Get Naked with Dr. Kate

Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex, trauma, and ketamine-assisted therapy (KAP), author, yoga teacher, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr Cat is the founder of SexLoveYoga.com, an online platform integrating various schools of thought including science, tantra, yoga, psychedelic therapy, and psychology designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life.  As an expert and published researcher on the topic of sexual health, Dr. Cat sees clients in her private practice office in Beverly Hills and leads workshops, lectures, and retreats internationally. Dr. Cat is the host of the podcasts Eat.Play.Sex and Erotically Wasted, co-founder of Un.done women’s sensual yoga experience. She is also part of the Breathwork app Othership, a breathing App that helps you regulate your emotions and nervous system through guided breathwork. Dr. Kate talks with Dr. Cat about the many advantages of breathwork. They talk about how Dr. Cat first felt free, calm, and safe while practicing Yoga. It was in that moment that she realized she could feel something different than the intense anxiety + tension that shook her body on a daily basis. ​ This inspired her lifelong dedication to discovering more about the voice of her body claiming the fullest spectrum of erotic expression. She talks about her mission to help others become more “undone” so that they can fully claim their most raw + authentic erotic self --- whatever that looks like for them. From Tantra to BDSM to sex + trauma psychology, psychedelics, yoga, + the modern sciences, Dr. Cat sees healing from a holistic lens and they talk about the effects each can have.  Dr. Cat’s approach is inclusive of all expressions + integrates the mind, body, spirit, + the energy that moves through it all.  Listen to this amazing conversation about the freedoms that can result from breathwork. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected]  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ 

Brooke Brownlee, APCC is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor at Modern Intimacy under the supervision of Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Brooke is passionate about helping clients heal from trauma, feel more empowered sexually, and repair relationships. Brooke is continuing her education and working towards becoming a Certified Sex Therapist. Brooke specializes in counseling patients with Pain during Sex issues. In this episode Dr. Kate and Brooke speak about causes for pain during sex and how this can be an isolating experience. They also talk about the gap in mental health and sexual health and some potential remedies. They also speak about various reasons for pain: from abuse, a traumatic medical experience, fear of engulfment from the relationship, disgust and shame and many others. Their discussion of disgust and shame leading to potentially painful sex is eye-opening.  It is a fascinating topic and anyone suffering from this will learn more of it’s potential origins, will feel not alone in this, and will know there is help out there for you. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected]  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ 

Dr. betty martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with The School of Consent, betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Dr. Kate and Dr. betty talk about the 3 Minute Game: founded on two questions: "What do you want me to do to you?" and "What do you want to do to me?" which uncover so much, including how detached we are from knowing what we really want and what we are truly comfortable with. We learn that until we get in touch with what we want, it is difficult to give and receive authentically. And until that, we are potentially giving and receiving but actually getting resentful and angry, as we stand disconnected from our wants, and performing to what we believe our partner wants, acting as if it is all good. Learn tools to discover more about yourself and your sexual or non-sexual giving and receiving with a partner, co-worker, client, etc. It can be liberating step toward balanced relationships. __ Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Visit www.modernintimacy.com

In 2015, while working as a features writer for The Guardian in New York City, Rose wrote a widely-circulated article on emotional labor, which radically changed her way of understanding how power, gender and race affect the most intimate ways in which people relate to one another. Her research on emotional labor in the eight years since — as an invisible, devalued, feminized and yet essential form of work — has sought to drastically reframe our view of women, work and the nature of persistent inequality.  In 2013, she graduated with a master’s degree in Human Rights from Columbia University, where she focused on social and economic rights violations in the United States.  Rose’s first book, Emotional Labor, is out now.   Dr. Kate and Rose talk about: Women are expected to play an impossible game: show compassion and submission while being assertive and confident How women have to put feelings aside in order to make others’ feel more comfortable.  How this is expected behavior, and raises heads if not acted out Emotional labor is uncompensated work to make others’ feel better. The book is not just about white women and not just heterosexual dynamics. Our society does not value Emotional Labor. How can we change the dynamics of Emotional Labor so that is more equal and works in a way to better society? Listen to the conversation as Rose and Dr. Kate uncover the insidious prevalence of this, and all it effects, while bringing to light ways to possibly fix this into creating a better society. Website: www.Modernintimacy.com Social Media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/

Dr. Ryan Martin (aka the Anger Professor) researches and writes on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. His newest book How to Deal with Angry People came out on May 9th. His previous book is Why We Get Mad: How to Use Your Anger for Positive Change, explore why people become angry, how people can use their anger in productive ways, and how to work effectively with angry people. Ryan also hosts the popular psychology podcast,Psychology and Stuff.  He is a Professor of Psychology and an Associate Dean for the College of Arts, Humanities, and Social Sciences at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay. His work has been featured in the New York Times,  NPR’s Invisibilia podcast, BBC Radio’s Digital Human, TED.com, and elsewhere.  Anger is a hot issue in our lives and in our country. Dr. Kate and Dr. Ryan discuss why. They talk about how prevalent anger is today from road rage to restaurant workers, and also who is modeling for us how to express our anger. They discuss how we evaluate if our anger is justified. And so much more. Let’s get more understanding of anger and anything we can do to handle ours and others.   Website: www.modernintimacy.com   Social media: IG: @themodernintimacy https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/   @drkatebalestrieri     https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/

Dr. Kate talks about aligning with podcast producer, Cloud 10, and joining forces for her podcast going forward. Plus there is a name change from Modern Intimacy to Get Naked with Dr. Kate.   The podcast will still be a candid conversation about mental health, relationships, sex, managing depression and anxiety, personal growth, and self-discovery. And Dr. Kate will answer questions from listeners in a bold and direct way, and not avoid any topics that may come up.   Get Naked with Dr. Kate, which will launch officially towards the end of June, can be heard on all platforms that you normally listen on. If you already subscribe to Modern Intimacy, you don’t have to do anything. It is a smooth transition.   We look forward to sharing our podcast with you every week.    Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and William Beteet discuss how to recognize the male gaze in media, and unpack its detrimental impacts on dating expectations, relationships and masculinity. Guest info: William Beteet III (he/him/his) has been published in TIME, Huffington Post and Inc. Magazine. He’s a TEDx Speaker, Quora Top Writer and has over 160,000 followers on TikTok. William received his Juris Doctorate from Illinois Tech and has degrees in both Philosophy and History from Baylor University. William lives in New York where he has performed, along side of Bill Burr and Tracy Morgan. Follow William on Instagram and TikTok @billbeteet Additional Resources for Understanding the Male Gaze: Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema by Laura Mulvey (year) https://www.asu.edu/courses/fms504/total-readings/mulvey-visualpleasure.pdf What is the Male Gaze? Definition and Examples in Film by Kim Leonard (2021) https://www.studiobinder.com/blog/what-is-the-male-gaze-definition/ To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast

Ali Drucker is an author and freelance writer covering sexual health, relationships, and pop culture. Her new book is called Do As I Say, Not Who I Did: Honest Advice on Hookups and Relationships in College, a shame-free, affirmative sex education for college-age women, and anyone just discovering what they want.She previously served as Senior Sex and Dating Editor at Cosmopolitan and Maxim. Since then, her work has appeared in New York Magazine, HuffPost, Refinery29 and more.  Ali lives in Los Angeles with her husband, cat, and moderately well-behaved German Shepherd.Kate and Ali discuss the empowering of women and the mantra you Don’t Owe Anyone Sex. They talk about dating apps, porn, withdrawing consent, sexting, and tips for dating, information and insights for college women and beyond college.Ali info: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ali_drucker/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ali_drucker Book purchase link: https://bookshop.org/p/books/do-as-i-say-not-who-i-did-honest-advice-on-hookups-and-relationships-in-college-ali-drucker/15862712?ean=9781615197965 Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy

Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick is a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and specializes in emotional and physical intimacy, relationship barriers, communication skills, and helping her clients to break the "toxic cycle" & address dysfunctional relational behaviors.Dr. Fedrick also specializes in working with depression, anxiety, trauma, attachment, intimacy, grief and loss, life transitions, and personal improvement (including motivation & self-esteem). She is part of Evolve Counseling in Arizona. Her new book Relatable: From Relationship Trauma to Finding Your Truth is out in May.Dr. Fedrick seeks to provide her clients with relatable and nonjudgmental coaching that helps to normalize the struggles they are facing, while simultaneously assisting them to obtain the tools needed to address these issues and improve their relational functioning with self and others.In addition to providing coaching services, Dr. Fedrick is a professor at Grand Canyon University, where she teaches behavioral health and psychology courses. She also hosts a relationship-based podcast: Relatable| Relationships Unfiltered and a mental health podcast: Calm, Cool, & Connected.Dr. Fedrick presents mental health talks & media interviews both in-person and virtually (Good Day LA, Us Weekly, various podcasts), as well as contributes to mental health articles for various media outlets (as seen in, Oprah Daily, Self Magazine, Cosmopolitan, HuffPost, and more.Dr. Kate and Dr. Liz talk about emotionally unavailable people and the signs to spot one, but they also talk about signs to check if you are emotionally unavailable yourself.  They talk about some traits: Guarded, easily distracted, work a lot, too busy for conversations, combative, isolates in hard conversations, and more specifics to be aware of.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy

Tatiana is the founder, host, and sexuality educator behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By chatting with sexperts, therapists, innovators, thought leaders & more she's on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable.

Her Secret Sauce: With a background in graphic design and branding Tatiana’s aim is to rebrand contemporary sex, love, dating, and intimacy to make room for what's between the hyper-clincal and hyper-sexual narratives we so often see.

In this collab episode, Tatiana and Dr. Kate answer questions from their followers and talk about everything sexual health and wellness. 

They cover it all from sex therapy, who is it for, having a daily pleasure practice, did you know pleasure and you are a definite priority? Watch out for Dismissiveness  in your relationship: It is a definite sexual turn off, and hear about  the whys and some tips about performance anxiety. 

Kate and Tatiana also discuss why orgasm is not always the defining goal and so much more!!! You will want to hear their take on every juicy question.


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Dr. Kate Balestrieri 

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