Motherhood Meets Medicine

Protecting our children online is so important. We all know that we need to teach our kids not to share their personal information with strangers online, but what else is there? How can we approach this monumental task with grace and understanding? Here to share her thoughts is Fareedah Shaheed. Fareedah is an award winning Internet safety expert and a Forbes 30 under 30 honoree. She uses her background in cybersecurity and online gaming to help parents protect their kids online. Her work has been featured in CNN, The Wall Street Journal, NASA, Fox, Yahoo, and many more for Rita offers a course on how to protect your children on their phone, and it will be linked in the show notes below. She's also currently working on a Roblox safety webinar launch and additional free webinars throughout this year. This was a brilliant conversation that provided really important insights on ways to have conversations with your children at all ages and stages and why you might need to look internally before discussing with your kids. In this episode, we discuss: How Freedah came to be an internet safety expert. How the landscape of internet safety has changed over the years. Sextortion and how to talk to your children about it. Thoughts on parental control and monitoring software. Resources: Dr. Nicole Le Pera: The Holistic Psychologist - https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Train Live with Marisa Peer - https://marisapeer.com/ Connect with Fareedah: The Hidden Threat: Protecting Your Child On Their Phonehttps://sekuva.mykajabi.com/protecting-your-child-on-their-phone PKO Ambassador:https://sekuva.mykajabi.com/partner-with-cyberfareedah-pko-ambassador-info-page My free Protect Kids Online (PKO) Resource Library:https://sekuva.mykajabi.com/get-your-internet-safety-resource-library Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/cyberfareedah/ Questions: What's the number one mistake parents make when it comes to protecting their kids online? What's your thoughts on parental control and monitoring software? What are some effective ways to educate kids on internet safety? Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few months, I’ll be mixing in some of our earlier Motherhood Meets Medicine interviews with new episodes. These ‘best of’ episodes are the most shared and listened to episodes of all time! Here is today’s featured episode with Kate Mangino, PhD all about unlearning traditional gender norms in the household. Gender norms are slowly changing in the everyday household. Men used to be the income providers and bring home the money while women would take care of the children and house chores. Since times have been changing, women are expecting more from their partners even as little as switching caregiving roles so the women can have some time to themselves for a minute or two. The women in my community have loved Kate's book Equal Partners and requested to have her on as a guest. Kate's role and expertise in social changes provides incredible insight into hard hitting questions from the community and change. Kate Mangino, PhD is a gender expert and professional facilitator who works with international non-profit organizations to promote positive social change. She has written and delivered curricula in over 20 countries about issues such as: gender equality, women’s empowerment, healthy masculinity, HIV prevention, and early and forced childhood marriage. She brings her lens of gender and social change to her debut book, Equal Partners, which addresses household gender inequality in the United States and offers practical advice as to what each of us can do to rewrite gender norms. While we are still working on changing social norms in this generation. In today's episode, we talk about gender norms and creating household balance. Kate will share what she learned during her research for her book, and she gives some excellent suggestions on how to raise conversations with your partner about gender. She will also share some data on raising boys and give some tips on how we can raise our boys to be caregivers as they grow older. In this episode we discuss: Women who had to leave the workforce to take care of the family and how that impacted the dynamic of the home. How to bring up a life changing conversation about gender roles. Encouraging boys at a young age to feel their emotions and put a name to it. Anyone can work on gender equality- not just those in a nuclear family. Why hours in a work day can be a big issue in dividing up family tasks throughout the day. Resources: Grab a copy of Kate's book, Equal Partners When Moms Outearn Their Husbands, They Gain More Housework, Study Says https://katemangino.com/ https://twitter.com/manginokate My sponsors: Navy Hair Care: Navy Hair Care Shampoo + Conditioner Navy Hair Care Charcoal Mask Connect with Lynzy: Join the Motherhood Meets Medicine community at patreon.com/motherhoodmeetsmedicine Instagram: @motherhoodmeetsmedicine Sign up for the weekly newsletter here lynzyandco.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few months, I’ll be mixing in some of our earlier Motherhood Meets Medicine interviews with new episodes. These ‘best of’ episodes are the most shared and listened to episodes of all time! Today’s featured episode is an interview with Nate and Kaley Klemp of the 80/80 Marriage. When you start a new relationship, it’s logistics 5% of the time and fun the other 95% of the time. However, when you bring kids into the mix, that ratio tends to flip and now you’re struggling to find the balance of taking care of your kids' while still having fun for yourselves. Far too often, the relationship is challenged due to lost connection, communication issues, and lots of blaming. Kaley and Nate Klemp are on the podcast to share how you can turn this around and find connection again. Nate and Kaley Klemp are authors of the New York Times Editors’ Choice selection, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate is a founding partner at Mindful Magazine and also the coauthor of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing. Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams. In today’s episode we discuss common traps couples fall into, issues of the 50/50 model of marriage, how you can shift into the 80/80 model, and how to create connections and better communicate with your partner. In this episode we discuss: How couples fall into unconscious habits. The key ingredient to a thriving relationship The benefits of reveal and request. The importance of opening communication to your partner on a day to day basis. How to create daily connections with your spouse. How date nights have been scientifically proven to improve your relationships Resources: 80/80 Marriage Website Subscribe to the 80/80 Newsletter Free Epic Date Night Guide Follow Nate and Kaley on Instagram @8080marriage Tips on Reveal and Request Connect with Lynzy: Join the Motherhood Meets Medicine community at patreon.com/motherhoodmeetsmedicine Instagram: @motherhoodmeetsmedicine Sign up for the weekly newsletter here lynzyandco.com Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever thought to yourself, man I’m dreading the teen years… I am not ready for the snark, attitude and hormones. Why can’t my babies stay babies? Come to find out, it’s this type of thinking that can and will lead to the teen years being way more difficult than they have to be. So what can you do to maintain your connection with your teens as they grow into themselves and your relationship evolves? Here to share is Cameron Caswell, PhD, otherwise known as the teen translator is an adolescent psychologist and parent coach TEDx speaker, host of the parenting teens with Dr. Cam podcast and co author of improving school mental health, the thriving school community solution. Dr. Cam is the mom of a teen too, so she not only talks the talk, she walks the walk. Dr. Cam also offers a virtual community for parents raising teens called the thriving Parent Academy. Toward the very end of the conversation Dr. Cam said something that I plan to write down and hang in my kitchen. Start from a place of curiosity rather than accusation or blame. When something happens, take a breath, don’t immediately react. Instead, let your kids tell you more about what happened. Ask questions. Be curious. This will empower them to come to you when things feel bigger and heavier than what they can handle. In this episode, we discuss: The top reasons our teens stop talking to us. How we can build a strong foundation of trust and open communication with our teens. Dr. Cam’s opinion on social media and teens. Resources: Dr. Cam offers a virtual community for parents raising teens called the Thriving Parent Academyhttp://www.thrivingparent.org/ Connect with Dr. Cam: Helping Parents & Teens Thrive Together -www.AskDrCam.com Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/drcamcaswell YouTube -https://www.youtube.com/@parentingteenswithdrcam LinkedIn -https://www.linkedin.com/in/drcamcaswell/ Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast -https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-teens-with-dr-cam/id1524209790 Questions: What are the top 3 reasons our teens stop talking to us? What is one easy way to earn back your teen's trust so they'll open up?. What is empathetic listening and why is it better than active listening? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When a woman becomes a mother, it sometimes feels like she’s entered the wild, wild west without any sort of map, compass or guide. Half the things you read on the internet are purely opinion and not based in fact. The other half may be factual, but how does it apply to your life? In the U.S. there is a dire need for better and more comprehensive postpartum care. Which is why Megan and Lauren, co-created The Matrescence App. The Matrescence is a maternal mental wellness app created after personal and professional recognition of the gaps in care for women navigating their Matrescence or process of becoming a mother. Lauren is a psychiatric nurse practitioner, who turned her pain into passion and teamed up with Megan, the marketing and business brains behind the operation to create this space, their app empowers women with valuable mental health resources. As a member only community it serves as a vital place for peer connection, education by accredited experts, and curated mindfulness based stress reduction activities. This was such an amazing conversation. We originally were going to talk so much more about mindfulness, but with the growing need for more postpartum care, we dug in deep and discussed the app and the reason they created it. Investing in yourself and your mental health as a mother is a direct investment into your family. Remember that when your first instinct is to put yourself and your needs on the backburner. In this episode, we discuss: The Matrescence app and what it does for new moms. Our thoughts on wellness capitalism here in America and how it tends to prey on mothers. How simple breathing techniques can help stress relief throughout the day. Ways that journaling can help with wellness. Discount Codes from Our Sponsors: Factor: Get 50% off when you go towww.factormeals.com/lynzy50 and use the code lynzy50 to get 50% off your first box and 20% off your second as long as your membership is active. Resources: Listeners can use code: M3 for a 30 day free trial of our premium membership! - *This code is only available on our website and not the App Store* If you want to make changes systemically - join one of these groups: https://chamberofmothers.com/ https://aitogether.org/ https://momsfirst.us/ Connect with Megan & Lauren: The Matrescence -http://www.thematrescence.com/ The Matrescence App -https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-matrescence/id1576425396 Instagram @‌thematrescence -https://www.instagram.com/thematrescence/?hl=en Questions: Can you describe a moment where mindfulness positively affected a challenging situation in your motherhood journey? Many mothers struggle to find time for themselves. How do you integrate mindfulness into your busy schedule with children? In terms of mindfulness, what is one piece of advice you would give to a new mother facing the overwhelming changes that come with parenthood? How does practicing mindfulness contribute to the emotional and mental well-being of both you and your children? Could you provide examples of how you use mindfulness to foster deeper connections with your children? What are some of the resources and exercises you offer through the app that can be done with your children? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our children are begging for us to listen to them. In fact, recent polls suggest that many of our children, pre-teens and teens feel like we aren’t listening because we’re engaged with our phones and distracted. Is this true? Are we really not listening? Or have we forgotten the importance of active listening in conversations? Dr. Maisha Clairborne is an integrative family physician, Master Practitioner and trainer of neuro linguistic programming, hypnosis and timeline therapy and founder of the mind remapping Academy. Through her live training, Dr. Clairborne teaches individuals how to master their thoughts, beliefs and communication, while eliminating fear, shame, self doubt and old trauma that interfere with their ability to experience full aliveness and live their best, most fulfilled, productive and peaceful life. Listen as Dr. Clairborne and I talk about this extremely important topic. She even provides examples of situations where she has used active listening with her own son to help build his confidence and trust. If you’ve been struggling with communication in your home, you will not want to miss this one. In this episode, we discuss: What active listening really is. Tips for balancing communication boundaries and providing safe spaces to talk. Non-verbal ways to show our children that we’re listening. The best ways to communicate with our children. When to incorporate humor into parenting Discount Codes from Our Sponsors: Earth Breeze -earthbreeze.com/lynzyfree to get 40% off your subscription plus a free welcome bundle. Resources: Connect with Dr. Clairborne The Black Mind Garden Podcast -www.TheBlackMindGarden.com Mind ReMapping Academy -https://www.mindremappingacademy.com Facebook-www.facebook.com/drmaiysha Instagram -http://www.instagram.com/drmaiysha LinkedIn -www.linkedin.com/in/drmaiysha Twitter -http://www.twitter.com/drmaiysha YouTube -http://www.youtube.com/drmaiysha Questions: What are some ways we as parents can take care of ourselves when we are emotionally dysregulated? How can we use humor and play to redirect our children when it seems they are not listening? How can understanding our children's values help us to motivate and directionalize their behavior? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it impossible to build new friendships when you become a mother? How about maintaining the relationships you already have? No. It’s not. In fact, it’s vitally important to our health that we continue to actively build and maintain our relationships. But how do we do that when we’re juggling all the things as moms, wives, employees, business owners, etc? Here to share her tips and strategies for navigating friendships is Danielle Bayard Jackson. Danielle is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally on the science of woman's platonic connections. She's also the author of Fighting For Our Friendships, which is coming out in May of this year. She also has a coaching business Friend Forward that is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships. And her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets as the resident friendship expert for the global app Bumble for friends. Listen as she shares her story, research, and why it’s so important that we continue to hone our friendships as we move into different stages of life. In this episode, we discuss: Ways to navigate current friendships and make new ones once you are a mom. How to handle different parenting styles or issues that come up between friends. What research has to say about quality friendships. Resources: Book-preorder - Fighting For Our Friendshipshttps://www.betterfemalefriendships.com/fighting-for-our-friendships Article by Kirsten Powers -The Way We Live in United States is not Normal https://kirstenpowers.substack.com/p/the-way-we-live-in-the-united-states https://substack.com/home/post/p-139238299?r=5ftqh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&utm_source=substack Article by Rosie Spinks -The Friendship Problem https://rojospinks.substack.com/p/the-friendship-problem?utm_source=post-email-title&publication_id=4486&post_id=139046175&utm_campaign=email-post-title&isFreemail=true&r=180ck&utm_medium=email Connect with Danielle: Instagram - @‌daniellebayardjackson -https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/ TikTok - @‌thefriendshipexpert -https://www.tiktok.com/@thefriendshipexpert?lang=en Questions: What is the surprising research around the benefits of women’s friendship? What are 4 tangible ways to make time for friends as a busy mom? Do you know the 3 of the most common conflicts that arise between mom friends (and how to solve them)? What does the research say about how friendship changes for those in their 30s and 40s? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With processed foods being so excessively available to us, how do we nourish our brains and fuel our bodies for longevity? Believe it or not, you can use nutrition for brainpower and to deter the effects of neurological dysfunction and disease. Here to do a deep dive on what to eat to support your brain and body for life is Barbie Boules. Barbie is a registered dietician, certified health coach and meditation teacher with over 22 years of experience. In her practice, she works as a private coach, community educator, passionate speaker, popular corporate wellness programmer, and respected dietetic intern preceptor. She's had the privilege of counseling 1000s of men and women around the country on her journey to better health. Barbie specializes in the unique needs of women over 40. She focuses on helping her clients achieve optimal metabolic and cognitive fitness. Without the unnecessary and unsustainable rules of FAD dieting, and rather, through a genuine understanding of what each client truly needs to transform their health for good. Listen in as she debunks some of the widely held beliefs about diet, whole grains, coffee and more. Plus she shares tips and tricks for creating a home that supports healthy eating habits early on… without the stress and regrets. In this episode, we discuss: The biggest risk factors for developing Alzheimer’s. How you can nourish your body to help protect your cognitive health. Protein and its role as we age. Why coffee and tea are still important for your diet. The importance of whole grains. Resources: Nutrition Essentials - https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/5mc1lhdr00hoszmy3l0jd/NUTRITION-ESSENTIALS-1-1.pdf?rlkey=19plr4uhrchgpy3fb91ykf3ue&dl=0 Everyday Mindfulness - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIW60H_j8fcO0sk7hLSxqqozBBwsv_wz/view?usp=sharing Connect with Barbie: Barbie Boules Longevity and Wellness LinkedIn | Instagram Discount Codes from Our Sponsors: Mosh Protein Bars - moshlife.com/lynzy - Save 20% + Free Shipping on the Best-Sellers Trial Pack or Plant-Based Trial Pack Questions: What are the biggest risk factors for developing Alzheimer's? Is the MIND-DIET beneficial and what key foods are in it? When it comes to 80-20/90-10 rules, does the time frame matter for the “treat” days? Why does she like coffee and tea being added to the diet? What are the best sources of whole grains? How can what we eat affect our cognitive brain health? What would her approach be with her kids to grow up eating in a similar way? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve listened to the podcast for any amount of time, you know that one of our children has been diagnosed with dyslexia. Once she was finally diagnosed, an entire world of knowledge and resources opened up for us. But it took a LONG time to get to this point. Because of our journey, it’s important to me to share expert information with you about this extremely common neurological condition. Which is why I reached out to April McMurtrey. April is a professional reading specialist, dyslexia specialist, author, and the developer of the Learn Reading program. She has been helping struggling and dyslexic students for over 30 years, breaking through their reading barriers to unlock the world of words. April is currently preparing for a TED talk about dyslexia awareness that I cannot wait for. Her book, Is That Dyslexia, is now on shelves, and she also has resources that will help struggling and dyslexic students, parents of those students and parents who are those students, including dyslexia screenings and online courses. Having dyslexia doesn't mean you're at a disadvantage. It's just your brain seeing things differently. Listen in to learn about how you can support your kids, why dyslexia can be a strength, and how to get the right screenings if you notice certain behaviors in your child. In this episode, we discuss: How common dyslexia is. The signs and symptoms of dyslexia. How to advocate and help your child with dyslexia. Talents and strengths of people with dyslexia may have. Resources: The Learn Reading Program Is it Dyslexia by April McMurtrey Aaron Slater, Illustrator: A Picture Book (The Questioneers) Connect with April: Learn Reading LinkedIn |Instagram| Facebook Discount Codes from Our Sponsors: Factor: Get 50% off when you go towww.factormeals.com/lynzy50 and use the code lynzy50 Questions: What is dyslexia? What are some of the signs and symptoms of dyslexia? How common is dyslexia? How early can dyslexia typically be identified? How important is it to diagnose early as opposed to later on? How do you go about diagnosing dyslexia? What should I do as a parent if I think my child may be dyslexic but the school won't evaluate? How do you help a struggling or dyslexic learner? What are some effective teaching methods and approaches that can be employed to help individuals with dyslexia improve their reading skills? What are some of the talents and strengths that dyslexics have? How can I help foster this in my own child? What are some of your favorite resources for those wanting to learn more about dyslexia? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When your child is being hurt emotionally or physically by other kids or hurting others themselves do you know how to talk to them? Gabriela Blanco shares some tips on talking to our kids in ways they will understand when something like this happens. She also discusses how to deal with the emotions and feelings this brings up and how to listen deeply to what our children are saying. Gabriela says that validating their feelings but also setting boundaries is much more effective than saying “how do you think the other child feels?” Gabriela is the founder of healing parents, and creator of the healing parents approach. She supports humans who are intentionally healing while parenting with the tools, support and community to experience close lasting and connected relationships with their children and themselves. Gabriela is the daughter of immigrants from Mexico, was raised in Southern California, and has been living in Oaxaca, Mexico for the past 18 years. Listen as Gabriela discusses how to handle sibling fighting to make your home a more drama free environment. If you have kids that fight and argue this is one episode you don’t want to miss. In this episode, we discuss: Effective ways to help children understand and relate to the feelings of others. How to handle it when our children get hurt emotionally. Techniques to help children take responsibility for their feelings and actions.\ Resources: Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff A Kids Co Connect with Gabriela: Healing Parents Course Instagram | Email Discount Codes from Our Sponsors: Earth Breeze - earthbreeze.com/lynzy to get 40% off your subscription Questions: What would our world look like if everyone who was hurting was able to get help? How can we help our kids understand and relate to children who are mean to them? What examples can you give to help handle the situations as they occur? Sibling fighting, how do we handle it? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices