Listening with Limelight

Have you ever been close with someone, and an argument, event, or misunderstanding brought you farther apart than you could ever imagine? I have found myself there a time or two. I often dismiss apologies, as I think people do harm and mean it. I also try to be intentional, hoping never to cause harm or need to apologize. However, I am more self-aware that sometimes my actions harm people; sometimes their actions harm me. When harm is caused, an apology is warranted. Join me in this episode as I discuss being on either side of an apology. 

Shifting is defined as movement from one place to the other. Or as a slight change in position, direction, or tendency. I have experienced all of the above in my "Shifting Season". In this time I have learned that in some areas of my life I was doing too much and needed to sit still, in other areas I was sitting in burning houses too long. Doing things that no longer fulfilled me. I needed to shift. Is this you? Join me as I open Season 2 by discussing knowing when to shift. 

I have sprinkled in gems about going to therapy here and there; however, in this episode, I get candid about discussing the moment I knew I needed to go to see a therapist. If you are someone that has never started therapy, gave it a shot, and didn't see it through, or are still on your healing journey this episode is for you.

Where to find a therapist: 

https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/ 

https://therapyforblackmen.org/ 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists 

For most of us, it's been a year, well, really almost two years of adjusting, readjusting, and trying to stay afloat. If you have found that you feel burned-out, unfulfilled in this season or that your soul is searching for more, this episode is for you. Join me as I discuss feeling unfilled and how I plan to add something new to my plate to fulfill my soul and palate. 

It's cuffing season. Will you make it to the championships, or do you need to go ahead right now and DTR? Define the relationship. Let's talk about the awkward stage that happens when you are more than casually dating someone, but you aren't in a committed relationship. It's called a situation-ship! When you're dating, there is no consistency, no support, no celebrated milestones, but you are being intimate and hanging on to hope. If you have been there before, this episode is for you.

Article: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a27478820/situationship/ 

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How do you handle difficult conversations? Are they met with avoidance, anger, accommodation? I used to meet difficult conversations with a mix of emotions we all do as we are human. Afterward, I would replay the conversation in my head. Sometimes I would regret how I responded, letting my emotions get the best of me. Now I try to be more self-aware of how I show up during difficult conversations and not let my peace be disturbed by them. Join me on this episode as I share how to speak your be, and be at peace!

It's bound to happen as an adult you are going to argue with your siblings from time to time.  What happens when that argument turns into something more, a push, a shove, a full-on fight? Maybe your rivalry is not that intense, but what happens when you argue and stop speaking for days, months, and for some folk years. I don't think we discuss the hurt we hold onto from sibling rivalry, and more importantly, I don't think we address the root cause of this topic. Join me in the episode where I dive into sibling rivalry a little deeper. 

Article: https://foreverfamilies.byu.edu/sibling-rivalry-adult-siblings 

Most of us are familiar with Love Languages. You know the ones you like the most and the ones you like the least. But, have you ever thought you may gravitate towards certain love languages because you didn't receive that type of love as a child? When your love languages clash with someone else's, have you ever considered that you are loving them in ways they don't want to be loved? Let's discuss what to do when love languages turn into "unloved" languages. 

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Have you ever found yourself solely focused on your generational trauma? The habits you want to break, the addictions you don't want to pick up, and the drama you want to forget. As a generational curse breaker often, I am so fixated on breaking curses that I forget about my generational strengths. I forget that I am the answer to my ancestor's prayers, my grandmother's hopes, my mother's dreams. In this episode, I take a moment to remember that my ancestors gave me so much more than wounds, they gave me strengths to share. 

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We have all been guilty of self-sabotaging at some point in our lives. Maybe you've done it out of anxiousness, fear, vulnerability, or lack thereof. But, have you ever taken the time to think about not only why you self-sabotage, but in what ways you self-sabotage. When you start to develop thoughts and patterns that stop you from living how you want to live and from doing what you want to do, the problem isn't always other people. Sometimes it's you. Join me for this episode as I discuss self-sabotage and how to address it. 

Article in this episode: Self-Sabotage: Why You Do It and How to Stop for Good

https://nickwignall.com/self-sabotage/#:~:text=1%20Procrastination.%20We%20all%20procrastinate%20from%20time%20to,ruining%20otherwise%20healthy%20friendships%20and%20romantic%20partnerships.%20

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