Soul Compass

We all hold beliefs that shape the decisions we make every single day.  As young children, our beliefs are internalised, quietly forming the way we see ourselves and the way we interact with the world.  But what if those beliefs aren’t serving you anymore? What if they’re simply not true? Are you believing something to be true that is limiting your potential and holding you back from being aligned with your true self?

For most of us, the answer is yes. Perhaps it was something someone told you when you were young, or a generational belief structure that exists in your whole family or community.  Wherever it came from, the good news is that you can change your belief structure. You have the power to realign your thoughts, overcome those beliefs and choose to believe something that would serve you better.

Our incredible guest today is Kristine Kolzing and I’m so excited to dive into this topic with her. Kristine is a transformational mindset expert who guides wellness entrepreneurs to step into their most powerful selves. She is a master success coach and CEO of The Alignment Tribe, an NLP & Reiki practitioner, certified pilates instructor, health and wellness coach and an all round beautiful and inspiring person.

In this episode, Kristine explains in detail how beliefs are formed and shares the number one thing that she teaches her clients, which is that you have the power to choose your beliefs.  You’ll discover how to identify your limiting beliefs and learn how to realign your thoughts, expand your thinking and design a life that you love.

I know you’re going to be so inspired by what Kristine has to share. Tune in, unwind and let your heart and mind be expanded.

LINKS

The Alignment Tribe Website: https://www.thealignmenttribe.com/

Instagram: @kristinekolzing

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristine.mcgilvray

Facebook group The Alignment Tribe https://www.facebook.com/groups/thealignmenttribe/

Podcast: The Alignment Tribe

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My guest today is the brilliantly creative D’ana Joi from Joi Knows How. Finding herself in the predicament of having too many passions to narrow down to one career, feeling paralyzed by having to choose one thing, she decided to put all of herself onto a blog, everything she loved, everything about D’ana Joi. And it’s no mistake that her middle name is Joi because Joy is at the heart of everything she does. By choosing herself and honouring her energy, she was empowered to start functioning with clarity, enabling her business to grow and pivot organically to where it is now.

If you find yourself wanting to do so many things and not knowing how to focus on just one, then this episode is for you. D'Ana Joi shares 4 ways in which you can turn that confusion into clarity and start honouring your creative energy and operate in alignment with your true self. I know this episode is going to encourage you and inspire you to figure out what the multi-passionate experience looks like for you. It’s time to embrace everything that you are.

LINKS:

Website: https://joi-knows-how.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/joi.knows.how

Tomato timer: https://tomato-timer.com

Note taker and goal setter: Things App

Joi’s Facebook Community: Creative Abundance Tribe

Do you ever catch yourself daydreaming about what you’d rather be doing while you’re at work?  Does your job make you feel locked into something that you don’t want to be doing? If you answered yes to these questions and have a passion for something else but don’t quite know how to start pursuing it, then this episode is for you.

My special guest today is Rachael Hunt, a former 9-5 daydreamer who took the plunge to pursue her dreams and now travels the world doing what she loves as a wellness expert and influencer. Upon leaving her office job, Rachel was sought after for her advice and expertise on how she took the leap to start her own business. This is when she developed Freedom School, a self-paced business and mindset coaching program catered toward entrepreneurs who are ready to earn money working for themselves.

• Imagine what your life would look like if work didn’t feel like work.

• What does it mean to operate at a higher frequency?

• How do you align your conscious and subconscious and why is that so important?

These are just a few of the topics Rachael discusses in this episode, along with her powerful insights on how these areas play a crucial role in turning your passion into a profitable business.

There will never be a perfect opportunity or ideal time to start something. So start now. Do something today toward that thing that you really want to do. It might be messy to begin with, but if you believe that you have something and are worth something, the world will believe it too.  Start now and take one step towards the life of freedom that you’ve been dreaming of.

Freedom School: https://www.freedomschool.co/

Money Mindset Makeover: https://freedomschool.mykajabi.com/money-mindset-makeover

Instagram: @freedomrachh

Today I speak with Jamie Lerner, co-author of the book, “The Ever-Loving Essence of You.” Her unique and masterful ability to re-frame even the most difficult situations is astounding. All of a sudden your biggest nightmare becomes your greatest pleasure as she lovingly helps you sift through the contrast to find a point of clarity. Jamie is an asset to any corporate setting. She is easily able to untangle the issues at hand and move right along into helping facilitate a solution-based platform for creative, productive, good-feeling collaboration and change.

In this episode, Jamie shares the three things that procrastination is trying to tell you and how you can work alongside procrastination instead of against it to do the things you truly want to do.  It is my hope this episode inspires you and equips you with the tools you need to self-align and truly connect with your soul.

Links

The Quickie: A Lovely Texting Option

http://jamie-lerner.com/quickie-texting.html

Website: http://jamie-lerner.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lerner.jamie

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamie_lerner

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-lerner-138b0414/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/eleoy

I feel like for the longest time, I was really resisting change. On the surface, I may have seemed like I was relaxed, going with the flow and able to adapt, but on the inside I needed to feel in control. I needed to feel like I knew what was coming next and that I had a plan. During this ever-changing time that we’re currently living through, I’ve very drastically felt that all that I was holding onto, was forced to break away. And that has been very uncomfortable.

Yes, change is uncomfortable. Most of us enjoy feeling safe and secure, so when our need for some sense of predictability is threatened, we resist.  What I’m starting to really understand is how inevitable and necessary change really is. We are always in motion. Nothing is really constant and it’s okay to feel a little unsure about what may be to come. I’m not  is a really hard concept to truly accept. Change isn’t the problem.  Our resistance to change is where the discomfort stems from.

Find me over on vitinablumenthal.com

In a world where so much is out of your control, it’s all too easy to find yourself in a place of stress and anxiety. There is sickness and disease, there is poverty and corruption and if you continue to focus on these things, you can quickly become overwhelmed. We now know the negative impacts of stress on our bodies, but if you don’t intentionally focus on something else, that stress will continue to imbed its effects into your mind and body.

What can you do to make a positive change? You might not be able to control global events, but you can control the way you approach them. You can control the way you think, the way you speak, and the way you treat others.  You might feel like you don’t have control over events in your life, in your relationships or your business, but you do. We all have the power to choose what happens in our lives and it starts with GRATITUDE.

There are numerous studies about the power of positive thinking but sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. When things are falling to pieces, it can feel like a battle to break out of negative mindsets and dismantle the power of the inner critic. Our guest today is Vivian Kaye, Founder and CEO of KinkyCurlyYaki and a woman who manifests the power of gratitude.

Vivian first discovered the power of gratitude in January 2019 when she started using a ‘5 minute gratitude journal’. Finding herself in a low place, she realized that she needed to change something and decided to make the gratitude journal part of her daily routine. By the end of the year, she was amazed at the success and abundance that she had experienced and upon reflection she realized it was all attributed to her practice of gratitude.

Vivian shares with us 5 amazing tips of how practicing gratitude will impact your life for the better. We’ve all heard about self care, but this is more than just massages and candlelit baths.  Gratitude goes beyond the external and into the soul, a reprogramming of your subconscious.

When you practice gratitude, you will experience a true manifestation of success, abundance and happiness in your life. The outworking of this is immeasurable. What better way to change the world than to change yourself first?

LINKS WE MENTIONED:

Vivian Kaye’s 7 Day Gratitude Challenge

Vivian Kaye instagram: @itsviviankaye

Take stock for a moment and think about what your community looks like.  Who are the people you really do life with? Are you surrounded by people who encourage you, challenge you and share your passions?

You might already be blessed with a collection of like minded souls around you, or perhaps, you might still be searching for that sense of community, that sense of belonging that is inherent in the human psyche.

No woman is an island.

You can’t walk through life and achieve success without a community of like minded people around you who share your enthusiasm, understand your mission and support you in where you want to go.

And it goes both ways.

When you walk in community, you are presented with an amazing opportunity to give to those around you, to help them grow and see them succeed.

Our special guests today live and breathe community and understand what it takes to build a successful one. Alex and Anna Laura met on Instagram after mutual friends suggested they would hit it off. Soon discovering that they shared many passions and were walking somewhat of a parallel journey, they decided to join forces. This resulted in the birth of ShexShines, a platform for multi-passionate women to connect, learn and grow together.

Understanding the deep need for community themselves, they embedded three core values into the foundations of ShexShines; Connection, Community and Girl Talk.  The way in which Alex and Anna Laura built their friendship was something they wanted to pass along to other women. They wanted others to experience the benefits of true authentic connection.

In this episode, Alex and Anna Laura unpack why it’s so important to have a community of like minded people around you and how the journey of self discovery is crucial in helping you find the people who truly make you shine.

Community as we know it is changing. Social distancing has changed everything. To walk in community in this day and age, you must take the opportunity to reflect on what it is that you really want for your life.  Who are the people you want to surround yourself with? You don’t have to find people in the same city or even the same time zone. What you need are people whose hearts and minds are aligned, who share your passions and understand your purpose.

When you find those people, there is no stopping you.

BOOKS WE MENTION:

The One Thing - Gary Keller & Jay Papasan

LINKS:

Website: https://www.shexshines.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shexshines/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shexshines

The value of a human being can never be underestimated.  Imagine what it would be like to go to work and really be seen, really be understood and valued as an individual with purpose, not just as an employee.  What if you could run your business powered by a team of people who invest their heart and soul into what you do because they feel empowered to be all they can be?

If we think of leadership as being at the top of the ladder, it can quickly lead to a very isolating and emotionally demanding place. And for those at the bottom, they can often feel forgotten and undervalued.  No wonder so many businesses are struggling. Perhaps that’s not the only way to do it. Perhaps the age-old triangle can be flipped and the employer can start working for the employee, and that’s just what we’ll be discussing on today’s episode.

Alexis Dean is the founder of Dovetail Summit, a global community of women who work together to empower fellow female entrepreneurs.  She has introduced me to so many amazing people through her incredible network, many of whom I have had on the Soul Compass podcast already.

Alexis started her journey as an entrepreneur in the corporate training and leadership space.  From facilitating events, running corporate team building to management roles and starting businesses, she was doing it all.  But no one can do it alone and that’s when Dovetail was established. Struggling with the demanding nature of running her own business, working 24/7 and coming under financial and emotional pressures, Alexis realised the need to have a community of entrepreneurs alongside her.  People who she could share with, learn from and grow with.

It’s a great honour to have Alexis with us today as we talk about Servant Leadership and how changing your mindset from “you work for me” to “I work for you” is crucial to running a successful and flourishing business.  The pillars of Servant Leadership are invaluable and will help you to run a business that doesn’t just survive, it thrives.

What does it mean to be a good leader? How do you let go and allow your team to work autonomously, enabling their imagination and ideas to flourish? In this era of technology and global community, it’s imperative to value the individual.  It’s imperative that we value the human.

LINKS:

• Camp Dovetail: https://campdovetail.ca/
• Use the code SOUL to get CA$100 off the camp ticket
• Due to the current Coronavirus pandemic, Alexis has postponed the Dovetail Summit planned for May 2020 but she is still taking applicants for future summits
• Instagram: @dovetailcommunity
• Website: https://www.dovetail.community/

You are valuable. Your life is valuable and how you choose to spend your time is crucial to living the life you desire. Time is the most precious resource you have. It's the only element you can never buy more of, or get back, no matter your wealth. Likewise, no amount of wealth or social status escalates the value of anyone else’s time over your own. What is under your control is how you use the time you are given.

Sometimes, to protect our cherished time, it becomes necessary to set boundaries with people, purposefully limiting the amount of time any one person can have from you. This is especially important with those who will TAKE and TAKE and TAKE until there's nothing left of you.

Society has created this fine line between asserting yourself and offending someone and people get uncomfortable with changes to the status quo. Setting boundaries for your self-protection may lead to some push back... sometimes, unexpectedly, from the people you care about the most. In this episode, you'll learn how to "say no" in a positive way with Paul Baranowski.

Paul, a deeply spiritual and dedicated Buddhist practitioner, began his journey of self-discovery about 16 years ago after experiencing a prolonged period of disconnect. Like so many, he has walked the corporate path but left feeling as if there was more that he needed to be doing. More that he needed to be creating, and a deeper connection that he needed to find within himself. He learnt and mastered meditation with the help of many incredible teachers, and now has a knack for applying these teachings to modern-day society. This method of mindfulness was a crucial tool for a self-confessed introvert and enabled him to find a way to connect with himself better and also with those around him.

Today we speak in great depth about the different ways boundaries can be set within your relationships, within yourself, and why this is truly a magnificent practice to do for yourself. Not only will you benefit from setting clearer boundaries, but those around you will benefit, even if to start with it is exceedingly uncomfortable.

After all, what is the point of spreading yourself so thin and saying “yes” to everything that comes your way? Does anyone win in the end? No one gets the best of you, and you certainly don’t get the best of yourself. It’s so important to think about the life you’re trying to create for yourself, the people you want to surround yourself with, and what is truly within your capacity. You can only do so many things well. Not everything needs to be done now, and not everything needs to be done by you.

TOPICS DISCUSSED AND WHEN TO FIND THEM

• [08:32]: Paul’s origin story
• [10:42]: Saying “No” is an example of boundary setting for yourself
• [11:42]: Exploring the difference between setting boundaries and making demands
• [12:12]: Boundaries make a person feel protected. Demands make a person feel unsafe.
• [13:42]: The perception of boundary-setting as selfish and how deeper thought can reveal the benefit for both parties involved.
• [14:02]: Paul shares an example from his personal life where boundaries were necessary to benefit both parties
• [15:52]: Tips to using boundaries to your own advantage in your relationships and the challenges faced in setting them
• [17:27]: Boundaries don’t and sometimes shouldn’t necessarily last forever as relationships naturally change over time
• [18:12]: Self-care by saying “No” and setting boundaries is contagious and inspires those around you to protect their own time
• [19:22]: Being a “Yes” person and the problems that can come with it
• [21:07]: If we don’t know how to care for ourselves, we can’t help others to care for themselves
• [21:29]: The five daily practices to teach you how to care for yourself
• [24:12]: Paul shares an experience from his introverted years where he was perturbed by a random insult he received on the street and now, post the internal work, he frames it all differently
• [26:26]: It’s easy to blame others for how you are feeling
• [27:17]: The difference between blaming others or blaming ourselves
• [28:35]: Paul discusses how a late train can be a vehicle for re-thinking responsibility and effecting self-discovery
• [31:10]: How blaming others makes us feel entitled to other people’s care
• [31:51]: Making a personal vow within ourselves is a way of setting boundaries and leading to behavioural change
• [32:12]: The 5 facets of mindfulness training in Buddhism
• [36:24]: Don’t be afraid to enlist the support of your friends to strengthen your boundaries

BOOKS WE MENTIONED:

• [33:44]: Teachings on Love - Thich Nhat Hanh
• [33:52]: Wake Up To Your Life - Ken McLeod

LINKS:

• Paul’s website: Undiscoveredgreatness.com
• Paul’s online courses to launch within the next few months

Putting a price tag on your product or service can be a daunting task for any entrepreneur. “How much is too much? Don’t I have to be competitive? Am I really worth that much?”. These sorts of questions can get stuck in your mind when running your own business and it’s really easy to undervalue yourself.

But don’t fret, Sanja Serwa is here to tell you you’re worth it! Sanja is a self-diagnosed stubborn entrepreneur talking with us today on Soul Compass about getting paid what you’re worth. She achieved freedom from working under a boss and took charge of her career heading-up two successful companies:

• IV Skincare - a luxury skincare range without the luxury price tag
• Vossity - an online beauty boutique specialising in green beauty products

You might have come across negative press or unhappy customers in your career and it’s hard not to take this personally.  I’m sure you remember very well that one time you missed a deadline or misinterpreted a brief, but it seems to be hard to recall the hundred times you nailed it. This can lead to problems valuing yourself and your work, a value that is communicated to the world in what you charge your clients or customers.

We discuss self-worth as businesswomen, negotiation tactics, and Sanja’s 4 strategies to productivity as an entrepreneur (organisation, prioritising goals, presenting yourself, and staying until the work is done).

TOPICS WE COVER:

• Separating your feelings in business and not taking things personally
• The worst that somebody could say is no, and that’s not so bad
• Lowering your prices to stay competitive cheapens you in the client’s eyes
• Being adept and efficient at something does not mean charging less
• Remember, the client has come to you because they need you
• Never lower your price, instead add more value
• Even a “no” on a price rise, is still a playground for negotiation
• Changing your financial mindset along with your perception of financial proficiency
• What is your “Why”? Why do you deserve to be paid this amount?
• Understanding your priorities

LINKS:

• IV Skincare website and Instagram (@iv.skin.care)
• Vossity website and Instagram (@vossity.beauty)
• Sanja’s Instagram (@sansanjovs)