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Gaby Balsells is a Clinical Psychologist, Liscensed in Guatemala, and a Relationship and Intimacy Coach with almost a decade of experience guiding couples to understand each other and become a true team! Within her extensive resume, Gaby is specialized in Attachment Science & Emotionally Focused Therapy. Gaby believes that eroticism is a life force, and she is passionate about helping people find deeper connection to their bodies as a way of reconnecting to their whole Self. She helps couples become fulfilled with their intimacy through creating a sex-positive space that fosters curiosity and deeper connection. Gaby and Dr. Kate talk about the benefits of blending a couple’s 2 different cultures and backgrounds and all it can affect. Gaby’s parents were from two different cultures and both held on to their individual cultures for the family rather than blending it. This can cause some tension and confusion. Gaby and Dr. Kate talk about the 2 cultures’ need to come together and create their own new way- take the best and surrender what doesn’t work. The coming together of two different cultures effects so many things from religion, to language, to views of how to raise kids, traditions, in-laws, freedom of choice for the children, how to talk about emotions, how to express anger, being a woman, and much more. Gaby finds that it is best if it is not an “either /or” situation, but rather a blending that takes place. The blending can honor traditions of each partner and create a new design that both agree upon. They talk about steps bi cultural couples can take for better communication: Creating traditions by their own design Define roles and responsibilities Determine if the relationship takes precedent over work and family How much compromise is needed and couple defined boundaries from the in laws How much alone time each needs. It’s a deep look and practical guide to issues large and small that may affect this particular relationship and families of this coupling. Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to www.Hellofresh.com/50getnaked Use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 Months. Manscaped: Go to www.Manscaped.com and use code Get Naked for 20% off and free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tik-Tok sensation Caylee Cresta’s @cayleecresta TikTok account has gained 2.8 million followers and 46 million likes. Her channel consisted of makeup and comedy videos before she shifted to sharing her thoughts about views on women in society. Caylee is a social media personality on a mission to empower women.With a prior career in the male dominated industry of construction, she was originally inspired by the communication barrier she found between men and women and set out to translate the plight of everyday women like herself in an effort to help couples reconnect and women to see more clearly what they may be feeling.It was here that she found her passion and became determined to describe every facet of the female experience in hopes of making her fellow woman know they weren’t alone and to feel understood. Caylee is often praised for her ability to articulate tough topics and does so with her blunt demeanor and a comedic twist. Caylee wants to be able to laugh about some of the serious subjects and to know no one is isolated in this, it is universal. She is the mother to a young son, a cat lover, and enjoys playing with makeup when she’s not fighting misogynists. Caylee also reveals on this podcast that she is in fact married and talks about her relationship with Dr. Kate. Dr. Kate and Caylee talk about how this started for Caylee, about some of her most controversial posts and threats that ensued. They speak about men’s societal views of women and how these posts can shine a light on how a woman is feeling and often start great conversations with their partners. This is definitely a fun and enlightening episode we hope you enjoy. Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: DIPSEA: Go to www.dipseastories.com/getnaked for a 30 day extended free trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jaime Mahler, MS, LMHC, is the New York-based psychotherapist and mental health educator behind the popular Recollected Self social media brand. Jaime’s therapeuticeducationon trauma and toxic relationships has gone viral on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTubewith millions of views and likes. In addition to becoming the trusted empathetic resource for her many followers, Jaime is a noted mental health contributor for outlets such as USA TODAY, NBC News,Parade,and more. She is the author of her new book TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY: Your Guide to Identifying Toxic Partners, Leaving Unhealthy Dynamics, and Healing Emotional Wounds After Breakup(September 5, 2023).She is actively engaging in conversations around trauma healing and toxic relationship dynamics through her social channels and popular mental health podcastUnlearned. As a Therapist and trauma specialist Jaime helps people of any adult age take control, reclaim their power and move ahead with pride, determination and optimism when recovering from a bad relationship and prepares them for what to look for when getting back out there. She and Dr. Kate talk about Toxic trauma and healing. They talk about the difference and importance of ME vs. WE and Interdependence vs. Co-dependence. Most importantly is that each partner make sure they are taking care of their “self” and figuring out the difference of a toxic gaslighting relationship vs. healthy respect for one another and true compromise. Jaime goes over her acronym OASIS for points about a toxic relationship. It is an important subject matter and may help you see some warning signs, how to handle them and maybe turn it around. Dr. Kate and Jaime remind us to always watch out for our mental health within a relationship. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: BETTER HELPGo to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate loves getting questions from you, the listener, about anything on your mind, no matter how bold, embarrassing, or shocking. Not much phases this Sex Therapist. So, please keep your questions coming. Email your questions to: [email protected] This episode covers one question about Kate’s trajectory to becoming a psychologist and how and where one can get credentialed in the specific area of Sex Therapist. She also answers a question from a woman who experienced sexual trauma much earlier in her life, and her question reveals that her husband “gifted” her a vibrator and the very complex reactions she has to this present. Dr. Kate gets into it and reminds us maybe his own need for getting his wife more interested in sex was actually dismissing the effects of making her feel less than, shamed and other undesirable emotions. Dr. Kate suggests ideas to bridge the gap of desire discrepancy and how “waning” libido can be for many reasons that need to be discovered together. She shares a reminder: Intentions and actual impact can be very different. Dr. Kate also answers a question from another listener which has some of the same theme. He is sexually frustrated and wants to hear how he can have open communication about it. Again, desire discrepancy is part of the situation. Kate makes a big point of not guilting or shaming your partner, ever. Again, Dr. Kate gives ideas of how to address solutions together and suggest other ways to cultivate connection with your partner. Listen and leave a rating and review below if you can. And remember to send in any question you may not be able to ask others about. Dr. Kate loves an interactive platform that is here to help you. (See email address below) Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets. Dr. Kate and Courtney talk about how Pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together. There are 14 muscles in the Pelvic floor and if it’s not strengthened, it can cause low sensation in the pelvic area and can affect orgasm and climaxing. They talk about why there is a connection between the pelvic floor and sexual enjoyment. Many have heard of the Kegel exercises. Listen to Courtney’s advice and opinion on other ways to work on your core. Hear about the collaboration between Courtney and Ashley Black who invented the Fascia Blaster and the program to work on the pelvic floor via the Fascia. Dr. Kate and Courtney share ways to work on the pelvic floor and increase sexual enjoyment with a reasonable investment of time. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: OMGYES Go to www.OMGYES/GetNakedfor a special discount. DIPSEA Go to www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked for an extended 30-day full-access free trial HELLO FRESH Go to www.HelloFresh.com/50getnakedanduse code 50getnaked for 50% off plus free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Allison Yarrow is an award-winning journalist, speaker, and author of Birth Control: The Insidious Power of Men Over Motherhood (Hachette/Seal Press, July 2023). She is also the author of 90s Bitch: Media, Culture, and the Failed Promise of Gender Equality (Harper Perennial, 2018). She has written about health, politics, and gender for many publications including the New York Times, the Washington Post, Vox, Insider, USA Today, Time, and Newsweek. She was a national magazine award finalist, a TED resident, an Aspen Ideas Festival fellow, and a grantee of the International Women’s Media Foundation. She produced the award-winning Vice News documentary “Misconception,” and gave a TED talk called “What to Expect Post-Expecting.” Dr. Kate and Allison talk about how modern medicine should make pregnancy and childbirth safer for all. But in Allison’s book Birth Control, she reveals how women are controlled, traumatized, injured, and even killed because of the traditionalist practices of medical professionals and hospitals. They talk about the dangerous misogyny that permeates pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood in our hospitals. Kate and Allison also talk about how doctors were trained by midwives and then stole control of birth from them in the 19th century. Allison touches on specific birthing practices that are steamrolling women by a male-dominated medical establishment that has everyone convinced that birthing bodies are inherently flawed and that every pregnancy is a crisis that it alone can “solve.” Misogyny and racism, not scientific evidence and support, shape the overwhelming majority of America’s four million annual births. Drawing on extensive reporting, expert interviews, an original survey of 1,300 mothers, and her own personal experiences, Yarrow documents in her book how modern maternal health care is insidiously, purposefully designed to take power from women to the detriment of their physical and mental health—not just during labor, but for years after. She shares this in her conversation with Dr. Kate and discusses better ways this can be handled They also talk about a new post-partum depression drug and so much more. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected] Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: OMG YES: Go to www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount BETTERHELP: Visit www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather Shannon, LMFT, CST and Dr. Kate talk about the sexual kink Hot Wife and Cuckolding. They explore what these terms mean. Hot Wife and Cuckholding kinks play with themes of humiliation, desire, power and pride, and can be practiced in heterosexual and queer relationships. They discuss Cuckolding and Hot Wifing, and the differences between them. They also talk about the mystery around this form of kink and why this is erotic to some. Both can be practiced in relationships that practice open monogamy or consensual non-monogamy. Heather and Dr. Kate outline how to begin this conversation with your partner, if this is interesting to you, as well as how to talk about the experience and feelings after participating in this practice. It is an open and very direct conversation about this sexual kink. Heather Shannon is a Certified Sex Therapist and Host of the top-ranked “Ask A Sex Therapist” podcast. With over 12 years in private practice, Heather helps queer, kinky and/or non-monogamous people to explore who they are as sexual beings and how they want to show up in their relationships. Heather has been featured in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Self Magazine as well as on podcasts including The Horny Housewife and Curious Girl Diaries. She is a sex and relationship expert for the Peanut app, which serves 2.5M women throughout all stages of life. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected]  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSORS:  OMGYES  Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. BETTER HELP  Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Doc Erica talk today about Doc Erica’s newest book, out today, Intimacy ≠ Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect and look at the holistic definition of Intimacy, including intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, experimental/recreational intimacy and not just sexual intimacy. Doc Erica believes that only by giving priority to all these forms of intimacy, will a relationship last. They reviewed a few of the 180 activities that can help couples connect and how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy. We are the loneliest we have ever been. Holistic intimate connection is at a low. Has our culture of Electronics affected all of this? Are people dismissing emotional attachment?  Listen to the conversation for insights and practical advice and a fun conversation. -- Dr. Erica Holmes, Doc Erica, is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, author, speaker, and consultant who values knowledge, authenticity, and empowerment. As the Executive Director of Champion Counseling Center, Associate Program Chair and the Director of the Psychological Trauma Studies Specialization in a Master’s in Psychology program in Los Angeles, and the founder of HOMMs Consulting, she has provided psychotherapy and counseling, training and consultation, education and research services to individuals and organizations for over 25 years.    Her areas of inquiry and numerous professional presentations focus on psychological trauma, relationships and coupling, equity, belonging and empowerment, psychotherapy with African American clients and the integration of Christianity and Psychology.    Her books, Dating with Purpose (DWP): A Single Woman’s Guide to Escaping No Man’s Land, Before the Broom: A Premarital Workbook for Dating, Engaged and Newly Married African American Couples and her most recent release, Intimacy ≠ Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect have been met with enthusiasm and positive reviews. Her first textbook, Black Couples Therapy: Clinical Theory and Practice is set for publication by Cambridge University Press August 2023 -- Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected]  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: Go to www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is Dr. Kate’s first Solo Q&A podcast, answering questions from listeners. We love hearing directly from our listeners, and love answering specific questions you have. This is the first, and Dr. Kate plans on doing these each month, so keep your questions coming! Many answers will feel like she is talking directly to you, as there are so many universal sex and relationship questions. You can ask Dr. Kate truly anything. As in her weekly podcast, she is always honest and open about all things, no matter how sensitive or embarrassing you may think it is. This episode includes a question about being attracted to someone other than your partner, along with discussion of monogamy, opening your relationship to others, inviting porn and toys into the bedroom and much specific advice. Dr. Kate also answers a question about an 18 year old’s inability to ejaculate when having sex with a partner, though he has no problem when having “solo” sex. Listen in. Dr. Kate says this is a more common issue than you would think. Another question is about one partner initiating sex more than the other. Again, Dr. Kate knows this is not uncommon and gets real about it. She shares reasons and also specific take away about this situation. Dr. Kate is there for you. Listen and write in your own questions. She is looking forward to continued interaction with you all! And if you are enjoying the Get Naked podcast, please leave a review and “like” on Apple/ITunes. We appreciate the feedback! Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected]   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kayla Tricaso is the Office Manager and Intake Specialist at Modern Intimacy and has been working in the mental health field for 6 years. She currently is in graduate school to eventually become a therapist who specializes in helping people heal from trauma. Kayla has been interested in and written a blog about the effects of emotionally immature parents on their children and the heartache it brings oftentimes in that strained relationship. This podcast addresses the parents and their children. Kate and Kayla talk about and give suggestions for parents to embark on conversations with their adult children in hopes of everyone really hearing one another, not placing blame, giving confirmation of feelings for each other and not being judgemental. They also talk about evaluating the history of the relationships and making a definite decision of wanting to repair the relationship or not, and if the choice is to try to mend it, to remember nothing gets fixed overnight. Everyone involved needs to have realistic expectations and time frames. This is a poignant conversation about the pain of estranged relationships of parents and children with a healthy dose of optimism for the future. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: [email protected]  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices