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There are some situations when meeting an ex is necessary, and some where it is NOT. Today, in Part 2 of the ‘Ex Factor - when should I meet up with an ex’ series, Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack get into that question. They discuss:

• Collecting and exchanging stuff
• When meeting an ex is an absolute necessity and when it's a big NO
• The Checklist - discussing intentions, expectations, time frames and healing
• How to handle mutual friends, parties and co-parenting
• The importance of setting boundaries and considering the impact on others when meeting with an ex

Plus, to send or not to send? They also discuss the age old ‘writing a letter to an ex’ - should you send it, should you not? Dr. Tari and Louise have slightly different opinions on this one. Join us to work out where you stand on the ‘send it, or don’t send it’ spectrum.

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Do NOT text your ex (or text them back) without listening to this episode! Sometimes you just gotta ask a therapist ‘IS THIS A GOOD IDEA?’ and today, Louise & Dr. Tari Mack discuss exactly that. They delve into the complex topic of meeting up with an ex. So, if you’re considering reaching out or responding to an ex's request to meet? This episode is for you.

The pair get into:

• When is a good time to meet an ex (if ever)
• Analyzing Your Reasons for Wanting to Meet an Ex
• Exploring the various motives behind the desire to meet up with an ex, such as seeking validation, closure, reconciliation, or even revenge
• Time Frame Consideration: discussing the time since your last contact or breakup
• Reflecting on whether meeting will help or hurt your healing journey.
• The importance of expectation, intention and communication

The pair also ask - what are your truthful expectations out of meeting up with your Ex? Louise shares her own personal journey and story of recently re-connecting with her ex of 2.5 years ago and contributes her real life, lived experience, to this juicy, juicy discussion.

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Ever been made to feel embarrassed if you haven't 'settled down' or found the 'perfect love story'? Are you chasing butterflies when you still want safety, adoration and companionship too? Today, Louise is joined by the fabulous Emma Wilson (also known as the Turning 30 coach) as they get into a girl talk episode discussing how kicking off a relationship in your 30s (and beyond) could be the secret sauce to building a lifelong connection. Think communication, trust, openness, vulnerability, mutual compatibility, sparks flying, and perfect alignment – all the good stuff you might have totally missed when you hadn't yet 'done the work'.

In today’s GIRL TALK episode the pair discuss:

• The benefits of falling in love later in life
• Attraction to different types of partners as we change and develop
• The concept of the ‘dating audit’
• Shiny object theory - how to move away from unavailable partners
• Falling in love with friends / people already in your life
• Deciding to fall in love / the concepts of safety and stability
• The pressure of anxiety of having to know you’ve ‘found your forever person’

And more.

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Are you tired, lethargic, exhausted and depressed, or is your nervous system really saying *no*? Did you know your nervous system can shut down when it comes into contact with ‘too much, too fast, or too soon’ or ‘too little, for not long enough’?

This week, join Louise as she asks Sarah Murphy, biology of trauma and nervous system expert - what is *really* going on when the body says no? Louise and Sarah discuss:

• What is freeze mode
• How it’s connected to fight or flight but isn’t the same
• An overview of polyvagal theory (and where freeze mode fits into this)
• Signs / symptoms of freeze mode
• Causes of freeze mode (including trauma response, learned habits, childhood attachment, learned helpless, emotional invalidation, silence, stress and overwhelm)
• If it's possible to cycle between freeze and flight or flight
• The biological drain of freeze mode

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We all know an alpha male (and have been hurt by one too!), but have you ever wondered why this dynamic occurs, how it develops, and how it shows up in life, love, & relationships? Today, Louise chats with Zack Alexander, a practitioner who skillfully blends psychology, somatics, and spirituality, about the concepts of the healthy male, the alpha male, and the 'scared little boy,' and most of all - how to navigate these situations.

Louise & Zack discuss:

• Male sexual promiscuity
• The concepts of avoidance and running from feeling
• The ancestral drivers of suppression of help-seeking behavior
• Why (in hetero relationships) women want their men to be more emotional, until it happens
• The fine line between ‘being emotional’ and ‘trauma dumping’

The pair also discuss ways to support the alpha males in our lives by fostering an environment that encourages emotional expression, vulnerability, and genuine connection. We ask - do men need to heal with men? In relationships? Or in community? And Zack tells us all.

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⠀ Connect with Zack on Instagram: @iamzackalexander
⠀ Work with Zack: HERE

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Are you confused by 100s of TikTok influencers telling you what they do to start your day and live your best life? Ever wondered if you knew what the ACTUAL truth is of all of the information we are hit with about how to start your day?

Today, we're diving into the science-backed morning routines with neuroscientist, Emily McDonald. She shares her top tips and tricks for mornings and nights that will make you a happier, healthier, and more energized individual. Say goodbye to trial and error and hello to science-based strategies for a better wake up call.

Louise and Emily discuss:

• The vital connection between morning sunlight, serotonin, and anxiety.
• How incorporating meditation and exercise in the morning can set the tone for a successful day (and whether it needs to be in the morning).
• The benefits of starting your day with a challenging task instead of reaching for your phone or coffee.
• Whether coffee is ok to be incorporated into the morning routine?
• Why Emily is so into frequency music
• The impact of bedtime activities and nightly routines on the next day's success; and more.

Sleep Frequency Music: here
Focus Frequency Musics: linked here
Focus Coffee - linked here (Discount code: emonthebrain10)
B vitamin complex: here (Discount code: emonthebrain)
Sleep Chronotype Quiz: HERE
Exposure to traffic noise linked to higher dementia risk: here
Does white noise actually work? here

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This episode has EVERYTHING no one ever tells you about why heartbreak can hit you SO DAMN HARD. Remember Episode 7 that went viral? It was the Ultimate Guide To Healing From Heartbreak that our host Louise Rumball recorded when she was deep in the depths of darkness post-breakup. Well, guess what? 2.5 years later, she’s BACK with a Pt. 2!

After 2.5 years of healing and reflection, Louise has some powerful insights to share. Here's the truth: if a breakup completely shattered you, it’s because there are emotional wounds lurking below the surface that your friends who seem to get over breakups much quicker than you, might not have.

In this episode, Louise delves into the Abandonment Wound & The Defectiveness Wound, and shares everything she has learned in her extensive healing journey. She also opens up about reconnecting with her ex and what she learned from that experience of meeting with him. The revelation? There are always three sides to every story—theirs, yours, and the truth.

This is a full circle moment that she is sharing to let you know that things get better, things get brighter and that sometimes, the people that hurt us the most are showing us the deepest wounds that we didn’t know existed.

If you're on a journey of healing from heartbreak, this episode is an absolute must-listen. It's packed with valuable insights and lessons that will help you find strength and understanding in your own heartbreak journey. 💔🎧✨

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Louise is back with another solo episode! She tells you that she has been flirting with depression and she shares with you what she has learned about the ‘freeze mode’ of our nervous system as well as sharing the 4 things she has learnt that help to bring her out of states of low mood and back into a state of being more happy and balanced. She also shares:

• Her recent life in Tulum 
• Losing excitement and joy from things that used to spark joy 
• Why none of us are perfect barbie
• The 80% analogy to help you be kinder to yourself
• Her plans to travel back to Europe; and more.

Tune in now for a raw, real, insightful and entertaining journey that will leave you reflecting on your own life too.

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Move over Justin Bieber and Russell Brand because today we're diving into a world that often remains hidden from the limelight—the world of sex addiction. But forget the celebrities; instead, we have a remarkable guest on our podcast, the beautiful, strong and courageous Nicole Moore-Joseph, who fearlessly opens up about her candid battle with fantasy sex addiction and the extraordinary journey it has led her on.

As Nicole shares her story, she takes us on a captivating ride through her healing process—a journey that confronts the darkest corners of her life. Now, armed with a better understanding of her childhood and the wounds that shaped her, Nicole courageously strides towards the light, illuminating a path of hope for others grappling with their own addictions.

In today’s episode, Louise asks Nicole to share more about: 

• Fantasy sex addiction & what it actually is
• The fascinating connection to the Father Wound & Psychological Vulnerability, as well as Nervous System Dysregulation
• The similarities between sex addiction and other types of addiction
• How Sex Addiction Can Emerge as a Response to Pain
• Nicole's Personal Journey with ADHD and Trauma
• The Power of Commune and Finding Faith and Connection in God for healing

In this beautiful, open hearted episode, Nicole graciously shares her story and brings light into the darkness of addiction. 

Note: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual abuse and childhood trauma. Listener discretion is advised.

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Connect with Louise Rumball and Nicole Moore Joseph:

• Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
• Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__
• Nicole on Instagram: @iamnicolemoorejoseph

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How much sex drive is too much of a sex drive? Do we use orgasms as a release from day to day life? Can you have a problem with too many orgasms? What if your partner whats to have sex and you don’t?

Today, we ask you - have you ever stopped to ask WHY you or your partner wants or needs to orgasm, or orgasm so much? It’s a fascinating, often undiscussed question.

In the episode, Louise Rumball and Dr. Massimo Fontana, therapist and sexologist, dive into various aspects of high sex drive the WHY behind your orgasms. They look at:

• The dopamine hit of orgasm and the allure of orgasmic escape
• Orgasms as coping mechanisms, distractions, connections, and self-soothing techniques
• Difference in libidos and the root cause of high and low libidos 
• How painkillers and mouthwash might make orgasming harder
• Justin Bieber's sex addiction 
• The concept of ‘penetration’ and using penetration for validation

Louise also brings Dr. Massimo a question from the community area, The House. They discuss a couple who feel that their sexual intimacy has been limited recently after one of them contracted an STI and they can’t be intimate. The pair delve into *why* that partner are struggling and whether sex can ever be *too* integral for a relationship? 

⭐ THE  PLEASURE PLAYBOOK -  ⭐ the ultimate guide to understanding and revolutionising your sex life with Dr. Massimo Fontana & Louise Rumball: purchase here: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/therapy-shop/p/0m17z75cf69di5c3nc90vki0zlkjeq 

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Additional recommended listening:

70 - Sex happens in our bodies, so why do we get so damn stuck in our heads?
66 - If casual sex traumatizes the f**k out of you, you are not alone - but why?

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Connect with Dr Massimo Fontana: @massimo.stochi.fontana
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