Mental Wellness Cindy

Christmas is not going to be an easy time for everyone have a listen for some survival tips

Are you ready for the busy time ahead. Listen for some survival tips.

I have a few 1on1 spaces left for the start of the year please get in touch if you want to start 2020 with the right mindset

You are stronger than Depression.

Feel the fear and do it anyway!

Breakups can be a great opportunity to care for yourself again.

Poor work life balance can lead to some serious consequences.

Should you always answer truthfully when someone asks you this question. Have a listen.

No one wants to do things that are #difficult or a #struggle or outside of our #comfort zones. So we tend to #selfsabotage. Some of the signs of self sabotage are: 1) #Procrastination- which is the action of #delaying or #postponing something. 2) #Breaking #promises to yourself. 3) Refusing to seek #support, even when you know you need it. 4) #Prioritising comfort over progress. All of these things are self #betrayal, because we convince ourselves that we do not want the things that are really #important to us. We then turn to #selfmedicating with things like #food, #drugs and #alcohol, as ways of comforting ourselves. In the moment it may seem small but the self medicating adds up and changes the way we feel and behave. Once we lose #trust in our own words and our own #promises, we then lose our #confidence and we lose hope. We then stop even trying to begin to make #changes. So what can we do about this? Start by making one small promise to yourself #duetwithhollyh today, and then make it your absolute priority to keep it. That will start a new habit of keeping your promise to yourself. Let me know how you get on.

You can’t stop the waves , but you can #learn to surf. #Changes, #challenges and #problems can arise at any time, whether you like it or not! So it’s #important to identify the things that you can and cannot #control. Imagine a #difficult situation you have encountered today or at any other time. How did you deal with it? Where you able to stop and rationally think it through? Or did you completely or even partially fall apart? How you respond to problems determines how #successful you will likely be in solving them. You will not always be able to resolve a situation in the way that you would like, but you need to take #control when you can, and #act decisively when you can not. So how can you solve problems or challenging situations. I use a method which I read in a book called The #Critically #Reflective Practitioner by Neil Thompson and Sue Thompson. It’s a versatile problem solving and time and stress management tool that identifies 3 ways to respond to challenges; 1) Control : Identify the issues or elements of the situation that you control 2) Influence : Identify the elements that you can’t control, but that you can influence 3) Accept : Identify the things that you can neither control nor influence, and adapt accordingly. An easy way to remember is using the acronym C-change I-influence A-accept Understanding these potential responses helps you put problems in #perspective more easily and easily get a sense of what you can and cannot #accomplish. This then enables you to focus your efforts where they will have the most impact. So next time you find yourself dealing with a challenge or problem apply this C.I.A. You will be surprised how quickly you will resolve issues and move on to other more #productive things to do with your time and #stress. Let me know how you get on.