Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode, I want to talk about the reasons why you are not starting whatever it is that is calling on your heart. Everything is a staircase model, like climbing a mountain. Your new life is going to cost you your old one. It’s going to cost you your comfort zone and your sense of direction. It’s going to cost you relationships and friends. It’s going to cost you being liked and understood. It doesn’t matter.” ~ Brianna Wiest

In this episode, we discuss:

1) Some of the emotions that are most strongly connected with self-sabotaging behaviours are important for us to better understand. It is not about simply ‘getting over’ them; it is about listening to what they are trying to tell us about our experience.

2) Break it down to the reasons why you are telling yourself you haven’t started the thing you want to do yet. Then break it down to the steps that you can start today that will move you closer to where you want to be, and then how can you learn from someone else who’s done what you want to do, and how can you find the answers that can help you bring your vision to life?

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we speak with Author Ryan Penley. With more than four years of hard-won sobriety, Ryan has transformed his life's adversities into valuable lessons for those still struggling with addiction. Today, he lives a life that is unimaginably blessed, exceeding even his own expectations. His debut book, "Man Up. Sober Up.," serves as both a testament to his resilience and a practical guide for those seeking to reclaim control over their lives.

More than a survivor, Ryan is a beacon of hope for those still battling their demons. He demonstrates that from the depths of despair, it is indeed possible to forge a life filled with purpose and joy.

In this episode, we discuss:

1) How important it is to celebrate the wins even when they seem really simple like 3 minutes of jumping jacks in one day and how that builds momentum to improving your health, continued sobriety and creating longer lasting change in your life.

2) How Ryan spent so much of his life pursuing happiness outside of himself, and how he finally learned it all came from within.

Connect with Ryan
Website: https://www.ryanpenley.org
Email: [email protected]
Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CPM5NM9D
Author Site: https://www.ryanpenley.org
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we talk about one of the number one lessons I have learned from studying NLP these past 4 years. The tools of NLP, and subconscious reprogramming, these tools have changed how I operate in my life and business over the last 4 years. I don’t even recognize myself, and I smile when I see those old versions show up again. Now this is not a slam myself moment, because that is not productive at all. I wanted to share how these tools have made a huge difference in my life and business and maybe you will see yourself in my story.

In today’s episode, we discuss:
1) NLP, neurolinguistic programming, came into my life around 10 years ago, although I had no idea what it was. Tony Robbins, his work impacted me tremendously years ago when I realized the words I was speaking had power in my life. It officially came into my life 3 years ago when I took my NLP practitioners, signing up while in the hospital trying to figure out how I was going to recover from back surgery. Let’s keep this super simple, someone asked me on a recent podcast what the difference NLP brought into my life and business and I decided to visit that question and write it down.

2) Before - I did not trust my voice or my message, and deep down had that perfectionist/people pleaser message on repeat. I pushed super hard, to burnout regularly as though it was a badge of honour, I didn’t listen and I was in the constant spiral energy of proving my self-worth. I made my thoughts, my results mean something about me and my self-worth. I believed the limiting beliefs were true and were predicting my success or lack of success. I was on a constant search for more strategy as I was convinced I was missing it and it would help me move my “blocks”. Another coach and another program would have the answer I was missing. When you search for or sign up for these things from a space of lack, you will never find what you are looking for. These decisions need to come from a space of empowerment.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we talk about who are you when things are not working out. What changes in your values, your beliefs, your actions, how you take care of yourself, what you do or don’t do, and where do you live? This is a spicy one that came up from a conversation with a client who was struggling and I could relate and have been there too. Which means I know that it is relatable!

In this episode, we discuss:

1) Life can feel frustrating when we are focusing on what isn’t working out, what is going wrong, the mistakes that we have made, and when we are stuck in comparison with everyone else and who is further ahead of us.

2) How can you double down on the things that you can’t see yet, lead yourself and be ready so when the opportunities are available you are more than ready to receive them? Put your blinders on and focus on what you need, where you are going and what you will see when you get there. It is the journey of who you are becoming!

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we speak with Sensory Perception and Emotion Management Strategist, Kim Korte. Kim was born with a curious mind. However, she didn’t always use that gift to its fullest potential. After suffering through significant life events, she realized developing her curiosity muscle would help in her healing.

Further, as a business consultant, she loves repeatable processes and procedures. "I’m known for simplifying the complex." She would tell clients that, ultimately, she was so lazy, that she wanted to find the most efficient and simplistic way to enhance their business systems. She did the same with her emotions and thus was born the premise behind Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions. Here, she poses the question: What if instead of relying on comfort emotions (like comfort food) to get us through the day, we became 5-star Michelin Chefs of our experiences? Her unique approach to emotional awareness and emotional intelligence offers an innovative way to create a connection to our emotions by using something familiar to us, like food. She explores how we experience our emotions from a combination of senses, including what we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell.

Her book suggests that just like the developed palate of a chef can distinguish the different flavours in food––we can increase our ability to capture the “flavours” of our emotions by enhancing our awareness of the sense of how we feel inside our bodies.

She believes we aren’t born with built-in emotional responses for every life event. However, we are born to feel emotions, and the emotion we feel is up to us.

In this episode, we discuss:

1) We can become Michelin Chefs of our own experiences by understanding our emotional awareness and emotional intelligence to connect to our emotions by using something familiar to us like food.

2) Kim believes that we aren’t born with built-in emotional responses for every life event; we are born to feel emotions and the emotions we feel are up to us.

Connect with Kim
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thekimkorte/
Website: https://www.kimkorte.com/
Email: [email protected]

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we talk about the relationship between confidence and courage. You want the confidence without the courage and it just doesn’t work that way. Are you also stuck in a belief that you don’t want to take those steps because courage doesn't feel good?

In this episode, we discuss:

1) Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; a sense of firm trust. It is having full trust; belief in the someone or trustworthiness. We have every confidence in their ability to succeed. belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; or assurance. A confident person is good at taking action because they know that they can do it.

2) Courage is the ability to do something that frightens one. the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery. Courage is the ability to do something difficult even when there's risk.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we talk about how what we focus on, we will find. I am sharing a metaphor I heard on a podcast that landed and I knew that I wanted to share it with you.

In this episode, we discuss:

1) Whatever we focus on we will find. If we are riding a bike in the woods and we are

2) You are priming your brain and body to look like your future has already happened

Where you place your attention is where you place your energy you become aware that you are investing your energy in the past and not the present or future.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we speak with Spiritual Guide and Coach, John Lawyer. From desert combat zones (12 years in Kuwait, Iraq, and Afghanistan) to a battle within, John transformed from soldier to spiritual seeker. He acts as one of several guides for Kishar, a non-profit online spiritual community for people to share their journey and explore their own unique spiritual path. John is an Omnist and believes in the validity of great human thought from around the world and across time. He offers individual spiritual guidance and coaching services as part of the Kishar Spiritual Community.

In this episode, we discuss:

1) John’s story of spending 12 years as a counter-intelligence agent, in desert combat zones, coming home wounded, with physical trauma, and PTSD, coming home and then feeling completely unsure of what to do next. He had his own spiritual awakening which led to him feeling his purpose was to create a spiritual community based on human kindness and caring for others.

2) Through the creation of their spiritual app and channel, they offer community membership and individual spiritual guidance and coaching. The lesson he shared hit home, “love yourself first, love yourself most and then you can love everyone more.

Connect with John
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kisharspiritual/
Email: [email protected]
Website: https://kishar.org
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PeaceOnYourJourney


Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling NLP Trainer, Speaker, Publisher & Author, 2xs Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we talk about superpowers, limiting beliefs and how they are interconnected. I am inviting you into a new way of thinking, it is not the right way, the only way, is my perspective and I want to share it with you. To determine your superpowers, think about what people come to you for, and check out your past performance reviews. Read the recommendations and testimonials people write for you. What themes emerge? These themes point to your strengths.

In this episode, we discuss:

1) Take note of what people say about you. Notice strengths that carry through to different situations. Identify what gives you energy, what lights you up and make it your personal brand. Let that light shine bright, we are great at doing this for others, now it is time to do it for ourselves.

2) What a superpower is and how a limiting belief is blocking you from shining in your full light with your gifts and superpowers. I share the story of becoming OUTSPOKEN and how I hid that superpower for so long.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

In this episode, we talk about the board-breaking exercise to release limiting beliefs and take a moment to celebrate how far you’ve come. Board breaking is a metaphor, an empowering exercise to break through your perceived limitations in your life. I have done this exercise a few times and it looks easy, but it is not. I wanted to share an experience of breaking a board I had in my NLP Master Practitioner over 18 months ago and how it shifted me to release those limiting beliefs. This is a reminder to look back at how far you’ve come.

In this episode, we discuss:

1) Breaking a board starts with modelling and we can learn a lot about someone’s behaviour through modelling. This is not copying someone else’s behaviour, this is looking at their patterns, behaviours and communication to see how someone else is creating change and then modelling their behaviour. It is also about getting into the state and the power of our state changing our mood, energy and therefore our results.

2) I recently revisited my old board and was shocked to see what I wrote down as the limiting beliefs I held onto so tightly in 2022.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share, and publish their stories.

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders, and build platform businesses that create massive impact.