The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

Today we are joined by Nadja Eriksson who is here to tell us about her work in coaching women to experience a more fulfilled sexuality and the seven types of tantric orgasms.

Nadja hosts her own podcast called The School of Feminine Pleasure with her colleague and friend Ingunn Tennbakk.

The two have also recently completed a book about tantra and enlightened spiritual pleasure, which is due out next year. In our conversation Nadja unpacks her understanding of the term ‘tantra’ and its applicability to all.

She then lays out the seven different type of female orgasms and also spends time discussing the roadblocks that women can experience in achieving pleasure.

This episode ends with some thoughts on healthy practices for couples to have meaningful and interesting sex even as your relationship matures & potentially becomes boring.

Key Points From This Episode:

• We start with Nadja’s background and the path to her current work.
• The book she has been writing for the last two years.
• Nadja’s understanding of the term tantra and who can practice it.
• Differentiating the seven different tantric orgasms for women.
• Common roadblocks to female orgasm and stored tension in the body.
• Exercises and practices to release tension and trauma.
• Nadja’s advice to couples wanting to maintain an exciting sex life.
• The importance of vulnerability and honesty in maintaining a connection. 
• And much more!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Nadja Eriksson — https://www.nadjaeriksson.com - go here to download the first four chapters of her book.

To inquire about working with Nadja, contact her through her website or on Facebook. 

Public FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1080654912093085/

Women only FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/438089836574954/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/school_of_feminine_pleasure

Nadja Eriksson on Twitter — https://twitter.com/Nadja_Eriksson

The School of Feminine Pleasure — https://www.theschooloffemininepleasure.com/

The School of Feminine Pleasure Podcast — https://soundcloud.com/schooloffemininepleasure

David Berceli — https://traumaprevention.com/

The Revolutionary Trauma Release Process — https://www.amazon.com/Revolutionary-Trauma-Release-Process-Transcend/dp/1897238401

Learn 22 powerful foreplay tips that will make sex much more intense and enjoyable in today's episode. You'll discover how to turn your man on and have him begging you for more.

Show Highlights

1.40 - Tip 1 - Why mental foreplay is key and how to use it to your advantage.

3.45 - Tip 2 - Why how you look matters and what to do about it.

5.20 - Tip 3 - The secret to perfect foreplay.

6.45 - Tip 4 - Foreplay at the bar. Seriously.

8.00 - Tip 5 - Pinching, grabbing, groping and touching your man the right way.

10.10 - Tip 6 - How to take your foreplay into the shower.

11.30 - Tip 7 - How to kiss your man with passion.

13.05 - Tip 8 - A simple way to massage your man using just 3 massage techniques.

15.25 - Tip 9 - Why you should put on a show for your man.

17.25 - Tip 10 - Foreplay that shows your man what you enjoy.

18.36 - Tip 11 - How to smoothly move from kissing your man to giving him a blow job.

19.35 - Tip 12 - A really fun game with your vibrator.

20.20 - Tip 13 - How Dominance & Submission (D&S) can help your foreplay game.

22.20 - Tip 14 - Why Play fighting is key.

24.00 - Tip 15 - The Hot & Cold game.

25.15 - Tip 16 - Why sex dice may be right for you and your man.

27.15 - Tip 17 - How to make a foreplay checklist (for both of you).

28.45 - Tip 18 - Using "The Countdown" to supercharge the sexual tension.

29.50 - Tip 19 - Why porn can sometimes be a good thing for foreplay.

30.50 - Tip 20 - Driving stick & Licking his lolly pop.

32.05 - Tip 21 - V is for Variation. This is key.

33.10 - Tip 22 - Why communication is the key to great foreplay.

Show Notes

Throughout the episode, I also mention:

The Blow Job Bible: http://badgirlsbible.com/bible

The kissing section: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-kiss

How to give a great handjob: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-give-a-hand-job

This anal sex episode is quite in depth so you may want to listen to it more than once, BUT it has everything you need to know. You're going to learn the difference between having deeply satisfying anal sex that gives you full body orgasms.

Show Highlights

1.35 Tip 1 - The pros and cons of anal sex.

5.05 Tip 2 - An important question you must ask yourself before trying anal.

6.10 Tip 3 - Why communication is the bedrock of great anal sex.

7.05 Tip 4 - The 4 types of lube you can use and which one is the the best (by far).

9.45 Tip 5 - How to ensure pain-free pleasure.

14.05 Tip 6 - The best position to use for the first time you try anal.

16.50 Tip 7 - Which positions give you the most pleasure.

18.10 Tip 8 - 7 separate advanced anal sex techniques.

21.55 Tip 9 - The key to maximum pleasure during anal.

23.30 Tip 10 - The dangerous mistakes some women make during anal. Make sure to avoid these.

25.35 Tip 11 - Why giving each other feedback makes anal sex better and better each time you have it.

Show Notes

Learn 13 girl-on-top sex positions here. 

Learn 19 more anal sex positions here.

How to prepare yourself for anal sex

How to have anal sex

Want to learn how to talk dirty with confidence? Well, today I'm going to teach you exactly how to do it and what to say to him to turn him, build sexual tension, make sex incredible and most importantly to keep him obsessed with you.

1.00 - The 3 reasons why you need to talk dirty.

5.15 - Tip 1 - Why you need to start in the 'shallow end of the pool' when learning to talk dirty.

6.05 - Tip 2 - I explain why the bedroom is the best place to start talking dirty to your man.

6.40 - Tip 3 - Tailoring your dirty talk to your man's tastes.

8.15 - Tip 4 - Tailoring dirty talk to YOUR tastes.

9.30 - Tip 5 - Why some dirty talking phrases and techniques work better than others on your man.

11.10 - Tip 6 - The great talking dirty lie.

13.15 - Tip 7 - Why 'context' is key.

15.30 - Tip 8 - Why your voice tone is vital when talking dirty to your man.

17.55 - Tip 9 - How quickly you talk when talking dirty plays a major role in it's effectiveness. Discover when to talk fast and when to talk slow.

19.40 - Tip 10 - It's more than just the words and I explain why.

Learn more phrases at http://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-phrases

If you want a dirty talking masterclass, then you may want to check out the tutorial video I put together at

badgirlsbible.com/dirty

David Wygant joins me on the show today to dole out some tough love to listeners. His advice is top notch and he doesn't sugarcoat it. David is a relationship and dating coach who's been featured everywhere from Huffington Post to the New York Times.

Show Highlights

1.35 - How David became a dating and relationship coach thanks to Whole Foods.

5.00 - Why it's important to understand and know yourself if you want to meet a great partner.

7.40 - David's tough love advice for a woman who wants a loyal man & why trying to 'fix' a guy is usually a bad idea.

9.25 - Why dating multiple people works in the beginning of a relationship, but not as the relationship progresses.

10.30 - David gives a woman some hard-to-hear, but powerful advice on how to deal with an affair.

14.25 - David explains why some women enjoy getting dominated during sex.

16.50 - David gives some really harsh (but fair!) advice to a woman who is being cheated on.

22.20 - Why there is no magic pill when trying to fix your relationship troubles.

26.30 - Discover how to reignite the passion and spark in your relationship.

28.55 - What to do to get your sex life back on track after having kids.

31.20 - The solution to starfish syndrome.

33.25 - David talks about his podcast that's blowing up.

Show Notes
Listen to David's podcast at: davidwygant.com/podcast or at mdrc10.com
Get his podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/10-minute-daily-reality-check/id1213564830?mt=2
Visit his website here: davidwygant.com

David talks about the 5 love languages on the show. You can find out more about them here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by Elizabeth McGrath, author of The Couples' Kama Sutra. She explains the origins of Kama Sutra, how to break out of your sex routine, how to overcome sexual shame, gendered expectations and much, much more.

1.20 - Elizabeth explains emotion focused therapy and how she uses it to improve clients' sex lives.

4.55 - Learn what somatic coaching and therapy is and how it can help you and your sex life.

8.25 - Why getting the basics right when it comes to sex is more important than learning a million fancy sex techniques if you are serious about pleasure.

9.45 - Discover the origins of Kama Sutra and what it will teach you.

12.10 - Elizabeth explains how you and your man can break out of your routine.

19.05 - We discuss sexual shame and how to get over it so that sharing sexual fantasies with your man is easy.

23.00 - Elizabeth explains how 'gendered expectations' often leads to bad sex and how to avoid this happening to your relationship.

28.45 - What Elizabeth tells women who have never had an orgasm.

29.55 - Elizabeth runs through (step-by-step) an exercise you can do right now to connect more deeply to your body and orgasm more easily.

35.30 - Why the best sex is where you're not even thinking AND how to have it.

39.00 - Elizabeth explains what positions are best for more clitoral stimulation.

40.10 - Elizabeth describes the 'Sexy Back' position aka the Poles Apart position (http://badgirlsbible.com/poles-apart-sex-position) and why it's great for lots of manual clitoral stimulation.

43.45 - Elizabeth shows you everything you need to know about stimulating your G Spot.

Show Notes

Get In Touch With Elizabeth on her site: https://www.mcgrathsextherapy.com/
Get her book, The Couples' Kama Sutra on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Couples-Kama-Sutra-Deepening-Incredible/dp/1943451540/ref=sr_1_1
Email: [email protected]
https://www.instagram.com/mcgrathsextherapy/
http://www.facebook.com/mcgrathsextherapy

We also talk about a bunch of other positions detailed below:
http://badgirlsbible.com/launch-pad-sex-position
http://badgirlsbible.com/anvil-sex-position

This episode will teach you how to use vibrators and dildos to enhance your pleasure when masturbating and as orgasm 'assistant' during sex so that you experience the most powerful orgasms of your life.

Show Highlights - Vibrator Section

1.25 - How to make sure you choose the right vibrator for you.

5.20 - The key thing you must know so that you experience maximum pleasure with your vibrator.

6.40 - Vibrator foreplay. Learn why 'vibrator foreplay' can make your orgasms way more intense.

9.40 - A secret way to use your vibrator to stimulate your entire vagina at the same time WITHOUT your hands.

12.15 - Discover how to use more than just your vibrator to enhance your orgasms.

13.25 - How to use your vibrator to enhance sex with your man.

15.30 - Discover to enhance your blow job by using a vibrator.

16.45 - A DANGEROUS warning about vibrators.

Show Highlights - Dildo Section

18.50 - How to choose the right dildo for you.

21.55 - Rocking your dildo to stimulate the bottom of your vagina.

24.05 - Learn how to 'milk' your G Spot with your dildo for neighbor-waking, screaming orgasms.

27.10 - Discover how to have anal orgasms with your dildo.

27.40 - Double your pleasure! How to use your dildo for double penetration.

28.45 - How to use all the techniques in this episode during Skype sex.

33.50 - What to do after listening to this episode.

Show Notes

Check out the complete guide on using your vibrator here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-use-a-vibrator
Get step-by-step instructions on using your dildo here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-use-a-dildo
Learn about your A Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/a-spot
Learn about your G Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot
Missionary Position: http://badgirlsbible.com/missionary-sex-position
Coital Alignment Technique: http://badgirlsbible.com/coital-alignment-technique-sex-position
Spooning Position: http://badgirlsbible.com/spooning-sex-position
Doggy Style: http://badgirlsbible.com/doggy-style-sex-position

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Learn how to have intense clitoral & vaginal orgasms during sex with your man. You're going to learn the techniques, positions and tips you need to climax every time you have sex with your man. It's a lot easier than you think!

In this episode, you'll learn:

1.40 - The one thing you must do to have clitoral orgasms.

2.10 - The Grind - A super powerful & super simple clitoral stimulation technique.

3.00 - How your man can use circular motion on your clit during sex to stimulate all of your vagina.

3.40 - The Vulcan will give you huge amounts of pressure on your clit during any girl on top positions.

4.50 - Why a vibrating cock ring is a good idea if you need more clitoral stimulation.

7.10 - The sex positions that make it easy to orgasm during sex.

12.15 - Why vaginal orgasms can be easy for some women but hard for others.

13.05 - Discover your A Spot and learn how it can lead to vaginal AND full body orgasms.

15.25 - The easiest way to have your first vaginal orgasm.

16.30 - Why the angle of penetration and the depth of penetration is so important.

18.30 - Learn what rhythm & speed is required if you want to experience a vaginal orgasm.

19.40 - Size matters. I explain why.

Show Notes

Here are all the links I talk about during the episode

Sex Positions I mention
http://badgirlsbible.com/coital-alignment-technique-sex-position
http://badgirlsbible.com/missionary-sex-position
http://badgirlsbible.com/thigh-tide-sex-position
http://badgirlsbible.com/sliding-lady-sex-position
http://badgirlsbible.com/drill-sex-position
http://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions

Other Links
http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques
http://badgirlsbible.com/a-spot
http://badgirlsbible.com/episode-10-effortless-orgasms-use-techniques-orgasm-easily-powerfully-every-time

Learn how to squirt when masturbating alone AND during sex in today's episode. I'll explain how to squirt, why you may be having trouble squirting and I'll teach you techniques you or your man can use to have intense squirting orgasms.

Show Highlights

2.25 - Why you must understand your own anatomy if you want to squirt.

3.00 - Exactly how to find your G Spot and learn why your Skene's gland is so important.

4.25 - Discover the scientific reason why some women have trouble squirting.

6.00 - A very simple, but vital secret you must know if you want to squirt.

7.40 - Why some women feel like they need to pee when trying to squirt AND why this is completely natural.

8.50 - The Hook technique is the best technique for squirting orgasms. Learn how to perform it.

9.35 - The Push the Button technique.

10.10 - How you or your man can use the Come Hither technique to experience squirting for the first time.

11.00 - Discover why the Arm Shaker technique often leads to the MOST POWERFUL squirting orgasms you can experience.

11.55 - Using sex toys like vibrators and dildos to make yourself squirt - What you need to know.

12.45 - How to squirt during sex.

13.30 - Positions that will help you squirt during sex.

15.45 - I answer some of the most frequently asked questions to problems that women often encounter when learning how to squirt.

Show Notes
The squirting article I talk about repeatedly in the podcast: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-make-yourself-squirt

Other pages I mention:
http://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions
http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

This second episode in the five episode series focuses on all the different techniques you can use to masturbate and finger yourself. In total, you're going to learn 20 different techniques to pleasure yourself with. And keep in mind that you can also use a lot of these techniques during sex too!

You can see diagrams and demonstrations explaining each of these techniques in these three articles:
http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques
http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself
http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot

Show Highlights

1.35 Masturbation Tip 1 - Discover the very easy-to-perform Up & Down masturbation technique.

2.15 Tip 2 - Learn why the "Long, Slow Stroke" is perfect for teasing yourself and almost acts like masturbation foreplay.

3.10 Tip 3 - The deceptively pleasurable Side-to-Side stroking technique that you can also use during sex for added stimulation to push you over the edge.

4.35 Tip 4 - The MOST effective masturbation technique you can use.

5.10 Tip 5 - U Spot Orgasms. Discover how this secret area can unlock incredible pleasure. See a diagram here: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

6.35 Tip 6 - Loving your shower head. Discover why you can climax in a totally different way by using your shower head or a faucet.

8.05 Tip 7 - Using your clitoral hood. If your clitoris gets too sensitive, then you need to use this technique.

9.05 Tip 8 - How to easily expose more of your clit to experience more sensations. Perfect if your clit is NOT particularly sensitive. See a demonstration here: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

10.30 Tip 9 - Orgasmic Meditation. This technique requires your man and will give you a prolonged orgasm (up to 10 minutes!). See a demonstration here: http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques

12.50 Tip 10 - The Squeeze. A little known technique to 'jerk' yourself off.

14.25 Tip 11 - Why you should NEVER ignore your labia.

15.05 Tip 12 - Humping & Grinding. A great way to enjoy different and new sensations when masturbating.

17.05 Tip 13 - The Pearl Necklace. Yet another way to experience completely new physical sensations during masturbation.

19.20 Tip 14 - The basic technique to finger yourself. See it demonstrated here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself

21.50 Tip 15 - The exact movements your fingers should be making as your finger yourself. 3 techniques: stroke-stroke-stroke, pressing the 'magic' button, rubbing it. Demonstrations here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself

24.55 Tip 16 - G Spot Orgasms, learn exactly how to have them when masturbating. Learn more about your G Spot here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot

27.30 Tip 17 - The pressure pressing technique. This technique is designed for women who struggle to have G Spot orgasms. See it demonstrated here: http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself

28.45 Tip 18 - Fingering yourself from behind.

29.30 Tip 19 - Doubling your fun. A powerful way to reach orgasm easily requiring both hands.

30.10 Tip 20 - Anal fingering. This one is not for everyone, but it's super powerful.

Just a quick reminder. If you want to see demonstrations of these techniques, make sure to check out these three articles:

http://badgirlsbible.com/masturbation-techniques
http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-finger-yourself
http://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-find-your-g-spot