Going There with Jen

Have you ever woken up and realized that you spent your entire life trying to fit into a label that you aren’t?

Do you feel guilt over not feeling close to somebody that you think you should?

Us too! Join me today as I talk with Liz Applegate, a kick-ass confidence coach for women over forty who also want to continue living their best lives throughout your midlife and beyond!

Liz gets candid about her own childhood, her mother’s mental illness, and how trying to subscribe to the “Good Girl” narrative for most of her life ended up limiting it. We discuss how the past informs the present in both helpful and harmful ways, and how practicing self-awareness and accepting some responsibility can help you move forward to live your best mid-life!

Healing is hard work, but is SO worth the challenge!

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And if you're finding yourself fairly checked-out and are ready to check all the eff way back in? Let's explore if coaching is a good fit for you! My tell-it-like-it-is mama-bearness may be just the thing you need to make the progress towards a life you love the 💩 out of.

In today’s ridiculously deep, emotional episode, you will learn why it’s important to teach your children those words like a mantra.

Listen in as I learn about ACE or Adverse Childhood Experiences with RN, Speaker, and fellow compassionate, Leslie Peters.

Leslie Peters dives into her own personal childhood experiences and trauma in order to explain the origins of her own ACE and explains why it is important for everyone to know their own ACE score in order to build empathy, understanding, and self-compassion.

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✨Come say HI on the socials!✨

Instagram: jenvertanen
Facebook: jenvertanen
Clubhouse: @jenvertanen

Subscribe here to get my fave resources for checking back in with yourself.

And if you're finding yourself fairly checked-out and are ready to check all the eff way back in? Let's explore if coaching is a good fit for you! My tell-it-like-it-is mama-bearness may be just the thing you need to make the progress towards a life you love the 💩 out of.

Today, I have an absolutely transcendent conversation with Instagram expert, Tyler J. McCall about the deep stuff: depression, authenticity, and finding belonging by owning who you are and your reaction(s) to the shit that happens in life.

And, boy, there’s a lot of shit that happens.

In this episode, Tyler explains how he dealt with ongoing, clinical depression and discovered his own responsibility in owning his identity, his depression, and his isolation. He also talks about the importance of finding belonging through holding yourself accountable for your actions. (<==this is hard but OH SO NECESSARY)

The best part? You will leave this episode with tools to help you find your own authentic self on your quest for belonging and community.

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✨Come say HI on the socials!✨

Instagram: jenvertanen
Facebook: jenvertanen
Clubhouse: @jenvertanen

Subscribe here to get my fave resources for checking back in with yourself.

And if you're finding yourself fairly checked-out and are ready to check all the eff way back in? Let's explore if coaching is a good fit for you! My tell-it-like-it-is mama-bearness may be just the thing you need to make the progress towards a life you love the 💩 out of.

What's the fear in you?Today, I delve deep into the innermost caves of identity, womanhood, and loneliness with creativity “coach” and fellow kindred spirit, Becca Piastrelli.Seriously, get ready to explore what makes you uncomfortable– dealing with isolation, oppressive culture(s) and/or ancestral roots, and deep loneliness– in order to begin the work of positive, affirming self-exploration. You will leave this episode feeling light, liberated, and ready to spread self-love, sisterhood, acceptance, and belonging to yourself and your fellow sisters!MY THOUGHTSKindred spirit. Fearless. Sugar lover.Becca Piatrelli is a creativity coach and sisterhood space-maker who discovered a spiritual loneliness despite being an extroverted sorority girl in college. Through exploration, time, and a little girl power, Becca began to find herself in her ancestral roots– the good, the bad, and the ugly. Now, she strives to help other women discover their innermost identities through self-exploration, community building, and ancestry in order to create an inclusive space for women in the Age of Loneliness.ARE YOU READY TO GO THERE?_____BECCA PIASTRELLI is a writer and womxn's coach who holds space for womxn to explore ancestral wisdom, connect with the earth, and find meaningful and inclusive sisterhood. In the age of loneliness, Becca shows us how to feel like we truly belong – to each other, to the earth, and to ourselves.CONNECT WITH BECCAWebsite |InstagramFor show notes including how to learn more about the down-to-earth and sometimes lonely, Becca Piastrelli, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere45 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"Certainty minus comparison equals confidence" - Cinamon Laughten, Badass Confidence CultivatorJoin me today as I talk with the wonderful and brilliantly-named Cinamon Laughten, a phenomenal confidence coach and rapid transformational therapist (RTT)!Together, we discover the value of deep, powerful self-love and the healing power of your own mind.We delve deep into what matters: learning how to love yourself in the midst of life’s spiritual and emotional woes, such as depression, anxiety and family conflict.Cinamon also explains how anxiety and mental struggle can manifest physically-- and how you can use rapid transformational therapy to regain control over your own emotional well-being!ARE YOU READY TO GO THERE?_____Meet Confidence cultivator. Anxiety wrestler.  INFJ. Ice Cream Enthusiast, CINAMONLAUGHTEN.Cinamon uses her own life experiences and professional expertise to help others gain confidence and learn how to take control of their lives and emotional well-being. Using her training in Rapid Transformational Therapy and Hypnotherapy, Cinamon loves to help others learn the power of their own mind--and why it’s important to love yourself.Cinamon knows that confidence is everything, and it begins with YOU.CONNECT WITH CINAMONEmergence RTTThe Global Confidence CollectiveFor show notes including how to learn more about the magical unicorn, Cinamon Laughten, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere44 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How does that saying go? Something about falling off a horse and getting right back on again? CUE SYMBOLISM!!Today, join me on horseback as I ride off into the “self-care sunset” with equine therapy heroine Dominique Rondeau!Life can be a bit bumpy, but when you experience emotional hardship, mental health issues, or traumatic life experiences, learn how to heal these emotional wounds with a horse by your side.Listen in as Dominique shares a few (anonymous yet 10000% heartfelt) stories of emotional healing with her clients as well as how equine therapy has helped Dominique deal with her own anxiety and life’s traumatic moments.MY THOUGHTSFrom a very young age, Dominique knew that she wanted to work with horses in a healing profession. I LOVE that!! How many of us wanted horses growing up?!? Going to the barn relaxed her when she needed it most, but the horses also seemed to understand her anxiety and pain in a way that she knew was special.I have my own healing through the power of horses story that I share in this conversation. It happened three-ish years ago and was the catalyst in my own healing from childhood. I highly HIGHLY recommend finding an equine therapist close to you and giving it a try EVEN IF you're afraid of horse. They are such intuitive and empathic creatures and they will tell + give you exactly what you need to know in the moment.ARE YOU READY TO GO THERE?_____DOMINIQUE RONDEAU grew up on a farm in New Hampshire in a large chaotic family and horses were her peace, passion, and healing. From a young age she knew horses and healing was a wonderful modality and got her masters in psychology in 2014. This opened up doors to research and the practice of horse assisted healing. After a recent magically manifested move to Salt Lake City area, she’s now living out her dream working as horse assisted mental health specialist and has recently started her own program called Healing Wings. She facilitates people healing from everything from anxiety to marriage problems and PTSD through the magical experience of working with horses.  CONNECT WITH DOMINIQUEInstagramFor show notes including how to learn more about the adventurous and heart-led cowgirl, Dominique Rondeau, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere43 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know that diets don't work long-term, or do we?Today, I have the honor and privilege of speaking with holistic nutritionist and integrated health coach, Ali Shapiro (MSOD, HCCH), who survived childhood cancer, health, and weight issues and now spends her life helping others forget diets, labels, and self-criticism in order to call a truce with food.Listen in to learn more about how this inspiring woman uses her own experiences with health trauma and weight issues, along with training and education, in order to craft a totally badass, totally unique, and fully integrated health program that transcends that temporary diet and your critical voice in order to help you build a meaningful, healthy lifestyle.MY THOUGHTSFirst, she rebelled against cancer.Then, she rebelled against the capitalist, sexist system that creates unhealthy bodies and minds filled with doubt.Wow, that was a mouthful, but what Ali is serving is delicious!Ali is a holistic nutritionist who became a badass bitch early in life after beating cancer at a young age. After struggling with her weight, health, and self-image, she created an integrated health management system that helps ensure long-term success without constantly needing to return to her with your wallets year after year.She cares about teaching you how to care for yourself with research-based, proven methods and tangible steps. How amazing is that?!?ARE YOU READY TO GO THERE?_____ALISHAPIRO is the founder of Truce with Food®, host of the top-ranked podcast Insatiable, a holistic nutritionist, integrated health coach and rebel with a serious cause.She’s academically, practically, and empathetically aware of how the medical system, diet culture and body positivity movements all have their own flavor of crazy.She created her Truce with Food method while in graduate school at the University of Pennsylvania where she earned her Masters in Organizational Dynamics, which is like getting an MBA in the change process, where she drew from her decade plus of working with real life clients and her own personal healing journey from having cancer as a teenager.CONNECT WITH ALIWebsite | PodcastRESOURCES MENTIONEDAli's Comfort Eating Style Quiz (TAKE IT!!!)For show notes including how to learn more about the hilarious, tell it like it is, Ali Shapiro, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere42 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel like you're in a place in your life where you need a good, honest bitch slap for your soul?How many times do you ask yourself, “Why? Why am I here?”Listen in and hear the marvelous sound of a bitch-slap to your ego with Gwynne Montgomery, author of Bitchslap Journaling: 100 Prompts to Kick Your Spiritual Ass.This woman fearlessly tackles the hard stuff: toxic behavioral patterns, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), hyper-vigilance, and how you can use honesty and hard work to transform your spirit and begin to heal.Though it might sound like this episode may leave your face a little red and sore, it will help you begin to work on yourself in order to transform how you think, feel, and live while laughing along the way!MY THOUGHTSI have so much respect for how Gwynne shows up online and just tells it like it is. From smashing the patriarchy to witchery to politics to inspired action sprints to truths about how she chooses to live her life – Gwynne is the epitome of wysiwyg and I so wish more of us could be like that. I'm working on it!ARE YOU READY TO GO THERE?_____Seer. Sorcerer. Spiritual Masochist. GWYNNE MONTGOMERY is the creative force behind Bitchslap Journaling, The Bitchslap Method, and the webmistress of Her Wicked Ways. A Devotee of Holle and Paradox, Gwynne has been a witch for 27 years, and a rebel for 40. Ever determined to show people alternative ways of thinking and perceiving the world, Gwynne can be found at HerWickedWays.com and also on Facebook where she rants about politics, spiritual bypassing, and shares daily pictures of her adventures as a city hermit with too many cats.Connect with GwynneWebsite | Twitter | MediumSupport Gwynne's work on PatreonI highly recommend Gwynne's Bitchslap Journal!Resources MentionedGwynne's fave tarot deck and mine (at the moment)For show notes including how to learn more about the hilarious, tell it like it is, Gwynne Montgomery, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere41 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever wonder what your pet is thinking or want to tell a fly to eff off?ME TOO!!Today I had an absolutely mind-boggling and eye-opening conversation with Bridget Pilloud, Pet Psychic and practicing human. This is possibly one of the most interesting conversations I’ve had about expressing emotion, feeling deep connection, and practicing empathy – with your pets!Join me as I learn the value of communicating with your beloved animals, tips on how to do it, and why it is important to have a conversation with your pets.P.S. (Aren’t we all practicing humans? I love it! Like really, really love it.)MY THOUGHTSI mean…c'mon! Bridget is the real deal you guys. I never believed in this stuff until our first newf – Guinness – was almost sent to the rescue organization when our daughter (now 14!) was first toddling around. Guinness was not a fan and we did NOT trust her at all so were quickly filling out the application to get the ball rolling. The woman at MN Newf Rescue had just lost a golden and prayed asking her golden to whisper in Guinness' ear to BEHAVE or she as going to another family.And I kid you not. From the next day on we never – and I mean NEVER – had an issue with Guinness and our daughter. In fact, they became the very best of friends.This. Stuff. Is. Real.With that…Are you ready to go there?!?_____BRIDGET PILLOUD is a professional pet psychic and a practicing human. For the past 10 years, Bridget has been talking with animals and working with pet owners to alleviate pet anxiety, help with transitions and traumas and resolve behavioral problems. When not pet talking, Bridget can be found on her red sailboat or remodeling her 60's ranch.Connect with BridgetWebsite_____For show notes including how to learn more about the hilarious, tell it like it is, Bridget Pilloud, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere40 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your therapist isn't working for you, ditch 'em and find a better one!Today I had the pleasure of discussing the importance of finding the right therapist to deal with life’s crazy moments with licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), sensitive soul, and healer, Maureen Clancy.Join us as we delve into how Maureen’s job as a newspaper reporter led her to discover her true passion: healing women who have experienced trauma and hearing their stories.Through personal experience, Maureen discusses how she used to hate being both highly sensitive and extremely empathetic, but eventually learned to use these same qualities to help heal women who are going through life’s emotional “gate passages,” including divorce, domestic violence, childhood trauma, and other areas of emotional turbulence.I love Maureen's message to inspire yourself to take the first steps towards healing your emotional wounds and finding the right therapist for your personal conflicts so that you can strap on those boots and storm through life’s emotional gates!My ThoughtsI mean…I've sought therapy here and there throughout the years and it was either too churchy or too woo or too…nothing – no chemistry, no connection….nothing. So I gave up. And truth be told, I desperately needed therapy…lots and lots to deal with my childhood traumas. And I didn't get it so I stumbled and fumbled far longer than if I'd relentlessly pursued the right therapist for me.I've been pretty open about that on Going There – DO NOT GIVE UP like I did. Keep searching. Do not allow yourself to suffer far longer than necessary. There are so many wonderful therapists (Like Maureen!) out there and I feel a bit jealous when I hear friends and colleagues share their wonderful experiences and how much it helped move them forward. It makes me happysad. Happy for them; sad for me.With that…Are you ready to GO THERE?_____A self-proclaimed introvert and licensed clinical therapist, MAUREEN CLANCY is a total badass healer who loves to listen to the stories of women riding the emotional waves of their lives in order to help them heal and become the best version of themselves.She loves to help empower women going through the gate way of divorce, domestic abuse, and other emotional traumas by listening and providing personalized therapy sessions and services like Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Trauma-focused CBT,  Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing, or EMDR, and more. She also loves the outdoors, all animals, and learning all the things!Connect with MaureenWebsite | Instagram_____For show notes including how to learn more about the incredibly wise and lovely, Maureen Clancy, head over to jenvertanen.com/goingthere39 and if there’s one thing I want you to remember ever it’s this…You were born to raise hell, not live in it.I believe in you so effing much and I’m here if you ever need an emotional sidekick to help you through tough times.Until next time…love you already,_____Love the sorts of fly-on-the-wall intimate conversations I’m hosting on Going There? It would mean the WORLD if you leave a rating/review on iTunes/Apple Podcasts and share with folks most needing these messages of hope, resilience, healing, and yes…laughter at some of the darker sides to life.Website: www.jenvertanen.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/jenvertanenMy Fave Really Hard Questions: jenvertanen.com/really-hard-questions/ (because you guys know how much I love digging deeper!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.