Calmversations with Yvette

This meditation is for those who find meditation to be very challenging. Sit with me for 5 minutes, I’ll let you into my mind. Yes - I’ll say exactly what I’m thinking in this morning’s meditation. And if you have a lot of thoughts, like, me, you’ll enjoy this one.

A concentration exercise focusing on the breath in preparation for meditation. 8 minutes. #focus #concentration #meditationpractice #audiomeditation Copyright © Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com

A concentration exercise to still the body in preparation for meditation. 5 minutes. #focus #concentration #meditationpractice #audiomeditation Copyright © Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com

Brain Development Setting Boundaries Boys & Sports, Athleticism, “Masculinity” How we socialize boys, how we can teach them to understand and articulate their feelings; understanding that feelings have jobs to do How to cultivate Vulnerability & Authenticity Tips on raising the teenage boy (also true for toddlers and young children): - Don’t take things personally - Avoid power struggles - Listen to understand/ Listen before you speak “He’s Not Lazy” by Dr. Adam Price https://www.amazon.com/Hes-Not-Lazy-Empowering-Believe/dp/1454916877 “The Unmotivated Teen” by Dr. Adam Price https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-unmotivated-teen Calmversations with Yvette by Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com © 2019

Practice the 4-7-8 breathing technique to calm the nervous system when you sense you’re lost in your thoughts, about to have a meltdown, or are having trouble falling asleep.

Dr. Stephanie Samar from the Child Mind Institute gives us tools to help our kids manage big emotions: - Model your awareness & ways you cope with stress - share your emotional vocabulary and your struggle - demonstrate problem solving Exercises to help us all keep calm: - Take deep breaths; get oxygen to the brain - Teach belly breathing to young children - 4-7-8 breathing technique - share your coping skills, give your child positive affirmations - Take a Break!! Rest - Eat well rounded meals Can being bored be a good thing? Benefits to boredom: increase imagination, problem-solving skills, and creativity (if you can tolerate a little whining) What to do if your child opts out of activities consistently Helping teens to understand themselves, their bodies, and their identity. Acceptance vs. Expectations as parents How to build distress tolerance and grit For parents - develop radical acceptance and adjust expectations, create support system at school, and work with smaller achievable goals Child Mind Institute https://childmind.org Calmversations with Yvette by Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com (c) 2019

Defining masculinity - and you might be surprised by what you hear. How healthy competition can drive us. How the athlete mentality can help us through parenting. It’s like training for a marathon. Setting boundaries to protect kids from toxic environments. Letting kids being well rounded & encouraging their passion. Does bringing your kids to a bar and allowing them to see you as you are create a positive perspective of reality (and not shelter)? Does it teach them maturity and that they can be in control of their decisions in more mature situations. Does accepting yourself for who you are allow your kids to accept themselves for who they are as multi-dimensional? How to be in alignment in your North Star. Follow Shaun Jenkins @theSRJ on IG and work out with him at Tonehouse in NYC. Calmversations with Yvette by Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com (c) 2019

Parenting is a juggling act. And THE JUGGLE IS REAL. We want to do ALL THE THINGS. How can we better manage our time? Develop the art of selective perfectionism. Break the cycle and mentality of “all or nothing perfectionism”. Resist the lore of technology. Be. Here. Now. Multitask anyone? How to find balance by making mindful transitions. How to deliver small bursts of time and attention to many different people and things. How to avoid carrying stress from work into the home and vice versa. Learn to build a village and delegate! Play a game to split up chores within the family (kids included). Can family can exist beyond the four walls of your home? How can we do our PART in dividing our time to Provide Arrange Relate and Teach our kids? The “divide and conquer” vs. collaboration mentality - what works in the office does not necessarily work at home. And what can we you do be our best SELF and create a life we love? Sleep Exercise Love Fun For more, check out Julie Morgenstern https://www.juliemorgenstern.com/time-to-parent Buy her book, Time to Parent https://www.amazon.com/ideas/amzn1.account.AFCUYMNBS2DKIUIXAHT42BW6DP5Q/19PUM1PALH8M8 Calmversations with Yvette by Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com (c) 2019

Want your kids to listen? 3 steps to help us keep calm, connected, and available 1/ acknowledge child’s feelings 2/ give information or offer a choice 3/ set limits Tips for parents to keep calm in the moment 1/ share family values and model the behavior expected 2/ apologize when you lose your zen 3/ acknowledge child’s feelings Contact: Rev. Susan Nason www.theparentwhispererny.com Calmversations with Yvette by Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com (c) 2019

Calmversations with Yvette. Parenting is a unique journey and I believe that through our shared wisdom we can find a sense of calm, connection, and community. We all have a story to tell and I want to hear yours. Calmversations with Yvette by Yvette Jain www.yvettejain.com (c) 2019