Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy

FORGIVENESS! It sounds right. Sounds good.

But, what does it really mean to forgive someone?

On Emotional Savvy, I'm often talking about those relentlessly difficult, toxic people that I call #Hijackals®. #Narcissists are #Hijackals, and they will do all they can to have power over you in every way, and exert control wherever they can. My guest, Terri Levine, has encountered them, and she talks about the terror.

You may have experienced the terror of being in relationship with a narcissist. Today's episode will really help you.

Would you like to be able to forgive?

Why is it important to you to forgive a toxic person?

As Terri Levine and I talk about her experiences, you may well see your experiences reflected there. As she wrote,

"Every human being is connected to us through our DNA."

How does this affect our interest in, and our ability to forgive?

Listen in and see what this brings up for you.

>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• Is there such a thing as "untrue forgiveness?"
• What makes the different from true forgiveness?
• Why does Terri Levine think it is important to forgive toxic people?
• Is there any reason to embrace toxic people?
• What does Terri Levine think the steps to forgiveness are?
• What does our DNA have to do with it?

GUEST: DR. TERRI LEVINE

Terri Levine (SAY Luh-VEEN) is the founder of Heart-repreneur® and is a business and executive coaching expert. She assists businesses worldwide with business growth, sales, and marketing. She has more than 40 years of business experience, encompassing work with more than 5,000 business owners and entrepreneurs in a variety of industries. She is also a best-selling author of dozens of titles, has her own radio and TV show and is also a keynote speaker.

Terri has a passion for helping businesses to grow with her own personal experience gained while building multiple successful businesses from the ground up. Terri has created the Heart-repreneur® cause teaching business owners to do business heart-to-heart.

Her latest book is her autobiography which teaches her process of forgiveness that has healed her and hundreds of others.

FREE GIFT FROM TERRI LEVINE:

Visit AboutToBreakBook.com

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. TERRI LEVINE:

Website: Heartrepreneur.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @TerriLevine

Facebook: @HeartrepreneurTerriLevine

Instagram: @MentorTerri

Twitter:  @MentorTerri

YouTube: 

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

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You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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HUGGING? Love it? Hate it? Only for really close people? Hug everybody?

Big questions! Hugging has had a renaissance in the last twenty years, and has even found its way into corporate culture. Should it be there? Is it appropriate?

I know people have some strong feelings about hugging. How about you?

This conversation with Dr. Stone covers all the bases of hugging how's, why's, and why not's.

According to Healthline.com :

"Hugs may boost your heart health.

Hugging can be good for your heart health. In one study, scientists split a group of about 200 adults into two groups:

• One group had romantic partners hold hands for 10 minutes followed by a 20-second hug with each other.
• The other group had romantic partners who sat in silence for 10 minutes and 20 seconds.

People in the first group showed greater reductions in blood pressure levels and heart rate than the second group.

According to these findings, an affectionate relationship may be good for your heart health."

What does hugging do for you?

Well, aside from the "feel good" aspects of it, Dr. Stone says great benefits are that it brings acceptance and connection. He tells us how a 20 second hug can actually do good--measurably good--things for our health.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• Why have we replaced the handshake with the hug so often?
• Do we need permission to hug?
• Should others ask before hugging us if they are not very close to us?
• Why would you not hug?
• What the heck are "cuddle parties?"
• How can a person use hugging if they are not with other humans at the moment?
• Hugging in the workplace???

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

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GUEST: DR. STONE KRAUSHAAR

Dr. Stone is a psychologist and therapeutic coach completely taken by the power of hugs and the difference they can make for each of us individually and in the world. AKA the The Hug Doctor, he passionately professes there really are no strangers - we all share a profound connection.

The Hug Doctor wants nothing more than for each of us to live a life full of joyful hugging that includes hugging ourselves, hugging our families, hugging our friends and hugging the world. He is a staunch advocate for longer hugs and more meaningful and inspirational hugs. Some hugs are literal while others are metaphorical.

He says the hug is a brilliant tool for knocking down walls within ourselves as well as those that divide us from each other. You will catch him on 21-day hugging journeys and inspiring others about what we can create together in the ‘space of a hug.’

FREE GIFT FROM DR. STONE:

Not at this time, but he suggests you give away hugs!

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. STONE KRAUSHAAR:

Website: TheHugDoctor.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @DoctorKToday

Facebook: @DrStoneK

Instagram: @the_hugdoctor

Twitter:  @DrKToday

YouTube: 

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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We are grateful for a woman's service in the military.

We need to consider the issues a woman faces when leaving the military, and re-entering civilian life.

Those of us who have not served need to understand these issues because we can help.

I asked my guest, Ariel Shivers-McGrew, what the greatest benefit she received from being a woman in the military. Her answers may surprise you! And, they were positive! Now, she helps women understand and solve the issues of re-entry into civilian life.

Re-entry can be difficult:

• Finding work.
• Re-establishing family life.
• Substance abuse after leaving.
• Finding a mentor to help with the transition.

A year ago, I found myself with bags of clothing to give away, clothing that reflected years on stage as a speaker. When I looked for a place to donate it, I was delighted to find that, on that very day, there was a clothing drive for women leaving the military and entering the civilian work force.

I hadn't thought about that need before. Have you?

Even though I haven't served myself, I saw that there were community needs for these women that I was unaware of. Today's guest draws

attention to the unique needs of women leaving the military.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• How do women in the military have to segment their lives?
• What is the most common career trajectory for a woman leaving the military?
• Why is this topic of issues facing women leaving the military so important at this time?
• What are the pitfalls and landmines that military women face when leaving?
• What about culture shock?
• What issues do military women face when coming home?
• How do military women find civilian jobs after their service?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

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GUEST: ARIEL SHIVERS-MCGREW

A careerist in the United States Army Reserves, an EOL (Equal Opportunity Liaison), a DARN (duty appointed reenlistment NCO), ASISTer (applied suicide intervention skills trained), primarily responsible for the analysis, development and distribution of intelligence used for information and psychological effect.

I’ve authored two young adult fictions, managed to find myself a lead contributor for a women veteran’s network in an online magazine and recently presented a proposal on Incivility in the workplace and career counselor preparedness in the 21st century as a PhD student.

I’m a former SFL-TAP (transition assistance program) Counselor. I’ve taught women veterans how to start their own business across the Chicagoland area as the Director, Women Vetrepreneurship while simultaneously serving as the Associate Director, Veterans Programs for the Veterans Business Outreach Center at the Women’s Business Development Center for a three-state region (WI, MN, IL).

FREE GIFT FROM ARIEL:

Career Genogram

You can find it by visiting her website.

CONTACT INFO FOR ARIEL SHIVERS-MCGREW:

Website: TactfulDisruption.co

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @ArielShiversMcGrew

Facebook: @LLCTactful

Instagram: @LLITactful

Twitter:  @LLCTactful

YouTube: 

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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Were you brought up with the underlying understanding that, if you were a good person, everyone would like you? Most folks are.

So, you do your level best--even once you're an adult--to be pleasant, agreeable, and interesting so that will happen.

Sometimes, you go the extra mile in hope, right?

And, after you turn yourself into a pretzel, they still withhold approval and interest.

So, today's topic will relieve you of the notion that you are supposed to jump all the hoops that each person sets up, and find a way to get them to like you.

I know, as an adult, you might be able to say "I don't care whether people like me or not."

But, is it the truth that you actually--deep down--FEEL that way?

If so, you may be free of these expectations. If it's not true yet--or, you'd like it to be more true, today's episode offers valuable insights that can help!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• What helped you step around fear and create an international organization?
• Were you afraid of what folks would think, or say?
• How did your past promote or prevent you from doing this easily?
• Why do we focus on others so much, and on what they think?
• How did you get over the "Everyone Has to Like Me" issue?
• Why do you need to filter some people out of your life?
• What are your special "rules" for deciding who to keep in your life and how?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

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GUEST: TONYA HOFMANN

-CEO & Founder of the Public Speakers Association & Wowdible

-Globally Sought-After Speaker

-Cover of 5 Magazines

-Best Selling Author of 7 International Books

-Winner of Multiple National and International Industry and Association Awards

-Host of Tonya Hofmann’s Wow TV Show

FREE GIFT FROM TONYA HOFMANN :

Want to chat with Tonya Hofmann, CEO of Public Speakers Association?

You can by visiting her website.

CONTACT INFO FOR TONYA HOFMANN:

Website: PublicSpeakersAssociation.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @TonyaHofmann

Facebook: @PublicSpeakersAssociation

Instagram: @Tonya_Hofmann

Twitter:  @DebiSilber

YouTube: @TonyaHofmann

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#PublicSpeakersAssociation #TonyaHofmann #wantpeopletolikeme #filterpeopleout

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED?

HAVE YOU EVER FULLY BEEN ABLE TO TRUST YOURSELF OR ANOTHER AGAIN?

This episode looks at different forms of betrayal, including infidelity.

Who typically betrays?

One of the questions I had for my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, was on the topic of parental betrayal. Often, a person doesn't want to think or believe that they were betrayed by their parents. Because of brain development, and culture, we want to--and often need to--believe that our parents had our best interests at heart. That's not always true. #Hijackal parents, for example, only have their own best interests in mind, and their children are simply pawns in the process. Betrayal is real!

What do you think, feel, or do when the person, or people, you trust most in the world are the one's who betray you? A big question we talk a lot about as we define 'betrayal."

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• Why do you numb yourself, or avoid or distract yourself, when things are going very wrong?
• What can you do to feel or face what really needs your attention?
• What is Post Betrayal Syndrome?
• What do you do to experience a Post Betrayal Transformation?
• What are the five stages you go through--or, can go through--from betrayal to breakthrough?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

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GUEST: DR. DEBI SILBER

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute in New York and https://pbtinstitute.com is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith and Jack Canfield.

Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Ladies Home Journal, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. Her doctoral study led to three discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal.

Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, Dr. Debi has created a proven multi pronged approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.

FREE GIFT FROM DR. DEBI SILBER :

Take the Quiz: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome?

TAKE IT HERE

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. DEBI SILBER:

Website: PBTInstitute.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @DebiSilber

Facebook: @InspireEmpowerTransform

Instagram: @DebiSilber

Twitter:  @DebiSilber

YouTube: @DebiSilber

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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Ever feel overwhelmed? That's all too common, right?

Does it seem to happen too often?

Life is busy. Expectations are high. You feel pushed and pulled by different needs of different people and roles in your life. STRESS!

Today, take a breather and listen in. With my guest, Brianna Wilkerson, a holistic health coach, we're giving you some great tips, strategies, insights, and next best steps to reduce stress, and detox life in all areas. Some ideas here are quick and easy. Others take time and consciousness. AND, they are all helpful.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

• Why do I say toxic things about myself?
• Why am I so hard on myself?
• Why am I not satisfied with my body?
• How can I focus more clearly on my health?
• What are the seven "must-haves" for a healthy body?
• What mindset shifts do I need to create a healthier life?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

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GUEST: BRIANNA WILKERSON

Brianna Wilkerson is the Founder/CEO of Made Well 345, LLC. She is a Holistic Health & Life Coach with a heart to see women learn what healthy living really means so they can overcome yo-yo dieting, honor their bodies and get a healthy body they love and are proud of.

She is also an Essential Oils Advocate for doTERRA Essential Oils and empowers women to use non-toxic, natural solutions like essential oils for their health and those they love. She is also a Crossfit Level 1 Trainer to further serve women who want to get fit in a way that's functional, fun, and effective.

FREE GIFT FROM BRIANNA WILKERSON :

7 Day Healthy Body Challenge:

Free 7 Day Challenge to learn how you can honor your body and get a healthy body you are proud of.

GET IT HERE.

CONTACT INFO FOR BRIANNA WILKERSON:

Website: MadeWell345.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @Brianna-Wilkerson

Facebook: @MadeWell345

Instagram: @MadeWell345

Twitter:  @MadeWell345

YouTube: @MadeWell345

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#BriannaWilkerson #holistichealthcoach #healthierbody #wanttofeelbetter #detoxmylife

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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Oh, a little--maybe, an understatement--controversy here! You'll want to weigh in in the comments, I'm betting.

Elliott Katz, today's guest, suggests that today's man is confused about his role in a relationship. Could be. What do you think? Of course, we talked about this at length.

When I read Katz' book, Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants, I had big reactions and equally big questions that I could hardly wait to ask him. My sense was that there is a subtext of taking charge in the relationship--and, not always in mutual ways. So, I asked about that. I wanted to know if he could embrace my idea that healthy relationships are built on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. Hmmmm....interesting conversation!

Katz says,

" Men today have heard a bewildering messages about being a man in a relationship and can't understand why these ideas aren't working and women are so frustrated with them. Elliott Katz shares insights about being a man that many men today weren't taught. Interestingly, women tell men, "These is what I have been trying to tell you all this time."

That sparked a big conversation for sure! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this episode. Join in and like my Facebook page and comment: https://www.facebook.com/Emotional-Savvy-The-Relationship-Help-Show-2309873335890968/?modal=admin_todo_tour

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What Elliott Katz means by a "strong man"
• A controversial view on decision-making for couples
• Difficulties men have to calibrate the difference between leading and controlling
• Katz' view on manipulation
• Threats are not suitable communication

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

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GUEST: ELLIOTT KATZ

Elliott Katz is the author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man that is helping men around the world improve their relationships. It has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. For men who can't understand why women are frustrated with them, he shows them what they need to do to gain a woman's love and respect and inspire her to be his partner.

FREE GIFT ELLIOTT KATZ :

Not at this time.

CONTACT INFO FOR ELLIOTT KATZ:

Website: ElliottKatz.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elliott.katz.9

Instagram:

Twitter:  

YouTube: 

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#ElliottKatz #strongmen #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations

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Is positive self-talk always positive?

is it effective?

Does positive self-talk have any downsides?

Can it always work?

Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work!

Dr. Reynolds says,

"Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled in a safe and suffocating world. Mustering the courage to say, "Yes!" in the face of fear is a great gift to give yourself."

(from her book, OutSmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel.

In today's episode, we talk about conversations with yourself and with others that demonstrate respect, and positive intentions. Why is that so important? Find out. Listen in.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What it means to "outsmart your brain"
• What is "The Discomfort Zone"?
• Why we often prefer a safe, suffocating world
• When and why positive self-talk is ineffective
• Three ways to mentally prepare for a difficult conversation
• What's Dr. Reynolds' AID model and how to use it

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

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GUEST: DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS

Dr. Marcia Reynolds, Master Certified Coach, is fascinated by the brain, especially what triggers feelings of connection, commitment, and possibility. She draws on her research as she helps people make their difficult conversations become a difference-making experience. She has provided executive coaching, leadership and personal development training programs, and keynote speaking in 41 countries.

This highly sought-after behavioral scientist is happily obsessed with uncovering the latest discoveries in neuro/behavioral research and putting them into practical applications. With a doctoral degree in Psychology, and two master’s degrees in Adult Learning and Communications, Marcia’s expertise ranges from holding powerful conversations to activating the emotions of passion and courage at work and at home. Dr. Reynolds is the Training Director for the Healthcare Coaching Institute at Virginia Tech.

She was the 5th global president of the International Coach Federation. She is also faculty for the International Coach Academy in Russia and Create China Coaching in China. She is recognized by the Global Gurus as the #3 coach in the world. Interviews and excerpts from Marcia’s books -- Outsmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel; The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations into Breakthrough; and Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction have appeared in many places including Psychology Today, Fast Company, Forbes.com, The Globe and Mail, and The Wall Street Journal.

When you face difficult conversations, Dr. Reynolds can help you flip defensiveness, create rapport, and connect in more meaningful ways. When she has the opportunity to be home, Marcia can often be found hiking the beautiful mountains in Arizona. You can learn more about Dr. Reynolds on her website, www.outsmartyourbrain.com

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ebook: From the Pits to the Peak: A new look at making life changes

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CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS

Website: OutsmartYourBrain.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @MarciaReynolds

Facebook: @OutsmartYourBrain

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Twitter:  @BMarciaReynolds

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MarciaReynolds

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Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Are you Co-Parenting with a slippery, toxic ex who tries to turn the children against you?

Today's guest, Coach Nikki Bruno, had that experience, and she fought back...successfully! I asked her about her experiences leading to her development of her 10-Step Plan to counter parental alienation, and she shared her story. You'll want to hear it!

Staying calm and carrying on after going through a difficult, toxic relationship followed usually by a difficult, toxic, drawn-out court battle is difficult! Many of my clients tell me that they were so exhausted during this all that they didn't know if they could get through it all. They did!

And, so did Nikki Bruno. Fortunately, she was simply not going to take parental alienation lying down. She stood up, moved forward, and took a pro-active stance against parental alienation from her ex. Her free gift to you below is her 10-Step plan.

Wondering about these search topics? Today's episode of #EmotionalSavvy will give you great insights:

• how to stop parental alienation
• parental alienation how to stop it
• parental alienation syndrome how to stop it
• steps to take against parental alienation

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why parental alienation is child abuse
• Why parental alienation is emotional abuse
• Why parental alienation is parental abuse
• Steps to take to confront parental alienation

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

___________________________________

GUEST: COACH NIKKI BRUNO

Nikki Bruno became a professional coach in 2016, after 15 years in the book-publishing industry. In her core coaching program, The Epic Comeback, she helps women build joyful lives after being sidelined by divorce, domestic abuse, illness, or loss. Nikki holds a bachelor’s degree in anthropology from Princeton University and a master’s degree from the Harvard School of Education. A single mom of two, Nikki loves scuba diving, international travel, and helping women rediscover how incredible they are. Nikki’s work has been featured in Best Self Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, Glassdoor, and several podcasts, among other media outlets.

FREE GIFT FROM COACH NIKKI BRUNO:

Download her COUNTERING PARENTAL ALIENATION IN TEN STEPS gift at https://bit.ly/2klfRO5

CONTACT INFO FOR COACH NIKKI BRUNO:

Website: CoachNikkiBruno.com

Podcasts:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikki.bruno2

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Twitter:  

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CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #parentalalienation #CoachNikkiBruno #stoppingparentalalienation #coparentingwithatoxicex #difficultcustodybattle #counteringparentalalienation

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Kids don't always grow out of things. They grow through things!

And, you need to be there to see it, understand it, and know what to do to help when things seem to be going sideways!

Today's guest, Dr. Brian Licuanan, and I talk about the difficulties in seeing problems kids want to hide from us, whether we're their parent, grandparent, teacher, or coach. It's very confusing to them because their brain development is not equipped to handle so much of it. Yet, they think they should be able to.

And, you as a parent, maybe think you should know what to do. You may, but if you're like most parents, you do not. You may have some ideas, but how do you get into the tough conversations with your kid?

Often, when you bring up a tough subject like your teen's emotional well-being, you are met with eye-rolling, and a quick escape from the room, right? Don't give up. Today we talk about ways to engage your kid in conversation and about tough things. It's not easy, and it takes perseverance.

You may need to get outside help for your family, too. Dr. Licuanan and I talk about this, and how to know when to reach out.

Today's episode may be just what you need to answer the questions:

"How do I bridge the gap between me and my teen?"

,"What do I need to know about talking with my teen so I can feel helpful rather than feeling helpless?"

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How to know the difference between enabling, condoning, and actually helping your teen
• Links between self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and substance abuse
• What impacts the incidence of eating disorders
• Why kids are not accessing mental health services...and, why they need to
• SIGNS parents need to read that their child might be struggling with addiction or mental health issues
• How parents can take the proper steps to get a child the help needed

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!

___________________________________

GUEST: DR. BRIAN LICUANAN

Dr. Brian Licuanan is an addiction and mental health specialist who serves as the primary therapist at premiere treatment centers, A Better Life Recovery and A Mission for Michael, treating clients with complex mental health disorders and their co-morbidities which often includes substance abuse disorders. Additionally, he successfully treats clients struggling with anxiety, depression, stress management, PTSD, ADHD, and a variety of other severe mood disorders. Furthermore, Dr. Licuanan integrates Solution-Focused, Positive Psychology/Strength-Based, and Motivational Therapies into his treatment planning with clients. Dr. Licuanan received his Ph.D and M.S from the University of Oklahoma and his M.A. from Pepperdine University.

Realizing over 80% of his clients experience sleep deficiency, exacerbating their medical and psychological conditions, he specializes in treating sleep problems through Cognitive Behavioral Treatment for Insomnia (CBT-I) which is known to cure insomnia and has proven to be a highly effective course of treatment for those wanting to stop using sleep medications.

Dr. Licuanan’s M.S in Industrial/Organizational Psychology–a specialized field of study dealing with workplace issues including leadership, work culture, motivation and job satisfaction, allows him to integrate this specialty into treatment for his clients struggling with career-related concerns. He also has helped coach various levels of executives and management on team-building and performance enhancement. Additionally, with his competition background in sports and as an active martial arts competitor, Dr. Licuanan has assisted numerous client athletes develop competitive mindsets, work through mental blocks, increase match readiness, and elevate their performance potentials. Personally, Dr. Licuanan is passionate about educating communities on mental health and addiction and volunteers as lead facilitator for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) specifically helping families in crisis strategize ways to get loved ones into treatment. Dr. Licuanan has been featured several times on the television talk show The Doctors and is asked to present regularly within the mental health community on addiction, ways to get highly acute clients into treatment, insomnia and sleep strategies.

FREE GIFT FROM DR. BRIAN LICUANAN :

Not at this time.

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRIAN LICUANAN:

Website: ABetterLifeRecovery.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: 

Facebook: @ABetterLifeRecovery

Instagram: @ABetterLifeRecovery

Twitter:  @BetterRecovery

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKQs4iIknPHsdypD6EdgfvQ

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: TransformingRelationship.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE 

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships

#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #helpfortroubledteens #troubledteens #teendepression #teenbullying #DrBrianLicuanan #teensmentalhealth #eatingdisorder #teensubstanceabuse

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