ALL THAT WONDER

This week, we're joined by Gloria Battini,  a toxic relationship recovery coach, who spent 15 years in a toxic relationship herself.

During those 15 years, she has dealt with narcissistic abuse, she did not know who she was and experienced a loss of identity. 

Join Gloria and I as we discuss what narcissistic abuse is and the different phases of the cycle, including gaslighting.  We explore how victims of any type of abusive relationship also experience something known as trauma bonding. We'll dive deeper into what trauma bonding is and any signs you should be looking out for to understand if you or someone you know are in an abusive relationship.

And if you've ever asked the questions, do narcissists know what they're doing? We've got some answers. 

Lastly, Gloria talks about how anxiety, OCD, and seeing help for her disorders finally broke her free from her abusive relationship. We talked about what happened when she finally left the relationship and how anyone dealing with an abusive relationship can finally break free and reconnect with themselves.

Gloria is on a mission of healing, empowering, and giving a voice to all survivors of emotional abuse, toxic relationships, and narcissistic abuse. To learn more, visit her website or check her out on Instagram.

And don't forget to check out the All That Wonder Instagram page. If you like what you hear, follow for more weekly content. If you know someone who would also be interested, share the Instagram page and this podcast. And don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on any podcast site, including Apple, Google, and Spotify. 

This week, we're joined by Gloria Battini,  a toxic relationship recovery coach, who spent 15 years in a toxic relationship herself.

During those 15 years, she has dealt with narcissistic abuse, she did not know who she was and experienced a loss of identity. 

Join Gloria and I as we discuss what narcissistic abuse is and the different phases of the cycle, including gaslighting.  We explore how victims of any type of abusive relationship also experience something known as trauma bonding. We'll dive deeper into what trauma bonding is and any signs you should be looking out for to understand if you or someone you know are in an abusive relationship.

And if you've ever asked the questions, do narcissists know what they're doing? We've got some answers. 

Lastly, Gloria talks about how anxiety, OCD, and seeing help for her disorders finally broke her free from her abusive relationship. We talked about what happened when she finally left the relationship and how anyone dealing with an abusive relationship can finally break free and reconnect with themselves.

Gloria is on a mission of healing, empowering, and giving a voice to all survivors of emotional abuse, toxic relationships, and narcissistic abuse. To learn more, visit her website or check her out on Instagram.

And don't forget to check out the All That Wonder Instagram page. If you like what you hear, follow for more weekly content. If you know someone who would also be interested, share the Instagram page and this podcast. And don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on any podcast site, including Apple, Google, and Spotify. 

This week, Tamara chats with an old friend from back in her Australia days, Sophie. This chat was the result of Sophie's article that she wrote for Mamamia AU, 'For 16 years, I thought I was straight. Then I came off contraception.'

What was discussed:

• Sophie talks about the effects birth control had on her and her sexuality over 16 years
• Why she went on contraception in the first place and how she realized and embraced the fact that she was a lesbian after getting off the pill
• They talk about the effects of birth control on women as a whole and how there's not necessarily a male equivalent or it's not stressed as much
• Women have to carry the burden and the responsibility of contraception and the effects of what happens as a result, if they refuse to use it or aren't careful in sexual situations
• Sophie talks about having to go on the pill at the age of 13 to help with her mood and periods
• As a whole, most women are not educated about the side effects of being on birth control, especially as young girls
• Growing up in Belgium, Sophie did not know many people who were gay or lesbian
• At 28 and in a 5-year relationship, she made a conscious decision to get off of contraception 
• After getting her IUD removed, she instantly felt the change of feeling more awake, more herself, and having her sex drive back. She felt renewed and re-energized 
• She entered a period where she was losing the attraction from her boyfriend, which caused them to enter into an open relationship in order to spice things up, resulting in her falling in love with a woman in the process
• PRIDE in Australia

This week, Tamara chats with an old friend from back in her Australia days, Sophie. This chat was the result of Sophie's article that she wrote for Mamamia AU, 'For 16 years, I thought I was straight. Then I came off contraception.'

What was discussed:

• Sophie talks about the effects birth control had on her and her sexuality over 16 years
• Why she went on contraception in the first place and how she realized and embraced the fact that she was a lesbian after getting off the pill
• They talk about the effects of birth control on women as a whole and how there's not necessarily a male equivalent or it's not stressed as much
• Women have to carry the burden and the responsibility of contraception and the effects of what happens as a result, if they refuse to use it or aren't careful in sexual situations
• Sophie talks about having to go on the pill at the age of 13 to help with her mood and periods
• As a whole, most women are not educated about the side effects of being on birth control, especially as young girls
• Growing up in Belgium, Sophie did not know many people who were gay or lesbian
• At 28 and in a 5-year relationship, she made a conscious decision to get off of contraception 
• After getting her IUD removed, she instantly felt the change of feeling more awake, more herself, and having her sex drive back. She felt renewed and re-energized 
• She entered a period where she was losing the attraction from her boyfriend, which caused them to enter into an open relationship in order to spice things up, resulting in her falling in love with a woman in the process
• PRIDE in Australia

This week, Tamara chat's with Dr. Marissa Pei, also known as Asian Oprah. She is host of her own award-winning syndicated show and all about Balance, with her own award-winning podcast on CNBC "Take My Advice I'm Not Using It: Get Balanced with Dr. Marissa."

With her colorful language, she teaches us how to turn pain, trauma, and setbacks into opportunities and happiness. Dr Marissa has made a pledge to help 8 million people get 88% happy in the next 8 years. Are you in?

What we Discuss

• Dr Marissa talks about how the pandemic opened up new opportunities she wouldn't have had before
• She helps us to recognize that life's expectations are just bullshit and her mission is to help people find happiness 
• She teaches us to strive for 88% happiness because perfectionism doesn't exist 
• Why human feel more comfortable with negative feelings than positive
• How thinking positively can help heal your ailments 
• The importance of starting your day with gratitude and ending your day knowing you did the best you could
• Naming 8 specific things you like about yourself and practice it as a muscle that needs constant strengthening
• How to have fun and not take life too seriously

To get in touch with Dr. Marissa, check out her website

Dr. Marissa also has a nonprofit 8 ways to Happiness 501(c) which helps children, teens and young adults who may have temporarily forgotten their birthright to happiness with free books about feelings and happiness.

For every donation of $25 receive a free e-book of her beloved interactive children’s book Mommy What are Feelings? Illustrated by her own daughters when they were five and seven, this book encourages kids to draw and express the vibrant sound, the beautiful touch, the tantalizing sight and delicious taste of feelings!
https://www.drmarissa.life/product-page/mommy-what-are-feelings-interactive-children-s-book 

And for every $10 receive a download of Dr. Marissa's newest baby, a short film The New PPP: Post Pandemic Possibilities  https://youtu.be/e40RWO2PgcY

Also when you do your regular shopping on Amazon and use this link, prices are the same but Amazon will donate a small percentage to my nonprofit. https://smile.amazon.com/ch/85-1103967

This week, Tamara chat's with Dr. Marissa Pei, also known as Asian Oprah. She is host of her own award-winning syndicated show and all about Balance, with her own award-winning podcast on CNBC "Take My Advice I'm Not Using It: Get Balanced with Dr. Marissa."

With her colorful language, she teaches us how to turn pain, trauma, and setbacks into opportunities and happiness. Dr Marissa has made a pledge to help 8 million people get 88% happy in the next 8 years. Are you in?

What we Discuss

• Dr Marissa talks about how the pandemic opened up new opportunities she wouldn't have had before
• She helps us to recognize that life's expectations are just bullshit and her mission is to help people find happiness 
• She teaches us to strive for 88% happiness because perfectionism doesn't exist 
• Why human feel more comfortable with negative feelings than positive
• How thinking positively can help heal your ailments 
• The importance of starting your day with gratitude and ending your day knowing you did the best you could
• Naming 8 specific things you like about yourself and practice it as a muscle that needs constant strengthening
• How to have fun and not take life too seriously

To get in touch with Dr. Marissa, check out her website

Dr. Marissa also has a nonprofit 8 ways to Happiness 501(c) which helps children, teens and young adults who may have temporarily forgotten their birthright to happiness with free books about feelings and happiness.

For every donation of $25 receive a free e-book of her beloved interactive children’s book Mommy What are Feelings? Illustrated by her own daughters when they were five and seven, this book encourages kids to draw and express the vibrant sound, the beautiful touch, the tantalizing sight and delicious taste of feelings!
https://www.drmarissa.life/product-page/mommy-what-are-feelings-interactive-children-s-book 

And for every $10 receive a download of Dr. Marissa's newest baby, a short film The New PPP: Post Pandemic Possibilities  https://youtu.be/e40RWO2PgcY

Also when you do your regular shopping on Amazon and use this link, prices are the same but Amazon will donate a small percentage to my nonprofit. https://smile.amazon.com/ch/85-1103967

This week Tamara has a bit of girl chat with Anna, an artist, and handcrafter. Anna, a sensual person is on a journey to embrace more of her sexuality and find confidence.

What was discussed:

• The conversation starts out speaking about creativity as an outlet and Anna's experience of always being an artist and how she does illustrations that empower women
• Anna talks about growing up in German society (in a huge Muslim culture) and how the dress code in Germany is so modest
• As a child, she was super confident and loved her younger self
• Moving schools, she had to deal with the pressures of not feeling up to par with her peers as well as getting bullied which caused her to lose her confidence and feel insecure
• Tamara and Anna talk about the need to feel validated in the education system and how when it comes to a child's education you can't fit a square peg into a round hole
• Feeling alone, caused her to become troubled and bulimic

What you can learn from this episode:

• Trying to strive for the perfect look, we see in magazines and social media is not realistic
• When living up to non-existent beauty standards, you're not actually striving to look a certain way or like someone else, you're actually just striving to have their confidence and to look and feel confident
• As women, we're always striving for perfection and taught to feel like we're never enough
• You grow when you become uncomfortable
• The importance of knowing what is happening in our bodies especially around our cycles

To learn more about Anna or purchase her art, check out her Instagram 

This week Tamara has a bit of girl chat with Anna, an artist, and handcrafter. Anna, a sensual person is on a journey to embrace more of her sexuality and find confidence.

What was discussed:

• The conversation starts out speaking about creativity as an outlet and Anna's experience of always being an artist and how she does illustrations that empower women
• Anna talks about growing up in German society (in a huge Muslim culture) and how the dress code in Germany is so modest
• As a child, she was super confident and loved her younger self
• Moving schools, she had to deal with the pressures of not feeling up to par with her peers as well as getting bullied which caused her to lose her confidence and feel insecure
• Tamara and Anna talk about the need to feel validated in the education system and how when it comes to a child's education you can't fit a square peg into a round hole
• Feeling alone, caused her to become troubled and bulimic

What you can learn from this episode:

• Trying to strive for the perfect look, we see in magazines and social media is not realistic
• When living up to non-existent beauty standards, you're not actually striving to look a certain way or like someone else, you're actually just striving to have their confidence and to look and feel confident
• As women, we're always striving for perfection and taught to feel like we're never enough
• You grow when you become uncomfortable
• The importance of knowing what is happening in our bodies especially around our cycles

To learn more about Anna or purchase her art, check out her Instagram 

In this episode, Tamara is joined by Anca Treefan, founder and CEO of Tree-Fan events and an advocate for women in the tech world. 

 What was discussed:

• Anca talks about her experience moving to America from Romania and why
• She discusses being triggered by a relationship and having to leave her family behind at 19
• She thought if she didn't make that move, she'd never be able to free herself from that relationship and she struggled to understand why she was so connected to this person that it had some form of control over he
• She talks about meeting him at a young age, getting tangled in an emotionally manipulated relationship with this person, the strong bond they shared, and the impact it had on her life
• She spent 5 years trying to break free which caused her to rebound into unhealthy relationships in that time
• She talks about how a nightmare she had in 2020 forced her to go back and relive her trauma in order to unearth it and heal because how she was acting in the present was related to things that happened in her past
• Through discovery and talking to a therapist and utilizing all the tools, she was able to heal again
• Through he strong sense of spirituality, Anca allowed God to heal the places in her heart she knew were broken, which made her incapable of having full healthy relationships in the present

What you can learn from this episode:

• Unhealthy bonds can have a damaging effect on us for years and years
• It's not about what you want, but what you need
• Sometimes we’re not mature enough to deal with certain things at a certain time and when we’ve built that maturity then those lessons will come back up for us to finally deal with it even though you may feel you’re so past it.
  
  Note to anyone listening who might be going through a tough time:
  I pray that after you go through a place of healing, that you no longer have to go back and relive that trauma. I hope you’ve truly unpacked every part of it so it doesn't rise up again in the future. But if it ever does, I pray you have the strength to know that you’ve fought through this once before and you can fight through it again and you’ll come out of this much better than you entered. 

In this episode, Tamara is joined by Anca Treefan, founder and CEO of Tree-Fan events and an advocate for women in the tech world. 

 What was discussed:

• Anca talks about her experience moving to America from Romania and why
• She discusses being triggered by a relationship and having to leave her family behind at 19
• She thought if she didn't make that move, she'd never be able to free herself from that relationship and she struggled to understand why she was so connected to this person that it had some form of control over he
• She talks about meeting him at a young age, getting tangled in an emotionally manipulated relationship with this person, the strong bond they shared, and the impact it had on her life
• She spent 5 years trying to break free which caused her to rebound into unhealthy relationships in that time
• She talks about how a nightmare she had in 2020 forced her to go back and relive her trauma in order to unearth it and heal because how she was acting in the present was related to things that happened in her past
• Through discovery and talking to a therapist and utilizing all the tools, she was able to heal again
• Through he strong sense of spirituality, Anca allowed God to heal the places in her heart she knew were broken, which made her incapable of having full healthy relationships in the present

What you can learn from this episode:

• Unhealthy bonds can have a damaging effect on us for years and years
• It's not about what you want, but what you need
• Sometimes we’re not mature enough to deal with certain things at a certain time and when we’ve built that maturity then those lessons will come back up for us to finally deal with it even though you may feel you’re so past it.
  
  Note to anyone listening who might be going through a tough time:
  I pray that after you go through a place of healing, that you no longer have to go back and relive that trauma. I hope you’ve truly unpacked every part of it so it doesn't rise up again in the future. But if it ever does, I pray you have the strength to know that you’ve fought through this once before and you can fight through it again and you’ll come out of this much better than you entered.