Stop People Pleasing
by Harriet MorrisThe Stop People Pleasing podcast is the entry visa to getting your life back. Required listening for every empath, highly sensitive person and people pleaser out there.
Copyright: Harriet Morris 2020
Episodes
#31: How Not To Be A Hyperreactive Mess
7m · PublishedToday is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing.
Today I reframe oversensitivity as hyperreactivity and explain why it is a much more useful and kind way to think about this issue.
Harriet Morris
info {at} theshiftinside.com
https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/
#30: The Escape Room
6m · PublishedThis is an empath's dilemma, set in an escape room. The question is: What would you do?
This is the first of a series of minisodes coming to you daily this week around the key skills needed to stop people pleasing.
Answer coming to you tomorrow!
Harriet Morris
https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/
Contact me: info (at) theshiftinside.com
#30: The Escape Room
6m · PublishedThis is an empath's dilemma, set in an escape room. The question is: What would you do?
This is the first of a series of minisodes coming to you daily this week around the key skills needed to stop people pleasing.
Answer coming to you tomorrow!
Harriet Morris
https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/
Contact me: info (at) theshiftinside.com
#29: Phantom Thread
26m · PublishedGo to https://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/ to do the quiz: Are you ready to stop people pleasing?
Today’s episode is a look at Paul Thomas Anderson’s 2017 film Phantom Thread through the lens of stopping people pleasing. WARNING: SPOILER ALERT!
I talk about the lessons, as well as the ANTI lessons for you. This will be an especially important episode if you have ever got caught up in a relationship where there was a power imbalance.
For example:
- How easy it is to fall under the spell of a brilliant wo/man
- What the 1950s setting is a metaphor of
- An alternative to having power over someone else
- The meaning of Alma and Cyril as lessons and anti lessons
- Where boundary setting comes into all this
For more info on coaching go to
https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/
Email me: info (at) theshiftinside dot com
#29: Phantom Thread
26m · PublishedGo to https://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/ to do the quiz: Are you ready to stop people pleasing?
Today’s episode is a look at Paul Thomas Anderson’s 2017 film Phantom Thread through the lens of stopping people pleasing. WARNING: SPOILER ALERT!
I talk about the lessons, as well as the ANTI lessons for you. This will be an especially important episode if you have ever got caught up in a relationship where there was a power imbalance.
For example:
- How easy it is to fall under the spell of a brilliant wo/man
- What the 1950s setting is a metaphor of
- An alternative to having power over someone else
- The meaning of Alma and Cyril as lessons and anti lessons
- Where boundary setting comes into all this
For more info on coaching go to
https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/
Email me: info (at) theshiftinside dot com
#27: Are You Ready To Stop People Pleasing?
12m · Publishedhttps://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/ is your Transformation Quiz to help you determine if you are actually ready to stop people pleasing.
FILM OF THE WEEK
…is The Hudsucker Proxy, a total joy of a film that will put a spring in your step.
Are You Ready To Stop People Pleasing?
Today I talk about the difference between wanting to stop people pleasing and actually being ready. I give you a thought-provoking question to give you some clarity here. Don’t forget to take the quiz here: https://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/
Next episode will be a spoiler-tastic review the film Phantom Thread. Here's the trailer:
https://youtu.be/xNsiQMeSvMk
You can watch it on Iplayer if you are in the UK.
#26: The Half Of It / Better Than You Think
11m · PublishedBetter than I think at WHAT, Harriet???
All will be revealed
There is still time to get access to the Boundary Setting 101 week videos - completely free
Watch masterclass 1 now: https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/
Film of The Week: The Half Of It, directed by Alice Wu.
3 reasons I love this film:
#1 It disrupts the rom-com cliches you will be used to
#2 Everyone is basically decent
#3 It pokes fun at narcissism
#25: The Hidden Upside of Overwhelm
16m · Publishedhttps://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ - yes it’s Boundary Setting 101 Week soon!
Today is a follow on from the last episode on overwhelm which you can listen to at
https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/24-how-to-stop-feeling-overwhelmed
The key to today’s teaching is to accept the invitation inherent in overwhelm.
I discuss what that could be.
QUOTE OF THE WEEK
Comes from The Language of Emotions by Karla Mclaren
MORE ABOUT BOUNDARY SETTING 101 WEEK
Q: WHAT IS IT?
A: Three free masterclasses to help you start setting empowering boundaries, even if you feel like you are no good at this skill. You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.
Q; WHAT’S IN THE MASTERCLASSES?
Masterclass 1 ~ Turn Down The Volume on Your Fear of Setting Boundaries
Discover why you are already better than you think at boundary setting, and learn all about your fear centre. Something akin to a blind and stubborn bouncer living inside your head, your fear centre is actually trying to protect you by resisting setting boundaries. By the end of this session, you will understand how you have more influence over this part of your mind than you think.
Masterclass 2 ~ Setting Your First Empowering Boundary
Learn what the crucial difference is between reactive and empowering boundary setting. In this liberating masterclass, I take all the pressure off this challenge in two important ways that allow you to step into your power.
Masterclass 3 ~ From Struggle To Adventure
How to reframe this skill so that it excites you instead of fills you with dread. Step two foot to the side of the nonsense your inner critic tells you as we uses two powerful and inspirational reframes that will make you want to stretch your comfort zone.
Q: HOW DO I ACCESS THE MASTERCLASSES?
Make sure you sign up https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/
You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.
#25: The Hidden Upside of Overwhelm
16m · Publishedhttps://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ - yes it’s Boundary Setting 101 Week soon!
Today is a follow on from the last episode on overwhelm which you can listen to at
https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/24-how-to-stop-feeling-overwhelmed
The key to today’s teaching is to accept the invitation inherent in overwhelm.
I discuss what that could be.
QUOTE OF THE WEEK
Comes from The Language of Emotions by Karla Mclaren
MORE ABOUT BOUNDARY SETTING 101 WEEK
Q: WHAT IS IT?
A: Three free masterclasses to help you start setting empowering boundaries, even if you feel like you are no good at this skill. You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.
Q; WHAT’S IN THE MASTERCLASSES?
Masterclass 1 ~ Turn Down The Volume on Your Fear of Setting Boundaries
Discover why you are already better than you think at boundary setting, and learn all about your fear centre. Something akin to a blind and stubborn bouncer living inside your head, your fear centre is actually trying to protect you by resisting setting boundaries. By the end of this session, you will understand how you have more influence over this part of your mind than you think.
Masterclass 2 ~ Setting Your First Empowering Boundary
Learn what the crucial difference is between reactive and empowering boundary setting. In this liberating masterclass, I take all the pressure off this challenge in two important ways that allow you to step into your power.
Masterclass 3 ~ From Struggle To Adventure
How to reframe this skill so that it excites you instead of fills you with dread. Step two foot to the side of the nonsense your inner critic tells you as we uses two powerful and inspirational reframes that will make you want to stretch your comfort zone.
Q: HOW DO I ACCESS THE MASTERCLASSES?
Make sure you sign up https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/
You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.
#24: How to Stop feeling Overwhelmed
27m · PublishedEver felt so weighed down by everything in your life that you fantasised about breaking your leg, just to give yourself some time out of life? Well, I have. I talk about a more constructive way of lightening your load…
Today is the first part of two episodes where I explain three ways to stop feeling so overwhelmed. Overwhelm is a very common side effect of people pleasing – but guess what? You need to create some mental and emotional space to start showing up differently – and that means dealing with overwhelm.
POWER MOVE OF THE WEEK
…sounds so boring that I am not going to tell you what it is, but is so powerful that you won’t want to miss it once I explain why it is so awesome. Trust me on this!
TWO STRATEGIES TO STOP FEELING SO OVERWHELMED
#1 Filter very carefully what media you expose yourself to.
This is a very personal thing. Also, you may want to think about how you consume news for example. Print is easier to deal with than moving images.
Not all violent media deserves a blanket ban from me. I really got a lot out of Fight Club for example. Certain clients love thrillers – and so do I – if I have vetted them.
#2 Overwhelm Circuit Breakers
These are actions you can take to reduce overwhelm, whatever the root cause of your stress. Listen for examples of this, plus some uncommon wisdom about managing the stress hormone cortisol
RESOURCES
Boundary setting 101 Week
https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/
Cavebrain episode
https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/17-what-is-cavebrain-and-why-it-matters-in-stopping-pleasing
One-to-one empath coaching:
https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/
Stop People Pleasing has 52 episodes in total of non- explicit content. Total playtime is 13:32:29. The language of the podcast is English. This podcast has been added on November 27th 2022. It might contain more episodes than the ones shown here. It was last updated on May 6th, 2024 10:11.
