You Are Who You Think You Are
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Own Your Edge
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This is the first episode of the six part series, "Making Headway with Your Inner Dialogue: 6 Ways to Take Charge of Your Inner Critic."
Series.1 : Episode.1
In this episode, Dr. Dee Discusses:
- What is the internal dialogue?
- Getting to know our internal dialogue
- Cognitive distortions to avoid
- How to cultivate a healthy inner dialogue
Key Takeaways:
- Internal dialogue is you hearing your own inner voice - effective communication with that inner voice is crucial to building your identity and how you see the world.
- Mindfulness is all about catching our thoughts which are often slippery and putting them into the center of our awareness. You can assess what you’re thinking by how you’re feeling.
- Once we catch the thought, we can pick it apart and change it for the better and once we change our thoughts, we can ultimately change our lives.
- There are a lot of cognitive distortions - unhealthy thoughts that must be brought into awareness and be changed for your life to change for the better. Some samples of this is black-and-white thinking and personalizing. If you want to know if a thought is a distortion, ask yourself if that thought is helpful or if it bring any positive effect to your inner state.
- Creating your reality as an originator starts with a decision.
“The originator you see yourself being, it’s just a thought away and this is your first step in finding out how to do that. ” - Dr. Dee
Recommended Resources:
“The Work” by Byron Katie
“Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior” by Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg
“Taming Your Gremlin (Revised Edition): A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way” by Richard David Carson
Connect with Dr. Dee:
Website: BlueEggLeadership.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drtrudeau
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- Bandura, A. Self-efficacy mechanism in human agency. Am. Psychol.37, 122–147 (1982).
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- Bandura, A. (2006). Toward a psychology of human agency. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 1, 164–180. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1745-6916.2006.00011.x.
- Haggard, P. Sense of agency in the human brain. Nat Rev Neurosci 18, 196–207 (2017). https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn.2017.14
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