The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

Today on the podcast we are joined by a very special guest, none other than Alice Little from the Bunny Ranch and the Wing Woman Podcast. Alice is one of the most prominent sex workers in America and she is here to give our listeners expert advice and all round insider scoop on great sex and easy tips for increased pleasure and intimacy. In our discussion we cover Alice’s personal history and thoughts on sex work and perceptions around the subject. From there we cover dirty talk, orgasms, oral sex, BDSM and a lot more. Alice also gives some practical advice for body positivity and managing a partner of a different height in the bedroom. For all this amazing information and more from a truly wonderful ambassador for better sex, join us for today’s episode!

Show Highlights

• How Alice found herself at The Bunny Ranch.
• Why do people visit sex workers?
• Some of the common misconceptions around sex work.
• Alice’s advice for those listeners wanting to work on their dirty talk. 
• Closing the orgasm gap and finding ways to share pleasure.
• Alice’s advice to listener’s wanting to improve their fellatio skills.
• The reciprocal advice for cunnilingus.
• How to go about getting more acquainted with BDSM and sensation play.
• Use of safe words and aftercare and why they are so important.
• Clearly defining the BDSM acronym.
• Some of Alice’s tips for overcoming height difference between partners. 
• Getting over self doubt and getting on top of your partner.
• And much more!

Tweetables

“I believe so strongly in the good that legal sex workers can do for society and I believe so much so that it’s the perfect job for me that I plan to continue to do so.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:05:27.3]

“If you can’t talk about sex and intimacy outside of the bedroom, you’re never going to get to the point where you can express yourself openly and comfortably while actually in the bedroom.” —   @TheAliceLittle [0:06:51.9]

“It’s the biggest sexual mistake that America is making right now, we’re failing to ask what our partner actually likes.” — @TheAliceLittle [0:10:26.9]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Alice Little — https://thealicelittle.com

Wing Woman Podcast — https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/wing-woman-podcast/id1434992925

Alice Little Twitter — https://twitter.com/TheAliceLittle

Alice Little Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/thealicelittleofficial/

Moonlite Bunny Ranch — https://www.bunnyranch.com

Alice Little Email — [email protected]

Dennis Hof — https://www.dennishof.com/about-dennis/

Ron Jeremy — https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000465/

Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy — https://www.tandfonline.com/toc/usmt20/current

Sephora — https://www.sephora.com

Ulta — https://www.ulta.com

Kink —  https://www.kink.com

Kink University — https://www.kink.com/channel/kinkuniversity

Adam and Eve — https://www.adameve.com

Liberator — https://www.liberator.com

Pornhub — https://www.pornhub.com

Fleshlight — https://www.fleshlight.com

Jason Julius is a world renowned sex coach and female orgasm expert and his goal is to help as many men, women, and couples achieve the amazing sex lives they deserve. In this episode we are going to discuss everything a man can do to give his partner more intense and satisfying pleasure inside and outside the bedroom. We also dive into how to really get your female partner aroused by communicating with her throughout the day, and building on the fantasy for her ultimate sexual readiness. Jason is very candid and shares all his tips and advice on stimulating your female partner’s G-spot and A-spot, ways to encourage her to let go towards ejaculation, and the real culprits behind premature and delayed ejaculation for men. So if you’re listening and have a male partner, you may want to get him to listen to this episode too!

Key Points From This Episode

• Jason’s background and how he got to where he is today.
• Advice for getting your female partner aroused.
• Breaking down the arousal process for men and women.
• Understanding the concept of “sexy context”.
• What makes for good foreplay from a guy.
• The importance of quieting down your female partners’ mind.
• Simplicity and the general rules of dirty talk.
• Why it is critical to get to know yourself sexually.
• Advice for providing clitoral stimulation, manually and orally.
• How to find the G-spot, and why many people struggle to find it.
• Why using a lubricant is sometimes a must.
• Strategy for helping your partner achieve female ejaculation.
• The dangers of too much porn, and forming the wrong paths in your brain.
• And much more!

Tweetables

“I think that there’s a huge misunderstanding about female desire and how female desire actually works.” — @jasonjulius [0:05:37.1]

“For guys, we need to understand that we need to be constantly flirting with our woman to create the fantasy that she desires to get her mind engaged.” — @jasonjulius [0:09:10.1]

“The purpose of foreplay is to build up the fantasy.” — @jasonjulius [0:13:35.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Jason’s Squirting Tutorial Video - http://www.orgasmarts.com/

Jason Julius — https://www.jasonjulius.com/

Jason’s website — http://www.orgasmarts.com/

Jason on Twitter — https://twitter.com/jasonjulius

Jason on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnJ25wY59ezVT3CXFunkuQQ

Come As You Are — https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

Today on the podcast we welcome Poly Anna from the Sexploration with Poly Anna Podcast! In this episode we will be chatting about all things polyamory and getting Poly Anna’s personal and professional ideas, experiences and views on the subject. After a more traditional upbringing and early parts of her adult life, Poly Anna eventually found the strong desire for polyamory within herself and chose to pursue this urge. We get into the social aspects, catching feelings, intimacy and a host of other factors in this largely uncharted world of love. Poly Anna also gives us some great definitions and differentiations between various forms of ethical non-monogamy as well as sharing some positive and negative experiences of her own, navigating multiple partners and relationships. It promises to be a great episode with loads of helpful and juicy information for all of you.

Key Points From This Episode

• Poly Anna’s own experiences and history with monogamy and polyamory.
• Social expectations of polyamory and taboo acts.
• How Poly Anna found her kinks and deeper desires.
• Defining polyamory more clearly.
• Some other versions of ethical non-monogamy.
• Catching feelings and managing these in multiple relationships.
• Is polyamory just an excuse to cheat without getting caught?
• The initial steps to take in exploring polyamory.
• Reaching out for help, support and information regarding this.
• Maintaining intimacy with a primary partner.
• Some of Poly Anna’s own experiences in polyamorous relationships.
• Common stumbling blocks for different models of relationships.
• Lessons for monogamy from polyamory!
• Should everyone try polyamory?
• Communication and coming out as polyamorous.
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Poly Anna: https://sexplorationwithpo.wixsite.com/website

Poly Anna Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/instawithpolyanna/

Poly Anna Twitter: https://twitter.com/polyannatweets

Poly Anna Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/instawithpolyanna/

Poly Anna Email: [email protected]

Polyamory: Married and Dating — https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2227610/

On today’s show we welcome Dr. Saketh R. Guntupalli who is the Vice Chairman for Clinical Affairs and Quality in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of Colorado School of Medicine in Denver. He is also the author of the book Sex and Cancer: Intimacy, Romance, and Love after Diagnosis and Treatment, and in this episode we chat about exactly that. Dr Guntupalli gives us some background into what inspired him to write the book and then goes onto some great anecdotes and information on the ways that cancer can influence intimacy and sexual relationships.

He stresses the key points that partners should always remember in trying to combat these potentially negative effects as well as focusing on some of the beautiful and surprising situations that arise out of something as scary as a cancer diagnosis. For all this and much more, be sure to tune in!

Highlights

• The patient that inspired Dr. Guntupalli to research and write his book.
• A particular story from the book about reimagining intimate life.
• The connection between cancer, hair, breasts and sexuality.
• The gender disparity around anatomical procedures in medicine.
• A three-pronged approach to overcoming the sexual challenges of a cancer diagnosis.
• Some pointers for being a helpful partner to someone in treatment.
• The emotional repercussions that a cancer diagnosis can have on a relationship.
• And much more!

Tweetables

“So what I would suggest is not to think about sex as intercourse and orgasm. It is a platter of different things that you choose from.” — Saketh Guntupalli [0:19:53.9]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Sex and Cancer — https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Cancer-Intimacy-Diagnosis-Treatment/dp/1442275081

Saketh Guntupalli —  [email protected]

University of Colorado School of Medicine — http://www.ucdenver.edu/academics/colleges/medicalschool/Pages/somWelcome.aspx

Dammit Doll — https://dammitdolls.com/Home

On the show today we welcome Xanet Pailet, tantra educator, sex coach, and author of Living an Orgasmic Life.

Xanet is here tell us all about her work and how accessing your sexual blueprint and core erotic themes can guide you to a more fulfilling sex life and transform your whole world. We discuss Xanet’s own journey and the events in her life that led up to her current vocation before launching into some examples of the difficulties that people can have accessing and communicating their sexual needs.

We talk about lowered libido, sexless marriages, shame and how these relate to our early development and socialization.

Xanet gives great insight into simple ways to approach these sensitive subjects and shows just what a difference these measures can make.

We finish off the chat thinking about some pragmatic solutions to these issues and ways in which individuals and partners can make progress in this regard.

Highlights

• Some of Xanet’s personal and professional background.
• The experiences that contributed to her pursuing a career in sexual therapy.
• An anecdote showing the damage an unspoken desire can do to a relationship.
• Some of the reasons for sexless marriages and lowered libido.
• The issue of shame and socialization related to pleasure.
• An example of the crippling effects of shame on our bodies.
• Core Erotic Themes and our underlying sexual emotions.
• How to go about communicating sensitive needs or fantasies. 
• Using games or apps to start the process of communication.
• Redefining sexuality and finding ways around tricky needs.
• Explaining Attachment Theory and it’s different formulations.
• And much more!

Tweetables

“I think most women have never really had continuous great sex. I know that’s a big statement to make but I think it’s really true.” [0:08:35.9]

“And I think that is what people really need to understand and to realize is that they really need to look at sex in a much, much wider spectrum than what we currently talk about it as.” [0:27:21.6]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Xanet Pailet — https://www.ecstaticliving.com/teachers/xanet-pailet

Power of Pleasure — https://powerofpleasure.com/

Living an Orgasmic Life — https://www.amazon.com/Living-Orgasmic-Life-Yourself-Pleasure-ebook/dp/B07BWKTWVT/

OkCupid — https://www.okcupid.com/

Jack Morin — https://www.linkedin.com/in/jack-morin-ph-d-0824851a

The Erotic Mind — https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Mind-Unlocking-Sources-Fulfillment-ebook/dp/B009YJYEKK

MojoUpgrade — http://mojoupgrade.com/

John Bowlby — https://www.verywellmind.com/john-bowlby-biography-1907-1990-2795514

Welcome back to another episode of the Bad Girls Bible Podcast. Today on the show we are talking to Vikki Ziegler, a practicing attorney of matrimonial law and civil litigation.

Vikki is also a television personality known for her commentaries on high-profile cases, an active volunteer for women’s and children’s charities, and the innovator of a unique and realistic approach to “divorce management.”

In her career, Vikki brings together her insights as a divorce attorney along with her childhood experience of her own parents’ divorce, and years of careful listening to clients and friends to give pragmatic advice to those currently going through divorce.

Vikki’s approach seeks to de-stigmatize divorce by allowing its empowering aspects to triumph and her concrete pre-marital tips help couples avoid the pitfalls that can lead to divorce. In today’s episode we are going to talk about the strategies you can use to keep your relationship solid and prevent divorce in the first place.

For an incredible conversation with advice you can implement in your own life today, don’t miss out on this episode!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Vikki’s childhood and how it shaped her life to becoming an attorney.
• The most unique divorce case that Vikki has had.
• Why divorce can sometimes be a good outcome from a bad situation.
• The main reasons why people get divorced.
• Building a strong marital foundation; get emotionally and financially naked.
• Importance of vulnerability and communication for building trust in relationships.
• How childhood wounds shape your ability to be a partner.
• Advice for couples who are on the brink of a breakup or divorce.
• Why volunteer work and helping other people is key for those going through divorce.

Tweetables:

“I tell everybody, marriage is just like a job. Whatever you give in, you get back.” — @vikkiziegler [0:08:54.1]

“Things change and you have to have a strong marital foundation before you walk down the aisle in order to weather these storms.” — @vikkiziegler [0:10:43.8]

“If you're not happy, you can't make someone else happy.” — @vikkiziegler [0:15:44.8]

“99% of the time I recommend that everyone should have a prenup, because nobody knows what the future holds.” — @vikkiziegler [0:17:34.8]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Vikki Ziegler — http://www.vikkiziegler.com

Vikki on Twitter — https://twitter.com/vikkiziegler

Vikki on Instagram — http://instagram.com/Vikkiziegler

Vikki on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/vikki-s-ziegler-payne-1794988/

The Pre-Marital Planner — http://www.vikkiziegler.com/product/pre-marital-planner/

Today on the podcast we are joined by Dr. Holly Richmond, Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT).

Dr. Holly is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples, and gender diverse individuals for relationship and sexuality issues. She has been featured and quoted everywhere including Cosmo, CNN, Newsweek, Marie Claire, The New York Times, and more.

In the Sex Tech industry, Dr. Holly is also a sought after consultant and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health education and adult entertainment.

Her work through the Next-Sex platform is an exploration of the context of emerging technology and sexuality and how to positively address both.

Today, Dr. Holly is on the show to discuss sex tech and how it can help and sometimes hinder your sex life. She also shares the benefits of Teledildonics to improve your sexual experience and the advances of using sex dolls and sex bots in the practice of psychotherapy.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Dr. Holly’s background and how she got involved in sex tech.
• What is sex tech, and the role it plays in Dr. Holly’s work as a somatic psychologist.
• The positive roles sex tech can play in someone’s sex life.
• How virtual reality can help to encourage people to experience healthy eroticism.
• Defining Teledildonics; Bluetooth connected sex toys.
• Why deepfakes can either be really great, or really dangerous.
• The difference between a sex doll and a sex bot; are they a good influence?
• The role of sex dolls and sex bots in psychotherapy.

Tweetables:

“Through my sex positive view, all sex is good sex as long as it’s consensual and pleasurable. I don’t get to make the choice about how much is too much. Every client does.” — @DrHollyRichmond [0:05:24.1]

“Virtual reality is almost a direct line to feeling and not thinking, experiencing instead of watching. It’s this embodied technology where we can become anything.” — @DrHollyRichmond [0:08:37.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Holly Richmond — http://drhollyrichmond.com/

Dr. Holly Richmond on Twitter — https://twitter.com/DrHollyRichmond

Next-Sex platform — http://next-sex.com/

Naughty America — https://www.naughtyamerica.com/

Fleshlight — https://www.fleshlight.com

Kiiroo — https://www.kiiroo.com/

Ella Paradis — https://www.ellaparadis.com/

Lioness — https://lioness.io/

Our Lovely Toys — https://ourlovely.com/

RealDoll — https://www.realdoll.com/

Synthetic Surrogates — https://syntheticsurrogates.com

In this episode we welcome Eyal Matsliah, author, sex therapist and business coach.

Eyal takes a tantric approach to helping his clients overcome trauma, achieve multiple orgasms and take this energy into the rest of their lives.

We chat about the importance of conscious sex and how it can permeate through people’s intimate and public lives, inspiring creativity and success as well as bringing previously unimaginable heights of pleasure.

The conversation also covers sexual repression, early ejaculation, and achieving the sometimes illusive orgasm. Eyal has plenty of helpful instructions from his book and website to share as a taste of what he offers.

Finally, Eyal explains the idea of slow sex and how our attitudes towards sexuality can maximize our enjoyment and benefit.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Eyal’s background and how he came to his current position.
• What Eyal understands by the term ‘conscious sex’.
• The yoni massage and the healing that it can entail for both parties.
• Prevalence of sexual repression and freeing ourselves from these shackles.
• Harnessing energy through tantra and using it for your life.
• Help for those who struggle to have any type of orgasm.
• A guide to a helpful and exploratory self pleasuring practice.
• A remedy for men with a lack of longevity in bed.
• How to help your partner along the path to better sex in the right way.
• Slow sex and getting away from the fast paced fiction of porn.
• The different attitudes we can foster towards these goals.
• Direct and indirect pleasure and considering giving and taking.
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Intimate Power — http://www.intimatepower.com/

Intimate Power on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/intimatepower/?hl=en

Eyal on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/eyalnow1

Eyal on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/eyalnow/?hl=en

Eyal Matsliah Twitter — https://twitter.com/eyalnow?lang=en

Orgasm Unleashed — https://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Unleashed-guide-pleasure-healing/dp/0994414919

Layla Martin — https://www.layla-martin.com/laylahome/

Are We Sexually Repressed and Don’t Know It — http://www.intimatepower.com/are-we-sexually-repressed-and-dont-know-it/

Huffington Post — https://www.huffingtonpost.com

Napoleon Hill — http://www.naphill.org/

Think and Grow Rich — https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Napoleon-Hill-ebook/dp/B01BT0ISHQ

Tim Ferriss — https://tim.blog/

Bulletproof Coffee — https://blog.bulletproof.com/

Start with Why — https://startwithwhy.com/

On the show today we are joined by Jamie Elizabeth Thompson who is a sex coach and intimacy expert, helping couples achieve a more fulfilling and connected sexuality and increased libido through erotic intelligence and somatic movement.

Jamie has designed a number of online courses for her clients to access their desire more successfully, with an emphasis on communication and self-awareness.

In our conversation Jamie lays out the useful concepts of her work and how they fit together to support the purpose of owning our sexuality and relating this to someone else.

We also talk about simple starting techniques in battling low libido, embodiment, foreplay, a sexual calendar and Jamie’s own Erotic Menu™. 

We finish off with some thoughts on how to share your own desires with a partner and how much this can benefit all areas on one’s life.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Jamie’s background work in relationships and how she ended up working with couples.
• Somatic movement reprogramming and body awareness.
• Understanding the concept of erotic intelligence.
• The key to erotic intelligence and the first steps to take on a path to increasing yours.
• Jamie’s advice to those struggling with low libido.
• Turning the body on and using embodiment to get out of your head.
• The importance of foreplay and navigating different needs.
• Sexy scheduling and making time for intimacy in a busy life.
• Jamie’s Erotic Menu™ and how it outlines different ways we give and receive.
• Creating our own ‘training manual’ and sharing it with a partner.
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson — https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth

The Erotic Menu™ — https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/eroticevolution/

Dr. Esther Perel — https://www.estherperel.com/

The 5 Love Languages — https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Today on the podcast we welcome Megan Riley. Megan is a sexual empowerment coach, trainer, psychic, and the host of The Woman’s Guide to Living Your Orgasmic Life Podcast.

Throughout her career, Megan has worked with more than 19,000 men and women over a period of 14 years to heal the past and create more love, abundance, freedom, peace, and joy in all aspects of their lives.

She believes that everything happens for a reason, and in today’s episode, Megan opens up about her story of dealing with alcohol addiction and how her experience with a Yoni egg completely turned her life around.

We dive into the benefits of the Yoni egg crystal, how it works with a woman’s body, and Megan shares her advice and practices for first-time users.

Finally, we hear from Megan about how to better communicate with your partner to close the “orgasm gap” between men and women, and why she believes the prostate to be the “God Spot” for men.

Highlights

• Megan’s story and how she became a sexual empowerment coach.
• What is a Yoni egg, and how does it work?
• Advice for first-time Yoni egg users; what are the first steps?
• How to communicate better to bridge the orgasm gap between partners.
• Why the prostate is the God spot for men AND how to pleasure it.
• Understanding how to approach the subject of giving a prostate massage.
• The step-by-step guide to prostate massage.

Links Mentioned

Megan Riley — http://meganmriley.com/

The Woman’s Guide to Living Your Orgasmic Life Podcast — http://meganmriley.com/pages/podcast

Work with Megan — http://meganmriley.com/pages/services

Megan on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/Megan.M.Riley0/