PositivelyRebellious Podcast

You hear them from people around you every day.. .

"I can't...

I have never done it before 

I am just not good at this 

Things like this don’t happen to a person like me…

All the good ones are taken". 

In this episode let's take a look at limiting beliefs. 

1) What are they?

2) Where do they come from, how do we make them stronger. 

3) How to find your own limiting beliefs

4) How to transform them

5) Practice them

If a Limiting belief is limiting our potential, then the opposite is expansive, freeing expanding, elevating, amplifying, simply  empowering beliefs.

There are few fast ways to change them but most likely it will take time and conscious effort. 

The evolution of thinking is the most natural thing, and maybe the most rewarding.  I know that, if I traveled to the future 10 years from now, the most disappointing thing would be to see that I haven't changed. 

1. Limiting beliefs are thoughts that pretend to be true. 

Beliefs are just thoughts. It may seem they are facts, but they do not need to be facts at all, for us to be deeply convinced of them. Yes, even when those beliefs limit us. 

Limiting beliefs prevent us from taking action that would bring us fulfillment. Keep us small. 

How come? 

If beliefs are thoughts, naturally they create a feeling, an emotional state, and everything we do, or don’t do, every action we take or don’t take is driven by our feelings. 

So it’s clear: when you have a thought that you can’t do it - you won't try it, and the result is that you don’t have it. If you believe you don't deserve something, even if it comes to you, you will either not see it, or you will lose it. Often they become a part of your identity. 

2.Where do the Limiting Beliefs come from

1.  They come from strong emotional experiences, 
2.  Repeated things we heard, the reality we lived in. 
3.  Event - to which you attached a negative meaning 

The stronger ones may come from childhood. But we can create limiting thoughts and beliefs in adulthood as well. We could be creating limiting beliefs all day long. 

They come from a disempowering interpretation of personal experiences. 

3) HOW TO FIND your limiting beliefs in your head. 

(beliefs are thoughts) 

Look at the area of life that is not working, that you are not satisfied with. Journal. Stream of consciousness writing. Empty the brain. 

It’s like cleaning up a messy drawer with socks.

We need to empty it, select the old ones and throw them away, and decide what you want to put back in. Why would you keep old socks, that don't look good, if you can afford to 100 pairs of new socks,  

1. How to change them?   

This is not about swapping thought

A better feeling thought. Steps. 

Often trasfmorming one limiting belief to empowering one doesn't happen in one step. 

Actually what is closer to practice and we see in casual coaching is that we choose a thing that feels better, you try it you see its impact on life and you can open up to even better thought and even better, and this is how you create better results.

Create time and space to contemplate the beliefs, put them against the scale of life. Is it worth it to carry them  all these years. 

So How to transform limiting beliefs 

 Mind management. Become aware of the thought, see what it leads you to.Steps. One little improvement at a time. 

5) Then go out to the world and test it 

Practice the new thought. Like a new habit. 

The limiting belief will try to call you back. 

You will want to fall into the past thinking.

It will give you more reasons it was right. 

By making an effort you will get out of the rut. 

Until one day this will be your new reality 

In the episode I mentioned this guided meditation  https://insighttimer.com/joannazajusz/guided-meditations/inner-mastermind-speak-to-your-guides-and-mentors

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It was midnight sometime in 2012  I was sitting in my haunted house where I lived alone.  It was a time when I was  into metaphysics and Universal laws. And I thought... Well all the limiting beliefs, self  sabotage, laziness …  come from within. they often started decades ago, we still  carry them with us into the future… like it’s our job. 

What if we could stop dwelling and instead created
a spark of change within, a rebellion against the negativity , to create  a better life.. So that would be what ?  That would be a  positively rebellious act. 

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In this episode I want to talk about closing old chapters in life and opening new chapters in life. And I think there are 

Four THINGS that are significant in the process. 

• Self care
• Inner trust
• Shift from emotional childhood to emotional adulthood 
• Discomfort.  Ability to recognize what type of discomfort we are dealing with

People start new chapters in life for many reasons. Sometimes an idea of creating a change comes from deep knowing that you are wasting your life in the current  situation, it comes from deep knowing  that you have more potential. That you can do better than this . 

You start having visions of a more fulfilling, peaceful or exhilarating life. And those visions don't want to leave you alone. 

Often the new chapter starts from  a need to repair yourself . It is truly a healing journey. Many p[eople talk about pain on the level of their soul.  The actual words I heard often are “my spirit told me to do this, if I stayed there, I’d die”

Before you open one chapter you may want to close the old chapter 

But how does it start? 

There has been a tipping point. When Enough is enough. 

There has to be willingness to take some risks. 

Sometimes you may not be ready but you are pushed off the cliff , you got fired from a job you hated, your spouse surprises you with divorce papers,  and you need to find some footing asap. 

Whether you are initiating the change or life initiated it for you.. 

It is important to start making choices from a place of self respect, Self care, self acceptance. 

No you don’t need to be great at it right from the start. Or you wouldn't be here. I think the whole  life is a process of self acceptance. 

But in the painful moments you really see with more clarity where the self love has been missing. 

And because for years I have been face to face with people in these situations I know this is beautiful process or reclamation of  Hope,  self love, acceptance, and self  respect.  we feel raw and alive at the same time. 

I don't know how anyone would skip this part. Because learning self acceptance, self care, self respect is not only a gift to yourself but also to anyone you meet on your path, anyone you are connected with . 

Because you carry yourself differently you communicate differently and act differently and that may spark more self love in another person. 

I think if every person had more self care acceptance and respect that would heal the world. On every level, globally. 

Back to starting a new chapter... 

It’s interesting that we may be stuck in one way of thinking and as soon we want something bigger, we are forced to open our eyes to more truth, to different perspectives. and when you are open  and do the inner work a veil of illusion is lifted , you move forward, you step into more empowered self , And then you make another discovery, another veil is lifted  and so on.  It is like peeling the layers to your truth, 

Seeing the limiting beliefs  for what they are:  lies that pretend to be true. 

One of those revelations is moving away from emotional childhood to emotional adulthood.  This alone can be incredibly empowering : 

when we stop blaming others for our situation and take responsibility for it. 

Even if someone is objectively responsible for your situation, as it happens in families, you have childhood wounds - often we grow up waiting  for the same people to change and to apologize and  repair everything. 

But They often the last people that would do it, 

They didn't do their healing, so we may be waiting forever. 

Instead we can Learn emotional adulthood stop blaming others , and take responsibility for our happiness, and start showing up for ourself. 

You stop looking backwards and finally start looking forward. 

Another important thing that needs to happen in a healing journey when you start a new chapter, is the ability to  trust yourself. 

Of course we ask around, we wander, get lost, sometimes people get stuck in the phase of “tell me what to do'' whoever, please tell me what to do. As if the random person knew what’s better for you. You may seek people who have more authority, teachers, spiritual guru, psychics. And it's good to learn, but still the choices must feel integral to you, even if you were to make another so called mistake or a detour, it has to be our choice. 

So how do you know if the guidance comes from within or others. 

One of my most favorite ways to get in touch with my soul is guided meditation. The kind that leaves a space for your mind to fill in. 

So I wanted to create a framework for it and I made the “inner  mastermind”  and the way I use it is, I  go into it with a specific question, famous people, teachers, guides, show up and they talk and give me ideas. 

Moving forward

You started the  journey you felt energized and inspired and then you hit a block and then another...

You may take it as a sign to go back, to stop, you may make it mean that it wasn't a good idea. So much opportunity to start a drama. 

It also may be a sign to pivot, it may be another opportunity to expand your mind, if you struggle with something,  there may be  a thought that is not serving you, and you can change your thoughts to other thoughts that are true but give you a better feeling. 

Or you can also ask yourself, what is wrong with discomfort? 

Why do you resist it? 

Maybe nothing went wrong. Maybe that discomfort should be there because this is the discomfort of growth. 

One of the misconceptions is that if we are on the right path it should always feel good. This thought creates more suffering for us. 

For today I only want you to walk away with the ability to tell apart what kind of discomfort you are dealing with. 

There is a discomfort of stagnation

And the discomfort of growing

You  felt discomfort in the chapter you are leaving behind. 

It was the discomfort of keeping yourself small, discomfort of halting your potential , discomfort of trying to stop the life force within from blooming and flourishing. 

When you leave that behind you start experiencing the discomfort of 

learning, trying new things, doing something for the first time, 

It is the sort of discomfort th