The Mom Psychologist Show

I know for many of us, becoming a calmer parent is one of our top priorities.  And I love this for us because this places less of the focus on trying to fix and control our child and instead, focuses on what we CAN control, which is our own behaviors and choices as parents.  

But let's be real - Handling our parenting triggers and staying calm in the moment is a lot easier said than done.  

And we're not always going to get this right.

In this week's episode, I want to share a simple step by step guide to managing parenting triggers in the moment.  Towards the end of the video, I also share my own personal experience with anger and what helps me to manage my own parenting triggers.

Don’t forget to check out my free resource, "A Simple Guide to Becoming a Calmer Parent" -- www.themompsychologist.com/calmparenting

Let's face it - The pressure on us parents is endless and we're often stressed, which makes it hard to stay calm.

Though I know, becoming a calmer parent is often what we want MOST. So why is it so easy to feel triggered and angry at our kids even when we don't *want* to be?

In parenting, anger is used to defend against our sense of self.  Anger makes us feel powerful and it makes us feel like we're DOING something to change our circumstance (And help our kids learn better).  But oftentimes, our anger backfires because it escalates the situation and leaves us feeling guilty and ashamed.

So in this week's episode, I share 3 common reasons why you're so angry with your kids (with examples and thoughts many parents have).

Understanding the WHY is the first best step to becoming a calmer parent.

Hope you enjoy!

//FREE Resource: A Simple Guide to Becoming a Calmer Parent: http://www.themompsychologist.com/calmparenting //

I can't believe I'm in my 3rd trimester already!

If you missed my announcement episode and you're like "Huh, wait what?!" - yes, ya girl is pregnant and due in late November/early December.

I can't believe I'm in my 3rd trimester already!

If you missed my announcement episode and you're like "Huh, wait what?!" - yes, ya girl is pregnant and due in late November/early December.

Adding a new member to the family is such a big change for everyone so I wanted to share my experiences and answer your questions like:

❓How do you balance staying present and calm during pregnancy (especially with other kids)?

❓How are you preparing your daughters for the new baby? How are they reacting to your pregnancy?

❓What's different and the same about this pregnancy compared to your other two?

❓Do you know the baby's sex?

❓Do you have a baby name picked out?

So potty training was a success for a while, but now your child is showing regressive behaviors 

1. Demanding you put their diaper back on 

2. Insisting they're still a baby 

3. Backsliding into more and more accidents  

We consider a child to have regressed when they return to a former or less developed state. 

In this episode, I'll share: 

1. Common reasons for potty training regression 

2. My step by step process to handling potty training regression like a PRO!

PS: Don’t forget to take my NEW free potty training quiz, “Is your child ready to potty train?” - -https://www.themompsychologist.com/pottyquiz

Have you started potty training and now you're second guessing your decision?  

Are you constantly wondering, "Is my child really ready? Should I have waited longer? Do I continue or stop now?" 

Maybe they're having so many accidents, couldn't care less about wetting themselves, or is refusing to even sit on the potty...  

You know your child has to be ready to potty train in order to ensure their success, but how do you make this judgement call?  

Well in this week's episode, I'll be sharing 5 common signs your child is NOT ready to potty train!  

PS: Don’t forget to take my NEW free potty training quiz, “Is your child ready to potty train?” - -https://www.themompsychologist.com/pottyquiz

In the psychology world we call this "after school restraint collapse" but in real life this looks like your kid being a hot mess after school:  

1. Tantrums/meltdowns  

2. Grumpiness/moodiness 

3. Anger 

4. Yelling 

5. Refusing to listen  

This often happens because if you think about it, all day long, our kids are trying to holding it together. They try their best to keep their true, messy emotions to themselves so that they can do well in school/daycare and we love that for them.

But what that often results in them feeling exhausted, overstimulated and drained when they return home, especially for kids who are adjusting to a new school, routine or longer school day.

In this episode, I share exactly how to prevent and manage after school tantrums!

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

Nothing sours a game faster than hearing our child whine and cry after losing.

"I give up!"

"That's not fair!"

"I don't want to play anymore!!"

And now we're regretting even playing the game with our kids. It's tempting to say back:

"Don't be a sore loser!"

"You can't win all of the time!"

"Stop that crying."

"If you're going to keep being upset, we're not playing this game anymore!"

But if we step back and think about it - participating in games and sports demands a lot out of our kids.

They have to balance:

✔Remembering the rules & following directions.

✔Regulating their emotions

✔Practicing impulse control (Wait their turn, sit quietly)

✔See things from others' perspective

✔Understand fairness

✔Recognize mistakes + think of ways to improve

✔Celebrating the success of others

It's a lot for our kids to navigate so in this week's episode, I'm going to share 6 tips on how to teach your kids how to lose gracefully and practice good sportsmanship.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

Tired of Your Kid Interrupting You? Fix it With My Easy 4 Step Process! It's important we as parents set boundaries when it comes to kids' interruptions.

If we don't, and we allow our kids to constantly interrupt us, we run the risk of teaching them that:

👉🏽What they want/need trumps others' wants and needs

👉🏼You don't need to think before you speak or wait your turn Interrupting others can have negative implications when it comes to them making and keeping friends and having positive sibling relationships.

So in this episode, I'll break down

✅Why kids often interrupt

✅My 4-step process to cutting back on all the interruptions with respect

✅Bonus tips to ensure success!

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

The biggest discipline mistake you might be making is ... Pretending your boundaries and parenting decisions are solely based on your kids and what's is best for them. It's easy to rationalize that our boundaries have more to do with what's most logical or responsible, when truthfully.... a lot of times, our boundaries and parenting decisions are based on OUR emotions.

➡What we as parents need

➡What we as parents prefer

➡What we feel most comfortable with

➡What we think is most socially acceptable And that's nothing to be ashamed of. We are humans, after all! I think we just owe it to our kids to be honest and upfront with them. Or else, we run the risk of them feeling ashamed and to blame for every - little - thing.

Also, constantly blaming our boundaries on our child also creates unnecessary distance in the parent-child relationship that is completely avoidable.

So in this week's episode, I’m going to break down:

✅Exactly how to take this approach without raising people pleasers or making your child feel responsible for your feelings!

✅Why this approach actually does more to empower your kids and leads to more connection in the parent-child relationship!

💥FREE DISCIPLINE GUIDE💥 Age Appropriate Discipline for Toddlers & Preschoolers: www.themompsychologist.com/free-guide//

As parents, it's easy to get into negative and unhelpful cycles with our kids especially when it comes to discipline. I'm here to help you get unstuck.

In today's episode, I'm going to break down 3 common myths when it comes to child behavior and discipline and the truths you need to know!

//FREE DISCIPLINE GUIDE: Age Appropriate Discipline for Toddlers & Preschoolers: www.themompsychologist.com/free-guide//