On the Couch with Stace!

What is my attachment style?  Why does it matter?  Evidence shows that people end up in relationships with partners who confirm their existing beliefs about attachment relationships, so we are essentially recreating the same relationships dynamics we had with our caregivers/parents even if that dynamic was unhealthy. This month  guest speaker Lucien S. joins me in talking about relationship attachment styles and how they affect our relationships currently. Lucien is a graduate student currently pursuing his masters degree in social work has been in the field of psychology/social work for some time now.  Take a listen and thanks for going me for another episode. Below you can find links to resources such as books and websites to continue to learn more about attachment styles.  Resources Books 1. Attached: The new Science of Adult Attachment and How it can Help you Find and Keep Love    By Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller  2. The Game of Desire    By Shan Boodram Websites https://dianepooleheller.com/  Contact [email protected] --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I have truly come to believe that we experience life as an adult from our unhealed wounds. But reacting to everything becomes exhausting and at some point we have to take inventory of ourselves and take responsibility for what we are doing to ourselves and others presently. As we enter a new year and end a decade it's time to do the work to be healthy.

Tips: (how do I begin my year of healing)

1. Acknowledge the hurt/wound/trauma
   
2. Forgiveness is for you not for them
   
3. Closure is not always given, now what?
   
4. Time heals all wounds: not true!
   

--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app