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This episode goes out to anyone who's been told to "just get over it" or "just think positive" but never told HOW.

Welcome to the 6th episode of "Notes To Self", a segment of Found Family Podcast. "Notes To Self" are literally notes that I've written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs. I also share life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz s*ht's about to get real!

Notes To Self on 1/28/2017:
"Focusing on the good things in your life and focusing on what you do have are the only keys to feeling happy. Find the good in everything, it changes your mood! Just freaked out about my finances, my job, my lack of a relationship. I never had all 3 areas a question mark in my head. By focusing on the future good and by acknowledging that this is temporary and that there are still good positive things going on right now, completely lifted the burden off my shoulders"


Lessons you'll learn today:
HOW to shift your mindset by,

1. Remembering it's temporary
2. You might not understand what you're going through right now but it'll make sense later
3. What you focus on you will think about
4. Asking yourself different questions, such as "What IS something that is good in this situation?" or "Who can I talk to right now?" or "Which resource can I turn to for guidance?"
5. Giving yourself X amount of time to FREAK OUT and then refocus

Please let me know if any of these methods work for you! You can either tweet at me or send me a DM @ElisabethVibes or on @FoundFamilyPod

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How can journaling help us? What does journaling mean to you? What is the most effective way to journal?

Marni and I deep dive into the role journaling has in our lives and, I gotta say, after this soul chat, I am rededicating myself to journaling!

Marni Amsellem, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist and author based in Metro NYC and Fairfield County, CT.  In her private practice, she helps clients develop skills to more effectively navigate challenges and build resilience. For more information on her practice, books, and workshops, visit www.smarthealthpsych.com and www.writereflectgrow.com

What you'll learn today:

- The importance of journaling

- Ways journaling helps those living with a mental illness

- Various formats/ways to journal

- More information about bullet journaling 

Quotes:

• “A window into who you are now, and who you were then”
  
• “Tracking your activities for the day...capturing a point in time...you can go back to it at anytime and notice a lot of things”
  
• “...having the opportunity to learn and reflect on the process...the process of capturing something, recording it, and saving it in some form.”
  
• “You can reconnect with journaling at any point…”
  
• “Allows a lot of individuality … choosing what works for you … a bullet journal has different compartments … how you’re feeling… the appointments you have during the day … a little place to sketch … all in one place…”
  
• “...pick what feels right for you… there is no right or wrong answer …”
  
• “...just start writing… how you’re feeling right now or you have something pointed that you’d like to focus on … it could just be recording something … just get started…”
  

Please join me in supporting Marni: 

Website: www.smarthealthpsych.com & www.writereflectgrow.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/smartpsychreads

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/writereflectgrow/

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What we'll learn today:

• The interconnectedness between thoughts and feelings
• Examples of triggers and how they affect the body
• Ways that we can best manage triggers
• Self-awareness exercises - how we can take inventory of our feelings and emotions
• Understanding our basic human needs and how to make them work for us to manage anxiety

Speaker and author Tracy Shawn is a passionate “anxiety warrior,” who writes and speaks about how to pull oneself out of the trenches of stress, anxiety, and worry. Tracy’s award-winning novel, The Grace of Crows, follows the journey of a woman who learns how to overcome debilitating anxiety after reconnecting with a long-lost friend, who has since become homeless. Her educational background includes an M.A. in clinical psychology. Please visit her website: www.tracyshawn.com

Quotes:

• 9:20 - Self Awareness
  "Being aware...what has worked? What hasn't worked?
  
• 12:27 - Reference of a Psychology Today article
  "...replace a thought with something positive...when we are being triggered...seek for things that make us feel positive..."
  
• 14:57 - Journal exercise
  "...finding healthy alternative triggers so that every time we have a thought that triggers an emotion like anxious... we replace it with something positive...a thought that will bring about pleasure instead..."
  "If [you're] having a really hard time right now...tomorrow it may not be as hard as it is right now..."
  
• 18:20 - Going to sleep with your to-do list in mind
  "...amplifies the feeling of stress...start taking inventory [of your feelings] before we go to sleep... push your own 'happy trigger buttons' before you go to sleep...
  
• 22:17 - Write 3 things to manage a "What if?" thought
  "...an intervention when we're thinking the "what if?"... so that it helps not only throughout the day but also at night...3 seems to be the 'magic number'...the brain remembers things more clearly...in sets of 3..."
  24:20 - The power of questions - [new way of thinking] ... "what if there's something I can do about this?..."
  
• 40:20 - Managing our triggers
  "...F.E.A.R...False Evidence Appearing Real..."
  

Please join me in supporting Tracy on social!
Twitter.com/TracyShawn
Website: https://www.tracyshawn.com/
Tracy's book: https://www.amazon.com/The-Grace-Crows-Tracy-Shawn/dp/1937556042
Tracy's article on PsychCentral: https://psychcentral.com/blog/are-you-pushing-your-own-emotional-buttons-learn-how-to-stop/

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What we'll learn today:

• The interconnectedness between thoughts and feelings
• Examples of triggers and how they affect the body
• Ways that we can best manage triggers
• Self-awareness exercises - how we can take inventory of our feelings and emotions
• Understanding our basic human needs and how to make them work for us to manage anxiety

Speaker and author Tracy Shawn is a passionate “anxiety warrior,” who writes and speaks about how to pull oneself out of the trenches of stress, anxiety, and worry. Tracy’s award-winning novel, The Grace of Crows, follows the journey of a woman who learns how to overcome debilitating anxiety after reconnecting with a long-lost friend, who has since become homeless. Her educational background includes an M.A. in clinical psychology. Please visit her website: www.tracyshawn.com

Quotes:

• 9:20 - Self Awareness
  "Being aware...what has worked? What hasn't worked?
  
• 12:27 - Reference of a Psychology Today article
  "...replace a thought with something positive...when we are being triggered...seek for things that make us feel positive..."
  
• 14:57 - Journal exercise
  "...finding healthy alternative triggers so that every time we have a thought that triggers an emotion like anxious... we replace it with something positive...a thought that will bring about pleasure instead..."
  "If [you're] having a really hard time right now...tomorrow it may not be as hard as it is right now..."
  
• 18:20 - Going to sleep with your to-do list in mind
  "...amplifies the feeling of stress...start taking inventory [of your feelings] before we go to sleep... push your own 'happy trigger buttons' before you go to sleep...
  
• 22:17 - Write 3 things to manage a "What if?" thought
  "...an intervention when we're thinking the "what if?"... so that it helps not only throughout the day but also at night...3 seems to be the 'magic number'...the brain remembers things more clearly...in sets of 3..."
  24:20 - The power of questions - [new way of thinking] ... "what if there's something I can do about this?..."
  
• 40:20 - Managing our triggers
  "...F.E.A.R...False Evidence Appearing Real..."
  

Please join me in supporting Tracy on social!
Twitter.com/TracyShawn
Website: https://www.tracyshawn.com/
Tracy's book: https://www.amazon.com/The-Grace-Crows-Tracy-Shawn/dp/1937556042
Tracy's article on PsychCentral: https://psychcentral.com/blog/are-you-pushing-your-own-emotional-buttons-learn-how-to-stop/

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Mental health, like sexuality, is on a spectrum. But what does that spectrum look like?  Grab your notebook and pen, girl, because we're about to dive deeper into this question! Jaya Jaya Myra, known as the “Mind-Body Wellness Expert”, is the go-to media expert on mind-body wellness, stress management, mindfulness, food for mood and natural, healthy living. She’s a best-selling author, TEDx and motivational speaker, and Creator of The WELL Method. After healing herself naturally from debilitating fibromyalgia, Myra developed The WELL Method to teach others the 4 cornerstones of a healthy, purpose-driven life. Her approach to mind-body wellness, spirituality and purpose shows why one-size-fits-all solutions don’t work for everyone, and how to find what will work for you. Myra’s debut book, Vibrational Healing: Attain Balance & Wholeness. Understand Your Energetic Type is now published in 10 languages and is available worldwide. Her upcoming book, The Soul of Purpose, will be published October 2020 by Post Hill Press. Having the strong desire to give back, Myra is the Founder & Executive Director of the 501c3 non profit organization Gita for the Masses, teaching spiritual practices that promote conscious character development, inter-religious dialogue & interfaith harmony. Wow! What an honor to have Myra on Found Family Podcast!  Lessons learned: Understanding the difference between mental illness, sickness, and health The WELL Method and how it can help you today Steps you can take towards mental health Awareness and breaking free from the stigma associated with mental health issues Take action TODAY! Twitter: https://twitter.com/jayajayamyra Please join me in showering Myra with all of your love and support by checking out the below links! Upcoming book, The Soul of Purpose: https://www.jayajayamyra.com/the-soul-of-purpose Detox your mind, 7 day video series: https://www.jayajayamyra.com/courses-with-jaya-jaya-myra/destress-detox-and-declutter-your-mind TEDx Talk - Purpose & Health: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nCwckmywD3g&feature=youtu.be Vibrational Healing book: https://www.jayajayamyra.com/vibrational-healing-book-jaya-jaya-myra/ Programs and mentoring: https://www.jayajayamyra.com/mentoring-programs-with-jaya-jaya-myra --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support

Calling all CREATIVES! This podcast is for you...

How has anxiety and depression hindered your creativity?

In what ways can artists tap deeper into their creativity and keep creating?

CHEERS to one of my favorite topics! Celine helps answer all of these questions and more!

Celine is an author, coach, trainer and podcaster passionate about creativity and wellbeing. She studied Physics until the master level, but decided ultimately that she wanted to work in the creative sector. In 2012, she moved to London, where she started working in the theatre industry, alongside writing. She published several short stories in magazines, she produced a short film and she recently completed her first sci-fi young adult novel. Now, she helps other creatives reach their potential and live a happy life. The Part-Time Artist is her first non-fiction book, and she is currently working on her second book "Happy, Not Tortured".

What you'll learn today:

- how we can examine our "mental health diet"

- understanding what exactly our "mental health diet" is

- how we can change our habits

- breakthroughs to help you reach your fullest potential 

- steps you can take today to live a happier life 

- ways to break through "creativity blocks" and keep creating!

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Please show your love and support! Follow Celine on Twitter and check out her website AND books!

Twitter: https://twitter.com/CelineTerranova

Website: https://celineterranova.com/

Book: The Part-Time Artist https://www.amazon.com/Part-Time-Artist-Stay-Creative-Bills/dp/1798108046/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=the+part+time+artist&qid=1579655578&sr=8-2

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Books referenced in today's episode: 

The Book of Doing and Being by Barnet Bain (https://www.amazon.com/Book-Doing-Being-Rediscovering-Creativity/dp/1476785465/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=the+book+of+doing+and+being&qid=1579655325&sr=8-2)

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert (https://www.amazon.com/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1594634726/ref=sr_1_1?crid=P150SVXNV450&keywords=big+magic+by+elizabeth+gilbert&qid=1579655348&sprefix=big+magic+%2Caps%2C143&sr=8-1)

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Are you proud of yourself? Or have self doubt and limiting beliefs convinced you of the lie that you're "not smart enough", "not pretty enough", "not good enough", or "not liked enough"? 

Grab your notebook (and maybe a tissue box) because lessons you'll be learning in this episode are going straight from my heart to your ears.

Welcome to the 5th episode of "Notes To Self", a segment of Found Family Podcast. "Notes To Self" are literally notes that I've written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs. I also share life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz s**t's about to get real!

Notes To Self on 2/28/2017:

It's great to do things or want to do things to make someone proud of you. But at the end of the day that person may still want or expect something from you. What's most important is making yourself proud. So figure out what you want to do, feel what makes you happy, and go after what makes YOU proud!

This episode is broken down into 2 parts: part one is all about how to overcome doubt and part two is all about how to make yourself proud

What you'll learn:

Overcoming doubt

• Reframe your way of thinking (doubt into motivation)
• Remember past successes
• Redefine the word “failure” (example of Target - area of opportunity)

Make yourself proud

• figure out what you want to do
• feel what makes you happy
• decide for yourself

Message me on Twitter @FoundFamilyPodcast if you have any questions or if you'd like to be featured as a guest speaker on Found Family Podcast!

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Social anxiety. We all experience it at some point in our lives. But what does social anxiety look like when it goes beyond the jitters before an exam or the nerves before giving a presentation? How can we learn how to manage social anxiety in our day to day lives? Kate is a blogger and bookshop manager from the UK. Her blog, lovemyanxiousbrain.com, brings together research and personal experience for a compassionate look at mental health issues. She enjoys challenging her anxiety in physical ways, like rock climbing, bouldering and weight training. But she thinks hugs and affection are some of the best medicine for anxiety and when she can’t spend time with her boyfriend she loves to walk other people’s dogs in her local area. What you'll learn today: what social anxiety is and what it looks like recognizing the triggers  understanding the symptoms  ways to better manage social anxiety  Kate is SUCH a sweetheart and is available on Twitter to help answer any of your questions about social anxiety! Stay tuned for Part II down the road! We're going to be taking YOUR questions from Twitter and answering them LIVE on YouTube. More info to come - - -  Where you can find Kate on social: Twitter: https://twitter.com/anxiety_crow Website: https://www.lovemyanxiousbrain.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtIgWDVZsrgz3QyoGzl2nbw Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/lovemyanxiousbrain/

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What was your first AHA! moment? How did you begin to break the cycle? What helped you manage and/or cope? HAPPY NEW YEAR! As we welcome 2020 today, I cannot think of a more perfect episode to air than THIS ONE with Tami. In with the new, out with the old. Take a deep breathe in....exhale out....and keep reading. 2020 is YOUR year, girl! A year of transformation, change, and FREEDOM. Tami is the author of THE STUCK STOPS HERE: How I Broke The Cycle of Generational Dysfunction One AHA! Moment At A Time.Tami is an adult child of narcissistic parents on a healing journey. For the last 100 + years, Tami’s family lived lives filled with rage, blame, greed, divorce, toxic selfishness, shame and lies while pretending everything was fine. The emotionally toxic ties between her and her parents and their parents caused her to live a false life. It wasn’t until recently that she could not answer the question, “Who am I?”. She navigated recklessly through a long and messy terrain in an effort to disentangle herself from the web of fear, obligation and guilt. It was a painful, sometimes unbearable, process of separation that nearly ended in tragedy on a dark winter night in 2014. Tami wanted to break the cycle, she knew that it had to end here, with her. Her book tells her story which she hopes is relatable and healing. What you'll learn today: Qualities and warning signs of a narcissist  Ways to manage and cope (including: how to set boundaries if you've not yet gone no contact) How to free yourself and break the chains once and for all Perfectionism, and how it's sometimes an obsession to gain validation from outside sources Quotes:  "Narcissism is a spiritual cancer" "Anything that made me unique or special was put out like a fire" "Read, write, yoga, meditate ... [these are used to create a] continuous positive cycle" "Toxic coping strategies as a result of a toxic childhood are an addition" "Constant learning and un-learning [is a way to break free]" "If [someone] has a personality disorder... [they are] spiritually sick" ------ If "read more books" is on your New Years Resolutions List, click the link below to grab your copy of Tami's book: https://www.amazon.com/STUCK-STOPS-HERE-Generational-Dysfunction/dp/1697009204 (Even if reading isn't on your list, you should still get a copy anyways!)  Please show Tami love & support on her Twitter @StuckStopsHere: https://twitter.com/stuckstopshere Website: www.thestuckstopshere.com Tami's podcast & resources: https://www.thestuckstopshere.com/emotionalneglect --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support

Is bipolar 2 different than bipolar disorder? When did you first learn of your condition? How does your family help support you living with bipolar disorder? There is such a stigma around bipolar disorder. Jen is here with us today to help us BREAK that stigma! Get ready to learn.  Jen is a mental health blogger (Diffusing the Tension) She lives with bipolar disorder, anxiety, and chronic fatigue. Outside of mental health advocacy, she is a mom of two little ones and married to her college sweetheart. She is OBSESSED with true crime, and sometimes thinks her husband is concerned he’s gonna be her first victim. She’s also an advocate of homeopathic health solutions when they are applicable. What you'll learn today: Symptoms of bipolar disorder Life changing advice on how to best manage and live with a bipolar disorder Importance of communication and how to use it effectively with loved ones AND the importance of self awareness and mindset shifting  Quotes:  "You do have to be good about apologizing [when living with a mental illness like bipolar disorder] but then you also need to be able to use the situation as a jumping point to take action" "Do the hard work" "Mindset is really important when you're trying to recover from a mental illness" "Change the way [you] think about [yourself] and refer to [yourself]. I never say I am bipolar... I choose to say I live with bipolar disorder" - - - - -  Please share your love and support with Jen! Below are links to find her on social AND a link to check out a book we reference during our soul chat called The Four Agreements Website: https://diffusingthetension.com/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1206005752776704/?ref=share Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/diffusingthetensionblog/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/jvan3610 Health & Wellness eCourse: https://mailchi.mp/7d3d197031ff/hthi3d Book: The Four Agreements (found on Amazon) https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NTVLBDAFTYK8&keywords=the+four+agreements&qid=1576519480&sprefix=the+four+agre%2Caps%2C189&sr=8-1 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support