The Decoding Couples Podcast: Unfiltered Relationship Advice & Marriage Tips

Buckle up! This episode dives deeper than the typical cheating/infidelity discussions you've heard before. While we agree cheating is an incredibly heartbreaking experience for the betrayed to go through and is a choice that has huge life changing implications...we wanted to have a deeper conversation about the motivation behind why people do it. In this episode, Rachel and Stacey are joined by therapist Mac Stanley Cazeau LMHC to explore why people cheat. Rachel, Stacey They discuss how to define what counts as cheating, emotional affairs and the idea of limerence. Mac and Stacey are on the hot seat for DC in the DMs where they rapid fire answer “cheating” or “not cheating” for different community experiences.

Want to hear more from Mac? Check out Mac Stanley Cazeau on Instagram www.instagram.com/talk2mac as well as his podcast Menage A Mind www.instagram.com/menageamind

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Rachel and Stacey start off by admitting what gets them defensive. They also talk about how it shows up & impacts their relationships. They review how defensiveness gets created, the purpose defensiveness serves and tips on how to work through defensiveness and talk about it with your partner. DC in the DMs puts Rachel on the hotseat answering how she would respond to different situations where defensiveness is at play.

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This episode covers the impacts no one talks about when it comes to kids + relationships. Rachel and Stacey talk about how their marriages changed after kids, why relational satisfaction takes such a hit, and the positive changes that can come from parenthood.

DC in the DMS puts Rachel on the spot responding to community experiences about changes in relationships after kids. You do NOT want to miss her hot takes and direct advice in this segment.

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This episode is part 1 covering how your family of origin impacts adult relationships.  Rachel and Stacey talk about the common sentiment “I’ll never date someone who is like my dad/mom/caregiver” and why it is really likely that you WILL date someone who was like your parent. Rachel and Stacey talk about how they have dated partner’s like their parents and what that looked like for them. This episode dives into the unconscious and conscious process of repeating relationship patterns and dynamics that you experienced growing up, why it happens, what warning signs to look for that isn’t happening and what you can be aware of in yourself to have a corrective experience with your partner.

For this  week’s DC in the DMs, Stacey is in the hot seat responding to the question “what happens in your family that your partner(s) think is weird/odd but you think is completely normal”. You don’t want to miss this one as Rachel learns some new, hilarious facts about Stacey and her family!

Ready to start having conversations to make small changes with big impact on your relationship? Find: Love Unlocked a relational card deck by Mac Stanley Cazeau here: www.therapyisforeveryone.org and use code: DC2023 for 15% off

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In this episode, Rachel and Stacey break down the "unsexy" parts of sex...to make them feel sexy again! Rachel and Stacey start by discussing what younger versions of themselves used to find attractive and sexy and how it has changed through age and different phases of life. They then dive into topics such as when partners have different libidos, crying during/after sex, what to do when you or your partner want to try new things in the bedroom but the other doesn't, body image and so much more. In this episode, Rachel is taking on DC in the DMs, where the DC community wrote about their "unsexy" experiences with their partners for our tips and feedback. 

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This episode tackles all things couples therapy! Rachel & Stacey explore why couples therapy gets such a bad rap and what typically lands couples in therapy. They share their experiences in couples (including what went wrong!) and when individual therapy is more appropriate than couples therapy. 

This weeks DC in the DMs is a little different: Stacey & Rachel were flooded with couples therapy horror stories from their Instagram community, so they set the record straight on exactly what to expect and NOT expect in couples therapy. 

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Rachel and Stacey dive into the magical world of rom-coms, Disney movies and how that has set them up for relationship failure. From relationship expectations to sex and intimacy, Rachel and Stacey discuss different ways the make-believe of movies and tv shows have impacted their romantic relationships and how they show up with their partners. They answer DC community questions on adjusting to “real life” relationships and how to make sense of what real love looks like outside Lifetime movies.Rachel is in the hot seat for this episode's DC in the DMs where she gives her take on what relationship expectations are realistic or “Disney”.

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Rachel and Stacey share their experiences of how the lines blur between their professional roles as couples therapists and regular ol’ people when it comes to relationships and mental health struggles. Rachel discusses how being a professional “soul walker” in private practice impacts her marriage. Stacey shares her struggles with depression and anxiety as well as her experience sharing her medication journey with the Decoding Couples community on Instagram. This week Stacey is in the hot seat for DC in the DM’s where she's asked about relationship experiences that potentially “blur the lines” between kosher and break up worthy behavior.

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The article referencing medication stat https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db419.htm

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Meet Rachel & Stacey, two couples therapists whose straightforward take on relationships makes you wish you’d been listening since your first breakup. Tune in each week as they combine their expertise with tales of their own relationships to give you relatable insights, and practical tips and keep you laughing along the way.