Found Family Podcast

What is your advice for someone who feels stuck living with social anxiety?

Is recovery possible?

What helped you gain confidence? And what continues to help you gain confidence?

Savannah helps us answer ALL of these questions and so much more in today's episode. Savannah Shea Blake is a Confidence Coach and Birth Doula at EarthandWater.co who helps women unleash their inner warrior goddesses through chakras and mindset so that they can conquer the battles of life, feel more supported in their ventures and love who they are.

Lessons we learn today:

• Becoming aware of how diet and things around us can contribute to anxiety
• Gaining clarity on mindset shifting 
• Steps to gain confidence, including steps you can take today!
• Learning how to build your support system

Savannah and I are THROWING DOWN A CHALLENGE
Starting Monday, January 6th, we're hosting a 1 week Confidence Challenge for you after you listen to this episode. This way, you will learn HOW to gain confidence and WHAT steps you can take today to make this happen.

THE CHALLENGE:

Day 1 : Power poses

Day 2 : Compliment yourself

Day 3 : Affirmations

Day 4 : Pop

Day 5 :  Say yes

REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN.
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Please show Savannah your love and support. Below are the links to find her on social media!

Website: https://earthandwater.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/earthand_water/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/vannasana/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/earthand_water

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EarthandWaterDoula/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjiUdlNV9JX7NnrZj9bndDQ

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Episode 017
How to Handle The Holidays If You've Gone No Contact with Dr. Deb Lindh

The word HOLIDAY can be a trigger for many of us.  As the holidays are approaching, how can our listeners prepare for this time of year?

• How do you know whether or not you’re properly prepared?
• What are some examples to prepare?
• Let’s talk about no-contact. Does it really work?
• What if the person who is causing you the most stress is a parent or sibling?

Dr. Deb and I dive deeper into ALL of these questions AND MORE!

Dr. Deb Lindh (Dr. Deb) is a PTSD Survivor-Warrior, Amazon Best Selling Author, Award-Winning Scholar Practitioner, and founder of the global Twitter Chat #PTSDandBeyond and the podcast PTSD and Beyond which were both launched to provide advocacy, support, and resources as well as hope, inspiration, education, and empowerment to everyone affected by and with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). While earning her doctorate, Dr. Deb focused her studies and committed to helping herself overcome the many symptoms of PTSD - all without medication; using herself as the guinea pig and experiment all the while acting as the researcher, scientist, innovator, and client.

The result is Dr. Deb created evidence-based interventions, practical techniques, and a company, Mindful Effect, where she teaches these techniques and interventions for people to develop skills and be self-reliant in managing PTSD.

As we're getting ready for the holidays, this is a soul chat you WON'T WANT TO MISS!

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PLEASE go show Dr. Deb some LOVE! She can be found...everywhere! So take your pick at your favorite social media platform and Dr. Deb will be there to help support you!

Twitter @DebraLindh - https://twitter.com/DebraLindh
Website: https://mindfuleffect.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MindfulEffect/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.debralindh/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-lindh-ed-d-298b143
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXvuB1_sUzyeN81gn5nNnWA?view_as=subscriber

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*CUE THE CIRCUS MUSIC*

Does your life feel like a scene from a movie? Or maybe a drama? Or maybe a thriller?

LIGHTS. CAMERA. ACTION!

We’re always in motion. We’re always “needing” to perform…to live up to someone’s expectation…to put on a show. Our attention spans are shrinking by the day. How can you possibly keep up?

Welcome to the 4th episode of “Notes To Self”, a segment of Found Family Podcast. “Notes To Self” are literally notes that I’ve written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs as well as life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz s**t’s about to get real.

Notes To Self on 1/2/2017:

The reason why I’m afraid to chase after my dreams is because there will be an expectation upon me to constantly perform. That thought terrifies me and makes me feel trapped. I don’t want to pursue them then, it’s like my inner child throwing a tantrum and spitefully doing the opposite or not doing anything at all. I don’t like when other people have or put pressure or expectation on me and since I did that to myself for so many years, it’s an overwhelming feeling of “maybe I shouldn’t try or I’ll always need to perform”.

DAY-YUM.

If you’re looking to find some peace of mind this holiday season, ESPECIALLY before the new year hits, then this is the episode for you, girl!

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Achievement vs. Perfectionism…what’s the difference?
• Why it’s important to be open to changes
• Understanding who’s setting these expectations
• Learning what it is that YOU want, versus what someone else wants for you

Don’t forget to hit that SUBSCRIBE button! New episodes every Wednesday :)

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Uncertainty gives me anxiety

MORE SPECIFICALLY, feeling uncertain about what other people are thinking gives me anxiety.

Does he like me?
Does she not want to be my friend anymore?
Does my boss think I suck at my job?

It's exhausting to be in a constant state of GUESS MODE.

Welcome to the 3rd episode of “Notes To Self”, a segment of Found Family Podcast. “Notes To Self” are literally notes that I’ve written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs as well as life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz shit’s about to get real.

Notes To Self on April 12, 2017 says:
"ask more questions to gather information about how and why someone is feeling a type of way. Don't assume. Don't fill in the blanks with the story you make up in your own mind. It'll drive you crazy"

Can I get an AY-MEN?!

Girl, keep reading.

Things we talk about today:

• Simple steps to GAIN CLARITY
• Why it's easier to make assumptions rather than ASKING
• Managing anxiety in a POSITIVE and CONSTRUCTIVE way

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You're afraid to take your first step
You feel like you can't make a difference
You feel like you're not as smart as others around you

Can you relate to any of these limiting beliefs?

Welcome to the 2nd episode of “Notes To Self”, a segment of Found Family Podcast. “Notes To Self” are literally notes that I’ve written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs as well as life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz shit’s about to get real.

Notes To Self on January 8, 2017 says:
"I don't have enough information to share with others. I don't have a PHD or a Masters or years of experience in this field. Holding me back that I don't know how to share or what's the right way to share or if I have enough background to share. Being overwhelmed with step 1. What is step 0? Then I get frustrated and overwhelmed to even begin a project that then I procrastinate and run away from myself and ignore it all"

(Yes, I recognize that note isn't proper grammar LOL)

Here are some of the things we'll soul chat about today:

• Learning how to take your first step by sharing your own personal experiences
• Pushing through the limiting belief of "not enough"
• Recognizing that we have the ability to learn new things and that feeling "lack" in an area is only temporary

Find me on Twitter: @FoundFamilyPod | Personal: @ElisabethVibes

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You feel like a burden.

You feel like you’re carrying heavy baggage into your relationship.

You feel like others around you don’t always want to be around you.

Can you relate to any of these limiting beliefs?

Welcome to the 1st episode of “Notes To Self”, a segment of Found Family Podcast. “Notes To Self” are literally notes that I’ve written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs as well as life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz shit’s about to get real.

The truth is, I want my boyfriend and my friends to think that “I have my shit together”. So, one of the Notes that I left myself on March 14th says this: “I see myself as a burden to other people. Anytime that I feel like the luggage I bring into the relationship is too heavy or not something that someone would want to “deal with” I get anxious. I think this is because my mom made me feel like a burden. Example: she’d buy me something and then make me feel like it was something that took away time and energy for her so I’d feel badly about it, even if I didn’t even want the thing to begin with”

Woof. That’s deep.

Why do you feel like you’re a burden?

What deeper issue is rooted under the layer of you feeling this way?

Here are some of the things we’ll soul chat about today:

• Took away my power, took away my voice, took away my options
• Luggage will inevitably be brought into your relationships. They key here is ACCEPTING the luggage and understanding that you have the power to “unpack” the luggage and “swap” things in the luggage.
• Guilt and shame are LEARNED.
• Self awareness is the most important THING in transformation

PS CORRECTION WHEN I GET TO THE PART ABOUT DINOSAURS (you’ll get it when you listen) Paleontology is the study of fossils, while archaeology is the study of human artifacts and remains.

Find me on Twitter: @FoundFamilyPod | Personal: @ElisabethVibes

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What did you experience when you hit “rock bottom”? How did you cope with change in your life? You’re feeling a tug at your heart to do something greater with your life. But how do you know what to do? Lucia and I soul chat on such a deep level to help answer these questions in this weeks’ episode. Lucia is a world renowned sensation, former international Italian supermodel – turned transformational speaker and author of 13 books. Her 25 years of inspiring work through conferences & workshops globally has been inspired throughout Italy and Africa. Lucia has been defined “the Italian Louise Hay” by prestigious media like Marie France Asia, The times of India and La Stampa, transforming audiences through her teachings, workshops, retreats, meditations, & books globally through overcoming limiting beliefs and fears to live a whole new life. My spirit evolved another level after this soul chat! I hope it resonates with you, too! Show Lucia some love and support by following her on social: Twitter: @LuciaBlessYou Website: www.LuciaGiovannini.com Books: www.luciagiovannini.com/books Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/341537043256064 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support

What are some of the causes of depression? Is depression a “permanent” state of mind? Is depression something you’re born with or something you learn? These are some of the questions Debbie helps answer in this weeks’ episode. After decades of depression, a serious suicide attempt and resulting brain injury, Debbie not only survived, but went on to thrive by discovering the super power we all have to build a better brain and joyful life. Debbie now inspires and informs others to do the same, no brain injury required. Her incredible story gave me goosebumps and the way in which she helps bring light into the darkness is absolutely magical. Show Debbie your love and support by following her on Instagram and checking out her site and books! Twitter: @DLhampton Website: www.thebestbrainpossible.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/BestBrainPossible Book, “Beat Depression and Anxiety By Changing Your Brain”: www.thebestbrainpossible.com/beat-depression-anxiety --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support

How do you know if it's ROCD or if the person just isn't "the one"? Is it "normal" to think about leaving your partner? Is it "OK" to think about other people, like an ex? How can I find relief of all these intrusive thoughts? As a current sufferer of ROCD, I have asked myself a variety of these questions (and more) many, many times. This soul chat with Kiyomi was therapeutic, educational, and so incredibly comforting and I cannot wait for you to feel the same way after listening! Kiyomi is the Founder and Creator of Awaken into Love, an online community for people who experience Relationship OCD. With over half a million views on YouTube and having worked with over 1,000+ course, community members and clients, she dedicates her life to raising awareness on Relationship OCD, anxiety and relationships. She has experienced debilitating Relationship OCD, Hypochondria, panic disorder and general anxiety for years, and used to suffer with every thought, emotion, feeling possible. Once she overcame ROCD, she knew that she needed to be an expert in this field to help others. After years of extensive research, education, therapy and coaching, she has become an expert on Relationship OCD. Her mission in life is to continue being an Relationship OCD advocate and continues to educate people from all around the world on finding freedom from ROCD. Be sure to show her love by following her on Instagram and subscribing to her YouTube channel :) If you are interested in taking her course, be sure to fill out the ROCD check list (all links below) and find out more information about getting started! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/awakenintolove Website: https://www.awakenintolove.com/ Instagram: @AwakenIntoLove ROCD checklist: https://rocdcourse.com/the-checklist --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support

Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts? Did you ever think that TRUST had anything to do with your intrusive thoughts? After a simple and yet profound soul chat with my boyfriend, someone who does not struggle with OCD, I felt the lightbulb above my head! He shared with me the thoughts he has when, for example, he leaves our apartment. I asked him questions like, “Do you second guess if you locked it? Do you need to go back to see if it’s locked?” You might be surprised to hear his reply! This episode is short, sweet, and to the point. I hope it helps light the same bulb over your head as it did mine :) Remove the POWER that you’re giving to your thoughts STOP ADDING TO THE FIRE (you’ll understand when you listen to the episode!) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foundfamily/support