RelateWell with Dr. Rick Marks

Ever considred that surrendering could be a position of strength and not weakness? Surrendering is about checking our egos and staying in humility and know what I can and can not control. Surrender results in mature connections with God, Self and Others.

Did you know that your ability to love others maturely is linked to your ability to love yourself? And that when we feel we do not have value, we matter or are loved or loveable, we sink into low self worth and self esteem. But what if God has declared us valuable, that we matter and that we are loved and loveable? What difference would it make to your life and relationships? Dr. Rick explains.

Dr. Rick talks about the powerful life of a humble person and the types of humility that research indicates. Do you live from humility or a prideful way of being?

We are all adept at negative thinking about ourselves and sadly, many preachers reinforce this negative mindset on the parishoners and congregations. Yet Psalm 139 tells us something different.

Ever noticed that something you said you wish you could take back or at least had said it some other way? When in conflict and frustration we make statements that do not lead to connection and understanding, but disconnection, hurt and misunderstanding. Dr. Rick identifies 41 statements people say in conflict (Do not Say This) and reveals a better way to say it (Say This Instead). Tune in.

Psalm 68 tells us that God puts the lonely in families. But what if your family was not a safe place. What if families are not safe for the lonely to find and experience true love? What if the church is not a place for healthy connection for the lonely to be placed in? Dr. Rick talks from his personal experience of the true meaning of the arabic word, "asabiya" and how this transformed his life and that of his family. Is your family a place of love and deep connection for God to place the lonely to find love and acceptance? To not be lonely anymore?

Humans were created for connection, intimate connection with God, Self and Others. Without these essential human biological needs being met (the need for bonding, connection, intimacy) we experience relational pain and move in to loneliness. And it is not good for mankind to be alone. I know! I grew up this way. Dr. Rick shares from a message he presented at Wellspring Church in Hartford, WI on the need for community, the essentialness of family, and that family is not necessarily one's bloodline or by marriage. Using the araba word "asabiya" Dr. Rick explores a broader meaning of family and is essential for the church to understand.

Immaturity is rampant today in our society. We have trainings on emotional intelligence, etc.  This is all langauge for immaturity.  Emotional immaturity to be specific.  And I used to be an emotional child and dealt with issues in childish ways in my early years as a chronological adult.  What did I do to resolve this issue?  My value system I live by now for almost 25 years and continues today.  It is my way of being!  What is it?  I call it H=REG.  Tune in.  Take notes.  Transform your personal life and your relationships.  It is a guarantee.

Immaturity is rampant today in our society. We have trainings on emotional intelligence, etc.  This is all langauge for immaturity.  Emotional immaturity to be specific.  And I used to be an emotional child and dealt with issues in childish ways in my early years as a chronological adult.  What did I do to resolve this issue?  My value system I live by now for almost 25 years and continues today.  It is my way of being!  What is it?  I call it H=REG.  Tune in.  Take notes.  Transform your personal life and your relationships.  It is a guarantee.

I think the Righteous Brothers were right: you've lost that loving feeling.  Many today teach that love is not an emotion, but rather a choice or a decision.  Dr. Rick argues that love is an emotion and must be understood and embraced as an emotion in order to have deep, intimate and healthy connections.  And this does not apply to romanctic relationships only, but to all relationships.