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Some extracts from: What Does Love Actually Mean? By Krizzia Paolyn, March 16th 2018 for ThoughtCatalog They said love at a young age is temporary. They said first loves aren’t meant to last forever. They said it was just too hard for two people to maintain their relationship when they are still in the process of growing into the person they’re meant to be. They said finding love is hard when you are rich and when you are poor. Either they’ll use you or drain you. They said long-distance love gets disconnected through time. They said love has to hurt in order for it to last. Was it really that hard to love someone? They said love should stay no matter how hard the situation gets. Let’s say love left and then you meet them again and nothing has changed at all? Is it counted as first love never dies? Can I finally say that there are things that are temporary for a while and then it comes back older and more mature to stay permanently? That’s when I realized that every person has their own idea and definition of love. For a child, love is someone who feeds and plays with them when everyone’s away. For a parent, love is when their children respect and adore them. For a depressed person, love is someone who makes winter feel like summer. For a happy person, love is someone who can go on a roller coaster ride with them and not get mad for facing their greatest fear. For a man, love is someone who sleeps and stays with him through ups and downs. And for a woman, love is someone who accepts her no matter how imperfect she looks in the morning. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tee-m2/message

COVID BLUES

We start our third season with this as the season might JUST be dedicated to dealing / coping with COVID. The pandemic is ravaging and we all need some level of comfort, even as we try to deal and cope with our various mental spaces. Remember, we are always here and it is our hope, that you ALWAYS find solace within our spaces.

Covid 19 is real people, do stay safe out there and use your masks. As with every illness, Covid 19 leaves behind an impact not only on the physical BUT even much more on the mental state. Depression is real as we here refer to it as the Covid Blues, occasioned by the general onslaught of the pandemic, for some, the 'burden' of actually 'living' through the virus, being quarantined and even stigmatized in some cases.

Listen as this very strong and special lady shares her personal experience and takes us through the various stages of Covid blues as well as coping.

Depression is real BUT you need to put in some 'coping mechanisms' to 'deal'.

#covidblues #copingwithdepression #depressionsupport #depressionisreal

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Regular exercise can profoundly have a positive impact on your mental health by boosting your overall mood. 

Here are some key lessons on dealing with your mental health through fitness and health:-

1. Whatever you feed your body is what you get out.

2. Start by making little changes, clean up your diet.

3. Drink more water.

4. Do YOU! Be at a weight (get a body) that you are happy with. You can't please everyone.

5. Losing weight does not improve self esteem.

6. Most IMPORTANTLY, start SMALL!!!

7. FINALLY, there will be failures! Yes, there will be stops and starts, what's important is that you realize this and start again!

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Navigating med.school is an ongoing process for me right now, she says and the workload (just as in life generally) could impact one's mental health and well being BUT these are some of the ways I cope and I hope it helps someone listening.

1. Your support system is important - Friends, Family, anyone that means anything to you. Where you can vent, talk and generally just be yourself.

2. Do YOU! Always find what works for you. You cannot want to run someone else's race, do what works for you.

3. Remember always, that no-one is an Island. You need people or you will FAIL!!

4. It's OK to be tired BUT don't let it get the better of you.

5. Drop your phone sometimes. Take a walk, sleep. Just CHILL!

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Faith is the substance of things hoped for, evidence of things not seen.

The greatest things to be thankful for - The gift of Life as well as Family (the support system that matters more than anything)

Commune with The Lord in Prayer

Worshiping in spirit and truth

Fasting is key to any one, not only as Christians BUT as humans (this could also be medically confirmed / verified). 

In the place of quiet, you are able to know God even better.

In all things, remember, Wisdom is profitable to direction.

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One’s mental wellness within the workplace is very important BUT questions are often asked about the Millennials; dealing with them and their attitude generally within the workplace as well as how the current pandemic might have affected them and their work ethics.

Millennials get a bad rap in the workforce. These 20-somethings are often accused of being disrespectful, indifferent to authority, overly self-confident, needy and prone to job hopping!? To an extent, these might be true BUT many of these criticisms are exaggerated.

Some key lessons from our HR consultant -

1. Involvement: Try to involve them in whatever actions being carried out.

2. Openness is needed to address a harmonious work environment (from both parties to listen and act).

3. Balance the teams and give everyone an equal voice irrespective of age or position.

4. Let everyone feel comfortable to speak as well as understand that their opinions / suggestions are valid.

5. Give everyone the opportunity to implement whatever tasks they are given.

6. OPENNESS is key!

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Eye Opening, down to earth and true talk with the following business and life lessons learnt -

1. Talk to The Lord. Yes, TALK!

2. There is no problem too BIG to share, speak to someone, find someone you trust to speak with.

3. Love what you do! Be happy doing what you do or are doing because if and definitely when life happens, your backbone is / will be the conviction or love for whatever you are doing.

4. Don't be afraid to fail, just keep it moving!

5. Don't be lost in the crowd, run your own race. STAY ON YOUR LANE!

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The Lock-down experience was indeed an 'experience' for everyone BUT who more than a new dad can share his experience coping with a pregnant wife, a toddler, family and finally a new born. Babies cry, and some more than others, the biggest mistake you can ever make is comparing your situation to other parents.  We discussed this dad's lock-down experience and some key lessons on how he coped: 1. Trust God! 2. Surround yourself with people you can talk too, no man is an island. 3. Don't do more than yourself, don't let anyone put pressure on you in terms of the number of children you want. 4. Raising kids is fun, it's interesting because you learn from them as well. 5. There is a lot to learn from the little ones, be open to and with them. 6. Enjoy this period with the children, make the best of it, make fun memories and DON'T DROP YOUR BABY! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tee-m2/message

My I.T Experience was a 'blow' of sorts to my mental health as it was my first 'adulting' experience BUT I was able to deal / cope.

Some key lessons on how she coped and possibly how others could cope on their IT experience or even within the workplace.

1. Your boss is always right. Even when you have an opinion, state it later.

2. Rein yourself in. You are human BUT you need to learn how to keep a poker face, not everything needs to be let out

3. Do your work. You are there for a reason and you always need to 'show up' as a 'trooper'.

4. Reading and writing were an outlet, they helped. Find your outlet - Reading, Writing, Exercising anything

5. If you are doing anything, DO IT WELL! Live life and ENJOY it.

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Marriage through the eyes of 'Thatfunnycouple' - The OTLovetrain. Watch the full video on our IGTV @bantzwithtee. It was a highly educative session.  Some key lessons as they discuss and share their year's journey with us.  1. Marriage is a partnership. It's about working TOGETHER as a UNIT, a TEAM.  2. Being considerate of each other.  3. Take it a day at a time. No expectations, just give it your best.  4. Be tolerant. Don't allow fights to extend. 5. Know each other's growth plan and encourage each other. 6. Never be afraid to have those HARD discussions, especially finances. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tee-m2/message