Rise and Thrive Show

In this new episode, Mary Hayes Grieco gives a brief review of her 8-steps to freedom. The guided exercise begins at TC: 17:00. Pause and re-start the recording as needed. You got this! Learn more about Mary's method on her website at: www.forgivenesstraining.com Or read Mary's book: Unconditional Forgiveness: A Simple and Proven Method to Forgive Everyone and Everything, by Mary Hayes Grieco.  

Mary and Erin discuss how forgiveness is refreshing and healing, and by doing it, you can feel better and brighter, by accessing Spirit’s healing energy. Mary explains how in steps 6, 7, and 8 of her forgiveness method, you can experience a spiritual cleansing, a reset in your life, that brings peace and feels terrific. We are revisiting this critical conversation to bring Mary's forgiveness method home!

Step Five is a key ingredient of Mary’s recipe for healing. In this episode, Mary and Erin go deep on what it means to “open up to life again” and how to do it.  Mary explains how this turning point helps us connect with the goodness of life. And she explains how to draw on your higher power to get the healing you need. This revisited conversation is packed with insights and wisdom.

Mary and Erin revisit this conversation, where they reveal the liberating act of setting boundaries in our lives. Drawing lines between what is ours and what isn’t. What we will and will not do. What we will and will not allow to happen to us. How we do and don’t want to use our time and energy. Mary walks you through defining boundaries that reflect your values and intentions and help you restore calm and sanity to your life.

We naturally expect people in our life to be good, smart, and do the right thing. We rightly fuss and fume when they do bad and stupid things that hurt and disappoint us. We wish they could and should be different than they are, but we can’t control that. Mary and Erin reveal how to stop tormenting yourself about the disappointing things people do, and how to get over our hurt feelings. (Revisited Conversation).

Getting out the bad memories, negative emotions, and crappy feelings that have been haunting you, is the beginning of the healing process. Honoring and expressing your true feelings passionately and out loud, is key to your emotional healing process. Don’t be afraid to have the messy cry! Or to yell your head off. Empty your heart of the stored-up emotion.  Mary and Erin will show you how to do the releasing that refreshes, cleans you out, and helps you to heal. (Revisited conversation).

So you’ve decided it’s finally time to ditch the anger, resentment, disappointment, and sadness from a bad experience with someone or something. You want to be done with the pain once and for all. We revisit this conversation, where Mary and Erin help you define the change you want and help you make the strong commitment that’s absolutely necessary to do the work that will make that change happen, for real.

If you intend to heal a big wound from a bad experience and find relief from the pain of it, you will be making a significant change in your life.  Are you ready for a change? Change isn’t easy for most of us. Fear can hold us back from making changes, even those we know are good for us. Mary and Erin provide the encouragement and the practical stuff you’ll need to do in order to get ready to make the change.  It’s worth it! You will restore your sense of peace and joy – no matter how difficult a task that seems to be before you get started. Join us, as we revisit this conversation. You will get there!

We revisit this conversation where Mary introduces her awesome recipe for getting through and getting over the inevitable losses, disappointments, and mistakes we all experience, and for peacefully coexisting with annoying and difficult people. Mary’s “Eight Steps to Freedom” is an indispensable tool and life skill for restoring a sense of peace and joy whenever you feel angry, resentful, disappointed, and hurt by situations and people in life, including yourself. Episode Highlights, Ideas And Wisdom There’s a process that always heals the pain from tough times and dealing with difficult and disappointing people. It’s more specific and quicker than “Time heals all.” Peace and joy is found in letting go of unrealistic expectations that cause hurt and repeated disappointments. You don’t have the power to make other people change their ways. You do have the power to adjust your expectations of them. You can count on having disappointing life experiences. You can expect that life is going to change. People are going to let you down. People are going to die. People are going to get sick. You are going to lose a job. Life is hard at times. You need to know how to process the hurt from these difficulties right out of your system and recognize the valuable golden nugget of wisdom that you can learn from these experiences. Mary’s definition of forgiveness: “The refreshing experience of releasing an expectation that is causing you to suffer.” Forgiveness is an absolutely necessary life skill. We should be learning it in junior high. It’s the way we heal the pain of disappointing life experiences. It’s really hard to get over things by just saying to yourself “get over it!” Step One: State your will to make a change. Make a decision to make a choice to let go of a disappointing situation or person and move on and open up to life again. This decision can be hard and take time, particularly if you feel that you were truly wronged. Step Two: Express your feelings exactly as they are inside you. Vent. Let out your tears and your rage. Yell. Complain. Curse. Judge. Let out your true feelings about the situation or person that’s causing the hurt. This stuff needs to come out. It’s keeping you from being able to move on. Good healthy anger is kind of like a fiery quick moment that comes through and then it’s gone. If you keep anger inside, roiling and revving, it hurts you. It makes you sick. It makes you ill. It’s meant to come out of you. Step Three: Release expectations from your mind, one by one. Unhook the unrealistic expectations that have been glued into your brain by the fixed emotions that you let out in step two. Expectations are good. They’re based on your values and your hopes. Sometimes we have to let them go because a certain person is incapable of being decent or honest or responsible in the way you expect them to be. Or, what you hoped would happen in a certain situation turns out to be unrealistic and doesn’t happen. Step Four: Restore your boundaries. You have your own personal space and values. You can’t be responsible for the bad actions of people around you. In this step, you set these people outside your personal space and give them full responsibility for their bad behavior and the problems it causes. You stop carrying around these burdens because they aren’t yours. You’re only responsible for your own integrity. Step Five: Open up to God to get your needs met in a different way. Imagine being completely unattached from the person or situation you’re forgiving, no longer looking to him or her or the situation to satisfy your needs. You are now turning to a spiritual source for peace and joy saying, I’m giving myself into your hands. I trust you to give me my needs met and to lead me forward in a new way. Step Six: Receive God’s healing energy into your personality. Imagine a source of healing light and love above your head. Visualize opening up the crown of your head like a big skyli...

Can you move forward yet, post-pandemic? How do we deal with the changes, uncertainty, and psychological rubble and debris that is still in us and around us? Mary and Erin take the long view today and discuss the gifts of a pandemic in human evolution, the current rise of people willing to view what's good, and the perennial tonic of forgiveness to heal our disappointments.