Aligned and Unapologetic

Episode Description Trigger warning: This podcast episode touches on many sensitive topics like addiction and alcoholism. If these are triggering for you, please use caution when listening or skip this episode for now. One cliché goes that no man is an island - no one stands alone. But there's also a thin line that divides caring for someone and being codependent on them. How do you know that your relationship is already the latter?

To answer this question, I talked to someone who stared at it in the face - and thrived.

This episode features Tamala Shaw, a co-dependent survivor now helping others heal from the same situation through her advocacy, codependentme.org. From her experience, she shares the telltale signs that you are in a codependent relationship.

She also talks about what it's like to be in one - how it feels to lose yourself in taking care of someone else, and how to ultimately reclaim your power, learn to set boundaries, and be unapologetically you.

If you're struggling with codependency or think you might be in a codependent relationship, this episode is for you.

Here's what was covered in this episode:

• What is codependency?
• The first - and essential thing - you have to do to start breaking the chains of codependency
• Why boundaries are a weapon for healing and thriving after codependency
• How detachment with love looks like and why it's okay to let people go
• Difference between narcissism and manipulation due to codependency

Learn more about Tamala: https://codependentme.org/

Though sex is a prevalent topic in society, it remains taboo in many social circles. This may be due to the fact that sex is often seen as a private matter, and discussions about it are often considered to be inappropriate in public settings.

Additionally, there is a strong stigma surrounding sex in many cultures, which can make people reluctant to discuss it openly.

However, this reluctance to talk about sex openly can lead to a lack of education about sexual health, practices, and identities, which can ultimately be harmful.

In this sexually charged episode, Yael and I finally address the elephant in the room and touch on topics many don't want to deal with, from breaking away with labels to how to talk about sex to children, how people's experiences and interactions with society affect our perception of sex, and a whole lot more.

Mind you, with my background, this is an uncomfortable discussion - but a necessary one if I hope to contribute into creating a safe, nonjudgmental space not only for others but more so for myself.

So lower down your inhibitions, open up your mind, and be educated about the power of sex and its role in your identity.

Here's what was covered in this episode:

• How to start finding your sexual identity
• Where does shame come from and how to get rid of it?
• How organizations like Kaleidoscope Vibrations help you find your identity without strict labels attached
• What is fluidity?
• How to handle sex talk with kids
• What is sex-positive you?

As social creatures, humans have a deep need and longing to belong whether to a culture, a community, a group, or even just a pair. When we feel like we're part of something larger than ourselves, we're happier and more content. However, we also struggle with fitting in. We all want to be seen as unique individuals, but we also want to feel like we're part of a group. It's a delicate balance, and it's one that we often battle with throughout our lives.

I believe no one else understands this issue more deeply than my guest for this episode, Sue Beauregard. She was not only adopted, but she's also mixed race, and grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood.

Her story is one of both belonging and not belonging, and how she's navigated those waters throughout her life until she found the path where she's free from labels and be authentic and raw.

Sue's story is one that I think we can all relate to on some level, and I'm excited to share it with you. So without further ado, here's my conversation with Sue Beauregard.

Read Full Show Notes Here: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast/the-power-in-the-surrender-using-astrology-in-navigating-life-and-meeting-your-spiritual-support-system-with-sue-beauregard

What is your self-worth? Usually, when I ask this question to others (and even to myself), they talk about their accomplishments, experiences, and values. But are these the real metrics of one’s worth? And if it’s not, what is? Today, I share space with a sister, Jazzy, a mindset coach helping women discover their self-worth. We busted some of the common misconceptions people have about worthiness and authenticity. Then, Jazzy will walk us through powerful techniques to finally claim our identities and stand by them unapologetically.

This episode is filled with plenty of nuggets of wisdom, so choose the ones that resonate with you. But if I can give you a takeaway, it’s this: you are worthy, and there are ways to help you find it out for yourself.

Here's what was covered in this episode:

• How a house ignited Jazzy’s desire and career path to becoming a mindset coach for women
• Answer to the biggest question: what is self-worth?
• The  strong connection between the lack of knowledge of one’s self-worth and the tendency to be abused
• Various powerful techniques in finding your self-worth and becoming your best authentic version
• The value of self-surrender and how a breakdown usually leads to a breakthrough

More details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast/the-path-to-finding-your-self-worth-with-jazzy-sdlich

Why do people suffer from self-limiting beliefs, and why are these critical for women, especially those of color? How can one break the chains brought by ancestral wounds and generational trauma? In this episode, Dulce and I dive right into one of the deepest root causes of poor boundaries, guilt, shame, and difficulty of managing emotions that are so common for people of color. We unapologetically start from the place of ancestral pain and how this impacts who we are today. Ultimately, the goal becomes to make it easier for women to get the help that they need when they need it to start the journey of healing. I am deeply grateful for this opportunity to be raw and candid about my struggles over the past few years living as an immigrant and a person of color. My hope is that this episode will help all women heal from the inside out. The power of our voice and stories matters.

Here's what was covered in this episode:

• The potent impact of ancestral wounds and generational trauma, including how it affects the parenting of future generations
• Three things to let go of to start healing
• How to unlearn and undo traditional mindsets and beliefs passed on through generations
• Differences in the role of coaches, therapists, and other mental practitioners in trauma work
• Why therapy work is a partnership - and a commitment
• The need for emotion neutrality and how a shoebox can teach that
• The reason "cultural competence" is not enough

More Details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast/how-to-find-healing-from-generational-trauma-and-ancestral-wounds-with-dulce-orozco

Hello 2022! Of course, it’s already the beginning of the 2nd quarter when this episode gets to you. But hey! It still feels like a new year! I still sign with 2020 as a date. Talk about being stuck in a realm in time!

In this episode, I shared my heart and my soul and all the learnings from a life-changing year for me in 2021.

Going through Covid and losing my mom was such a milestone in my life to strongly switch my perspective and really hyper-focus on what really matters most in life and who I truly I am and what my purpose is.

I hope this episode will serve you as intended.

Here’s what was covered in this episode:

• Lessons in life after almost dying from covid and the grief of losing my mom
• The power is in the surrender
• Your ancestors are choosing you and that is a gift!

More Details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast

Amy is such an inspiring person who has a very rich story. She is a Jazz musician who also ventures into different music genres. Currently, she is in the business of voice artistry and loves it! She pulled her strength and courage from her family and believed that all things are possible.

We are in so much of how she tells us her life story and how she has blossomed and uses her voice in different ways but always in an expression of her unapologetic self.

Here’s what was covered in this episode:

• Getting back from depression through music
• Auditioning as a voice artist
• Working as a voice talent with flying colors
• Being who you are in social media
• Power of her voice

More Details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast

This episode is such a gift! Hearing Victoria’s survival story has opened the stage for me to share my own sexual abuse experience as well. Victoria’s life story is an entire book of a collection of life lessons that at a very young age, led her to be the amazing coach that she is right now.

This is the most intimate episode I did in my podcast so far. Lean in as we talk about trauma, healing and the power of owning your body back.

Here’s what was covered in this episode:

• Victoria’s survival story through abuse
• Healing Journey
• Suppressing memories as defense mechanism
• What to do during fight, flight, freeze and fawn response
• Working with a coach vs. working with a therapist

More Details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast

Ambel was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Condition but that did not stop her from being a Certified Life Coach, a Counselor and a Healing Artist, if anything, her condition allowed her to help others start their healing journey.

I am so honoured to be given the chance to hear and share her story.

Here’s what was covered in this episode:

• The importance of community
• Amabel’s first memory of colorism
• The beginning of Amabel’s mental health journey
• What Bipoloar 1 condition in Amabel’s definition
• Having a Bipolar 1 condition and how it plays in being in a working environment
• Resources:
• Peer counseling
  NAPS  - National Association of Peer Supporters
  NAMI - National Alliance on Mental Illness
  

More Details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast

This is your Coach Unapologetic apologizing for being MIA for a long time without even saying a peep! I know how off brand this is but part of my unapologetic movement is knowing when to apologize and as relentless you are in being unapologetic, you also want to be relentless in owning when you know you dropped the ball - no shame but with love and heart.

So in this episode, I shared with you a piece of massive learnings that I’ve been being fed this 2021 and I recorded this in the midst of all the pain and I almost did not want to publish it because I feel better now and I can come up with livier episode but I think it’s important.

I hope this episode will serve you.

Here’s what was covered in this episode:

• Collateral Beauty Movie
• Cycles of Nature
• Respecting the waves of life
• Losing someone you love is also a version of you
• Internal demons
• It starts with you

More Details: https://coachunapologetic.com/alignedandunapologeticpodcast/collateralbeauty