PositivelyRebellious Podcast

Everyone is searching for oneness, fulfillment, and completion, whether we realize it consciously or not...

In this episode:

• we all seek oneness in one way or another
• A story: the separation from Source
• How do we experience oneness?
• We don’t have to wait
• Looking for oneness and fulfillment in the external
• Emptiness after completion
• The drive and desire are natural
• A Course In Miracles says…
• We all make this mistake: we look outside
• The myth; what do we really need to give up
• Embrace both worlds
• Radiance Sutras. The sense. Eternity
• The image of a river of peace I have in mind
• Intention in the spiritual practice - David Hawkins
• A quote from Transcending the Levels of…
• Express practice in going back to Source

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In this episode:

Comparing is an act of violence against ourselves. - Iyanla Vanzat

• Comparison in life and in our creativity feels bad because it undermines who we are and what we create. Think about what happens when we compare: Comparison requires judgment: I judge myself as bad/ worse and the other as better.
• The positive aspects of comparison: learning, getting inspired, or in competitive situations knowing where you rank.
• Public speaking moment: a client wanted to speak like YXZ. Does her audience want another version ofXYZ? a copy of XYZ? or the best version of her.
• What is the best? The best speech, the best book? It depends on what is the purpose of the speach.
• A New teacher talking like somebody else. What sticks out: who is speaking?
• The ugly face of comparison: jealousy. Transform it: evolve thru this awareness: find within yourself the gifts you see so clearly and admire so much in the other person.
• How do I conquere comparisitis : becoming aware of the feeling, checking in what was I just thinking? Realizing I was comparing myself. Letting it go....
• Comparision promotes copying and is limiting our creativity.
• Letting it go requires courage and trust within ourselves and our ideas.

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In this episode:

• There are times in life when we don't know what we want. (Is this because some unmet emotional issues, depression, or lack of belief?)
• What happens in the first hypnotherapy or coaching session? a client knows well what she doesn't want, she practiced that part well. But she can't connect yet fully what how the improvement looks like. How gradual changes, and improvements help us declare what we want because we start seeing it is possible.
• Exercise in meditative journaling.
• Why don't we completely commit to what we want?
• 1) We don't BELIEVE you will make it happen. (make it believable, but still exciting) Believe more (this scares people because they don't want to be disappointed. but.. disappointment is not a big price to pay if for sure we will get something great on the way to the goal.)
• 2) We don't want to work that hard.
• 3)The goal is not really your goal but someone else's.
• 4) We are afraid of failure. Specifically, the feelings that come after failure. (I made a video for you if you are afraid of being stuck in negative emotions https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ygc7TFC6ChM

What are the ways we talk ourselves out of our goals?

First a story of a woman who did not talk herself out of what she wanted, which was a good job and a new relationship without compromises.

First way: "I don't deserve it."

Second way: "This is selfish"

Third way: All -or-nothing thinking. I want it but I can't because

Forth way: you don't want to upset someone in your life, You are afraid what will they say, You are afraid to lose them even though they are not good for you.

There is always a possibility for an awakening and realization you can have it, you can claim it.

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Are you a creative, an artist who often asks what's the point? Maybe you are creating for the sake of creating (you are not a professional yet, who makes a living making art) but you are losing your steam and doubt yourself.

• Many people make crap and they are proud of it, but you still struggle to believe in yourself? Some people deal with more doubts, inadequacy, and judgment because of their Human Design. (when we work together we look into that too)
• The one practical idea on this episode is: stop throwing obstacles underneath your feet, stop wasting energy on doubts and use this energy for creativity.
• What is the value of your creativity?
• The value of making art (for you): self-expression, getting better and better at this, higher self-esteem (because it is your authentic expression, therefore squishing that expression squishes your life's force), expanding your creative potential, release of creative anxiety. Creating flow in the channel of inspiration. Making room for more, bigger, better ideas.
• Even if you make bad art, (not as good as you wished) - you need to make it.
• Eric Maisel's quote on writing bad pages "You need to write the bad to write the good. You can always throw away the bad paragraphs, but first, you need to write them"
• My epiphany after painting a kitschy painting and loving it.
• My experience with writing a blog in English (it's my second language) and looking back at the blogs I wrote years ago, seeing all the mistakes and feeling horrible shame ... Epiphany: even though shame is one of the most painful emotions a human may feel, I would take it over the pain of hoarding ideas.(!!!)
• Value of your creativity for others. (my experience with sharing my art, my experience with another person's art. Being delighted with imperfect art: it didn't have to be a masterpiece, it just had to be done. and shared.)
• What to do about the fear of critique, judgment, etc.
• What I noticed while coaching on public speaking.

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Connecting with nature can be a way of connecting to yourself, if you are not yet interested in meditation and you want to have a spiritual practice unrelated to religion.

We can use anything for this, but what makes it a spiritual practice? Three elements are needed: presence, silence, practice (making it a regular practice.)

Three authors that helped me experience nature in a new way:

• Bill Plotkin "Soulcraft" '
• Martha Beck: "Finding your way in a wild new world."
• Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Rewards: Timelessnes, Bliss and Awe, Reconnection with ourselves, Presence

Additional concepts:

• A mountain as a metaphor
• How external landscape reflects our inner landscape.
• Prayer stone.
• Belonging in nature.
• Quotes from Soulcraft.

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Main Points:

Faith and Ewelina's immigrant journey

Angels and everyday life.

Spirituality and everyday life.

Religion vs spirituality.

Where is the Divine?

Life in the homeland and the humble beginnings in the US.

Meditation.

Better at public speaking thanks to an unlikely remedy.

Advice for the hardest times.

Remedy to fear.

Main points:

- In 2023, I chose a word of the year, or a mantra of the year, and today, I am reflecting on it from a 12 months perspective.

- My word was “Devotion." Specifically: devotion to my soul’s purpose.

- What does it mean to be devoted? What comes to mind is: loyalty, love, care, trust... trust in its guidance.

- Trust needs to be there; otherwise, the fear will take over. The fear that your soul will suggest something unreasonable, inconvenient, and potentially misaligned with financial security because changes make us think of lack of continuity.

- However when you spend some time on it, it’s not clear what is more unreasonable: the Soul’s guidance or your fear.

- What does it mean to be devoted to your soul’s path, how do you DO it on a random Tuesday? I created a simple list of what I need to focus on to feel that connection and devotion.

Three questions for anyone who wants to communicate better with their Soul:

• When you ask for guidance do you listen?
• When you hear it, do you question it? Do you dismiss inconvenient things? Do you want guarantees?
• When you decide to hear - are you taking action on it?

- Watch for the moment you deny it... when you pretend you didn’t hear it.

- I think our soul stops talking to us when we stop listening, when we dismiss its voice. When we start to listen again, it starts to communicate with us more frequently and more clearly.

- Whether the soul suggests big changes or small changes - we experience disorientation and it’s uncomfortable.

- This is what Thomas Merton felt aboutbeing lost. (temporarily)

- My “random” books, random page quotes.

- The most important thing.

An abbreviated transcript: You most likely know the image of an iceberg representing our conscious and subconscious mind. We know that the subconscious mind hides a lot of programs, both negative and positive. It is communicating efficiently with our conscious mind, in a way we can't even see. It affects our lives in a real way.

When we fail, when we self-sabotage or procrastinate, and there is a strong flow of negative, limiting messages flowing from our subconscious negative programming to the conscious actions we take. Imagine a big, wide, Los Angeles 8-lane freeway of negative instructions flowing to your conscious life.

And this is not what you want. You want to overcome it. How can we do it?

Even though the conscious mind represents about 10-15% of your mind, it does't mean it is weaker. Quite contrary.

The Science of Mind says:

"Mind comes under two classifications. Two states of consciousness. The conscious (objective) and subconscious (subjective). The subconscious is set in motion as a creative thing by the conscious mind.

"In the subconscious mind of man, we find a law obeying his word, the servant of his spirit. [...] the subconscious mind acts upon our thoughts.It is the mental law of our being, the creative factor within us, working out the will and purposes of our conscious thoughts. The subjective (subconscious) mind is the seat of all mental law and action and is the servant of the eternal spirit throughout the ages."

This is an invitation to create a new, solid highway of powerful positive instructions from our conscious to our subconscious mind. The power of the conscious mind lies in its free will, decisions, intentions, desires. And faith. When we create new desirable images, messages and emotions and send them to the subconscious mind, this is how we create better results in life, new identity, etc.

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Books mentioned: Deb Shapiro "Your body speaks your mind"

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How will you know, and measure that you live your purpose? Sometimes we work hard towards something and it seems it's a moving target. Maybe you feel like living aligned with your purpose is lightyears away from you. Or maybe you are on your way, pushing yourself hard, because you feel the goal is still far away from you.

What if it is not? What if you can invite purpose into your life today?

I want to share several lenses thru which we can look at our life and our purpose. I hope that this perspective will help you reconnect with it and realize you can access more of the fulfillment today.

#1. Feelings:

If you are disconnected from your purpose, you will likely feel: empty, unfulfilled, disenchanted, anxious, depressed, demoralized, ungrounded, and without direction.

When you live your purpose, you more often experience feeling: devoted, fulfilled, purposeful, elevated, elated, excited, accomplished, at peace, and energized.

Yes you still experience negative emotions but overall, the scale goes towards the positive.

A note on anxiety... this feeling is a sign. You know the midnight anxiety? The anxiety that descends on you in meditation or in silence when you can't run away from your truth... it comes to you to redirect you. To wake you up.

Once you start moving towards more purposeful life you can still have anxiety but a different kind. Let's say you wanted to make art, beautiful things. Initially this midnight anxiety made you buy paints, and canvases and organize your time. Then another anxiety shows up: when you stand in front of the blank canvas wondering, can you pour the vision into the tangible thing? But that's a matter of skills and ... a story for another time.

#2 WASTED vs utilized.. time or potential. it's in the category of feelings but I wanted to mention it separately because it is big. So sad to have this feeling. Marianne Williamson said once: if you have a feeling that you are wasting your life it's because you are.

We can say that about jobs we stayed in too long that underutilized our potential. But what about relationships? Yes, multiple times I had a feeling I am wasting my time with this person. That person might be the best for someone else, but not for you. Maybe you are not going to create the magic together that is your destiny with someone else.

#3 Values. Living purposefully means you live aligned with your values not against them. if you are at a job that is asking you to violate your values - you lose inner peace.

Values mismatch in your marriage may end it. If your church disapproves your values, you will feel judged or you will leave. When I worked in an architect studio she had different aesthetic values than me and that partnership did not feel purposeful.

You know that you live connected to your purpose when you live aligned with your values and because of that you have inner peace.

#4 Energy

Do you spend yrou days on activities that drain your energy? Do you need to reenergize yourself with coffee, sugar, carbs, or other pleasures?

Do you feel like yrou body says no? Yet you push it? I don't want to sound like you can do energizing activities all day long, after all even when we connect to our purpose there are always those things that nobody likes. But the total balance of things.. does it leave you drained or energized?

The opposite of drain is the state of flow, total immersion in what you love. Experience of Timelessness.

Think about this: where do you want to

invest your energy? How do you want to be renewing your energy? How are you wasting it and how can you stop it?

When we choose to do things that energize us, we give our body a reason to live.

#5 Peak state vs today. Are you waiting for the sense of purpose when you reach the pinnacle of your achievement? Without seeing that as you are working towards it you already act on purpose? It happens when we suffer from self imposed negativity, pressure, stress, seeing the goal in the distance but never acknowledging when you have done today. The "never enough" attitude and huger for more is blinding you, while all the work you do day in and day out counts and is meaningful. You are already doing it. You are already connected to it.

Purpose can be build on 1 hour a day. If your day is filled with activities or jobs that are bridge jobs, if you find an hour a day to do something meaningful - it is going to fuel your energy and a sense of meaning.

#6 Personal growth . No matter what is the external goal or a dream, or how you imagine living your purpose, underneath all of that is our spiritual journey. Our goals, and purpose requires that we also develop ourselves, our power, our voice, our self love. Nobody can avoid it and that's why we say that the Soul is here to "learn the lessons". Even when yu look at the gates in the Human Design each of them comes with shadow and a potential to access the gift and light in that shadow. When you are an artist you make art but the process of making art also makes you , develops you.

Which of these lenses resonates with you? Is one of them more meaningful that the other?

This podcast is spiritual on purpose. Every week I highlight one practical idea or perspective to support us in living and creating on purpose. I'm Joanna a clinical therapist, artist, and a certified coach, and I'm happy to be a host. Welcome back.

Episode number 13: not enough or too much. Today, I want to talk about this universal problem when you believe: I'm not enough. This is widespread. I hear it on coaching calls sometimes, i have this feeling. And then there's also the other side of what I believe is the same coin: I am too much.

Often in the coaching sessions, people state it clearly, out loud "I am not enough", when we are talking about something they want.

Or sometimes, it's just there between the lines. For me, this is an unfinished sentence. You are not enough.... what? Possibly not smart enough, not beautiful enough, not young enough, not worthy, not thin enough, all of those things. If you feel down or disempowered because you believe this, which version of this is the hardest for you?

And you will know what you believe, what specifically is not enough for you, by how you try to compensate for it.

And this is how you may be pushing away from you something that you want.

You may be a weightless coach who still has some weight to lose, and you say, Well, I'm just not thin enough for people to actually hire me as their weight loss coach because I should be thinner.

But did you know that there are also thin people who believe that they are not enough because they are too thin to coach on weight? "Who will believe me that I can really help somebody lose weight if I'm so thin right now.?" And yet, both types of people are making it work. it is simply their belief that it's standing between them and that dream of who they want to be, what kind of work, they want to do.

Next is "I'm not smart enough." I hear it in this way, people will say, i want to write a book. I have this calling, I want to do this and that, but, you know, I don't think I am smart enough. I don't have the education. I don't have the formal education, I would have to sign up for this course or that course or go to get phd because i'm not smart enough.

"I have to prove that I can do it."

So what ultimately happens is you go back to school or sign up for 7 courses to prove you are good enough.

Or you give up on the idea, because you tell yourself that you don't have any time, the mind, and it's too late anyway, and that will take time (aka I am too old/ not young enough.)

If you take the path of signing up for different courses, what may happen is you will finish them... you will still find reasons why you are not enough to do this.

If you have heard yourself say," I'm not enough." If you had that feeling and at the same time you really wanted something, what was the next thing that happened?

Did you give up, or did you go to prove yourself?

You may say, but Joanna, if I want to help other people with this or have this profession, I really have to get a degree or educate myself on this so I don't harm people.

Yes. It might be necessary. it might be a good idea.

What I want to point out is: what energy does it come from?

Scarcity? Are you trying to prove yourself? fear of missing out, fear of missing something, fear of being judged by ... smarter people who are only waiting to point out your mistakes and not-enoughness and call you an imposter? That happens when you believe you are not enough. And then when does the chase after the eduction end? How do we know that when you take the next course, you will feel smart enough? We don't - if you do not start believing something else.

When will you be enough? Do you know?

But when the search for education comes from calm confidence of the new and useful belief - everything you do comes from confidence, not from the need to prove yourself.

What if you are smart enough and competent enough with the knowledge that you already have?

Tune in and check how you feel when you hear this: you are exactly as smart as you need to be to answer your calling. You are exactly as smart as you need to be to fulfill your purpose. You are exactly who you need to be to claim your dream.

Can you sense the difference?

Another limiting belief is " I am not pretty enough for this."

Is what you need to do has anything to do with a beauty contest? Because if you are not participating in a beauty contest, if you are offering something different than that, then maybe you can just let go of that "not enough"

Then we have "I am not worthy" enough - and you may see yourself overcompensating with expensive things. (that you can't afford; it's not like this is your reality , but you overspend on things just to prove something)

We put all the effort into covering up our not enough-ness until we hear "she is just too much" "he is too much" , Which happens for people who bring a lot of strong energy wherever they go. And it's normal for them to hear that.

When you hear" you are too much" andyou care about fitting in, more than you care about being loyal to yourself, you will try to fit in, shrink, twist yourself to fit into boxes. Water down your essence, and soon you feel depressed because that's what happens when you shrink and limit your self-expression.

Not enough and too much or two sides of the same coin. Self-worth is based on a moving target, a vague, undefined Standard. It comes from comparison and to what ?

This is not high quality thinking; it's not effective thinking. In coaching, we can't get to any reasonable solution with such vague language.

And what is the solution? What is this one simple answer to all of this?It's thinking, feeling, and believing to your core that you are Exactly who you need to be. You are exactly who you need to be to fulfill your life's purpose. You are exactly who you need to be to claim your dream. You are exactly as smart as you need to be to write that book.If you are making art, You are exactly as talented as you need to be To share with others your creative ideas in the form of your art. So, how does it feel to you?

Don't waste time on this topic.

I found that it's not a worthwhile topic to investigate because as soon as we dive into this rabbit hole, we will start finding evidence that you are not enough. So why not start looking for evidence that you are exactly as you need to be?

I know that some people indulge in coaching in over-analyzing themselves.

So if, just like you, I want to say this, You will use your time in a much better way if you work on your life's purpose, on your calling, on what you actually want to do. Versus working on those negative thoughts.

Yes, it's true. There are certain mindset that we have to work through

In a very detailed way, but the thought I'm not enough, it's not one of them.

Don't waste your time analyzing this thought, and where did it come from? Since almost each of us has it or has it at some point. Spend your time put that time into educating yourself on what you actually want to do.

THERE WILL BE TIME YOU WILL THINK YOU ARE OVER IT.

and the thought will show up out of nowhere. If it does just know that it doesn't mean anything, don't be afraid of this thought. You may be already doing what you want to be doing, and suddenly, in certain situations, there is a challenge and this feeling will come back.

Stop and shake it off like a dog. Know that you are not reverting back.

Remind yourself: I am exactly as i need to be to address this challenge. And from that place of confidence and faith in yourself, you may easier access the information what to do.

If you believe that you are not enough, maybe you will try to avoid this situation. So If the thought shows up, it doesn't mean that you are reverting back, this is very important.

Let me know if that perspective was useful for you and if you ever want to have a personal coach, please go to positively rebellious.com sign up for a free call, Thank you so much for listening.

I hope you have a wonderful week.