Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast

Hey Parents, does your teenage daughter doubt herself or feel like there’s something fundamentally wrong with her when things don’t work out?

It’s so easy to weave the “Ugh, what’s wrong with ME?” narrative into an emotionally triggering situation.

The Good News

The good news is, there’s an effective way for your daughter to deactivate doubt, get stronger and feel more self-confident. 

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast where you can find the full show notes at cultivatingresilientteens.com.

What’s Really Going On? 

So, as we move into the summer months, whether your daughter will be part of a 

• new club
• camp
• team 

OR is planning to be more of a free-range chicken and in charge of her daily activities, it’s worth taking the time to continue to learn about her developing sense of self and how to design healthy social scenarios. 

Because, understanding how she sees herself, what she thinks about herself and how she talks to and about herself will give you the clues YOU NEED to empower her to build her confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures.

The Figure it Out Formula

The secret in the secret formula is this – it takes you right to the heart of the matter. 

And getting to the heart of the matter will help keep your daughter out of the weeds.

The Figure it Out Formula goes like this … turn your left palm over so it’s facing upwards.

Find the 5 Steps to the complete show notes, including The Figure it Out Formula on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/

Podcast Resources:

Ep – 27 3 Insights Every Teenage Girl Needs to Ace Tricky Social Situations

Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence

Ep 29 - A Bite-Sized Solution to Protect your Daughter’s Most Important Asset

Hey Parents,

Does your teenage daughter have a plan to stay confident and mentally clear when she’s emotionally triggered?

After making a very long list on a giant piece of paper, the teenage girls in my social media group just sat back with that deer-in-headlights look.

I think they were more stunned than I was at the list they’d created.

The task was to identify all the all the “parts” of social media they deal with on a daily basis.

What confuses them.

What makes them feel bad.

And, what’s fun, too.

We definitely didn’t want to forget about the fun stuff, because being able to instantly connect with your friends can be great.

And seeing each other on the map is pretty cool, too. 

Well, except when it’s not.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Having a Plan

Where today we’re going to offer your daughter a 3 Step Road Map to navigate the ups and downs of her media relationships so she can keep a strong sense of self and continue to design healthy social scenarios.

Because as parents, you know, it’s a rough ride for everyone when your daughter:

·         discovers her tribe has assembled without her 

·         or someone she’s reached out to is active but not responding

We obviously didn’t have these devices when you and I were teens.

Though, that deep gut punching feeling you get when you’ve been betrayed by someone in your tribe hasn’t changed.

And having the ability to manage all those big emotions doesn’t just magically happen.

So, let’s give your daughter a step-by-step plan so she can interact on her social platforms while maintaining a strong sense of self and designing healthy social scenarios.

Please take the time to share the 3 Step Road Map with your daughter, you'll be glad you did.

Find the 3 Steps and the full Show Notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com

Podcast Resources:

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social Scenarios

Quote from Oprah “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”

90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey Parents,

Does your teenage daughter have a plan to stay confident and mentally clear when she’s emotionally triggered?

After making a very long list on a giant piece of paper, the teenage girls in my social media group just sat back with that deer-in-headlights look.

I think they were more stunned than I was at the list they’d created.

The task was to identify all the all the “parts” of social media they deal with on a daily basis.

What confuses them.

What makes them feel bad.

And, what’s fun, too.

We definitely didn’t want to forget about the fun stuff, because being able to instantly connect with your friends can be great.

And seeing each other on the map is pretty cool, too. 

Well, except when it’s not.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Having a Plan

Where today we’re going to offer your daughter a 3 Step Road Map to navigate the ups and downs of her media relationships so she can keep a strong sense of self and continue to design healthy social scenarios.

Because as parents, you know, it’s a rough ride for everyone when your daughter:

·         discovers her tribe has assembled without her 

·         or someone she’s reached out to is active but not responding

We obviously didn’t have these devices when you and I were teens.

Though, that deep gut punching feeling you get when you’ve been betrayed by someone in your tribe hasn’t changed.

And having the ability to manage all those big emotions doesn’t just magically happen.

So, let’s give your daughter a step-by-step plan so she can interact on her social platforms while maintaining a strong sense of self and designing healthy social scenarios.

Please take the time to share the 3 Step Road Map with your daughter, you'll be glad you did.

Find the 3 Steps and the full Show Notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com

Podcast Resources:

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

Episode #18 2 Key Elements Your Daughter Needs to Design Healthy Social Scenarios

Quote from Oprah “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”

90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey Parents,

Have you ever asked your daughter how she’s doing and heard something like … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand!”

As you’re working through the ‘letting go’ and ‘losing control’ part of raising a teenager (two of the toughest parts if you ask me), getting a non-answer when you’re trying to connect is tough because:

• it feels like it widens the divide
• and pulls heavily on your heartstrings

As a parent of teens, I get it.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast, it’s an honor to spend this time with you.

If you’re feeling like you haven’t quite found a solution to how to empower your daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures, this episode is for you.

And hopefully it’ll make it easier for you and your daughter to learn and grow together, too.

Signature System

After years of working with teens and their families, I think you’ll see that the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:

• Developing a strong sense of self
• Creating meaningful educational experiences
• Designing healthy social scenarios
• Fostering a connective family life

Not only offer your daughter the tools she needs to step into her personal power, recognize when to lead and when to follow, and mitigate the negative effects of social media.

They also help you learn how to navigate these teen rites of passage.

If you’re not familiar with my signature system, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen, you’ll find more information and the full show notes for this podcast on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.

What’s Happening

Okay, here’s the downlow on … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand.”

The likelihood that these statements are true, is pretty high.

It’s less about trying to drive you crazy or push you away, and more about your daughter feeling overwhelmed and confused herself.

And as a caring, resourceful and hardworking parent, you likely encourage your daughter to be a critical thinker in order to solve her problems.

Critical thinking is an essential life skill.

But sometimes relationships are messy, and miscommunications happen - and there’s not a clear answer or approach.

You may even see the wheels turning as your daughter attempts to figure out or fix her situation.

And recognize that she's caught in a negative thought loop, which, as you know, isn’t helpful.

If you’re not familiar with how negative thought loops influence your daughter’s mood and motivation, you may want to familiarize yourself with the top 6 thinking errors in Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.

It's a Dance

So here you are, trying to connect with and support your daughter, but you’re not sure whether to step in or step back – a bit of a dance.

Find out if a growth mindset will make life easier for your daughter, as well as, learn how to dance with agility and grace. Get the complete show notes on my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Podcast Resources

Life’s Random Bits | Parenting is Like Dancing | 9.7.2017

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success | Carol Dweck

5 Keys to the Right Mindset for Growth and Success | Bob Choat | 7.3.2015

Episode #2 How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager

Hey Parents,

Have you ever asked your daughter how she’s doing and heard something like … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand!”

As you’re working through the ‘letting go’ and ‘losing control’ part of raising a teenager (two of the toughest parts if you ask me), getting a non-answer when you’re trying to connect is tough because:

• it feels like it widens the divide
• and pulls heavily on your heartstrings

As a parent of teens, I get it.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast, it’s an honor to spend this time with you.

If you’re feeling like you haven’t quite found a solution to how to empower your daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures, this episode is for you.

And hopefully it’ll make it easier for you and your daughter to learn and grow together, too.

Signature System

After years of working with teens and their families, I think you’ll see that the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:

• Developing a strong sense of self
• Creating meaningful educational experiences
• Designing healthy social scenarios
• Fostering a connective family life

Not only offer your daughter the tools she needs to step into her personal power, recognize when to lead and when to follow, and mitigate the negative effects of social media.

They also help you learn how to navigate these teen rites of passage.

If you’re not familiar with my signature system, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen, you’ll find more information and the full show notes for this podcast on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.

What’s Happening

Okay, here’s the downlow on … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand.”

The likelihood that these statements are true, is pretty high.

It’s less about trying to drive you crazy or push you away, and more about your daughter feeling overwhelmed and confused herself.

And as a caring, resourceful and hardworking parent, you likely encourage your daughter to be a critical thinker in order to solve her problems.

Critical thinking is an essential life skill.

But sometimes relationships are messy, and miscommunications happen - and there’s not a clear answer or approach.

You may even see the wheels turning as your daughter attempts to figure out or fix her situation.

And recognize that she's caught in a negative thought loop, which, as you know, isn’t helpful.

If you’re not familiar with how negative thought loops influence your daughter’s mood and motivation, you may want to familiarize yourself with the top 6 thinking errors in Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.

It's a Dance

So here you are, trying to connect with and support your daughter, but you’re not sure whether to step in or step back – a bit of a dance.

Find out if a growth mindset will make life easier for your daughter, as well as, learn how to dance with agility and grace. Get the complete show notes on my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Podcast Resources

Life’s Random Bits | Parenting is Like Dancing | 9.7.2017

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success | Carol Dweck

5 Keys to the Right Mindset for Growth and Success | Bob Choat | 7.3.2015

Episode #2 How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager

Hey Parents,

Is your teenage daughter “freaking out” about what’s next?

You’re probably noticing that spring fever is in the air, which undoubtedly signals one thing - transitions are on the horizon. 

Whether it’s her transition into middle school, high school, college or beyond, you’re likely seeing any number of behavioral changes in your daughter.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast, where you can always find the full Show Notes and resources for every podcast episode at cultivatingresilientteens.com

The Problem

Although we’re being kinda playful about your daughter “freaking out” about what’s next, we know you’ve been through some tough times, and that stress and anxiety are at an all-time high for teenagers.

According to Dr. Sarah McKay, Author of The Women’s’ Brain Book: The Neuroscience of Health, Hormones and Happiness, “We all respond to stress in a variety of ways, and whether an event is a ‘stressor’ varies from person to person.” And Dr. McKay goes on to say that “We feel stressed when real or imagined pressures exceed or perceived ability to cope.”

Everything You Need

So, today we’re offering a simple Formula that will boost your daughter’s resilience by giving her what she needs to make calm, logical and confident decisions about her future.

If you’ve been listening for a while, you’ve heard us lovingly nudge your daughter to devote some quality time to developing a strong sense of self.

Because, as parents, you know that a strong sense of self will likely:
- steer your daughter away from “iffy” or “risky” social situations
- help her avoid iceberg beliefsthat can sabotage relationship
- and help her create a path that promotes personal growth

Okay, now … let’s imagine for a minute, that your daughter wakes up every morning READY for whatever comes her way - would it be worth it?

Everyone wants to bounce back from life’s challenges and detours, and we bet your daughter feels that way, too.

And, if you’re familiar with the saying that “worrying is like a rocking chair: it will give you something to do but you won’t get you anywhere.”

Simple A-B-C Formula

You’ll see that the three critical actions in the A-B-C Formula enable your daughter make calm, logical and confident decisions about her future – truly, the best way for her to bounce back!

It’s easier than you may think so head over to my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com and get the three critical actions - and cultivate a more resilient teenager.

Podcast Resources: 

Dr. Sara McKay |The Women’s’ Brain Book: The Neuroscience of Health, Hormones and Happiness 

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence

Hey Parents,

Is your teenage daughter “freaking out” about what’s next?

You’re probably noticing that spring fever is in the air, which undoubtedly signals one thing - transitions are on the horizon. 

Whether it’s her transition into middle school, high school, college or beyond, you’re likely seeing any number of behavioral changes in your daughter.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast, where you can always find the full Show Notes and resources for every podcast episode at cultivatingresilientteens.com

The Problem

Although we’re being kinda playful about your daughter “freaking out” about what’s next, we know you’ve been through some tough times, and that stress and anxiety are at an all-time high for teenagers.

According to Dr. Sarah McKay, Author of The Women’s’ Brain Book: The Neuroscience of Health, Hormones and Happiness, “We all respond to stress in a variety of ways, and whether an event is a ‘stressor’ varies from person to person.” And Dr. McKay goes on to say that “We feel stressed when real or imagined pressures exceed or perceived ability to cope.”

Everything You Need

So, today we’re offering a simple Formula that will boost your daughter’s resilience by giving her what she needs to make calm, logical and confident decisions about her future.

If you’ve been listening for a while, you’ve heard us lovingly nudge your daughter to devote some quality time to developing a strong sense of self.

Because, as parents, you know that a strong sense of self will likely:
- steer your daughter away from “iffy” or “risky” social situations
- help her avoid iceberg beliefsthat can sabotage relationship
- and help her create a path that promotes personal growth

Okay, now … let’s imagine for a minute, that your daughter wakes up every morning READY for whatever comes her way - would it be worth it?

Everyone wants to bounce back from life’s challenges and detours, and we bet your daughter feels that way, too.

And, if you’re familiar with the saying that “worrying is like a rocking chair: it will give you something to do but you won’t get you anywhere.”

Simple A-B-C Formula

You’ll see that the three critical actions in the A-B-C Formula enable your daughter make calm, logical and confident decisions about her future – truly, the best way for her to bounce back!

It’s easier than you may think so head over to my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com and get the three critical actions - and cultivate a more resilient teenager.

Podcast Resources: 

Dr. Sara McKay |The Women’s’ Brain Book: The Neuroscience of Health, Hormones and Happiness 

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence

Hey Parents, What’s your daughter most important asset?

Welcome back the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Today we’re diving in a little deeper to an issue we touched on in last week’s podcast, Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.

Because, interestingly, even though your daughter may think she’s the only feeling one insecure or being left out, I promise you that no one is immune to those tricky thought errors we talked about last week.

Thought Error #5

Especially Thought Error #5, using “labels” to classify herself or others, can really be detrimental to your daughter’s growth.

So, today we’re offering a bite-sized solution to protect your daughter’s most important asset – her sense of self.

As we’ve talked about in previous episodes, developing a strong sense of self is one of the most important ways to empower your teenage daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of her adventures in life.

Think About it This Way

Because when you think about it, every single thing she says and does – her attitude, her happiness, her motivation, her relationships, her success – all revolve around how your daughter:

• sees herself
• what she thinks about herself
• and how she talks TO and ABOUT herself

So, building a solid personal foundation, or a strong sense of self, will enable her to understand critical thought habits and patterns.  

4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen

And right now, your daughter’s life is primarily influenced by, what I refer to as, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:

• her sense of self
• how meaningful her educational experiences are
• the nature of your parent / daughter connection
• And her social network – the people she surrounds herself

So, if your daughter’s life experiences and the people she’s around are throwing around labels, to classify her, or others, it’s going to influence how she sees herself and talks to and about herself.

Due to the negative emotions “labeling” brings up, we’re focusing instead on how to equip your daughter with the GRIT and GUMPTION she needs to win this war-on-words.

The Heart of the Matter

So, let’s get to the heart of the matter with two thoughtful questions ...

Find the complete Show Notes on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/

Podcast Resources

Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

90 Minutes to Clarity and Strategies that Work

90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey Parents, What’s your daughter most important asset?

Welcome back the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Today we’re diving in a little deeper to an issue we touched on in last week’s podcast, Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.

Because, interestingly, even though your daughter may think she’s the only feeling one insecure or being left out, I promise you that no one is immune to those tricky thought errors we talked about last week.

Thought Error #5

Especially Thought Error #5, using “labels” to classify herself or others, can really be detrimental to your daughter’s growth.

So, today we’re offering a bite-sized solution to protect your daughter’s most important asset – her sense of self.

As we’ve talked about in previous episodes, developing a strong sense of self is one of the most important ways to empower your teenage daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of her adventures in life.

Think About it This Way

Because when you think about it, every single thing she says and does – her attitude, her happiness, her motivation, her relationships, her success – all revolve around how your daughter:

• sees herself
• what she thinks about herself
• and how she talks TO and ABOUT herself

So, building a solid personal foundation, or a strong sense of self, will enable her to understand critical thought habits and patterns.  

4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen

And right now, your daughter’s life is primarily influenced by, what I refer to as, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:

• her sense of self
• how meaningful her educational experiences are
• the nature of your parent / daughter connection
• And her social network – the people she surrounds herself

So, if your daughter’s life experiences and the people she’s around are throwing around labels, to classify her, or others, it’s going to influence how she sees herself and talks to and about herself.

Due to the negative emotions “labeling” brings up, we’re focusing instead on how to equip your daughter with the GRIT and GUMPTION she needs to win this war-on-words.

The Heart of the Matter

So, let’s get to the heart of the matter with two thoughtful questions ...

Find the complete Show Notes on my website, https://cultivatingresilientteens.com/podcast/

Podcast Resources

Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

90 Minutes to Clarity and Strategies that Work

90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Hey parents,

Is your teenage daughter a hard worker who gets frustrated and feels defeated when things don’t go her way?

If mind management sounds like some type of voo-doo, though you see your daughter repeating the same behaviors over and over, but expects a different result, this podcast is for her.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast where you can find the full show notes on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com

Today’s episode is inspired by an incredibly ambitious, bright, and determined past client who knew exactly what she wanted.

But there was just one ‘key element’ missing.

And no matter how hard she tried, she continued to find herself back where she started.

But let’s not be too hard on her because the key element that kept her stuck isn’t a core competency you learn in school.  

And standardized testing dismisses it, too. 

However, this element definitely has an impact on your daughter’s performance.

So today we’re going to introduce the 6 most common thinking errors that may wreck your daughter’s confidence.

And, how to break free with 2 Strategies that work.

Let’s start with the 6 thinking errors the teenage girls in my private coaching practice say are the hardest to handle.

1.) Believing it’s always “All or Nothing”

All or nothing sounds like:

I’m never the one who gets picked to lead the project

2.) “Catastrophizing” her situations

Catastrophizing sounds like:

This is so stressful because if I don’t say the right thing, everyone’s going to think I’m weird

3.) “Shoulding” all over herself

Shoulding sounds like:

I should eat lunch with those girls because if I don’t, they’ll think I’m rude 

Get information about the additional thought errors that wreck your daughter's confidence and 2 Strategies that Work on my website Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast

Because if you take anything away from our conversation today, it’s that developing strong sense of self is one of the greatest gifts your daughter can give herself.

And developing a strong sense of self begins with observing your thinking habits and patterns and the effect they have on your behavior, choices, relationships and mood.

Podcast Resources: Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast

90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program

Ep – 24 How to Help Your Teenage Daughter Develop What Really Matters

Episode #16 Does Your Teenage Daughter Need a Strong Sense of Self to be Successful in Life?

The Teenage Brain and COVID. Telling Stories Might Help | Dr. Sarah Mckay | March 25, 2021