitments to self, growth, connection play, joy and ambition, or are you running, running, running trying to keep up? Today, Louise jumps into the studio at Spotify LA with the CEO of OPEN, Raed Khawaja to discuss how we can better use these micro moments to our advantage to transform our lives. They also talk you through how OPEN are pioneering a space in the market as a mindfulness studio for everyone. A place to come to your senses with meditation, music, breathwork and movement awaken your body and mind. The pair dive into: Leaning into the slow shift of transforming into who you always wanted to be Why one cold email can change the direction of your life The impact of playfulness - ‘it’s supposed to be fun’ The power of ‘modest meaning’ - how does meaning show up in your life? The importance of being deeply curious and deeply authentic How we all have to have our own brand of ‘cool’ Living with a sense of evolution (doing vs. being) and How business and wellness / happiness don’t need to be exclusive The pair also talk about the recent Anxious Attachment Bootcamp and the Nervous System Regulation Reset that OPEN and OPENHOUSE recently collaborated on. You can access the Nervous System Reset here --- Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with Raed Khawaja on LinkedIn: here Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's a bucket list episode, baby! Louise welcomes The Holistic Psychologist to the studio to delve into the art of genuinely loving and liking yourself this year. This is the stuff that no one ever teaches us about but that we should all be learning about at school. Louise & Dr. Nicole LePera, a trailblazer in holistic psychology, get into: The importance of integrating the body, somatic practices, and nervous system awareness for ACTUAL change. What the time between our heart beats can tell us about our ability to regulate our emotions in relationships (+ HRV, heart-brain coherence) How you can’t break cycles without using your biology Understanding the differentiation between The Conscious vs. Subconscious Mind: Why affirmations alone fall short and post-its on the wall aren’t enough The power and danger of ego stories Exploring the core universal belief of feeling unworthy Understanding trauma-based attractions versus grounded, healthy connections. Why so many of us struggle with self-love and compassion, thriving instead in stress-based chaos Louise & Dr. Nicole finish the episode by asking each other what the biggest change they have each seen, personally, since doing this work. Their answers might surprise you! ----- ⭐ Ready to start working with your nervous system but don’t know where to start? Join us on our free 31 day Regulate Your Nervous System bootcamp in partnership with OPEN ⭐ ⭐ Want weekly bonus episodes, access to our community room ‘The House’ + access to our ‘Ask A Therapist’ room? Join OPENHOUSE Premium. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now & access our community room ‘The House’ at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Dr. Nicole LePera on Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy new year to the loves of my LIVES (YOU GUYS!!!!). This fun, solo episode is EVERYTHING I wish I had learned sooner and everything that I learned the hard way in 2023 or through the OPENHOUSE therapists & their mic-drop moments. Today, I’m sharing them with you and whenever you’re streaming this episode, it’s full of things that would have saved me so much time, stress, chaos, grief and heartache if I had learned them a little bit sooner! I jump into: Why our nervous system drives EVERYTHING (including repeated partner choice) Why just because it feels good doesn't mean that it's going to be good Why your inner child isn't able to see right from wrong (& why your adult has to learn to take the reigns) The power of shadow work and asking - what triggers me the most? The magnet theory - how we pull towards or push against the exact types of experiences we have gone through previously Why Love bombing doesn’t feel like love bombing if it’s the type of love we are desperate for Why Red flags don't feel like red flags if they feel like home Cheating, infidelity & the connection to the inadequacy wound that is never spoken about and How we can find can find a world in our wound (and we need to step outside of it) You cannot make an avoidantly attached partner love you more by loving them more Join me on this fun, fresh episode so you can learn everything to have an INCREDIBLE 2024. ----- ⭐ Want weekly bonus episodes, access to our community room ‘The House’ + access to our ‘Ask A Therapist’ room? Join OPENHOUSE Premium. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now & access our community room ‘The House’ at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Toxic relationships aren’t bad ALL of the time - and that’s part of the problem. Today, Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack talk about how often toxic and abusive relationships can get labeled as ‘passionate’ or ‘rollercoaster’ and can have us walking on eggshells or begging for forgiveness while we wait for the good moments to return. The pair discuss: How most relationships don’t start out as toxic or abusive and, instead, toxicity develops over time when the cracks start to appear. How a toxic person, or someone with toxic traits, may actually be grooming you early on to not have boundaries and to be the powerless party. Why a toxic person will make YOU responsible for their actions or feelings. The most common and frequent signs of toxic and abusive relationships that often get overlooked or brushed under the rug. How your first moments of conflict will show you a lot about the other person. How important it is to set boundaries early in a relationship and understand how the other responds to those boundaries. How a lack of respect from another can lead to self-doubt and lowered self-trust within yourself. The pair also discuss how important it is to NOT accept disrespect in relationships while trying to make space for ‘understanding’ the other person’s wounds and why they act that way. Dr. Tari Mack also helps to explain why we make excuses for other people’s behavior and how, instead, we can talk through how situations make us feel, rather than accusing or losing our sh*t. The pair also discusses how crucial it is to NOT accept disrespect in relationships while attempting to create room for 'understanding' the other person’s wounds and the reasons behind their actions. Dr. Tari Mack also explains why we tend to make excuses for other people’s behavior and suggests that instead, we focus on discussing how situations make us feel, rather than resorting to accusations or losing our composure. ----- ⭐ Want weekly bonus episodes, access to our community room ‘The House’ + access to our ‘Ask A Therapist’ room? Join OPENHOUSE Premium. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now & access our community room ‘The House’ at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Dr. Tari Mack on Instagram: @drtarimack Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you have big emotions or nearly none at all? Do you feel blocked off from others even when you want to connect? Ever wondered why intimacy seems to be so easy for everyone else? If yes, this episode is for you. This one is for the people who had ‘good parents’ and a ‘good childhood’ and objectively ‘not much to complain about’ but still don’t seem to have found the answers, solutions or connections in intimacy that they were hoping for. Today, Louise is joined by Dr. Jonice Webb, leading clinical psychologist in the space of childhood emotional neglect to discuss how a parent’s failure to notice, acknowledge or respond to your emotions and emotional needs can deeply shape the adult that shows up in the dating and friendship world today. The pair discuss how: Our brain registers what ‘happened’ more than what didn’t happen (& how our childhood can impact our ventral striatum) Having our feelings invalidated (being told they are wrong or excessive) or that emotions are a burden is very damaging for children The concept of ‘walling off’ our feelings (so they happen outside of our awareness) + how this shows up in adulthood The concepts of emotional numbness, emotional suppression and emotional disconnection How these experiences can impact our self-worth, self-esteem and relational health A lack of emotional attunement and validation in childhood can lead to a lack of self care in adulthood The pair also discuss a journey towards warmth, connection and recovery. They talk about HOW to break down emotional walls and allow oneself to feel, facing neglected emotions, finding meaning and purpose. ----- ⭐ Want more bonus episodes, Home Truths, Voice Notes from Lu and access to our community area The House? Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM for all of this + exclusive access to our 'Ask A Therapist' room with guaranteed therapist responses. Plus, enjoy all episodes ad-free! Join OPENHOUSE Premium here: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ ⭐ ----- Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast Connect with Dr Jonice Webb: Dr Jonice Webb Resources Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices