Raising Mothers of Teens

We all have deeply rooted beliefs! From 0-7 years of age is typically when our core beliefs were created and influenced by culture, religion, parental upbringing, relationships, environment ect. We carry these beliefs with us throughout our whole life, they become the lenses in which we view the world and relationships.

When we have children all to often these deeply rooted beliefs unconsciously get projected onto our children.  

Come hang out with me as I share how you can become aware of your judgements, deconsctruct how they got there, shed them and heal so both you and your child can live in a judgement free zone!

This episode is #2 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody!

By observing the child in front of you the parent/caregiver creates an envrionment for the childs confidence to grow by sending the message to the child that they are loved as is and there is nothing to fix.  The parent/caregiver recognizes their own projections, perceptions, desires and dreams and is conscious to not place these onto the child.  Instead the parent/caregiver celebrates the child in front of them for all that they are and guides them according to the childs true authentic self.

Come hang out with me as we do a deep dive on how you can begin to remove the lenses and be able to observe the child in front of you.

Hey sis!  This episode is #1 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody!  

To create a safe environment for our child's cofidence to grow, the parent/caregiver must meet three needs.  These three needs are:

+ To be seen

+ To know they are worthy

+ To know they matter

Come hang out with me as we do a deep dive into how we can meet each of these needs, resulting in the creation of a safe environment.

Hey sis!  This episode is #1 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody!  

To create a safe environment for our child's cofidence to grow, the parent/caregiver must meet three needs.  These three needs are:

+ To be seen

+ To know they are worthy

+ To know they matter

Come hang out with me as we do a deep dive into how we can meet each of these needs, resulting in the creation of a safe environment.

Driving in the car with your kids can be an environment that allows for some of the most beautiful conversations!  The other day my sweet daughter asked some beautiful questions on our drive to cheer which led to an amazing conversation.  

The conversation was so powerful that I just have to share with you the three things that came up for me.  As parents if we can do these three things consistently with neutral energy we will have a hand in healing this world that currently has so much division and instead create connection. 

Do you have a todo list that never seems to end?  Are you constantly on the go?  Do the words SLOW DOWN make you anxious?  Life can naturally be busy and it takes mindfulness and intention to slow down and be still.  If we don't, life will pass us by and we won’t be able to experience the deep connection with ourselves and others that human beings need to thrive.

Here’s the deal when we jam pack our days and are busy going from one thing to the next or tirelessly trying to cross everything off our todo list we miss the beauty that is found in stillness, that is found in the present moment.  When we slow down we create space to observe the child in front of us and really get to know them.  When we slow down we look at our kids with adoration, love and curiosity.

Slow down for what?  Slow down to experience all the joy this life offers.

Most of us unless we are somewhat conscious go through our days unconscious.  Meaning we go from one thing to another with no real thought.  It’s almost as if we are robots moving mindlessly through our days unaware of how we are feeling inside,  unaware of our environment and its effects on us and unaware of what is causing us to emotionally react.

The road to consciousness is a journey.  When we start to become more and more aware of what is happening within us and around us it is normal to feel well overwhelmed with the thought of all the things we quote on quote need to work on or change.

Two words sis DEEP BREATHE.  One thing at a time.  Just like an athlete in training create a plan and focus on one thing at a time.

Come hang out with me and I will show you how you can take change and growth step by step creating healthy habits and patterns that will stick all while giving yourself grace in the process.

We are more comfortable being uncomfortable than we are with taking the appropriate steps to make changes to experience true joy, true happiness, liberation and freedom.  It’s almost as if we are allergic to change.

Come hang out with me sis and I will share with you tools you can use to effectively make the changes needed in your life that will create an environment for the life and relationships you desire!

I was watching a leadership conference and one of the speakers said something that really spoke to my soul.  She said, "You can shape the world to your desires."  I mean how empowering is that?  

It got me to thinking, we can also shape our family to our desires!  How?  Listen in and I will share with ya sista!

Two words “teen years!”  For some of you these words may bring up feelings of stress and anxiety because you have heard how difficult the teen years can be.  Maybe you are in the thick of the “teen years” feeling disconnected as if you and your child are living on different planets.  The words “teen years” may bring up sadness because you feel like you are loosing your baby.  You may find yourself dreaming of the days when your child was little and looked at you with adoring eyes never wanting to leave your side.  I get it!

There comes a time where when our kids become pre teens and teens who start wanting their own space and independence.  All to often as parents we take that change so personal, as if it was a direct reflection of how our kids feel about us.  

Here is the deal the teen years don’t have to be difficult, in fact it can be an absolutely beautiful season providing you with an opportunity to grow personally, create a deeper connection with your child and build healthy communication.  

Come hang out with me and I will share with you how spending intentional time building deep connection and strong communication will allow you and your teen to sail through the adolescent years and have a solid relationship.  

Book Resource:

Brainstorm The Power and Purpose of The Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel, MD