The Decoding Couples Podcast: Unfiltered Relationship Advice & Marriage Tips

Does your partner have ADHD? Is your relationship impacted by ADHD? Do you struggle with how to support your partner? Lorena Aynalem, LCSW joins Rachel & Stacey from Decoding Couples to unpack the big and small ways neurodivergence, specifically ADHD, impacts everyone in the relationship and how to move forward and continue to thrive in the partnership.

Learn more about Lorena Aynalem here: https://lorena.aynalem.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lorenaaynalem/

Produced by: Joey "Q" Quenga

Mixed by: JTB Studios

Have you ever thought this about your relationship or marriage:  “Our highs are so high, but the lows are so low” 

Have you ever wondered why you can’t get out of an unhealthy or toxic relationship pattern? 

Then you need to listen to today’s episode about trauma bonding!

Loving You Is Hurting Me- by Dr Laura Copley’s 

https://lauracopley.com/loving-you-is-hurting-me

In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts- by Gabor Mate

https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9781556438806

IG follow: @nicolesneurosciene

Have you felt your parent was emotionally unavailable? Do you have trust issues with your parent(s)? Did the way your caregiver's raised you still impact you as an adult? If you grew up with emotionally immature parents, there's a good chance your adult relationships or marriage have been impacted! We break it down in this episode and give you relationship tips and advice for how to navigate through this!

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting or Self Involved Parents by Lindsay C Gibson

https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9781626251700

If you have ever wondered: How do you know if you should stay married? How do you know if you should stay in a relationship? How do you know if you should stay with someone? This episode is for you. Rachel's husband Gianni joins the Decoding Couples Podcast for a marriage story unlike you've ever heard before. They unpack how the pandemic, chronic miscommunication, depression, alcohol and trauma derailed their family and almost brought them to divorce. They pull the curtain back on the most painful parts of their marriage and how it ultimately transformed their relationship.

Rachel & Stacey go over what arguing or fighting fairly in a relationship looks like and what it absolutely does NOT look like. They break down how unfair fighting makes conflict worse, negatively impacts relationship dynamics and ways to fight fairly next time you have conflict with a partner!

Produced by: Joey "Q' Quenga & JTB Studios

If you are struggling with an unbalanced mental load in your marriage or relationship...but don't know how to fix it...this episode is for YOU! This episode is full of relationship tips and tools so you can finally get the balanced mental load you and your relationship deserve.

Before The Next Step Online Course (time sensitive discount included)

https://decoding-couples.teachable.com/p/before-the-next-step?coupon_code=PODCAST&product_id=4720123

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski

https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9781984818324

The Set Boundaries Workbook by Nedra Glover Tawaab

https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9780593421482

This is all about navigating the relationship dynamic...do I stay or do I go? We cover what keeps people in relationships or marriage they may want to leave, and what are some of the factors that make people actually leave. Listen in for relationship advice and tips on what to do if you find yourself in this position!

Books recommended in this episode: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9780452275355 When Things Fall Apart by Puma Chodron https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9781611803433

Has pornography been a problem in your relationship? Rachel and Stacey break down the pros and cons of porn in relationships and how to navigate this topic with your partner in a way that increases trust and decreases shame. 

Where to find ethical porn:

• Make Love Not Porn

• Lustery

• JoyBear

• Lightsouthern Cinema

• Pink Label TV

• Sssh.com

• Dipsea (erotic audio/stories) 

• Sunroom 

Remember to take advantage of our FREE Masterclass Stop Fighting Start Talking:

https://www.decodingcouples.com/webinar-registration

This week, Rachel and Stacey are breaking down common relationship phrases that are meant to be helpful to you and your partnership…but need a little explaining out of therapy jargon! Listen in to learn phrases and tools that will ACTUALLY translate into relationship advice!

Remember to take advantage of our FREE Masterclass Stop Fighting Start Talking:

https://www.decodingcouples.com/webinar-registration

E19: How to Repair After A Fight

So you and your partner had a big fight….now what?! This episode is all about repairing after fights. Listen in for communication tips that will help your relationship regain trust, connection and intimacy after big or small arguments. 

Need extra help starting the hard conversations that can lead to repair? Enroll in our FREE masterclass Stop Fighting, Start Talking here: www.decodingcouples.com/webinar-registration