Shane Talks

6 things about your fitness goals that you need to know.

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1. Setting aside a goal is not a failure.

2. Not making progress at something is not a waste of time.

3. Doing your best may not feel good enough, but I can assure you, it is.

4. Your goals may look different to others based on the challenges you’ve had.

5. Your life is still meaningful without accomplishing a goal.

6. Only you understand the relevance of your own achievements. Other people don’t need to “get it”.

What do you all think? 

Accoutre? 

You owe yourself 1 hour a day.

In that hour you can sing, you can dance, you can train you to book, you can write, you can talk to a friend, you can do whatever you want to do. It is important to give yourself that one hour a day.

It’s easy to feel bad and selfish for taking out that time, but it's so important.
It’s important because it makes you happy and if you take away that one hour that makes you happy you are not any fun to be around.

Stop feeling selfish. It is not about you and you taking time from others it is about you giving to yourself, so you have more to give to those around.

You are allowed to spend one hour on you.

Remember, over a 24-hour period this is less than 5% of your day and if you can't spend 5% of your day or less,  working on things that make you happy or doing things that make you feel fulfilled, what is the point?

You may need to re-evaluate some of the things that you are spending more time on that is stealing from your health and happiness and give back to yourself.

You owe it to yourself! Make yourself happy.

You have the power to do that

When it comes to your goals, everybody has a turn back moment.

At some stage the old allures and the shiny things that you were once surrounded by, will call your name again.

These shiny things and these allures will catch your attention and you have the decision to turn back and go to life that you used to live or go forward.

but the thing that you need to keep in mind before you turn around and go back to that life that you just left, is that if you give up now, the only guarantee is that you will not move into the future that you want..

It is the guarantee, that you will not achieve your goals. That it will never happen.

That's the guarantee of quitting, that it will never happen, no matter what!

You need to make that decision, do you turn around and go back to the shiny things and all those allures? Or do you keep moving forward anyway!

In the early hours of the morning is where I've often felt the most anxious.

It’s as if there is a storm that’s approaching and all the worry about that storm is yet to unfold.

I realise that a lot of this anxiety and stress that I feel subconsciously and consciously, through the entire morning, is probably a result of my childhood.

Now, I spent 15 years before leaving home feeling like that. And the most anxious I ever felt was right before my Mum and Dad woke up. They created an anxiety around morning routines that was next level and to be fair, it still haunts me to this day.

Their high strung energy, their aggressive undertones and their frustrations in the morning rubbed off on me and put me in a fear state, that has lingered for about 20 years or more.

I haven't had anything to really do with my mum and dad for the past 20 years.

However, whatever happened when I was a child is still deep within my soul, deep within my stomach, it is a part of me still.

I'm not trained and I'm no expert in how to deal with this stuff and how to digest and assimilate it, but I know something for a fact. What I know is that this is trauma.

This is sitting with me.

However, I can treat this as a gift. It seems funny to think of it like it's a gift, it seems funny to even put it in the same category but if I'm honest, I can treat this as if it was something great that has happened to me and good.

Each morning when I wake up at about 5 a.m. That overwhelming feeling of stress hits me like a tonne of bricks and has pretty much done that every day of my life and it is a gift because it reminds me that I am in control, it reminds me to stop, take a breath, and think and be grateful for what today is offering.

The best part about all of this and the biggest gift is my little five-year-old.

When I feel the most relaxed when I feel the happiest and when I feel the most at ease and calm is around her.

I'm trying my best to end the cycle that happened. I'm trying my best to change the patterns that happened to me as a child and I can't do that if I keep thinking about how bad all that stuff was and how much that's affecting me still.

So, as my mind continues to race, I stop to take a breath and I remind myself to simply relax and Quinn will give me all the strength that I need, even if she's unconscious of the fact that she does it.

This is a message to you guys and a reminder that although things may have happened to you, around you, or even because of you, some of these things can be treated in a different light.

If we ReFrame it and we see a lot of the things as a gift, to give us context, and help teach ourselves how to deal with some of the things that we're going through, it can be exactly what we need.

Only focus on what you have control over.

In my opinion, there are four things you have major control over

Number one: Your desires. The things in life that you desire, you have control over that

Number two:  Your actions. What you do, why you do it, you have control over those things.

Number 3: The words that you speak. Sometimes it’s easy to react emotionally.

Remember, we always have control over what comes out of your mouth, or, what doesn’t come out.

And finally.

Number four: Your intentions before you do anything you have any intention that intention is created from within, that is something you have control over.

Make sure your intentions are pure, your words are honest, your actions are faultless, and your desire is huge!

Now all that’s left to do is get back to work.

What is a heathy body?

Is it a beautiful tan? 6 pack abs? Shining hair? Perfect teeth?

However, If you have all that and your thoughts are sick and negative? What do you really have?

Now, don't get me wrong.

It's ok to have all of those things.
There's nothing wrong with having all those things.

In fact, i'd like to think I have some of those things.

But what do you do when you don't have the same reflection on the inside? What happens when what's on the outside looks prettier and healthier than what's happening on the inside?

What if what we are striving so hard to achieve on the outer shell, that it starts to affect what's happening on our inner self? What do we do then?

Where do we go from that position? I wish I knew!

Regardless of the exact and correct answer, somedays it comes down to the fact that you have to sit with yourself for a moment, and ask quality questions about what it is that you want, why you really want it and what it's going cost you to achieve it?

Then, after you've asked those questions and made the answers, for yourself, you can do as you do.

After all, this is your life, and you will get what you're supposed to get.

But remember, don't strive so hard to make the external amazing, when we are really suffering on the internal.

Although the outer shell may look glistening and beautiful, we have to work just as hard on the inside of our bodies. There is no point in having this beautiful physique on the outside to show the world, but suffering alone on the inside.

If our thoughts are sick and heavy, we need to address them first. We need to forget about the outer shell for a moment and work on improving our mental health and the way that we see ourselves.

There is no right or wrong, it's just your choice.

What will you choose?

You know what? It’s worth it.  

Your goals, they are worth it.

You can do this! Don't get lost in all the sounds and all the noise that's around you.

What it really comes down to is your discipline, your perseverance, your grit, and your relentlessness. 

Your relentlessness to not give up each day!  

All of these things add up. 

I guess the question remains, what are you going to do next?

We all make choices in life.

There's no point in beating ourselves up. We just have to be open and

honest about our choices when we look back at them.

When I make a choice, I have to understand that in this moment this is what I felt my highest standard decision to be, this was my biggest value.

It’s a simple enough way of looking at life. Simply choosing in the moment, what the best decision to make for you is and not living by other peoples definitions of what we should be, what we should say, or what we should do.

I’ve had to tell my clients before that, I don't believe their goal is true.
For example, if it was weight loss, I have to sometimes tell my clients that I don't believe this is truly what they want. In fact, I think it's what your partner wants, or your children want, or your friends want, or what you think society wants of you.

This is not your goal. It is somebody else’s. Sometimes the goals that we choose to pursue are ones we've watched before us and not truly our own.

Remember to pick the goals that you want, that are true to you. Stop living your goals through other people, it's not what your husband wants of you, it's not what your kids want of you, it's not what the world wants of you, it's not what you want of you.

Start to think about the goal that you want and truly decide what it is that you're going to go after and then give it 100% until you achieve it.

Pressure and stress can create different things.

What do I mean by that?

listen to this quote that i heard just the other day.

“The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg”

it's about what you're made of not your circumstances.

Adversity and pressure in life can cause you to either, break or breakthrough!

so you know, it's really up to you to decide what happens.

Are you the egg? Or are you the potato?