Set Yourself Free

Are you struggling to work through something that has hurt you? In this mini-episode, Carrie Veatch discusses how to use forgiveness as a tool to help heal. She begins by acknowledging what happened and feeling the emotions that came with it and how to forgive oneself. Remember, if the subject of forgiveness is too triggering, we always recommend talking to a professional. Carrie encourages listeners to do this work themselves.

[0:00-5:56] Tools and Tips To Move Forward

• Nervous system regulation and why it matters 
• How to use the tools that have been shared in this podcast
• Forgiveness as a tool to move forward

[5:56-9:30] The Most Important Work

• Retrain your thinking by using Byron Katie's four questions
• Shame is a common emotion experienced after making mistakes or falling short of expectations. 
• Free yourself from cycles of regret and shame by setting goals and practicing regularly.

[9:30-10:50] Closing Segment

Tweetable Quotes:

"Forgiveness is a tool to move through your stuff." - Carrie Veatch 

"The thing is that all of us have done things that we potentially wish we hadn't."- Carrie Veatch

Resources Mentioned: 

•  Bryon Katie’s Work

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast:  https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/setyourselffreecommunity

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Heavy workloads and tight deadlines are unavoidable in management. Who doesn't become overwhelmed or overworked from time to time? However, when constant work stress pushes you into the debilitating state known as burnout, it's a major problem that affects not only your own performance and well-being but also the performance and well-being of others. This is especially true during the past two years that we are in the middle of a pandemic. People were forced to juggle jobs, caregiving, and overwhelming stress and worry, and this number is likely to have escalated. 

The good news is, that we can recover from burnout!

This is what what we will talk about in today’s episode with our guest experts Christa Bevan, Renee Reese, and Lola Pickett who are entrepreneurs and coaches who help women further understand why nervous system regulation matters, how this impacts their lives, and how they can feel safe in their own bodies to earn, receive, and keep more profit in their online business. 

[00:01 – 10:16] Improve Your Emotional Well-Being Through Self-Acceptance 

• Renee shares her journey to recovering from trauma
• Renee’s advice to people who are in the same situations he was before
• The powerful benefit of journaling  
• Accepting yourself for having emotions

[10:32 – 34:04]  Create Real Change in Life: Address The Root Cause 

• Christa talks about getting to the root of unworthiness in order to release them from the body
• How to know if you’re struggling from the feeling of scarcity or worthiness
• How being unplugged keeps you connected
• Surround yourself with people who are on the level you want to be at
• Lola talks about the perspective shift and the benefit of facing your resistance
• How resetting the nerve can help us be present with ourselves
• Simple and easy hack to reset our nerves
• Celebrating the little moments as a form of gratitude

[34:17 - 37:56 ] Wrapping up!  

• Go back to some of the previous episodes to listen for any nuggets
• Connect with our guest experts on the links below
• Reach out to me if you need support

Resources Mentioned: 

Byron Katie

Marie Kondo

Jeff Bezos

Key Quotes:

“Alteration follows awareness.” - Christa Bevan

“Resistance is resonant because we don't resist what we don't need.”  - Lola Pickett

Christa: www.instagram.com/theradicalmothervillage

Renee:  https://www.instagram.com/thereneereese/

Lola: https://www.instagram.com/moonandmanifest/

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast:  https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB:

We are joined by our guest experts today to discuss emotional dysregulation, how this can be properly addressed, how to “feel” your feelings, and finding safety and confidence in your own body.

Dr. Lee Cordell, Shelby Lee, and Jen Underwood are entrepreneurs and coaches who help people understand and master nervous system regulation so that they can achieve their highest selves in their personal lives and in their businesses. In this episode, our three guests all share their experiences and actionable steps to rewire the brain and the body so we can receive more wealth. Let’s dive in! 

[01:25 – 14:37] The Danger of Disassociation Between Our Body and Brain

• Dr. Lee Cordell talks about how past painful learnings affect the present
• Defining the difference between feeling and emotion
• How to awaken your feelings
• Claiming your power on your body
• Connect with Dr. Lee

[14:42 – 23:50] When Self-Reliance Is Not Enough

• Dr. Shelby Lee on the impact of co-regulation
• Get a support system
• How to get the balance between self-reliance and being safe with people
• Dissecting the feeling of being uncomfortable

[23:57 – 34:33] Find Safety in the Full Range of Your Emotions

• Jen Underwood talks about the addictive cycle of always coming back to your wounds 
• Shifting the strategy
• Realizing you are not alone in your journey and what you’re feeling is normal
• The secret to nervous system regulation

[34:35 - 41:31 ] Wrapping up! 

• Consistent, sustainable growth is more impactful than massive jumps
• Check out our previous episodes!

Key Quotes:

“You are dysregulating yourself every time that you're not okay. Your system is going into a panic mode over that. And you can't be regulated and be internally critical of yourself.” - Jen Underwood

Connect with our guests! 

Jen https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix/

Lee https://www.facebook.com/institutefortrauma

Shelby https://www.instagram.com/fierceheart.shelbyleigh/

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast:  https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/setyourselffreecommunity

Come hang on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/setyourselffree.llc/ 

It’s easy to dwell with your negative emotions and deprive yourself of the possibility of complete healing and better quality of life. When taking this journey, we can’t do it alone. We need the support of the right people and the guidance of experts to shift our mindset and even our body.

Lola, Shelby, and Renee are entrepreneurs and coaches who help people understand and master nervous system regulation so that they can achieve their highest selves in their personal lives and in their businesses. In this episode, our three guests all share their experiences and actionable steps to rewire the brain and the body so we can receive more wealth. Let’s dive in! 

[00:01 – 10:42]   The Power of Co-Regulation 

• A quick introduction of Shelby to the show
• Shelby Lee on keeping an inner circle of support to expand and grow
• Connect with Shelby on the links below

[10:46 – 21:18]  The Key to Repattern: Take Charge of Your Body

• Lola Pickett shares how one could develop self-intimacy
• Fun question: who is in charge of your behaviors, your body, or your brain? 
• Create sustainable change by controlling your brain and body
• Breath awareness and practice as a way to bring the sensation to your system
• Breathing awareness and technique that helps be in contact with yourself
• Building a safe place through the sense of smell
• How the fight, flight, freeze and appease patterns show up in your body and in your behaviors

[21:27 – 29:57]  ]  Achieving Self-Development by Accepting Your Emotions (Even the Negative!)

• Renee talks about the importance of knowing yourself and starting small
• Your emotions (even negative) takes you to where you are today
• Her advice to people who are struggling to stay in the course

[30:06 - 36:07 ] Wrapping up! 

• Reparenting ourselves and living out childhood trauma
• Enjoy the journey to self-healing!

Key Quotes:

“Our desires are there for a reason. Because you have that desire, it means it's possible for you.” - Renee Reese 

Connect with our guests! 

Lola https://www.instagram.com/moonandmanifest/

Renee https://www.instagram.com/thereneereese/

Shelby https://www.instagram.com/fierceheart.shelbyleigh/

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast:  https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/setyourselffreecommunity

Come hang on Instagram:...

In this digital age where information is at the tips of your fingers, how do you deal with the overwhelming and leverage these to be in control of your body and take charge of your life? In this mini-episode, Carrie talks about nervous system regulation, how to feel safer in your body, how to practice the tools and the hacks and how to make it easier for you as you grow and scale your business. Let’s get right to it!

[00:01 – 09:30] Deepen Your Connection with Your Body

• How to feel safer in your body
• How to integrate information to figure out your own pattern
• Becoming the observer of your own self
• The addictive cycle of being on trauma response and how this can be managed
• Be honest with yourself (with guide questions)

[09:31 - 10:09 ] Wrapping up! 

• Create that safety in our bodies, connect with me!

Resources Mentioned: 

• Body Keeps the Score

Key Quotes:

“We can have all the information in the world. But if we're not learning how to integrate it into our own lives, it's really not useful.” - Carrie

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast:  https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/setyourselffreecommunity

Come hang on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/setyourselffree.llc/ 

We have been conditioned to live outside of ourselves and operate on autopilot. In this episode, our guest experts share with us their knowledge on how we can be at peace with our bodies and stop betraying them by diving right into some practices that you can try, some tools that you can explore, and some useful resources that you can read in your free time. 

Our guest experts Christa, Jen, and Dr. Lee are entrepreneurs and coaches who help people understand and master nervous system regulation so that they can achieve their highest selves in their personal lives and in their business. In this episode, our three guests do not hold back in sharing their expertise on how you can live in your body as your full selves. Listen in! 

[00:01 – 11:44] Regulating Our Nervous System is a Process

• Jen Underwood and teaching people to safely navigate through their emotions 
• Working on the truth and compassion continuum and learning to balance both 
• The buildup of emotions in our body and the thoughts in our head causes dysregulation
• Getting our nervous system regulated is a process and takes time 

[11:45 – 19:22] It’s Important to be Mindful of the Words You Say to Yourself

• Dr. Lee and helping people create a life that is really good to live 
• The importance of choosing the right language 
• It takes years and conscious effort to be kinder to yourself 

 [19:23 – 31:09] It’s About Living in Integration with our Bodies 

• Christa Bevan and her experience in helping women work with their body to release things and live their best lives
• Panic and anxiety attacks are signs of nervous system dysregulation 
• Learning to include her body in the process of healing
• Helping people to go from their stress responses feeling like stumbling blocks to realizing that they're superpowers

[31:10 - 34:44 ] Wrapping up! 

• Living in our bodies instead of betraying ourselves
• Don’t forget to take a breath! 
• Figure out what kind of support you need 
• Book your complimentary 30 minute call on my website! 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Body Keeps the Score
• Widen the Window
• How to Do the Work
• Call of the Wild

Key Quotes:

“Too far on the doing side is a flight, and too far on the being side often turns into a freeze response.” - Jen Underwood

“There's so much in how we speak, and in the words that we choose, and in what that language means.” - Dr. Lee

“When we are living our lives in a place of dysregulation, chronically for long periods of time, we often end up feeling betrayed by our body and by our body's stress responses.” - Christa Bevan

Connect with our guests! 

Jen https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix/

Lee https://www.facebook.com/institutefortrauma

Christa:

Personally, one of hardest work for me and my high achieving clients is rewiring the brain and body around receiving more wealth. We have been so conditioned around working so hard to be wealthy, but in reality, how many people do we know that work really, really hard and are still flat out broke? That is why I am so pumped to have our three guest experts share with us their knowledge about this in this episode because they will be diving in on how regulating our nervous system can actually help! 

Lola, Jen, and Dr. Lee are entrepreneurs and coaches who help people understand and master nervous system regulation so that they can achieve their highest selves in their personal lives and in their business. In this episode, our three guests all share about their experiences and actionable steps to rewire the brain and the body so we can receive more wealth. Let’s dive in! 

[00:01 – 11:24]  It’s About the Tiny Adjustments that Creates Big Changes 

• Lola Picket and our relationships with our nervous system 
• Keeping promises to ourselves and keeping boundaries as well 
• Tiny adjustments are necessary if we want to make big changes 
• The experiences you have to day are based on your choices last week, last month, or last year 
• Managing the expansion and contraction 
• The tendency for our nervous system to not feel 100% safe with the level that we achieved
• Some other protection patterns tend to get activated as well 
• Learning to ride the waves of our nervous system through a partnership and through resilience 

[11:25 – 24:48] Finding the Joy, Focusing on It, and Making it Your Constant

• Jen Underwood and teaching people to safely navigate through their emotions 
• Not all emotions are worth feeling 
• We are not at the mercy of our thoughts 
• Acknowledge that there down times, feel them, and then go back to having a good time
• Play, pleasure, and enjoyment of life regulates our nervous system
• Focusing on the joy in your life and being present 

 [24:49 – 41:45] Learning to Find the Tension and Giving Yourself Permission to Relax

• Dr. Lee and helping people create a life that is really good to live 
• Shifting the message and embracing change 
• Teaching the 10-second protocol
• A way to drop back into their bodies
• Feel their feelings
• Start to regulate the heart rate
• Feeling the tension and asking yourself where it’s coming from 
• Giving yourself to relax and be curious about what’s going on 

[41:46 - 45:26 ] Wrapping up! 

• Feeling safe in our bodies 
• Being willing to accept support
• Book your complimentary 30 minute call on my website! 

Key Quotes:

“Boundaries are a system of honoring yourself. That's really all that they are at the root. And it's more about, what do you need to say yes to yourself. And sometimes that means saying no to other things, sometimes it means saying no to your old ways of being or choices that you might make that are not in your best and highest good.” - Lola Picket 

“Find the joy and get into the joy.” - Jen Underwood

Connect with our guests! 

Jen https://www.instagram.com/the_emotional_dominatrix/

Lee

Dealing with the expansion and contraction of our bodies around income can sometimes be overwhelming and confusing. That is why I am so thrilled to have three guest experts join us in this episode to explain and help us understand these cycles and share with us how to best approach it when it happens. 

Christa Bevan, Shelby Leigh, and Renee Reese are entrepreneurs and coaches who help women further understand why nervous system regulation matters, how this impacts their lives, and how they can feel safe in their own bodies to earn, receive, and keep more profit in their online business. In this episode, our three guests all share about how the expansion and contraction in our bodies are normal and safe, and what we can do to manage it better.

[00:01 – 12:54] It’s About the Dynamic Partnership with Your Mind and Body

• Christa and her experience working with cycle breaker moms
• Going through the expansion and contraction cycle
• Expanding into a new reality
• Approaching things through a playful attitude and understanding
• Titrating changes in our body 
• Expansion and contraction goes hand in hand 
• Entrepreneurship takes a certain tenacity and grit 
• Learning to be comfortable with discomfort
• Importance of resting and listening to our bodies 
• Grant yourself permission to rest 

[12:55 – 23:13] Learning to Connect and Approach Your Body with Curiosity 

• Normalizing the expansion and contraction of our bodies with Renee 
• Expansion and contraction comes in seasons 
• Approaching your body with curiosity 
• Taking the time to work with yourself 

 [23:14 – 37:46] Understanding Our Bodies and Allowing the Process to be Easy 

• Shelby talks about helping people regulate their nervous systems
• Feeling safe with our bodies 
• Expanding and contracting is normal and safe 
• Understanding our bodies better 
• Allowing the practice to be easy 

Key Quotes:

“So much of your body is your subconscious mind. And so what we need to do is sort of incrementally start to open up our capacity to hold more. And when we do that there's more room for expansion, and there's more room for contraction, but you can't have one without the other.” - Christa Bevan

“All our bodies are just telling us stories all the time, our bodies are just giving us signals and just sharing something with us.” - Renee Reese

“This is normal. We expand, we contract, we expand, and contract.” - Shelby Leigh

Connect with our guests! 

Christa: www.instagram.com/theradicalmothervillage

Renee https://www.instagram.com/thereneereese/

Shelby https://www.instagram.com/fierceheart.shelbyleigh/

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast: https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/setyourselffreecommunity

Come hang on Instagram:...

If you’re curious about nervous system regulation and how it can help you, then you’ve come to the right place. In today’s episode, we have guest experts Lola Pickett, Shelby Lee, Jen Underwood, Renee Reese, Christa Bevan, and Dr. Lee Cordell share with us what this concept really means and how we can apply this in our personal and professional lives. We are peeling back the curtain to go in depth into why you should know about this and why it matters. Listen in! 

[00:01 – 7:18]  It’s About the Dynamic Partnership with Your Mind and Body

• Lola Pickett shares her background
• What is Nervous System Regulation?
• Everything goes through our nervous system
• Understanding your nervous system 
• Having a dynamic partnership with what’s going on in your body 
• Importance of having integrity with yourself 
• Setting boundaries with yourself 

[7:19 – 14:13] Learning to be in Connection and Present with Another 

• Shelby Lee introduced herself 
• Explaining Nervous System Regulation
• Being able to be present, connected, and curious 
• Being at home in our bodies and feeling supported
• Acknowledging that you are not alone 
• Being mindful of your resources 
• Supporting other through co-regulation 

 [14:14 – 20:14] Working with Our Mind to Regulate Our Body 

• Jen Underwood shares about her background 
• Working with people around leadership and business
• Helping people navigate their emotions
• Moving trauma out of our bodies
• Nervous system regulation as a state of calm and being centered
• How to go from disregulated to regulated
• Importance of bringing awareness to what is happening 

[20:15 – 25:31] Helping People See What’s Possible 

• Renee Reese returns to the podcast 
• Somatic Processing: learning to access our bodies and specific stories 
• Nervous System Regulation: getting your body to relax through this process
• Nervous System Maintenance: habits that you do on a daily basis

[25:31 – 29:45] It’s About Feeling Safe and Connected with Your Body 

• Christa Bevan talks about her expertise
• Working with our body to release things 
• It’s about feeling safe and connected with yourself and others
• Dealing with our stressors without being overwhelmed
• Becoming aware of our breath helps identify if you’re in disregulation 

[29:46 – 34:28] Moving Through Past Painful Experiences

• Dr. Lee Cordell introduces herself and her background 
• Helping people understand how past trauma affect their present situation 
• Creating a life that feels good to live in 
• Learning to connect our body to our mind 

Key Quotes:

“As with anything, it starts with you, and I love to tell people that the biggest violator of your boundaries isn't somebody else, it's you.” - Lola Pickett

“And so we have to remember, or even learn for the first time how to be in connection and present with another. So that we can start letting our systems regulate.” - Shelby Lee 

“As with any kind of trauma work or embodiment work, if we don't bring our minds in, we can't really regulate our bodies.” - Jen Underwood 

“Nervous system regulation is the idea of living your life from a home base of feeling calm and safe and able to connect with others and not feeling dysregulated.” - Christa Bevan 

Connect with our guests! 

Christa:...

I am so excited to finally break my podcast hiatus and share raw stories with you again. This season, I am so honored and thankful to have six experts on nervous system regulation, what in the world it is, why it matters, and how to learn to work with your brain and your body, so that you can feel really safe to earn more to keep more and to expand. Listen in! 

[00:01 – 02:45] Welcome to Another Season! 

• Quick update about me 
• What you can expect for this season
• Talking about nervous system regulation

[02:46 – 10:35] Let’s Talk About My Experience 

• How i have learned and grown 
• Desire to help people to live in this version of freedom 
• Having raw conversations and learning the tools 
• Being at peace and comfortable to be who I am 

Key Quotes

“My goal is always to help people to be in deep service.” - Carrie Veatch

“And I have had to heal, and grow, and forgive a million times, and re-decide over and over and over again of who I get to be and who I'm here to serve.” - Carrie Veatch 

Learn more about Carrie: https://setyourselffreellc.com/

Learn more about the podcast: https://setyourselffreellc.com/season-8-podcast-guests/

Join the free Set Yourself Free Community on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/setyourselffreecommunity

Come hang on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/setyourselffree.llc/ 

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