Leadership Parenting

We all experience automatic negative thoughts. They come really without our choice, and they can also make our life feel really heavy and hard when we're worrying about the future or unforgiving of mistakes or maybe even thinking of the worst things that could happen in our life. Negative thoughts tend to become habitual thinking and come so fast into our heads that we're totally at their mercy. One of the ways to deal with this is to create alternative thoughts that give us more possibility and that match more of how we want to think. This is what affirmations do, they counter detrimental thoughts with empowering truths about ourselves,

In this episode, I show you how to draft affirmations that are not mere platitudes but reflections of your deepest strengths. Whether you're affirming "I am safe" or celebrating that "There is more love in my life than fear," you can cultivate a practice of affirmations that mirror the support you'd give to a cherished friend! Join me as we talk about affirmation so we can think better and feel better!

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In this episode, we delve into the powerful role that automated negative thoughts (ANTs) play in shaping our mental health and provide you with a comprehensive understanding of how ANTs can trigger detrimental emotional reactions.

We also look at practical techniques to help us work with our thoughts. These strategies are designed to combat negative emotional responses and foster a resilient, positive mental atmosphere. By mastering these techniques, you can develop the skills to navigate the landscape of your mind more effectively, learning how to quiet negative thought patterns and enhance your overall mental health.

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Ever found yourself in the throes of frustration, fists clenched, and patience worn thin? We've all been there, and in this episode, I pull back the curtain on the elusive art of frustration tolerance. It's not just about biting your tongue or counting to ten; it's a journey through the emotional wilderness that teaches us resilience, patience, and adaptability. Patience isn't just a virtue—it's a skill, and one that's particularly tested in the realm of parenting. In this episode, we tackle the herculean task of aligning our expectations with the ever-changing developmental stages of our children. By planning for those car seat battles or the painstakingly slow shoe-tying sessions, we're not just teaching our kids; we're learning patience ourselves. By challenging our assumptions and working with our expectations, we can model better behavior for our children, making for a more resilient and joyful experience in our families.

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Every day, we have to handle our feelings while trying to do the things that we feel are most important to us. I call this being emotional driven or value driven- and it actually matters which way we decide to go. Do we prioritize values or emotions? This choice is something few of us are even aware that we can make. Because emotions come quickly and often, we will do anything to avoid the painful ones, maybe even at the expense of what matters most to us. Ultimately, "The Choice" challenges us to explore whether we want to live a life dictated by avoiding painful emotions or one anchored in enduring values. In today’s episode, we look at how to navigate this choice and emerge confident in our ability to effectively manage our emotions and show up the way that serves us best.

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We all face moments when life's demands seem to eclipse our capacity to cope. A great framework to understand when this is happening is that of the Window of Tolerance: a tool that's crucial for maintaining our emotional equilibrium. In this episode, we talk about what the Window of Tolerance is, how you know you have been bumped out of it and how to get back into it! I share strategies that range from mindfulness practices to embracing everyday frustrations with grace. We also look at how to train to expand your Window of Tolerance through mindfulness, controlled exposure to discomfort, and the cultivation of frustration tolerance. I emphasize the role of self-care and the power of compassion over judgment, as we steer through life's challenges. This episode unpacks the balance between resilience and vulnerability, and how both are vital in fostering confidence and joy in ourselves and our children. I hope you’ll join me!

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Empathy has the power to help us understand, connect and feel some of the emotions that other people are feeling around us. This is a great skill to have, but it also has a little bit of a dark side. Today, we're talking about how we can use empathy in a way that protects both us and others.

I explore how empathy can help us connect and understand others, but also how it can lead us into a trap of judgement and emotional challenges. We chat about the idea of 'selective empathy' and how it affects our society and personal relationships. We also discuss hyper-empathy syndrome, where people feel emotions so deeply, they can't separate their feelings from others. I highlight the importance of setting emotional boundaries so you can still be empathetic without losing yourself. There is a way to use empathy so that it serves you rather than hurts you!

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The art of empathy is more than just a concept; it's a practice that, when applied to our relationships, can transform the way we support our loved ones. We discuss the four attributes of empathy and how to implement them, particularly in moments of distress, whether it's a child feeling rejected or a partner misunderstood. Listen in to learn more about empathy and how to use this tool to increase or connection and strengthen our relationships.

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We all know how challenging it can be to feel confident in a society that constantly shifts the goalposts of beauty ideals. Finding beauty beyond the mirror and nurturing self-worth that transcends our physical appearances is the key to survival. In todays episode, we’re talking about how our children are watching us, picking up on our cues, and, sometimes without us even realizing it, they're learning to navigate their own self-esteem journeys based on what they see in us. This is a conversation that's particularly important for us parents as we guide our children through the choppy waters of an image-obsessed world.

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As a therapist and mother, I've observed the transformation of parenting styles from enforcing strict obedience to embracing individuality. Have you ever felt caught up in this transition, unsure of which path to take? We're journeying through this together in today’s podcast, where we explore the delicate equilibrium every family seeks between guiding our children and also nurturing ourselves. By revisiting the historical backdrop of parenting, we discuss the importance of adapting to the unique attributes each child brings, and how this shift has affected their resilience and ours.

I outline a parenting strategy tailored to the individual needs of your family, one that respects the cultural values we all carry and directs towards a destination where safety, attachment, and life skills are the goals we strive to achieve for our children. I emphasize the importance of maintaining parental authority without stifling your children with excessive control. You'll learn why setting boundaries and making tough decisions can actually help your children experience the joy of simply being kids, while also allowing you the opportunity to prioritize your own self-care and wellness. This episode is an opportunity to introspect on our parenting styles and how they mold our family's future. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned parent, there's something to get you thinking!

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Have you ever stopped to consider how your casual remarks could sculpt your child's self-image? In to days episode we explore how our words, especially those spoken within earshot of our little ones, can leave an indelible mark on their developing sense of self. Throughout our journey as parents, we often find ourselves in a delicate dance, balancing the need for candidness with the preservation of our children's trust. This episode peels back the layers of these complexities, sharing thoughtful approaches to discussing our little ones' challenges without compromising their privacy.

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