Even thought we all breathe, Emma explains why we need a breathing technique and talks you through learning her popular one. Effective deep breathing can reduce stress, anxiety and create space in our head by releasing calming chemicals. There's a key important factor that you need to include which has been proven to switch off your fight flight response. Practicing this frequently will mean it becomes automatic (just like your times tables) and it goes into the subconscious part of our brain. You can use it in a subtle, easy way and Emma gives suggestion when you can practice, easily, in your day. If you don't like the example Emma gives, then check out others on the internet or on Emma's blog. Get your free Self Doubt Guide http://bit.ly/SelfDoubtPodGuide Find out how to work with me http://www.emmalangton.com/work-with-me/

Visualisation is powerful tool that is now widely used. We can create a vision of how we want to be and stop worries, self doubt or anxiety. Our brains are naturally wired to notice the negatives, so we need tools to help wire our brain for the positive and reach those goals. Listen as Emma tells the story of a client who used this to great effect. Our brain can't distinguish between real and imaginary so we can practice visualising exactly how we wish to be and this can embed into our subconscious brain. Emma talks you thought the steps you can take and even if you don't think you see pictures, there's still things you can do. - get really clear on goals - create positive wording - decide how you feel - recognise body language Include all these in the visualisation in the way Emma describes. It increases self belief and that's really powerful. Get your free Self Belief guide http://bit.ly/SelfDoubtPodGuide Want your personalised plan? http://www.emmalangton.com/work-with-me/

Emma brings her first guest onto the podcast this week and chats to Tina Leigh McDonald about how her belief in herself changed recently. Tina talks about her work with businesses and young people and Emma avoid getting on the soap box about the impact of today's schooling on self belief! Tina also explain how she recently transformed her self belief after being nominated for the Rising Stars award and winning. The attendance at the awards ceremony really cemented that change in belief in herself. You can find Tina at http://avalanchecoaching.co.uk/

There are people you spend time with who leave you feeling drained and others who leave you warm and comforted. Emma refers to these as drains and radiators. Listen as she talks about the different types of people who leave you drained. They might be negative, victims, moaning or "opera singers". Emma shares how she got wise to working with some of these and what you can do about once you have the awareness which includes - pick your battles - stick to your boundaries - stay away if necessary! Then think about who can be radiator in your life. These people support, encourage, lift you up and restore your energies and why that is necessary. Emma also talks about how you can learn what drains your energy levels and what restores it. The support of like-minded people is necessary to your success. Contact Emma at http://www.emmalangton.com/work-with-me/

Whether you have children or not, you're going to want time off and need to find the balance from work, business, home. This week Emma talks through a variety of mindset changes and strategy tips to help you enjoy time off. Remember you are doing your best so be kind to yourself. Look at where you're putting pressure on yourself and switch up the priorities. Sort the pressure and tasks into 3 lists with Absolutely, Be nice to do, Could do. Then plan out the day or the week so that you and the kids know what to expect. We all benefit from routine. Emma talks through how to change your mindset up about certain places or activities. Notice where you can get a win for you and the kids. Create opportunities for a cuppa and connection with your kids as this has huge benefits for all of you. Learn about managing the day, the week with clear boundaries and expectations too. For more info or to work with Emma http://www.emmalangton.com/work-with-me/

This week Emma tackles the subject of Overwhelm. It's a fast paced world with tons of stimulation so how do we handle it when you feel you just can't cope or you're head is so full you can't think straight. She covers how to recognise when you're overwhelmed by noticing - what's going on in your body - what happens in your mind - how it makes you feel. That way you can identify your personal overwhelm signs and then how to deal with it. She talks you through a few steps, the first is a trick that even though it seems rubbish is really effective - breathing! Then Emma explains about taking a step back even when you don't feel you can. Then break down the overwhelm and get it out of your head. Make a plan about what to do with all those things Ask for help where needed Give yourself a break. Get your free overwhelm https://emmalangton.activehosted.com/f/5 Don't forget to get your self doubt to self belief free guide http://bit.ly/SelfDoubtPodGuide

When doubts run through our minds it can drag us down and have us feeling negative, fed-up and definitely not at our best. Self doubt can hold us back in just one area, or many areas of our lives. It can be quite draining. Here Emma runs through 5 steps that you can do to shift those self doubts and build into more solid and positive beliefs. If you'd like a free guide to help you with these steps from Self Doubt to Self Belief then get it here http://bit.ly/SelfDoubtPodGuide When you get thoughts about "what if this doesn't work" or other "what ifs" that are ultimately "what if I'm not good enough". The 5 steps covered are: 1. Identify the doubts and own them 2. Challenge the doubts with key ways to do that 3. Change the way you think about doubts 4. Identify goals and steps to move forward 5. Recognise the progress and build new beliefs If you'd like some personalised help or support to shift your self doubt then get in touch with Emma at http://www.emmalangton.com

Emma talks about her favourite subject of Boundaries. How you can create effective business boundaries in your work and life. It's not just a set a rules. Emma regularly hears from clients who • feeling like they’re working all the time, • needing to respond to people or emails quickly, or at ridiculous hours of day and night • checking phone and emails All. The. Time. • saying yes to things they don’t want to do • feel like people are taking advantage Listen to find out what you need to do to get yours in place which includes Working on your mindset Getting clear on your priorities Confidently communicate your boundaries so you set expectation and create much less guilt, pressure and overwhelm.

Did you know that the way we talk to ourselves can have a massive impact on the way we think, feel and view ourselves? So many times Emma hears people with negative self talk. 

“I’m no good at …”

 “I can’t do ….” 

“I’m so silly” 

“I’m fat” 

“I don’t deserve ……” 

In this episode Emma explains what happens when we are negative about ourselves and how we can change that.

Listen to Your Negative Self Talk

Maybe you already know some of the things you say about yourself, or maybe you need to take a little time to actually listen to the words you use, the phrases you say and the way you talk to yourself and even about yourself.  What do you hear?  Negative phrases and comments can become embedded in your subconscious mind so that you repeat them without realising.  Once you start listening to yourself you’ll be surprised at what you hear.

Be Your Own Best Friend

If you want to make improvements in your own self talk and improve the way you think and feel about yourself then you need to be your own best friend.  Think about how you might guide and advise your best friend and then turn that phrasing, positivity and praise towards yourself.  It might not be easy for you to hear – initially.  It will get better and easier the more you do it.

Be Kind

Be kind to yourself and be kind to others around you too.  Although we’re working on self talk, all talk is important.  It’s much easier to have complete positive thoughts and language rather than kind words for yourself and forgetting to be positive and kind to others around you!  If you see someone with great hair or gorgeous shoes, say so!  If your child shows nice manners, say “hey nice manners”.  You will feel good, but you know what?  They will too and so it improves the attitude of everyone around you that you interact with.  That in itself reduces the negativity.

Complement Yourself

We are rubbish at this.  Particularly us with the good British stiff-upper -lip / don’t-show-our-feelings.  When we don’t show our feelings to others, we don’t show them to ourselves.  So, start to complement yourself.  Do this regularly and see if you notice a difference in the way you feel about yourself.

Talking more positively to ourselves will have a great impact on the way we view ourselves.  You start to embed more positive comments and phrases in your subconscious mind, so they become more automatic and then progress and positivity gets easier and easier.  So go on, start today, change the way you talk to yourself.  You deserve it!

You can get in touch with me, let me know how you get on with this or to book a call so we can talk about how to re-programme that negativity and get your feeling great about yourself.

When things get too much in life, physically, mentally or emotionally it’s good to have somewhere to go to calm, recover, feel safe or to feel happy again. That’s why you need a Happy Place. Emma talks you through why you need a happy place and how to create your very own. It doesn't matter whether it's real or imaginary, when you've created yours you can take yourself there, in your mind, to rest, recover or just re-set our feelings and emotions.

Creating Your Happy Place

Think of somewhere that makes you feel happy, calm safe (or some other positive feeling). This place can be real or imaginary! It doesn’t have to be in your house or nearby.

• Take 5 minutes or so to sit somewhere comfortable.
• Think of a place where you are completely relaxed, feeling happy or safe or calm
• Imagine it vividly – colours, sounds, textures, temperature, smells – everything.
• Notice how you feel in this place. Are you happy, calm or relaxed.
• Notice where, in your body, you feel these happy or calm feelings.
• Give this place a name or a title.

Regardless of where you are, whatever you are doing, practice thinking of or saying this name or title and notice those good feelings flowing around your mind and body.

How Do We Use our Happy Place?

When we have a place like this, real or imaginary, we can take ourselves there to rest, recover or just re-set our feelings and emotions. Notice with all your senses what you see hear, touch, smell, taste and even the temperature. This can change the sensations in our mind and body from whatever is unpleasant or negative to being more positive and comfortable.

My place (because I love being warm) is in a sauna which is not readily accessible! However my mum’s place is in her sewing room, with her sewing machine. Making lovely quilts, bags, cushions is her favourite pastime. 

So where could yours be? If you struggle to think of somewhere look through holiday brochures or magazines for inspiration. Maybe you saw something in a film or a book? You can even make one up from a collection of ideas to create the best place ever!

You can get in touch with me, let me know what your happy place is or to book a call so we can create one together.