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Laddad för steg 2? 

Att lära dig att älska dig själv. 

Här bjuder vi på våra egna reflektioner samt vad Hendricks förespråkar.

Länktips: Mer om Consious Loving och paret Hendricks 

Foto: Lara Delorean 

I denna episod dyker vi in lite mer på djupet och pratar om hur vi förhåller oss i tanke och handling till de sex stycken åtaganden från episod 2. Och hur vi har det med vårt relationslöfte. 

Dela din reflektion kring ert relationslöfte på dina sociala medier. Tagga gärna oss @thelove_rs Foto: Lara Delorean 

Det allra första steget handlar om ENGAGEMANG. Att gemensamt skapa ett slags relationslöfte. I detta löfte, ja  nästan kontrakt, finns sex stycken åtaganden. Är du redo att förbinda dig till samtliga dessa? 

Dela gärna din reflektion kring detta avsnitt på dina sociala medier. Tagga oss @thelove_rs

Vår sjunde säsong är inspirerad av Gay & Kathy Hendricks bok ”Conscious Loving” som vi valt att benämna ”Att älska medvetet”. I episod ett berättar vi om samtliga sju (7) steg som leder dig till en större möjlighet att just älska mer medvetet i din romantiska relation. Dela gärna denna episod, eller varför inte hela säsongen, med någon du gillar. Kommentarer och annat älskar vi så var inte blyg - visa oss och världen din uppskattning! Foto: Lara Delorean 

Länktips: Mer om Consious Loving och paret Hendricks  

What if your hall pass turns up unexpectedly? Will you act on it or not? In the last episode of the season we talk about which fantasies are the ones who easiest turns into desires and actually turn into an experience.  Is there a difference between men and women? 

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Am I not normal if I don´t fantasize about sex?

Yes, you are normal, and we would also like to clarify and shed some light into this area. Maybe you are also one the the people who say that you do not dream? We believe we all have thoughts that arouse us. And yes, that is a sex fantasy according to us. 

Layers upon layers, as Shrek says. It is the same thing with your fantasies. 

Dive into some more research with us and let us give you a broader perspective on sex fantasies. 

One of the most common sex fantasies is a fantasy of more than two people involved in the sex act. Many are the ones who fantasizes of a threesome. 

We dive deep into the threesome and the importance of understanding that there are so many different versions of a threesome. If you are up for it try to see similarities and differences in the fantasies both of you have when it comes to the threesome.  Rest assured that the details will differ. As will probably who will be the centre of attention. 

This episode comes from a question posted to us.  Sharing secret sex fantasies can be scary. You might be afraid that your partner´s response to you will be "Are you mad?" when you share a fantasy with them.  But what is their response will be something else? We share tips on WHEN and HOW to bring up this sharing of fantasies. 

Q: What is your advice when your spoken fantasies make your partner decide that there is something terribly wrong with you? It is a gamble, but I agree that it is probably valuable. A: Thanks! Relationships are all about risk and growth. The scenario you describe is a possible risk. The reverse might be that you both share a fantasy or desire but none of you dare bring it up. So you miss a great opportunity of improved sex. If your partner shoots you down there is plenty of work that can be done around that too. That you are talking about sex is in itself is very healthy for you both.

How sharing a sex fantasy with your partner actually can be a gift from you to them. Also how it later on can be a gift back to you. 

A few steps along the way to make sure the sharing remains a gift and doesn´t turn into poison.  Listen and learn.