In the latest podcast, Seibo joins Rob to discuss why men should continue to develop EQ, his journey to get to where he is now and commentary on the benefits and potential pitfalls. 

02:09 - Intro

Rob explains his process of being a relationship coach where he supports men to open up and engage in areas of their emotional intelligence they are deficient in. Whether that be social, personal and work life, Rob can help. 

03:21 - What Does BAD Mean To Rob?

Interestingly this definition changed over time for Rob, from traditionally badass beliefs expected from society to increasing importance on character values and emotional connection. Listeners should note the importance of staying true to the values you, and only you believe in but then having the fortitude to stand tall when your values are challenged from all sides. 

05:26 - Origins of a King

In this section Rob explains his embarrassing story; the feelings of shame and the guilt of being ugly felt during his first rejection led him to take those first steps to develop himself and become the person he is now. 

Identifying and taking ownership of his shortcomings led him to refine his relationship skills and incorporate social frameworks. Rob shares that even after developing these social skills you are still not guaranteed success; even after finding success, Rob continued to experience empty interactions which eventually lead to suicidal thoughts. 

Rob's experience can be quite relatable to other Asian men and highlights the dangers of neglecting all of our emotions or refusal to confront past trauma which can negatively shape our character. Rob commented that strength to express the full range of emotions to the fullest and embrace this side created vibrancy in life he didn't have before - as men, it can be easy to fall into the trap to pursue complete mastery over our emotions, but in its pursuit can prevent us from being human. 

12:36 - How to develop EQ 

Rob and Seibo discuss how to take small, actionable steps to begin developing EQ. Many of the key areas require an honest dialogue with yourself such as your fears, forgiveness for an experience that can be seen as shameful and addressing negative self-worth. It should be said, many of these areas can be difficult to explore where it is important to move past the ego which can prevent you from exploring these negative emotions and taking steps to resolve them. 

Character experience is developed through slow, incremental changes but with continual, positive experiences and breakthroughs. Over time you can make these changes, but it requires complete effort time. While the journey was long, in Rob's eyes it was worth it.

25:16 - Challenges of being an Asian man

Taking this back to the topic of Asian men, the pair explore aspects of Asian men that can be beneficial or a barrier to developing EQ. The ability to conduct root cause analysis can quickly identify areas for improvement, but common traits such as being overly self-critical may inhibit progress.  

29:41 - Transformative Change & Creating More Sustainable Relationships

In the last big topic, Rob empathises the need to acknowledge mistakes and not to be overly calculated and curated, which can hinder your ability to create better human relationships. Rob's transformational change was attributed to his ability to express characteristics authentic to himself, taking true ownership of his values and flaws, as well as showing vulnerability; much akin to the characteristics of the Byronic Hero. Defining these traits also allowed him to screen people in his personal and love life to form higher quality communities aligned with his values. 

If listeners are sceptical about expressing negative emotions, in Rob's experience it was these difficult experiences that created chances to create strong emotions and stronger bonds between parties. 

54:46 - Where to find Rob

http://greatdateguy.com

Podcast on Spotify

linktr.ee/greatdateguy

57:41 - Closing thoughts

Closing out, Rob leaves listeners with some final encouragement - the values you define are yours alone and if they go against common consensus, it doesn't mean you're broken.  

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Michael and Seibo talk with Nikil Viswanathan, co-founder and CEO of Alchemy, the world's leading blockchain developer platform powering over $7.5 billion dollars in transactions in 99% of the countries in the world.

In this episode, we talked about:

• [05:12] How Down To Lunch was born
• [12:01] How Nikil became a high-performer
• [13:10] How he maintains health as a startup founder
• [16:15] His cultural upbringing with East and South Asians
• [21:15] Getting to know Nikil with rapid-fire questions
• [31:10] How he worked through obstacles as a startup founder
• [38:17] How he had the confidence to get investors to believe in his team
• [42:08] Something Nikil's still struggling is work-life balance as an entrepreneur

Learn more about Alchemy: https://alchemyapi.io/company.

Connect with Nikil at http://nikilster.com and @nikilster on Instagram / Twitter.

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Michael and Brandon talk with Kent Yoshimura, co-founder of Neuro, a company promoting a lifestyle of getting in the right mental state, by selling nootropic consumables like mints and gum. Kent is also a freelance mural artist and a martial artist.

In this episode, we talked about:

• 03:04 How humility is embedded in Asian culture, but a level of internalized confidence is needed to approach life
• 04:46 How athletics shaped his life and led to his refocus on mental state
• 07:28 Why that focus on mental state lead to starting Neuro
• 10:56 The story and struggles of starting Neuro
• 18:58 How personal sacrifices earlier in life lead to realizing balance and relationships with others is really important
• 21:12 How darkness in his life lead to art, and Bruce Lee as an icon
• 24:12 Reemphasizing that personal sacrifices and struggles made him realize the importance of balance
• 29:46 His co-founder Ryan’s indefatigable personality and how that brings positivity to his life and the company
• 38:41 Reading and his love of the outdoors

Watch the video to see Kent’s art:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHKAgE8yHG0

Check out the latest promotional video from Neuro!

https://www.facebook.com/mrkentyoshimura/posts/2774154832859336

Connect with Kent Yoshimura!

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kentyoshimura/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kentaro/
• Neuro: https://getneuro.com/
• Use code BAD15 to get 15% off your order!

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Brandon brings on 3 Sex & Relationship Coaches, sexological body workers, and somatic therapists to shine light on sex, intimacy, and dating for Asian men. This is a recording of a live Q&A Panel hosted back in May 2020.

In this episode, we talked about:

• 10:41 How do you help your partner achieve an orgasm?
• 18:52 Does masturbating to porn affect sex drive?
• 26:50 What advice would you give to someone who never got sex teachings?
• 37:16 How can I shoot bigger loads?
• 41:17 How to deal with delayed ejaculation
• 53:13 Is cumming at the same time important?
• 53:38 Talking to men and other women about sexual hangups
• 58:17 The impact of sexuality myths in other cultures
• 01:04:30 How can we build confidence in our own sexual identity outside of societal expectations?
• 01:17:51 How do you stay emotionally engaged in relationships?

Connect with the coaches!

Dori Melton

As a Sex and Relationship Coach, my mission is to help people prioritize their pleasure as a way to deepen connection in their relationships.

I’m a big fan of LOVE but I learned through my own personal experience that it isn’t always enough. A few years ago my marriage of almost 30 years exploded and I was forced to go through the most difficult transition of my life. It was through that experience that I came to Somatica Sex & Relationship coaching. Although it was, at times, incredibly painful, I came away transformed and am currently living the life of my dreams, full of passion and more love than I imagined possible. I learned how to access and pursue my own desire and follow where that leads me. Today it has led me to help others like myself to go through similar transformations. A few of the areas that I specialize in are guiding individuals and couples in the journey of consensual non-monogamy and other alternative relationship paradigms and helping individuals explore their sexuality whether that is kink, BDSM, role play or the many other vast sex positive alternatives. I am open to all sexual orientations and identify as queer.

I have a MA in Clinical Psychology and worked for 10 years with children and families. That experience has given me a firm foundation in understanding attachment theory and the ability to explore difficult topics in a non-judgmental, non-shaming, compassionate way.   

Kai Wu

Kai Wu is a guide and facilitator who works in the realms of love, sex, and familial and ancestral healing. For over a decade she has supported people of all kinds so they can experience greater connection, peace, and freedom in their bodies, relationships, and communities. She believes that cultivating a sense of belonging and pleasure is essential resilience practice for navigating these uncertain times. 

Some of her specialties and interests include supporting folks through significant life transitions, illness and trauma, unwinding body shame, and sexual challenges (particularly around performance, low libido and pain). Although she welcomes people of all identities, cultures, gender expressions, orientations, abilities and bodies, she is especially passionate about supporting those who want to be lovingly and fiercely held as they step more fully and authentically onto their lifepaths and missions, folks who are Asian/POC , and those who want to engage in Chinese/Asian cultural reclamation work. Her work is rooted in somatics, science, the erotic and the sacred. It can sometimes be hands-on. It is always trauma-informed, loving, and compassionate.

Kai is co-founder of San Francisco-based Embodiment Arts Collective, maintains membership in the American College of Sexologists, and is a senior faculty member of the Ecstatic Living Institute. She has also been faculty at the Somatica Institute. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork/Somatic Sex Education, SkyDancing Tantra, and the Somatica Method of sex and relationship coaching. She is multicultural, multilingual, and supports people internationally. For more information about Kai, please visit www.lovebodysoul.com.

Sho-sho Smith

Sho-Sho specializes in helping men through her program, Masculine Arts™. She helps men compassionately unravel ideas of masculinity and erectile performance, and guides them in understanding women and seduction. As an Chinese-American, Sho-Sho also supports Asian-American men and men of color in healing their racial identity around sexuality and masculinity.

Her program for women, Lust for Life™, takes women on personal journeys through self-care, relationship grief and sexual freedom. Within this safe space, women find themselves restored, adored and able to find their glow again.   

Sho-Sho can help you in your sexual exploration and expansion, including opening up monogamous relationships to polyamory, role-play and fantasy, kink and BDSM, while teaching you to navigate two central skills that underpin them all: boundaries and negotiation.

Sho-Sho is also training to be a practitioner of Internal Family Systems Therapy and a sex educator for kids and teens. She is a writer, mother, founder and former-Fortune 500 corporate dropout. Sho-Sho became a Somatica-trained coach after her husband of 20 years died of cancer. No stranger to grief, she launched her coaching practice F U R T H E R M O R E (www.furthermore.love) to help others go from barely surviving to truly thriving. Follow Sho-Sho on Instagram: @furthermore.love and @lustyquestions.  

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Michael and Seibo talk with Kyle Wong, CEO and founder of Pixlee, a marketing company aimed at helping brands rethink user-generated content to be more authentic for the next generation.

In this episode, we talked about:

• Asian representation in leadership positions in media
• Being badass means mastering your craft
• How Kyle got started in entrepreneurship
• How Kyle is amplifying the Asian American voice
• How has COVID impacted business and personal life
• The importance of mentorship
• Detaching personal identity with business or entrepreneurial success

Connect with Kyle Wong!

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylewong/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwong47/
• Pixlee: https://www.pixlee.com

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Victor and Seibo talk with Alan Z, hip hop artist and actor, about how he’s combining social activism with music. Breaking the mold of the Model Minority, Alan is using his voice and platform to inspire the Asian community to stand up.

In this episode, we talked about:

• How Alan get into the music industry
• How hip hop was the perfect avenue for Alan to express himself
• How Alan got past obstacles in forging his own path growing up
• What made him shift into rapping about Asian American issues
• Breaking the mold of the quiet Asian

Connect with Alan Z!

• YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/AlanZmusic
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alanzmusic
• Instagram: http://instagram.com/alanzmusic
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/AlanZmusic
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alanzmusic
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2sSwCAZDFSHkjrhh6M0ycx
• IMDb: https://imdb.me/alanz
• SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/alanzmusic

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Victor and Seibo talk with Jerry Won, founder of Just Like Media, a podcast production company that produces Dear Asian Americans, Asian Podcast Network, and many more.

In this episode, we talked about:

• Being badass means being authentic, without the front
• How Jerry shifted from inauthentic consulting and into founding multiple podcast shows
• The imbalance of work and family were breaking points
• Starting a new company with a family
• Pushing past Asian family's limiting beliefs
• Communication is about expressing what you don't know as well

Connect with Jerry personally:

• On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerrywon
• On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerryjwon
• Listen to the Dear Asian Americans podcast: https://www.instagram.com/dearasianamericans

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Victor and Seibo talk with Johnny Chen, founder of the men’s group coaching platform and community, Sail.

In this episode, we talked about:

• 03:12 Being badass means knowing when you're right and when you're wrong
• 05:51 How Johnny got into working with male vulnerability
• 09:21 The blockages in emotional growth
• 14:48 The benefits of developing a better connection to the emotions of our bodies
• 19:25 How Sail aims to help men connect deeper with others
• 22:47 Ask "what" questions, rather than "why"
• 30:50 What's making Johnny start this company
• 37:47 Raising capital for a company to focus on men's mental health

Connect with Johnny:

• On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnnychen0
• Train your mental and emotional fitness at Sail: https://joinsail.co

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Victor, Nick, and Brandon talk with John Kim, aka the Angry Therapist, founder of JRNI Coaching, and author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck.”

In this episode, we talked about:

• 03:32 John's transition away from therapy and into coaching
• 09:20 Most Asian parents don't know what emotional intelligence is
• 11:10 What is it going to take for Asian men to get representation in media?
• 17:51 How men can find their own badass-ery
• 23:18 Living in the "through me" stage with psychedelics
• 29:49 How Crossfit was a catalyst for John's emotional transformation
• 34:09 John started it all by posting "My F***king Feelings"
• 40:10 The grandfather of relaying profound concepts to the masses, Bruce Lee
• 42:32 Being a badass means not exchanging your truth for membership

Connect with John:

• On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/
• Get his book, “I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck”: https://amzn.to/2Pu3Dyo

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Seibo, Victor, and Brandon talk with Jason Shen, tech entrepreneur, writer, speaker, Asian American advocate, and CEO of Midgame, a esports and gaming analytics company.

In this episode, we talked about:

• Jason's definition of a Badass Asian Dude
• Jason's Asian American male study
• Having limited Asian representation contributes to many self limiting beliefs
• Bruce Lee was a trailblazer and left a legacy, but unfortunately still the only one that comes to mind for many
• The most surprising insights since the study
• The 3 factors to job satisfaction
• Developing emotional resiliency through breaking masculine stereotypes in sports
• The hard part of maintaining founder relationships
• Taking risks means letting go of the outcomes

Connect with Jason:

• http://twitter.com/jasonshen
• Newsletter: http://jasonshen.substack.com

Resources mentioned:

• Reflected Best Self Exercise by Harvard Business Review

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