Get Naked with Dr. Kate

In your day to day life, how often do you do something for yourself? Do you incorporate pleasure into your routine, or do you find yourself yearning for some moments of intention? On this week's episode of Get Naked, Bedside host Tatiana Fogt returns to the podcast to talk about how a person can build a sustainable (and accessible) pleasure practice into their daily lives. Together with Dr. Kate, the two explore: • Identifying the significance between rest and pleasure • How to escape from constantly being in a "doing" mindset • Exploring what brings you joy by tapping into childhood • The myth of needing to "earn" pleasure and so much more! Tatiana is the brilliant creator and host behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By chatting with sexperts, therapists, innovators, thought leaders & more, she's on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable Be sure to join the waitlist to grab a copy of Tatiana's latest journal here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is an incel? What leads a person to become an incel? And what does it mean to be black-pilled and red-pilled? On this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Dr. Kate is joined by Brendan Kwiatkowski, an educator, researcher, and speaker specializing in the social-emotional development and well-being of boys and men. The two dive into an illuminating conversation that aims to better understand the root reasons that men become drawn to inceldom, including the roles that entitlement and shame play. Together, Brendan and Dr. Kate work to unpack: • What traits embody precarious masculinity • Why a person may find themselves identifying with incel culture • Why men in particular are targeted by / attracted to the incel community • The difference between red and black pilled ideologies and so much more! A special thank you to our sponsors for this week's episode, Lume Deodorant and VIIA Hemp! VIIA HEMP 👇 Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+). Celebrate 4/20 the right way with VIIA. Happy Holidaze! #ad LUME DEODORANT 👇 Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code GET NAKED at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can you keep the curiosity alive in a relationship? In this episode, we revisit a community favorite where Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon talk about the nuances of relationships. They explore some of the questions that Dr. Solomon created in her quiz that reveals roles we take on within relationships. The two work to unpack how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. Together, they discuss: • How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. • How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. • How to love someone while not losing yourself. & so much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Be sure to check out her latest book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive. Original air date: October 10, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does one unlearn the rigid beliefs of purity culture? This week, Dr. Kate is joined by Julia and Jeremiah of Sexvangelicals, a a podcast, educational platform, and community building project offering the sex education the church didn't want you to have. The three of them unpack: • The impact that these environments can have on one's relationship to pleasure and sex • The sense of grief and loss that can come hand in hand with the freedom of exiting high control environments • Redefining the role of importance that sex plays in your life and so much more! Be sure to check out Sexvangelicals podcast to gain insight on giving yourself permission to be a sexual person, navigating the deconstructing process, and healing from the ways that Christian communities may have gotten it wrong. RESOURCES MENTIONED: When Religion Hurts You (book) by Laura Anderson Sunday School Dropouts (podcast) by Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs A special thank you to this episode's sponsor, VIIA HEMP! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+). Happy Holidaze! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that there are 14 muscles in the pelvic floor? Do kegels actually work? And what IS the pelvic floor, exactly? We are revisiting a community favorite this week with pelvic floor expert Courtney Virden! Together with Dr. Kate, the two unpack: • How pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together • The shame around pelvic floor dysfunction • Accessible pelvic floor exercises & so much more! Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are men afraid of women? The answer may surprise you. Dr. Kate is joined by Dr. Avrum Weiss on this week's episode of Get Naked to discuss the ways that men's fear of intimacy may negatively impact their relationships with women. Together, they unpack • The deepseated root of fear of intimacy, starting from our childhood relationships • The strain that fear can place on intimate relationships between men and women • How men unconsciously identify their own fears of intimacy • The role of the patriarchy when it comes to control • Starting points to help men overcome fear of intimacy and so much more. Dr. Avrum Weiss is a psychologist, author, and speaker. He has written four books, the most recent “Hidden In Plain Sight: How Men’s Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships”. A special thank you to this episode's sponsors, VIIA and LUME DEODORANT! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies (21+). Lume’s Starter Pack is perfect for new customers. It comes with a Solid Stick Deodorant, Cream Tube Deodorant, two free products of your choice (like Mini Body Wash and Deodorant Wipes), and free shipping. As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code GETNAKED at LumeDeodorant.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it ever acceptable to cheat? What do fidelity agreements look like in partnership? This week, we are revisiting a community favorite episode with the one and only Dan Savage! Dr. Kate and Dan talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family YOU want, not one dictated by society. Together, they unpack: • The dimensionality of fidelity and loyalty • Inviting sustained and controlled chaos into your relationship • The power of practice in group and community settings • The Karmic Rule of Kink and so much more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, media pundit, author, journalist, and LGBT community activist. Be sure to check out his column, Savage Love, and his podcast, Savage Lovecast. A special thank you to the sponsors for this episode, BEDUCATED and MAYER LABS! Head to BEDUCATED's website and use code "drKate" for 40% off a yearly pass. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are anal play and pegging are safe (and okay to enjoy)? This week on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Australia's leading men's sex coach Cam Fraser joins the podcast to discuss all things anal play, and to help shed some of the stigma surrounding it within male spaces. Together, they unpack: • Myths around male sexuality and masculinity • Why some men may fear anal play, and why they may be curious about it • How prostate orgasms can be achieved (and what sets them apart) • Tips for getting started with pegging and anal play in solo/partnered sex And so much more. We hope that this episode can help to dispel myths around anal play, masculinity, and what it means about one's sexuality, so that individuals can feel free to explore what feels safe and pleasurable for them. Cam Fraser is a Professional Sex Coach, certified with the World Association of Sex Coaches, as well as a Sexologist, and the current Deputy Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists. His work aims to help men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. You can learn more about Cam by visiting his website. A very special thank you to this episode's sponsor, FACTOR MEALS! Head to FACTORMEALS.com/getnaked50 and use code "getnaked50" to get 50% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? Maybe you think about a passionate kiss, or getting frisky with a partner in the bedroom. But what if we told you there were other ways to cultivate intimacy that didn't involve sex? This week, we are revisiting a community favorite on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, where Dr. Kate explores the multifaceted definitions of intimacy with Doc Erica Holmes. The two unpack a holistic definition of intimacy, walk listeners through a few activities that can help couples connect, and explore how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy. Doc Erica is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, trainer, community consultant and author in the greater Los Angeles area. Be sure to check out Erica's latest book, Intimacy Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect. A big thank you to this episode's sponser, OMG YES! Go to https://www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount. Original episode air date: August 8, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What kind of sex is worth wanting? Does your sex life inevitably suffer in longterm relationships? On this week's episode, sex educator, researcher, and renowned author of "Come As You Are" Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. joins Dr. Kate to answer these questions. Together, they discuss the genesis of Emily's latest book "Come Together", and the reality of how our sex lives change in longterm partnerships. They discuss: • The popular rhetoric we hear about how sex works in longterm relationships, including the conversations around "keeping the spark alive" • The importance of pleasure, authenticity, and vulnerability when it comes to desire in longterm partnerships • Why it is so important to co-create an erotic context with a partner • Why longterm partners get stuck in the cycle of having the same sex over and over • Asking yourself: What kind of sex is WORTH wanting? and so much more. Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister, Amelia, of Burnout. She combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist! You can order Emily's latest book "Come Together" here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices