Bound by Love: Trauma Bonding and BPD

No one wants a situationship… no one wants to not have a man but have a man but not have a man.

What I should have seen … hindsight

Things I’ve learned from wounded me

Healing journey from heartbreak

Situationships are worse than any relationship..

Sharing traumatic details about yourself or childhood early on in a relationship can lead to feeling more connected than you actually are.

Heartbreaks that are underrated because they are full of “what could have been” moments.

So you are in the process of manifesting your dreams....but you are playing the waiting game.  Maybe like my previous post said, you are having some road block or challenging issues, or maybe the timing of your manifestations aren't quite there yet. Regardless...you are waiting.

The worst thing you can do is start having negative thoughts about either your dreams or the process of manifesting them.  Any spiritual healer- power of attraction guru will tell you that what you think becomes reality.  Therefore, it is imperative that you stay positive and focused.  Even though it can be difficult, when we really want our visions to happen immediately.

So let me help you thrive while you wait!

Find something that you need to work on.  Maybe, once you have your vision, you will need a new skill or personal attribute.  For instance, if you are wanting to attain a career in technology, you might want to take a few computer classes.  If you are trying get a new promotion at work that will require you to make sales calls but a weakness is that you are shy, work on talking to others.  You get the point, right?  Find something that you need to hone in on, and focus your energy making it happen.

Another thing that might need to be worked on is yourself, personally.  Maybe something has been weighing on your heart/soul (whatever you choose to call it), the higher power has been speaking to you on a certain issue, focus on working through personal needs.

Basically focus on anything that you find as a positive step in the direction of your dreams...something that can only help you in the long run.  That is what this time of waiting is for.  It is not to doubt the process of the subconscious,  it is not to doubt yourself, and it is definitely not a time to doubt your dream life.  This waiting is simply to get you more prepared for that manifestation.

You will be very glad you did.

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When it seems like you have been doing everything right: visualizing, meditating, frequency, vibration…

But now there is a conflict- a road block- a challenge.

From first hand experience, I can feed this problem. My dreams- visions- manifesting intent were going towards moving to a new state and enjoying a new adventure. When it came to my attention that no one else but me, wanted that vision.

It was disheartening to say the least.

So what happens when that happens? You have some choices, but more than that you have some soul searching to do. Perhaps alignment, or adjusting to do.

Maybe you are not in a serious relationship, so you feel that it’s time to part ways, noticing that you are on different paths. Maybe you were unhappy and this road block was the last straw in realizing you needed to move on.  But if you are in the category of a committed family with children, you might feel similar to me.

My path at the moment is to see this road block/ challenge as a quiet moment in time. Think about why this is so important to me and why it is so important to my family for the opposing view. How can I make a similar vision - that compromises with everyone and still completes my path? What was I really in search of.. versus what can I do to find that happiness where I am right now.  How do I cope with feeling stuck and claustrophobia that comes with that?

These are things we must meditate on to move forward.  Perhaps keep the vision on your manifesting, but also look at the bigger picture of everyone’s needs around you.

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Why are you not manifesting? The simple answer is because you haven’t fully made up your mind.

Have you ever left a bad relationship, you finally had enough and left? This is similar to the mindset of manifesting.

Prior to leaving- you probably gave that person chance after chance to respect or love you correctly. You might have had fear of living alone or even not being in a relationship (sometimes we feel like we have to have someone). Regardless, you stayed and tried to make it work.

Eventually, you saw that he/she wasn’t going to change and that you had enough. **This is where you must get in your manifesting.  That moment when you say no matter what they say or how much they beg me back, I am done.

When you finally know what you want in life- you make it happen. Period. When that final straw comes- and you know you can’t turn back- that is when manifesting happens. Until then, like the relationship, you are still giving fear chance after chance.

But, when your mind shifts and you know this (whatever this is for you) is the only thing you want…doors will open and the path will be available to you.

It won’t be overnight- when you left the relationship- everything didn’t fall into place immediately, right?  But you started seeing the things in your life you needed to accomplish to get it done.

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